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Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
That sounds more like Scorpio
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Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
That sounds more like Scorpio
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Maybe the women are different lol
I've never had issues with a Scorpio doing this. The Scorpios I have dated usually like some space as well.
I have had a Aries stalker though. He was a double Aries with a Scorpio Mars.click to expand

Posted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
That sounds more like Scorpio
😂🥴
Took the words right out of my mouth 😂click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
That sounds more like Scorpio
😂🥴
Took the words right out of my mouth 😂
😂
It’s classic Scorpio behaviour🥴
Are you one? lolclick to expand


Posted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
That sounds more like Scorpio
😂🥴
Took the words right out of my mouth 😂
😂
It’s classic Scorpio behaviour🥴
Are you one? lol
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Nope! Aqua…I’ve had 2 Scorpio guys that I was friends with, tell me about their stalking escapades though. My aqua ex, children’s father/boyfriend is also one, and I’ve seen his stalking/ tracking tendencies. 😂click to expand
Posted by Walk_on_byPosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
That sounds more like Scorpio
😂🥴
Took the words right out of my mouth 😂
😂
It’s classic Scorpio behaviour🥴
Are you one? lol
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Nope! Aqua…I’ve had 2 Scorpio guys that I was friends with, tell me about their stalking escapades though. My aqua ex, children’s father/boyfriend is also one, and I’ve seen his stalking/ tracking tendencies. 😂
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Posted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by Walk_on_byPosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Sleepyquantro1Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
The Aries women and men I know in real life were way too controlling and nosy in relationships.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
They take up too much freedom and time, and if they do give you space, they need to know your whereabouts at all times.
Way too smothering for for my taste.
I don't want to be tracked and restricted in a relationship.
That sounds more like Scorpio
😂🥴
Took the words right out of my mouth 😂
😂
It’s classic Scorpio behaviour🥴
Are you one? lol
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Nope! Aqua…I’ve had 2 Scorpio guys that I was friends with, tell me about their stalking escapades though. My aqua ex, children’s father/boyfriend is also one, and I’ve seen his stalking/ tracking tendencies. 😂
What did they do?
One said he followed his ex a few times (can’t remember if it was before or after she broke up with him), he couldn’t let go, and couldn’t control his emotions. In his defense, he was really young at the time.
The other one… him and his ex planned on moving in together, and she tried to back out last minute, but he had already ended his lease, so he basically forced her to go through with it anyway. He was the petty, vindictive, manipulative type, so I’m sure there was more to it. He wasn’t all bad though, he was extremely funny…he one person I’ll never forget.
Idk, maybe 🤔 this instance doesn’t qualify as stalking , but he definitely has that tendency. Who am I to judge, I’ve done a few stalker things in my lifetime 😂, but in the funny stalking way, not the crazy, scary stalking way. And yes, there’s different ways to stalk 😂🙂
Oh and the aqua ex’s scorp, he went through her phone all the time while she was sleep and always clocked her moves. I’m sure there was wayyy more that she never told me, but when he found out she was contacting me daily (after a yr of no contact), he went psycho, broke things in their apt, and took her phone and threw it in traffic. 😂
And guess where she came to, when she left, after the incident. 🤦🏽♀️
Not in that way though…she wasn’t cheating with me bc I no longer wanted her, I was just being a friend. I put myself in way too many situations where I could have probably died . 😂click to expand

Posted by alexscaries
There's always two people in a relationship, unless it's a throuple or poly and the excuses why it didn't work out are always the same, obviously no excuses for cheating, but controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking. If a man isn't willing to stay, what does that say? People get bored of putting up with the same old shit where nothing is good enough. Princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens. A good man is hard to find; but a hard man is a good find.

Posted by alexscaries
There's always two people in a relationship, unless it's a throuple or poly and the excuses why it didn't work out are always the same, obviously no excuses for cheating, but controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking. If a man isn't willing to stay, what does that say? People get bored of putting up with the same old shit where nothing is good enough. Princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens. A good man is hard to find; but a hard man is a good find.

Posted by alexscariesPosted by saggurl88Posted by alexscaries
There's always two people in a relationship, unless it's a throuple or poly and the excuses why it didn't work out are always the same, obviously no excuses for cheating, but controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking. If a man isn't willing to stay, what does that say? People get bored of putting up with the same old shit where nothing is good enough. Princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens. A good man is hard to find; but a hard man is a good find.
As an Aries, do you think you are controlling or that this is a characteristic of the sign?
I didn't quite comprehend your post since you said "controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking" and "princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens."
Is this for both people in the couple or just the Aries?
I think Aries wants to be right, not necessarily in control. I think that could be characteristic of fire signs in general. There's a lot of signs that can be way more controlling. We just get bored when things aren't progressing. You can only give so much.
The latter was a reference to the sour grapes remark that some women like the op gave "too controlling", what does that even mean? Victimhood is what teenage girls do. I'm obviously not talking about victims of domestic violence or actual abuse, just this whole poor me mentality. He left, he's had enough. Either start dating again, see a therapist or stay single.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by alexscariesPosted by saggurl88Posted by alexscaries
There's always two people in a relationship, unless it's a throuple or poly and the excuses why it didn't work out are always the same, obviously no excuses for cheating, but controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking. If a man isn't willing to stay, what does that say? People get bored of putting up with the same old shit where nothing is good enough. Princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens. A good man is hard to find; but a hard man is a good find.
As an Aries, do you think you are controlling or that this is a characteristic of the sign?
I didn't quite comprehend your post since you said "controlling sounds like histrionic attention seeking" and "princess mentality and victimhood should be left to teenage prom queens."
Is this for both people in the couple or just the Aries?
I think Aries wants to be right, not necessarily in control. I think that could be characteristic of fire signs in general. There's a lot of signs that can be way more controlling. We just get bored when things aren't progressing. You can only give so much.
The latter was a reference to the sour grapes remark that some women like the op gave "too controlling", what does that even mean? Victimhood is what teenage girls do. I'm obviously not talking about victims of domestic violence or actual abuse, just this whole poor me mentality. He left, he's had enough. Either start dating again, see a therapist or stay single.
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Yeah, I guess it comes down to compatibility in the end.
The Aries I was seeing threw fits if I would get off the phone with him to talk to my family members. He turned off my alarms when I had to go to work, and I was almost late a few times because he wanted me to call off and stay with him instead. He used to want me to only take showers with him and not shower alone. This type of stuff, there were other more private instances. It got to be too much after a while.
We argued constantly too when I went against his wishes. It was a very short lived relationship.
I don't like being glued at the hip to my partner.
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Posted by pooface222Posted by SagSeason2000Posted by pooface222Posted by SagSeason2000Posted by pooface222Posted by UndinePosted by pooface222Posted by Undine
By far not as awful as your own (Cap) relationship would have been for the last decade, should you have stayed with the Aries.
Just seen your post. Are you asking that question to me?
If so then Yes. I should have stayed with my Aries! Because now things are far far worse!
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Wasn't the Aries who didn't want to stay with you any longer?
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Not necessarily. He wanted to stay. I even have a very unhappy message from him from years ago when we were still married - but not talking to each other - where he could see that I was never coming back to him.
I couldn't bare his control, manipulation, lies and screaming at me in demand to make me obey him every time!
His message was about not knowing what to do or where to go. It was him letting go because he realised I wasn't coming back to him. I think he felt helpless and that the only thing he could do was divorce me.
He never actually came to me and said I Miss you. I Love you. He just sat and sulked and felt sad I had left him.
He basically wanted me to come back to him by him doing the bare minimum to make it happen.
He didn't want divorce. But he did it because he didn't know what else to do. He didn't know how to bring me back to him.
He'd screamed at me so much, insulted, manipulated, lied to me so much and including silent treatment that I was done!
Deep down I wanted to stay. On the surface i wanted to leave.
Anyway..I've said enough about me and Aries.
I'm left feeling sad and regretful because deep down I didn't want to leave.
And nor did he..
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No offense, but you seem like the manipulator here? You cheated, but didn’t leave.. so if course he’s thinking you were working things out. But because he didn’t say the exact words you wanted and how you wanted, you let him divorce? I see this happen a lot when women are dealing with two dudes..
Use the first person behavior as an excuse to continue to be with the second person.. and the first person is angry , but who wouldn’t be? You sleeping with someone else but laying in a house with me. You could’ve just left? And I wouldn’t tell you I love you either if you are sleeping with someone else. That’s wanting your ego to be fed.
You keep making it seem like the Aries did everything wrong , but blowing off your mistakes.
And with all due respect, if he was that much of a terrible person would he have allowed you to stay there while screwing someone else? Are you missing him or something?
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I knew I shouldn't have said anything more. I don't even want to talk about this anymore.
Nevertheless you misunderstood.
I WANTED to leave! HE THREATENED me that he will destroy my life if I leave him!
I COULD NOT HAVE "just left'
(Excuse,Capital letters. I'm not shouting. Just making it obvious).
I mean seriously how is That going to make me love him again?? How are Threats a way of making your wife/husband/partner come back to you??
Threats are what started to kill my love for him in the first place. His Control became Threats!
So..
I became even more scared of him. So I stayed to stop him destroying my life. His Threats terrified me.
He then acted as if his threats had never happened. As if his control never happened, and then behaved as if everything was normal again between us.
So he either acted normall or SCREAMED at me to Control me round the house!
I then told the other guy to Go because despite him telling me he wants to leave his partner for me, he wasn't leaving her.
So I left him.
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You said you would have stayed though? You confusing because you said before he refused to say he loves you etc that’s why you let the divorce happen.
And if you can leave the house to have an affair, you can leave and don’t come back? You wasn’t held hostage as you were sleeping with someone else.. ? Meaning you got to leave.
Also if it was this bad why would you want to stay or still worried about him? You’re free now?
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You're right. The whole situation between me and Aries was Exactly that - Confusing!
I didn't leave the house to have an affair.
Let me explain .
The other guy was kivingin his partners house. Therefore I couldn't just go round and see him because its her house and they live there together. She only worked part-time so was around in the day time.
The other guy would come to my place instead because my husband was away all day til 6pm.
However, over time the other guy pissed me off. He wasn't leaving his partner. He went on and on about me leaving my husband. But whenever I mentioned him leaving her too and us being together, he would back off!?
He only came back to me when I stopped giving him attention.
So I eventually told him to get lost because he was disappearing/reappearing constantly which I've read that Pisces men do a Lot of!
Therefore me and Pisces had nowhere to go to be together, except my place when my husband was at work
I HATED doing this.
So I suggested to Pisces that we both leave our partners and move in together by renting a flat together. That way we are together Properly and are both No Longer Cheating.
Guess what??
Pisces GHOSTED me!
Poof! Gone!
AGAIN!
Hence..I ended it with him!
My Aries husbands control drove me away.. BUT he was fun, funny, affectionate, passionate, direct, planned the future with me and worked towards it.
But his control made him scream at me and punish me if I didn't do as he said. I couldn't just leave because he threatened to tell Pisces partner about our relationship!
It was like living with an angel and a devil at the same time.
So my feelings,for him were Up and Down, Leaving him, Staying with him..I was so confused because his Angel/Devil Extreme behavior made me want to Leave and Stay at the same time.
I just needed space and time alone, away from both men to work out how I move forward, especially because we have a child together.
Its just one big horrible toxic mess!
Me and Aries are divorced! Have been for 4yrals now.
Pisces is STILL with his partner 9yrs after coming in to my life. He still calls me sometimes but just to talk about gym stuff and how much he loved his workout. But sometimes says..
"Thinking about you."
FFS!
I have spoken to him a few times about him never leaving his partner. And about me leaving my husband for him.
All he ever says is. "I'm a coward. And I'm sorry."
Last week he told me he loved me when on the phone!🤦♀️
I just said Yeah Yeah and told him I've got to go.
I'm just fed up with everything that's happened.
All I wanted was to be a happy family with my husband.
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Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyuMe84Posted by pooface222What have I just read? You slept with other men IN the house your husband paid for whilst he was out working to pay for the house and your life style ?!Posted by SagSeason2000Posted by pooface222Posted by SagSeason2000Posted by pooface222Posted by UndinePosted by pooface222Posted by Undine
By far not as awful as your own (Cap) relationship would have been for the last decade, should you have stayed with the Aries.
Just seen your post. Are you asking that question to me?
If so then Yes. I should have stayed with my Aries! Because now things are far far worse!
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Wasn't the Aries who didn't want to stay with you any longer?
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Not necessarily. He wanted to stay. I even have a very unhappy message from him from years ago when we were still married - but not talking to each other - where he could see that I was never coming back to him.
I couldn't bare his control, manipulation, lies and screaming at me in demand to make me obey him every time!
His message was about not knowing what to do or where to go. It was him letting go because he realised I wasn't coming back to him. I think he felt helpless and that the only thing he could do was divorce me.
He never actually came to me and said I Miss you. I Love you. He just sat and sulked and felt sad I had left him.
He basically wanted me to come back to him by him doing the bare minimum to make it happen.
He didn't want divorce. But he did it because he didn't know what else to do. He didn't know how to bring me back to him.
He'd screamed at me so much, insulted, manipulated, lied to me so much and including silent treatment that I was done!
Deep down I wanted to stay. On the surface i wanted to leave.
Anyway..I've said enough about me and Aries.
I'm left feeling sad and regretful because deep down I didn't want to leave.
And nor did he..
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No offense, but you seem like the manipulator here? You cheated, but didn’t leave.. so if course he’s thinking you were working things out. But because he didn’t say the exact words you wanted and how you wanted, you let him divorce? I see this happen a lot when women are dealing with two dudes..
Use the first person behavior as an excuse to continue to be with the second person.. and the first person is angry , but who wouldn’t be? You sleeping with someone else but laying in a house with me. You could’ve just left? And I wouldn’t tell you I love you either if you are sleeping with someone else. That’s wanting your ego to be fed.
You keep making it seem like the Aries did everything wrong , but blowing off your mistakes.
And with all due respect, if he was that much of a terrible person would he have allowed you to stay there while screwing someone else? Are you missing him or something?
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I knew I shouldn't have said anything more. I don't even want to talk about this anymore.
Nevertheless you misunderstood.
I WANTED to leave! HE THREATENED me that he will destroy my life if I leave him!
I COULD NOT HAVE "just left'
(Excuse,Capital letters. I'm not shouting. Just making it obvious).
I mean seriously how is That going to make me love him again?? How are Threats a way of making your wife/husband/partner come back to you??
Threats are what started to kill my love for him in the first place. His Control became Threats!
So..
I became even more scared of him. So I stayed to stop him destroying my life. His Threats terrified me.
He then acted as if his threats had never happened. As if his control never happened, and then behaved as if everything was normal again between us.
So he either acted normall or SCREAMED at me to Control me round the house!
I then told the other guy to Go because despite him telling me he wants to leave his partner for me, he wasn't leaving her.
So I left him.
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You said you would have stayed though? You confusing because you said before he refused to say he loves you etc that’s why you let the divorce happen.
And if you can leave the house to have an affair, you can leave and don’t come back? You wasn’t held hostage as you were sleeping with someone else.. ? Meaning you got to leave.
Also if it was this bad why would you want to stay or still worried about him? You’re free now?
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You're right. The whole situation between me and Aries was Exactly that - Confusing!
I didn't leave the house to have an affair.
Let me explain .
The other guy was kivingin his partners house. Therefore I couldn't just go round and see him because its her house and they live there together. She only worked part-time so was around in the day time.
The other guy would come to my place instead because my husband was away all day til 6pm.
However, over time the other guy pissed me off. He wasn't leaving his partner. He went on and on about me leaving my husband. But whenever I mentioned him leaving her too and us being together, he would back off!?
He only came back to me when I stopped giving him attention.
So I eventually told him to get lost because he was disappearing/reappearing constantly which I've read that Pisces men do a Lot of!
Therefore me and Pisces had nowhere to go to be together, except my place when my husband was at work
I HATED doing this.
So I suggested to Pisces that we both leave our partners and move in together by renting a flat together. That way we are together Properly and are both No Longer Cheating.
Guess what??
Pisces GHOSTED me!
Poof! Gone!
AGAIN!
Hence..I ended it with him!
My Aries husbands control drove me away.. BUT he was fun, funny, affectionate, passionate, direct, planned the future with me and worked towards it.
But his control made him scream at me and punish me if I didn't do as he said. I couldn't just leave because he threatened to tell Pisces partner about our relationship!
It was like living with an angel and a devil at the same time.
So my feelings,for him were Up and Down, Leaving him, Staying with him..I was so confused because his Angel/Devil Extreme behavior made me want to Leave and Stay at the same time.
I just needed space and time alone, away from both men to work out how I move forward, especially because we have a child together.
Its just one big horrible toxic mess!
Me and Aries are divorced! Have been for 4yrals now.
Pisces is STILL with his partner 9yrs after coming in to my life. He still calls me sometimes but just to talk about gym stuff and how much he loved his workout. But sometimes says..
"Thinking about you."
FFS!
I have spoken to him a few times about him never leaving his partner. And about me leaving my husband for him.
All he ever says is. "I'm a coward. And I'm sorry."
Last week he told me he loved me when on the phone!🤦♀️
I just said Yeah Yeah and told him I've got to go.
I'm just fed up with everything that's happened.
All I wanted was to be a happy family with my husband.
Sorry this is so long!
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The guy you cheated with went poof and wouldn't leave his partner.
You got what you deserved.
Now you're trying to get dirt on your exes current relationship and hope they break up and he comes back?! That's delusional.
Your ex has moved on and he deserves to be happy. Their relationship is none of your business.
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I have very limited experience with ♈️ , but the few I’ve known/know are definitely controlling.
I’ve recently been in contact with the ♈️ I used to date (after a 5 year hiatus), and he complained about an ex that was controlling, stating that’s why they didn’t work out. I said “you are also controlling”, he laughed, paused, then tried to disagree. I had to remind him of the time we went out to eat…he told me how he didn’t eat bacon and scolded an ex about eating it bc he didn’t like it. The waiter came and I ordered something with 🥓 😂. He goes, “didn’t I just tell you I didn’t like 🥓. I laughed in his face and asked what did that have to do with me 🙄. He had no defense.
When we dated, he also wanted to be together all the time, and complained that I wouldn’t stay at his place overnight, more often, but I haven’t experienced the tracking 😂. He has Aries Venus though, almost all Aries placements, except leo moon.
I would think the tracking/ stalking thing would be more like Scorpio lol, and Cancer…I’ve experienced that with cancer when I was a teenager.