Aries guy - Popping in and out (Page 2)

Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV

Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV

Posted by capricornmoon
He's the one that's supposed to be using YOU for sex. Come on, don't you know the rules of the game? It's no fun if you also USE him like he uses you. DUH. He's just trying to keep the ball in his court and maintain control. This is not a mutually beneficial contract. If you're smart enough to realize it, FWB is never mutual.

I had a 6 year fwb that was very mutual.

So how come the mutuality isn't working in this case? Just admit girl, you're selling yourself short. You like him way more than he likes you. The sex isn't even good enough to keep him coming back repeatedly. Time to change your MO.

The difference is cardinal versus mutable

Did something happen in your childhood? Some form of abuse? You seem to overcompensate happiness with sex, whether you're using them or they are using you, it doesn't seem to matter to you, like you take great pride in reckless behavior. If you really like the Aries, for more than just sex, then start with a deep conversation. Get to know the man, not just his penis.

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No i had a fantastic childhood.

I already asked him if he wanted more. He never gave me an answer. So then i treated him as a fuck buddy.

But we only fuck when he wants to.

Thats not good.

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Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV

Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV

Posted by capricornmoon
He's the one that's supposed to be using YOU for sex. Come on, don't you know the rules of the game? It's no fun if you also USE him like he uses you. DUH. He's just trying to keep the ball in his court and maintain control. This is not a mutually beneficial contract. If you're smart enough to realize it, FWB is never mutual.

I had a 6 year fwb that was very mutual.

So how come the mutuality isn't working in this case? Just admit girl, you're selling yourself short. You like him way more than he likes you. The sex isn't even good enough to keep him coming back repeatedly. Time to change your MO.

The difference is cardinal versus mutable

Did something happen in your childhood? Some form of abuse? You seem to overcompensate happiness with sex, whether you're using them or they are using you, it doesn't seem to matter to you, like you take great pride in reckless behavior. If you really like the Aries, for more than just sex, then start with a deep conversation. Get to know the man, not just his penis.

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I agree with this

DMV, the two Aries guys i was with...both of them were very constant, i told them both early on if they decided to mess me around i was gone

Maybe you need to do some work on your self esteem girl and then you will attract men that don't mess you around

My self esteem is very much in tact thanks. Lol

I already gave him the boot. He's time is over and gone.

No where in these pages did i say i was sad depressed or ready to slit my wrists cause some damn ram was not giving me the time of day.

So please keep your daddy issues, child hood trauma, or self esteem bull for your own conversation you have with yourself in front of the month mirror today.

Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV
No where in these pages did i say i was sad depressed or ready to slit my wrists cause some damn ram was not giving me the time of day.

So please keep your daddy issues, child hood trauma, or self esteem bull for your own conversation you have with yourself in front of the month mirror today.

It's implicitly implied in all your posts DMV. It's not to make you feel bad, and I'm sorry it offends you but your behavior judging from the things you post isn't normal. You lack boundaries and structure. So busy expanding yet not being fulfilled. It's about quality not quantity. Pick one guy you really like and get to know him on a non sexual level. He'll respect you a whole lot more.

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Don't push your version of normal on her. Your selling she's not buying.

Posted by capricornmoon

Posted by DMV
No where in these pages did i say i was sad depressed or ready to slit my wrists cause some damn ram was not giving me the time of day.

So please keep your daddy issues, child hood trauma, or self esteem bull for your own conversation you have with yourself in front of the month mirror today.

It's implicitly implied in all your posts DMV. It's not to make you feel bad, and I'm sorry it offends you but your behavior judging from the things you post isn't normal. You lack boundaries and structure. So busy expanding yet not being fulfilled. It's about quality not quantity. Pick one guy you really like and get to know him on a non sexual level. He'll respect you a whole lot more.

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Who are you to say what is normal and what isnt?

get lost

I sympathise DMV and I bet most people have encountered a guy like this at some stage in their life. You've dealt with it now and at the same time probably learnt a valuable lesson.

Its easy looking in on someone else's problems and giving advice or judging them for their actions but you can't be certain how you'd react In the same situation. I certainly never thought I'd put up with a flaky guy and I think it has dented my self esteem but hopefully it's also made me stronger