Alexandra221
@Alexandra221
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What does he want?
Sweetie, being Aquarius myself and having an Aqua father and several best friends males, I would advice to let him go.
The main problem of this guy is that you two are not playing the same game. What I mean? He wants to feel your fully devoted to him - these guys want to know that they are the one and only. But not in a clingy way - they appreciate their personal space. He didn't tell you the things are over and he won't. You deserve smth better. Smth way much better.
Your "mistake" is that you were trying to be whatever he wants you to be, while you had to be the way you are. These guys need a stable, strong, mature woman. Who can act as herself no matter what. Then they can become interested for a longer time. To describe what I mean. My mom and dad are together for 37 years. And this lady has never been too much into the Aqua guy. She was the one setting the rules, she was always making the family's strategy. He was the one taking care of the family after having the steps needed. This is their team play. I am not saying it was easy. No, it wasn't! They were arguing for years in the beginning (I wasn't even born) ...
So, let the guy go. And next time, stick to your own agenda, no matter what. In case he wants you to care more, tell him "In case you don't see I am caring, you are blind, just open your eyes". If the Aqua boys knew what they want, they were not going to mess almost every single relationship they are into 🙂
The main problem of this guy is that you two are not playing the same game. What I mean? He wants to feel your fully devoted to him - these guys want to know that they are the one and only. But not in a clingy way - they appreciate their personal space. He didn't tell you the things are over and he won't. You deserve smth better. Smth way much better.
Your "mistake" is that you were trying to be whatever he wants you to be, while you had to be the way you are. These guys need a stable, strong, mature woman. Who can act as herself no matter what. Then they can become interested for a longer time. To describe what I mean. My mom and dad are together for 37 years. And this lady has never been too much into the Aqua guy. She was the one setting the rules, she was always making the family's strategy. He was the one taking care of the family after having the steps needed. This is their team play. I am not saying it was easy. No, it wasn't! They were arguing for years in the beginning (I wasn't even born) ...
So, let the guy go. And next time, stick to your own agenda, no matter what. In case he wants you to care more, tell him "In case you don't see I am caring, you are blind, just open your eyes". If the Aqua boys knew what they want, they were not going to mess almost every single relationship they are into 🙂
Sometimes you need to realise no matter who you are , monster what you look like , no matter how good or bad you are , no matter how rich or poor you are , no matter how fun and interesting or boring you sometimes it will never be good enough for selfish cunts like this dude !
Save yourself from him because you worth it , just because he doesn't see your worth doesn't mean you aren't worth it because you are ...
I don't know you but your a human being with feelings and emotions don't put yourself through it please don't I've lived this shit for years but finally breaking free of the madness it hurts but you haven't known him that long and he isn't the only person in this world , someone will come along and love you for who you are and not try to change you.
Aqua's bang on about no liking drama but they fucking love creating it ....
Get out now while you are still a whole person Å unless you want to ride the crazy train for the next hundred years
Sorry for the typos on on my phone and my fingers are so cold lol
Posted by starwarsI didn't fake the feelings.. I did have strong feelings for him, I only faked the neediness because I'm not clingy by nature. When we first knew each other, on the third or forth day maybe, I was sick and he got really mad that I fell asleep for 4 hours without texting him. When I woke up I was shocked, because when I know someone at the beginning it should be ok to not give excuses if someone will not text for 4 hours! Later on he kept telling me that I show no care, while I really cared but I didn't understand how he would want me to show it.
So he told you to change and when you did he got mad because youre following his instruction and faking it? Some guys like to be bitched at i s2g.
He probably sensed that youre faking it and thought youre playing him. But i dont understand why he pushed you to do it in the first place?
Did he only suggest that you become more caring? Or did he whine about it over and over? - was it opening up kind of talk(him telling u what he wants and u in the other hand doing the same) or just him whining?
You shouldnt have faked it. Aquas see through it all. You should have asked him to not push you to act in a certian way.
Dont ever overlook your values to suit or fit someone else prespective. Stand your ground girl.
I dont know, maybe he likes you but hes feeling insulted since you faked some of the things youve said. If you like him a lot and vice versA Why dont you communicate openly? Tell him that he pushed you to do so?
If not you can end it.
Yes! He did whine about it constantly but whenever I asked him what exactly did he want, he wouldn't give me a straight answer and he would keep confusing me more. I did try to communicate openly several times but he never answered my questions. I once confronted him with all the confusing things he said in the past, I quoted contradicted texts that he sent me and asked him what did exactly he want, but when he found that he was stuck, he just ignored the text. I texted him back saying do you think ignoring me is going to resolve our issues, he got mad and said he was driving and redirected the fight and blamed me for being selfish and nagging!
Posted by TinxyNo problem at all... Thanks for the advise, you are absolutely right!
Sorry for the typos on on my phone and my fingers are so cold lol
Go get something warm to drink, it's getting really cold 🙂
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