@zenalchemy
18 Years5,000+ Posts
Calling all classy, Aries Women,
Understanding Aries Women's Emotional Resilience
Aries women are known for their strength and independence, often moving forward quickly after heartbreak. While they may take time to heal emotionally, they typically do not dwell on past relationships for years. Knowing their nature can help you understand their process of emotional recovery and resilience.
Losing is a part of life.
If one can't handle defeat .. then they aren't deserving enough to win.
I think it's important for you to come to the self-realization that you are feeling in competition, and not really love.
It's been a year, and now that him and your sister have decided to be friends, in which, when they hang out together, along with their other group friends .. they aren't discussing you, their talks don't revolve around you.
Suddenly, you now find yourself with a need to voice out how much you pine away for a man who broke up with you a year ago.
What you are faced with is a typical Aries nature ... you just have to win, it doesn't really matter if true feelings are involved .. you just have to win.
Because if true feelings were involved for him, then you'd be happy for him that he has a friend.
You made it a point on the Virgo board to clearly express that you were upset that he's not talking about you to your sister ... not voicing any real fears or concerns about him and your sister having a relationship ... your focus is on being upset because you aren't the center of their attention.
And yes, that is Aries ... and no, that's NOT being classy.
Thanks for sharing P-Angel.
I think you're on to something in terms of being the center of attention. I guess I'm having a hard time admitting that someone doesn't want to be with me.
I hide my Virgo post as a start to try to let go. I got some good advice and that's what I needed.
DancingArianFlame, awesome advice as well. TY.
Turning bad things into good things...maybe I could try to be happy for him. Maybe he'll get to know me better, by getting to know my sister better. And then we can all be friends. I fell hard, but if it were meant to be it wouldn't be this hard and complicated.
You know .. things happen in life for a reason, and it's possible that the only reason you and him even met and got together a year ago ... was so he could meet your sister.
It's possible that those two are life-partners, and you are their connection. You never know.
For now, they are just friends ... but, some of the greatest relationships start off as regular friends .. and wouldn't that be a beautiful thing if one of your life purposes was to bring life-partners together? 🙂
You never know why things happen the way they do .. but, if you pay attention, you will able see how your life plays parts in life for other people, for you to have quality in being an actual valid part of anothers life.
Did this help you understand your situation?
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Is anyone else like this? NO !
It will take Years for me to forget him. years ! hell no !