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RedSag
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8 Years

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After a loooong period of getting to know each other and than dating, after our first night together, he kept pressuring me to tell him how I felt about him. Immediately after me admitting I started having feelings for him, he told me he wasn't ready to commit-I hadn't even asked him, it was soooo early- and he was not in love and 'doesn't plan to be'.

Of course I pulled back and made it clear I wasn't looking for FWB. He never left me alone and after a lot of resistance from me, he provoqued me with something really childish but hurftul like hell. After a one-month break and silence treatment from me, he slowly made himself more'present' by calling, texting or inviting me for a coffee or an afternoon drink when he came to my town. We slowly got closer again but no sex. He used to ask me to text more often when he was 'courting' , I started doing this now, by saying small bits about us like I like it when you do this or that, nothing sexual, more like sensual. Whenever I do it, he is a bit dry and doesn't connect, his answers are always questions like' ok, this sensation must not be very important to you' like he doesn't believe when I told him I had the memory if a touch or feeling from him..

He recently made a joke about one of his calls that I had missed like 'sorry I mossed your call" I said- he said 'you missed me' but in our language it also means 'you lost me', all with a very serious face on the screen.

How should I make him actually be in a relationship with me? I know he doesn't see anybody else, he is always in contact with me but somehow 'dryer' more often. He keeps asking me very childishly if I am in love with him. I never say yes or no. He is also really sensitive about a lot of things.

How do I make him open? His actions speak a lot, I know he is in love with me, he said a lot of special things when we slept together 'while trying to break up' after our initial talk about how I felt. But at a certain moment weeks later, he also said I am not in love now unless you are patient.Wtf?

Thanks a lot for any kind of input...