Aries, Aries, Aries

I tell ya...you folks throw me for a loop! I'm not speaking about all Aries. But I'm a little torn when it comes to dealing with the Aries personality. I know you all have that childlike innocence. I can relate to your need for love and attention and affection. I completely get your fear of being alone. I know that when you love someone, you love them very deeply...so deep that you've got to make yourself numb sometimes. BUT...I don't understand your need to play the victim. I don't understand why you feel the need to be so overly dramatic in order to gain some sympathy. I don't understand why you can't be real and just say "you know, the relationship didn't work out...we both tried, let's be cordial and forget about the drama."

Yes, this is about my ex. Although I miss him, I liked it better when we weren't talking. He's saying things like "I'm ashamed and I feel like I could just die," yet he still hasn't even APOLOGIZED. I just don't get it. I don't want him to feel ashamed or use certain language to over dramatize everything. I just want him to acknowledge what happened and say "Look, i'm sorry for hurting you. I really did try (which he did) and I hope we can still keep in touch." Then I would say "I'm sorry for hurting you, too. I need some time, but I hope in the end that we can be friends." Or something like that.

Guarav, i know you've asked "what should I expect." Life sucks and relationships end, right? I accepted that and have been trying to move on. But I can't when he keeps e-mailing me about how he's so confused about life and hopes he makes the right choices. The truth is, I know that that's true. I know how he's feeling right now. But I can't let him back into my life, especially because I don't trust him or his intentions...I'm being cautious. But I don't want him to see the detachment of my responses as me not caring. make sense? Help?

Hi TS!

I don't know forsure TS but my thought about him not saying he is sorry has to do with his EGO - not wanting to admit he was wrong. My ex (Gem) did not apologize for his wrong doings either however, he lives with it everyday. If I were you, I would just let it go - it is his problem not yours. If you keep it alive within yourself it will become your problem. Sometimes the only way for any of us to learn something is through experiencing the experience. Allow him that. You have done your part and have done a great job. Who knows....in time he may come to you and apologize but it must be the right time for him and what I mean by that is...it will need to be sincere and come from his heart a place of peace. Right now, he is confused, in pain and most likely is not seeing clearly.

My thoughts....hope it helps some.

I agree with FB & FSS. If you give him a lil bit of hope he will try and try and try again. But sometimes knowing that you dont want to talk to him he may want to talk to you more. we tend do the oposite sometimes. but its because he wants to PROVE how sorry he is. And yea sometimes we dont apoligize because we think you already know...its supposed to be that mental connection thing. something like what hes done is not a matter of not wanting to admit he was in the wrong. But i agree that when in fact he says he is sorry, he will be deeply sincere. I dont like to be asked to say i am sorry cuz i feel like at that moment it will sound superficial. Try to not take it the wrong way when he does try to call you even though you've said dont. He is trying to figure out a way to make things better. GOOD LUCK SISTA!!!