Aries men please chime in...I need your honest feedback

Where to start?

Aries man comes in hot and heavy. Gets my contact info and we start texting, talking on the phone, and now he's vid chatting me from everywhere. He's at the mall with friends - vid chat. He's at the cafe with friends - vid chat. He contacts me several times daily in this way. We meet in person and he's touchy but respectful IMO. It's been one month and he's dropped commitment and marriage into the mix. His friends tell me all he does is talk about me. He wants to know what I want. We talk about it but I don't take it as a proposal, it's just conversation. Well...apparently...I am incorrect in that assessment. As of last night he is acting like I'm "his woman" and all of a sudden we're in a relationship? Uhhh...when did this happen. He's shocked that I don't know. So he then states it clearly and makes intentions known. Gotcha. But here's the thing I'm confused about. He says he really loves me for me...and honestly...he's described me to a tee when we're talking...like surprisingly well how he understands my inner workings but says that I really need to work out at the gym because he's not really as physically attracted to me as he would like to be. He's as buff as can be so I can't fault him on his body at all.

**Short version for those that hate to read - Aries man likes me, he really really likes me. And I like him back but I feel like he criticized my body and don't understand the concept of wanting to be with someone he's not really attracted to...so the expectation is that I will work out and get sexy for him. That's right...I said what he said. ----I want you to work out and get sexy for me---- He did add that then I would be the most beautiful and amazing woman in the universe...so...It was kind of endearing in a weird he just put me down kinda way. Ugh.

So you guys will choose a woman that you really like in every way except her body and then tell her to workout? Is this Aries guy for real? This is like he's special ordering from a menu of womanly attributes or something.

Is this what you Aries guys are like? Do you ever get deeper on an emotional level within the relationship?Can I expect him to critique everything according to his opinion and then hear about it every time?

I kinda want to know what I'm getting myself into here.

Yo.... I'm telling you from right now... you're a Scorpio and he's an Aries. This may be a very manipulating mentally abusive relationship that starts off cute and goes left.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

If he really loved everything about you he wouldn't need to put you down. He could've just encouraged you by like inviting you to the gym with him or like rock climbing or something. Either way what he said was a form of manipulation. Now you're self conscious about your looks. That's not okay. The mental abuse is starting. And yo make sure all this calling and knowing your inner workings ain't a ploy to know you enough to gain control over you. What if he's narcissistic? It's all flowers in the beginning.

Be careful my dear and please don't rush into anything. Idc what he says. A man who really wants you will wait til you're ready. Much love.

Posted by Cg2016
Yo.... I'm telling you from right now... you're a Scorpio and he's an Aries. This may be a very manipulating mentally abusive relationship that starts off cute and goes left.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

If he really loved everything about you he wouldn't need to put you down. He could've just encouraged you by like inviting you to the gym with him or like rock climbing or something. Either way what he said was a form of manipulation. Now you're self conscious about your looks. That's not okay. The mental abuse is starting. And yo make sure all this calling and knowing your inner workings ain't a ploy to know you enough to gain control over you. What if he's narcissistic? It's all flowers in the beginning.

Be careful my dear and please don't rush into anything. Idc what he says. A man who really wants you will wait til you're ready. Much love.

That's what I was wondering. I'm taking my time and I did speak my mind. I was definitely upset that he said it but not in a way that was yelling or whatever. I stood up for myself telling him that when I go to the gym that it is for me, that I would never do that for him. I don't feel insecure and wouldn't let a simple comment made to fluctuate how I feel about myself. He tried to do the guy "I was only joking, don't be so serious" thing. We do tease each other and in typical Aries fashion he pulls my pig tails on the playground. I handle it just fine but this one went too far is all. I hope he understands that and recovers.

I don't believe he was saying that to be manipulative. That doesn't seem in his nature. He's very straightforward. But we're still setting up boundaries in the relationship, which he has been very respectful about, and I will continue to honestly speak my mind with him. There are other things he's wanted quickly and I held him off because I don't want something that burns out quickly.

Thank you for your response. It's given me some insight of what else to be focusing on and looking out for.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

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How interesting ... I'm out of a very similarly twisted and manipulative relationship with a Taurus Hahahahahaa. We're backwards but alike 🙂

Posted by nano
I think that thats very rude and you shouldn't change for him. Delivery was tacky and insensitive.

If he's talking about it and bringing it up now, then it's more than likely going to be a problem in the future when your weight ever fluctuates.

Do you really want to be with a man resenting you for your weight?

I don't believe that he loves everything about you, because he wouldn't have needed to come at you like that.

The only situation where I feel this kind of comment would be appropriate this early on, would be if you asked his honest opinion.

I'm really sorry for not mentioning it before but...I actually did ask him outright. Words exactly were "Are you attracted to my body?" - He was mentioning how he wanted to get into the gym and blah blah blah details before he and I got intimate. I think he's the one feeling insecure about it. I thought, well, if he's this critical of his own body it's not like he's totally accepting of anyone else's. I've learned the value of self love for this very reason. He was being honest...which I've requested because it's important to me...but still. He took it too far, IMO, by going into detail about what he would like to look better. (With respect too, I don't want to paint an inaccurate picture of him - the initial comment was a teasing joke - we've been perfectly fine with this. I DO KNOW he's attracted to me...one of my pictures is the wallpaper on his computer and another on his phone. Both full body or close to pics. He doesn't mind showing me off. He has also said he's proud of me and is very supportive about going to the gym)

This could be an isolated incident, it might be more. There are some really great things about him too so I'm going to put some distance there and see what happens. It may just be that he's a good guy but has lousy tact in communication skills...this would not be atypical for an Aries man.

Thank you for your response...you make a great point. I don't want a man resenting my weight, or lack of muscular tone or whatever, and that being a reason for bad behaviors in the future (ie cheating - like another post implies). So I'll pay closer attention to the teasing types of behaviors and ensure it's just teasing and not criticizing.

I don't believe that he loves everything about me. That would be unrealistic to expect after one month. He's still learning what to value in the relationship. I think I'll be very busy and unavailable 😉 for a few days and see what he ends up missing...if anything.

I'll keep you guys posted.

Posted by UnicornSag
My Sag friend who is quite a lot over weight married Aries guy who is in his top shape and waaaaay better looking than her lol at start he did criticize her and expected her to work out but she never did it and stayed the same. He married her anyway. Honestly I don't think he's faithful to her a slightest bit but to each their own, unless I have actual proofs I won't make assumptions so I kinda saw her story in yours a little bit

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking as he and I were talking about it. If I don't have the exact body you're attracted to...are you going to use that as an excuse later to sleep around or whatever? I'm going to keep eyes wide open on this one and see where the wind takes us.

Interesting that he married her anyway...Sounds like he wants what she does for him more than who she is in his life. Do you mind sharing more about the way she is with him? I want to make DAMN sure I don't end up like your friend...that's for sure.

I want and deserve a faithful husband...

I have heard that Aries men don't really change anything about themselves. Why would they? They believe they are amazing just the way they are. So it's an accept him for who he is and the way he behaves...get on board with the things he wants in life...type deal. I'm setting the boundaries early on and he seems to really like that about me. He says that he likes how honest I am and that I am strong with him. He has mentioned that he needs that from his woman. Funny that your friend is a Sag but not being strong with him. Maybe she should start or something...see how her husband responds.

Posted by Distilled
The other night a guy in our group who I didn't know commented on how fat the waitress was. Out of nowhere because of some stuff over the bill. He insisted on paying for our whole table too. The machismo was unreal.

Thing is she was so pregnant, wouldn't surprise me if she burst right on the spot.

I think I berated him in front of his/some of my friends friends by casually mentioning- aaaaaand it's no wonder this dude and some of his stories seem like he pay for it. Friends felt sorry for him at the end. Classy stuff.

:/

A guy will ask you to change one thing, and once you do it will never, ever stop.

Change what you're comfortable with doing and up keeping.

I agree. I believe that compromise is part of any healthy relationship, but changing who I am or what I look like for another person is too far IMO. It's like asking him to shave his beard...which he really likes having. I wonder how he would respond if I made some trade off critiques of my own in that way. He could really benefit from a few more leg days at the gym and not just arms and chest...huh...lol 😉

I let him know that I won't change it for him, that I will workout for myself - which I have been doing for 3 years now. I'm already changing it for me which made it odd that he was trying to input how I should change it...as to listen to his advice instead of how I've been doing things. I don't know...that's why I'm asking Aries guys...

Was he trying to be helpful but lacking in tact? I'm not sure...only observation of his behaviors over time will really tell.

This isn't aries men but jerks in general. I have countless stories of guys that liked me only when I was overweight that never asked me to change a thing they just loved bigger women period. They were aries and pisces saggies and the occasional Capricorn. They all had big woman fetishes.

But most guys that off the bat ask for body or anything changees usually just have control issues. I've heard this from a homeless Taurus guy that rejected by best Virgo friend because he said she needed to lose weight. But he then proceeded on to date this Libra chick that wore a ton of makeup and tried to make her not wear makeup anymore.they broke up because she wouldn't take off her make up. See the pattern? Nothing is ever good enough for those type of guys. And TBH most aries like you whatever way you are and totally love you for it



Sorry to say he might just be a dud

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Posted by nano
I think that thats very rude and you shouldn't change for him. Delivery was tacky and insensitive.

If he's talking about it and bringing it up now, then it's more than likely going to be a problem in the future when your weight ever fluctuates.

Do you really want to be with a man resenting you for your weight?

I don't believe that he loves everything about you, because he wouldn't have needed to come at you like that.

The only situation where I feel this kind of comment would be appropriate this early on, would be if you asked his honest opinion.

I'm really sorry for not mentioning it before but...I actually did ask him outright. Words exactly were "Are you attracted to my body?" - He was mentioning how he wanted to get into the gym and blah blah blah details before he and I got intimate. I think he's the one feeling insecure about it. I thought, well, if he's this critical of his own body it's not like he's totally accepting of anyone else's. I've learned the value of self love for this very reason. He was being honest...which I've requested because it's important to me...but still. He took it too far, IMO, by going into detail about what he would like to look better. (With respect too, I don't want to paint an inaccurate picture of him - the initial comment was a teasing joke - we've been perfectly fine with this. I DO KNOW he's attracted to me...one of my pictures is the wallpaper on his computer and another on his phone. Both full body or close to pics. He doesn't mind showing me off. He has also said he's proud of me and is very supportive about going to the gym)

This could be an isolated incident, it might be more. There are some really great things about him too so I'm going to put some distance there and see what happens. It may just be that he's a good guy but has lousy tact in communication skills...this would not be atypical for an Aries man.

Thank you for your response...you make a great point. I don't want a man resenting my weight, or lack of muscular tone or whatever, and that being a reason for bad behaviors in the future (ie cheating - like another post implies). So I'll pay closer attention to the teasing types of behaviors and ensure it's just teasing and not criticizing.

I don't believe that he loves everything about me. That would be unrealistic to expect after one month. He's still learning what to value in the relationship. I think I'll be very busy and unavailable 😉 for a few days and see what he ends up missing...if anything.

I'll keep you guys posted.

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OP, you said: "I'm really sorry for not mentioning it before but...I actually did ask him outright. Words exactly were "Are you attracted to my body?" - He was mentioning how he wanted to get into the gym and blah blah blah details before he and I got intimate. I think he's the one feeling insecure about it. I thought, well, if he's this critical of his own body it's not like he's totally accepting of anyone else's. I've learned the value of self love for this very reason. He was being honest...which I've requested because it's important to me...but still. He took it too far, IMO, by going into detail about what he would like to look better."

Dont ask questions if you are not prepared to get an honest answer. If you know he likes you, why ask this question? Manipulating him into telling you you are the most beautiful person in the word?

He was maybe just trying to be helpful, because maybe he thought you are seeking genuine advice on your body and he being a fitness freak maybe he wanted to be your personal trainer 🙂

very likely he is used to give advice on body-training to others, so he didnt see it as criticising, but being helpful to offer advice on a question, what YOU STARTED......... and now you are offended..

he is maybe a jerk, maybe not, only you know yourself..... but I agree the delivery of his advice was a bit much 🙂 Aries are not known for their sensitivity

Edit: OP, and you said: "I think I'll be very busy and unavailable for a few days and see what he ends up missing...if anything."

it seems you two will manipulate each other out of a relationship..... or maybe not 🙂 maybe thats the way you two like it and what you two need...

I am aries, I can tell you if we love you, we love you the way you are. I never in my entire life criticised anyone on their appearance or physical attributes.

I am aries, I can tell you if we love you, we love you the way you are. I never in my entire life criticised anyone on their appearance or physical attributes. Even if he would have any concerns about it, would wait and see if you have any motivation to work on your body and then would be probably supporting. Still even that just carefully.

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Posted by UnicornSag
My Sag friend who is quite a lot over weight married Aries guy who is in his top shape and waaaaay better looking than her lol at start he did criticize her and expected her to work out but she never did it and stayed the same. He married her anyway. Honestly I don't think he's faithful to her a slightest bit but to each their own, unless I have actual proofs I won't make assumptions so I kinda saw her story in yours a little bit

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking as he and I were talking about it. If I don't have the exact body you're attracted to...are you going to use that as an excuse later to sleep around or whatever? I'm going to keep eyes wide open on this one and see where the wind takes us.

Interesting that he married her anyway...Sounds like he wants what she does for him more than who she is in his life. Do you mind sharing more about the way she is with him? I want to make DAMN sure I don't end up like your friend...that's for sure.

I want and deserve a faithful husband...

I have heard that Aries men don't really change anything about themselves. Why would they? They believe they are amazing just the way they are. So it's an accept him for who he is and the way he behaves...get on board with the things he wants in life...type deal. I'm setting the boundaries early on and he seems to really like that about me. He says that he likes how honest I am and that I am strong with him. He has mentioned that he needs that from his woman. Funny that your friend is a Sag but not being strong with him. Maybe she should start or something...see how her husband responds.

Yes, you're right, they tend to be very conceited. Her husband definitely is at least. So is another guy I used to mess around with...he just couldn't take no for an answer. But they're both great looking and had tons of women for that, truth to be told...

In her case truth to be told I think money played the most important role since she's rich and he just isn't...she's from capital and he's from small town etc

Well my friend didn't quite have much experience with men actually and doesn't have much confidence so I guess that all plays a role in it. He's such a player and she refuses to acknowledge it...there was one time when he came for party here and they were both with us, all others were girls...he didn't want to be in photo's with her lol literally rejected to be taken photo with her, just the 2 of them but had no problem with taking photo with our other friend and me (who are both a lot better looking than his gf)...we told her that and she just ignored it, pretended like she doesn't want to be in photos with him lol

All in all I believe we all should be with people who find us attractive. If they want to change you it's not a good sign...but that's just my thought

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Hahahahaha...he is definitely more confident than most people I've met but he's also one of the most capable..so perhaps not in a conceited way. He doesn't talk about himself, but shows off with lots of energy. LOL He ISSSS very good looking and does get much attention from women. I don't mind that because he doesn't come off as a player. He does like the attention but I can tell he wants more substance to the woman in his life.

I don't seem to have that lack of confidence and I'm just so sorry that your friend is behaving like that. When my friends tell me they are seeing something that they don't like I pay attention because my friends know and love me dearly. Good luck to any man that doesn't win their approval because the relationship will be dooooooomed!

Aries are quite charming...maybe he has her convinced. Does he include her with his friends?

I agree. I want someone attractive and want him to be attracted to me too. I'll be on the look out for anything else that might be of concern from this guy, Aries or not.

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Posted by Distilled
The other night a guy in our group who I didn't know commented on how fat the waitress was. Out of nowhere because of some stuff over the bill. He insisted on paying for our whole table too. The machismo was unreal.

Thing is she was so pregnant, wouldn't surprise me if she burst right on the spot.

I think I berated him in front of his/some of my friends friends by casually mentioning- aaaaaand it's no wonder this dude and some of his stories seem like he pay for it. Friends felt sorry for him at the end. Classy stuff.

:/

A guy will ask you to change one thing, and once you do it will never, ever stop.

Change what you're comfortable with doing and up keeping.

I agree. I believe that compromise is part of any healthy relationship, but changing who I am or what I look like for another person is too far IMO. It's like asking him to shave his beard...which he really likes having. I wonder how he would respond if I made some trade off critiques of my own in that way. He could really benefit from a few more leg days at the gym and not just arms and chest...huh...lol 😉

I let him know that I won't change it for him, that I will workout for myself - which I have been doing for 3 years now. I'm already changing it for me which made it odd that he was trying to input how I should change it...as to listen to his advice instead of how I've been doing things. I don't know...that's why I'm asking Aries guys...

Was he trying to be helpful but lacking in tact? I'm not sure...only observation of his behaviors over time will really tell.

Lol trim his beard at night

Yeah- those dudes who don't work out their legs *eye roll* and then wear shorts

From my experience Aries men will run your life if you let them

Seems like youre on your way- three years is a commitment and shows you don't give up on yourself

🙂

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Hahahahahaha!!!! Oh he would wake up SOOOOO mad! That would be pure evil on my part, I can't do that. But I might joke around with him about it and make him wonder 😉

You know, I think you could be on to something there. I think I'm going to have to decide where my boundaries are at and firmly stick to them regardless of the insistence on his part. If that doesn't come with respect then I'll walk...it's that simple. He's not my guy if he's not behaving like he wants to be with me...for all that I am and not.

Yeah - thank you. I started out really big over 500lbs and I'm about 70lbs away from my goal. There's been lots of ups and downs, stalling, excuses, but...I always come back to it. I feel better and better about my body everyday but overall am best impressed by the improvements to my overall health.I'm just so grateful that I can live my adventures instead of just dreaming about them from the couch. LOL.

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The other night a guy in our group who I didn't know commented on how fat the waitress was. Out of nowhere because of some stuff over the bill. He insisted on paying for our whole table too. The machismo was unreal.

Thing is she was so pregnant, wouldn't surprise me if she burst right on the spot.

I think I berated him in front of his/some of my friends friends by casually mentioning- aaaaaand it's no wonder this dude and some of his stories seem like he pay for it. Friends felt sorry for him at the end. Classy stuff.

:/

A guy will ask you to change one thing, and once you do it will never, ever stop.

Change what you're comfortable with doing and up keeping.

I agree. I believe that compromise is part of any healthy relationship, but changing who I am or what I look like for another person is too far IMO. It's like asking him to shave his beard...which he really likes having. I wonder how he would respond if I made some trade off critiques of my own in that way. He could really benefit from a few more leg days at the gym and not just arms and chest...huh...lol 😉

I let him know that I won't change it for him, that I will workout for myself - which I have been doing for 3 years now. I'm already changing it for me which made it odd that he was trying to input how I should change it...as to listen to his advice instead of how I've been doing things. I don't know...that's why I'm asking Aries guys...

Was he trying to be helpful but lacking in tact? I'm not sure...only observation of his behaviors over time will really tell.

Lol trim his beard at night

Yeah- those dudes who don't work out their legs *eye roll* and then wear shorts

From my experience Aries men will run your life if you let them

Seems like youre on your way- three years is a commitment and shows you don't give up on yourself

🙂

Hahahahahaha!!!! Oh he would wake up SOOOOO mad! That would be pure evil on my part, I can't do that. But I might joke around with him about it and make him wonder 😉

You know, I think you could be on to something there. I think I'm going to have to decide where my boundaries are at and firmly stick to them regardless of the insistence on his part. If that doesn't come with respect then I'll walk...it's that simple. He's not my guy if he's not behaving like he wants to be with me...for all that I am and not.

Yeah - thank you. I started out really big over 500lbs and I'm about 70lbs away from my goal. There's been lots of ups and downs, stalling, excuses, but...I always come back to it. I feel better and better about my body everyday but overall am best impressed by the improvements to my overall health.I'm just so grateful that I can live my adventures instead of just dreaming about them from the couch. LOL.

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@GypseeScorpGal, ooooh, you are trolling 🙂

"I started out really big over 500lbs"

NO WAY

Edit: 500 lbs is about 225 kg.... no way I believe it

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Posted by nano
I think that thats very rude and you shouldn't change for him. Delivery was tacky and insensitive.

If he's talking about it and bringing it up now, then it's more than likely going to be a problem in the future when your weight ever fluctuates.

Do you really want to be with a man resenting you for your weight?

I don't believe that he loves everything about you, because he wouldn't have needed to come at you like that.

The only situation where I feel this kind of comment would be appropriate this early on, would be if you asked his honest opinion.

I'm really sorry for not mentioning it before but...I actually did ask him outright. Words exactly were "Are you attracted to my body?" - He was mentioning how he wanted to get into the gym and blah blah blah details before he and I got intimate. I think he's the one feeling insecure about it. I thought, well, if he's this critical of his own body it's not like he's totally accepting of anyone else's. I've learned the value of self love for this very reason. He was being honest...which I've requested because it's important to me...but still. He took it too far, IMO, by going into detail about what he would like to look better. (With respect too, I don't want to paint an inaccurate picture of him - the initial comment was a teasing joke - we've been perfectly fine with this. I DO KNOW he's attracted to me...one of my pictures is the wallpaper on his computer and another on his phone. Both full body or close to pics. He doesn't mind showing me off. He has also said he's proud of me and is very supportive about going to the gym)

This could be an isolated incident, it might be more. There are some really great things about him too so I'm going to put some distance there and see what happens. It may just be that he's a good guy but has lousy tact in communication skills...this would not be atypical for an Aries man.

Thank you for your response...you make a great point. I don't want a man resenting my weight, or lack of muscular tone or whatever, and that being a reason for bad behaviors in the future (ie cheating - like another post implies). So I'll pay closer attention to the teasing types of behaviors and ensure it's just teasing and not criticizing.

I don't believe that he loves everything about me. That would be unrealistic to expect after one month. He's still learning what to value in the relationship. I think I'll be very busy and unavailable 😉 for a few days and see what he ends up missing...if anything.

I'll keep you guys posted.

OP, you said: "I'm really sorry for not mentioning it before but...I actually did ask him outright. Words exactly were "Are you attracted to my body?" - He was mentioning how he wanted to get into the gym and blah blah blah details before he and I got intimate. I think he's the one feeling insecure about it. I thought, well, if he's this critical of his own body it's not like he's totally accepting of anyone else's. I've learned the value of self love for this very reason. He was being honest...which I've requested because it's important to me...but still. He took it too far, IMO, by going into detail about what he would like to look better."

Dont ask questions if you are not prepared to get an honest answer. If you know he likes you, why ask this question? Manipulating him into telling you you are the most beautiful person in the word?

He was maybe just trying to be helpful, because maybe he thought you are seeking genuine advice on your body and he being a fitness freak maybe he wanted to be your personal trainer 🙂

very likely he is used to give advice on body-training to others, so he didnt see it as criticising, but being helpful to offer advice on a question, what YOU STARTED......... and now you are offended..

he is maybe a jerk, maybe not, only you know yourself..... but I agree the delivery of his advice was a bit much 🙂 Aries are not known for their sensitivity

Edit: OP, and you said: "I think I'll be very busy and unavailable for a few days and see what he ends up missing...if anything."

it seems you two will manipulate each other out of a relationship..... or maybe not 🙂 maybe thats the way you two like it and what you two need...

Well...there's some interesting assumptions made about my intentions so allow me to clear the air here. I asked the question in context, which I made my best attempt to explain. I'm not a manipulative person. I asked the question with the same transparency as he probably answered it. I wanted to understand him and how he thinks about his body and my body. If he has body hang ups to the point where he's criticizing himself I have to wonder if there's a lack of confidence OR if he's just really too hard on himself. If he's hard on himself, he'll be hard on everyone else around him. This means he'll be a less fun and enjoyable personality. I don't want to end up with someone like that...always serious with some serious agenda to pursue. So...not fishing for compliments...he already pays me those anyway...so no need (as you've implied)



but I agree the delivery of his advice was a bit much 🙂 Aries are not known for their sensitivity

He was maybe just trying to be helpful, because maybe he thought you are seeking genuine advice on your body and he being a fitness freak maybe he wanted to be your personal trainer 🙂





Thank you. This, by far, is the most helpful statement. I was really just trying to understand why it could have been said in this way. I was confused by the compliments and then the critique. He told me that he loves me the way I am, but...described what "HIS" perfect woman's body would be...and let's just say...it's not like my body Hahahahaha.

And since you can see that, yeah, he took it too far...I was indeed offended. Only about the too far part...which I said...

When you work out regularly, you tend to tell people what to do, in terms of fitness....it's just normal. You're in contact with the fitness world, you see others who arent, you tell em to get into it....it's so easy, and fun, and gives you a great body. Just do it.

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Posted by Cg2016
Yo.... I'm telling you from right now... you're a Scorpio and he's an Aries. This may be a very manipulating mentally abusive relationship that starts off cute and goes left.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

If he really loved everything about you he wouldn't need to put you down. He could've just encouraged you by like inviting you to the gym with him or like rock climbing or something. Either way what he said was a form of manipulation. Now you're self conscious about your looks. That's not okay. The mental abuse is starting. And yo make sure all this calling and knowing your inner workings ain't a ploy to know you enough to gain control over you. What if he's narcissistic? It's all flowers in the beginning.

Be careful my dear and please don't rush into anything. Idc what he says. A man who really wants you will wait til you're ready. Much love.

That's what I was wondering. I'm taking my time and I did speak my mind. I was definitely upset that he said it but not in a way that was yelling or whatever. I stood up for myself telling him that when I go to the gym that it is for me, that I would never do that for him. I don't feel insecure and wouldn't let a simple comment made to fluctuate how I feel about myself. He tried to do the guy "I was only joking, don't be so serious" thing. We do tease each other and in typical Aries fashion he pulls my pig tails on the playground. I handle it just fine but this one went too far is all. I hope he understands that and recovers.

I don't believe he was saying that to be manipulative. That doesn't seem in his nature. He's very straightforward. But we're still setting up boundaries in the relationship, which he has been very respectful about, and I will continue to honestly speak my mind with him. There are other things he's wanted quickly and I held him off because I don't want something that burns out quickly.

Thank you for your response. It's given me some insight of what else to be focusing on and looking out for.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

How interesting ... I'm out of a very similarly twisted and manipulative relationship with a Taurus Hahahahahaa. We're backwards but alike 🙂

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Oh wow. Yeah nah Taurus for me are usually pretty chill. The Aries was out of gotdam control lmao.

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Yo.... I'm telling you from right now... you're a Scorpio and he's an Aries. This may be a very manipulating mentally abusive relationship that starts off cute and goes left.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

If he really loved everything about you he wouldn't need to put you down. He could've just encouraged you by like inviting you to the gym with him or like rock climbing or something. Either way what he said was a form of manipulation. Now you're self conscious about your looks. That's not okay. The mental abuse is starting. And yo make sure all this calling and knowing your inner workings ain't a ploy to know you enough to gain control over you. What if he's narcissistic? It's all flowers in the beginning.

Be careful my dear and please don't rush into anything. Idc what he says. A man who really wants you will wait til you're ready. Much love.

That's what I was wondering. I'm taking my time and I did speak my mind. I was definitely upset that he said it but not in a way that was yelling or whatever. I stood up for myself telling him that when I go to the gym that it is for me, that I would never do that for him. I don't feel insecure and wouldn't let a simple comment made to fluctuate how I feel about myself. He tried to do the guy "I was only joking, don't be so serious" thing. We do tease each other and in typical Aries fashion he pulls my pig tails on the playground. I handle it just fine but this one went too far is all. I hope he understands that and recovers.

I don't believe he was saying that to be manipulative. That doesn't seem in his nature. He's very straightforward. But we're still setting up boundaries in the relationship, which he has been very respectful about, and I will continue to honestly speak my mind with him. There are other things he's wanted quickly and I held him off because I don't want something that burns out quickly.

Thank you for your response. It's given me some insight of what else to be focusing on and looking out for.

My Aries relationship was hella dysfunctional but addictive. I'm still mentally recovering while in a new relationship with a Taurus.

How interesting ... I'm out of a very similarly twisted and manipulative relationship with a Taurus Hahahahahaa. We're backwards but alike 🙂

Oh wow. Yeah nah Taurus for me are usually pretty chill. The Aries was out of gotdam control lmao.

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And yeah just make sure you watch and slow him down if need be. Use your scorpio observant eye lol.

I hope it goes well of course. Just stay aware.

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When you work out regularly, you tend to tell people what to do, in terms of fitness....it's just normal. You're in contact with the fitness world, you see others who arent, you tell em to get into it....it's so easy, and fun, and gives you a great body. Just do it.

That feels about right. I've experienced that before with some guys at the gym. It felt like they were flirting but it was all talk about how to lift weights or get better results. I was appreciative of the input, of course. Plus it's like a free personal trainer 😉 I mean, how could I feel cheated if I get better results from my workout? Hahahaha.

I do have a fun time and feel great afterwards. It is something I've built my life style around now and love to be active. It's turning out to be a great way to meet people that are like-minded and my confidence just sores more as I'm positively supported by those around me to keep going. I'm really happy with my changes all around and thank you for the positive feedback.

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When you work out regularly, you tend to tell people what to do, in terms of fitness....it's just normal. You're in contact with the fitness world, you see others who arent, you tell em to get into it....it's so easy, and fun, and gives you a great body. Just do it.

That feels about right. I've experienced that before with some guys at the gym. It felt like they were flirting but it was all talk about how to lift weights or get better results. I was appreciative of the input, of course. Plus it's like a free personal trainer 😉 I mean, how could I feel cheated if I get better results from my workout? Hahahaha.

I do have a fun time and feel great afterwards. It is something I've built my life style around now and love to be active. It's turning out to be a great way to meet people that are like-minded and my confidence just sores more as I'm positively supported by those around me to keep going. I'm really happy with my changes all around and thank you for the positive feedback.

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I mean as they're talking, they're hoping you might take it as flirting, but they can't make it a sure thing, cause girls are off limits these days. They simultaneously believe in their passion for fitness, while hoping it turns into flirting.

@GypseeScorpGal, can you please comment on this?

"I started out really big over 500lbs"

500 lbs is about 225 kg....

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@GypseeScorpGal, can you please comment on this?

"I started out really big over 500lbs"

500 lbs is about 225 kg....

The conversion seems to be accurate. I'm not sure what you would like me to comment here...as in?

I'm not sure how to post photos but they speak genuinely of my weight loss tale

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When you work out regularly, you tend to tell people what to do, in terms of fitness....it's just normal. You're in contact with the fitness world, you see others who arent, you tell em to get into it....it's so easy, and fun, and gives you a great body. Just do it.

That feels about right. I've experienced that before with some guys at the gym. It felt like they were flirting but it was all talk about how to lift weights or get better results. I was appreciative of the input, of course. Plus it's like a free personal trainer 😉 I mean, how could I feel cheated if I get better results from my workout? Hahahaha.

I do have a fun time and feel great afterwards. It is something I've built my life style around now and love to be active. It's turning out to be a great way to meet people that are like-minded and my confidence just sores more as I'm positively supported by those around me to keep going. I'm really happy with my changes all around and thank you for the positive feedback.

I mean as they're talking, they're hoping you might take it as flirting, but they can't make it a sure thing, cause girls are off limits these days. They simultaneously believe in their passion for fitness, while hoping it turns into flirting.

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Interesting comment about girls being off limits these days. I'm feeling a bit confused about that. What makes girls off limits in your experience or opinion?

I've flirted with them when they've been helpful especially, but they were in relationships and (though I could tell attraction and interest) couldn't really act on it because they were attached. It felt good to see that even though there's attraction and maybe even a little bit of flirting, they were willing to remain faithful to the relationship with their current partners. Dispells any feelings that men don't know how to limit their behaviors or put boundaries on something new like that.

Wouldn't that be the men as off limits as well?