COMMUNICATION

aries men suck at it!!! who agrees??

b/c they think its ok to not communicate and then they act like nothing ever happened and everything is ok. or they will just throw it back in your face as if your the annoying one for seeing it as a problem. they are so manipulative!! sorry, had to get the frustration out🙂

my aries sucked at communicating in the beginning of our relationship. he used to hold things back because he was afraid of blowing up at me once the fuse was lit. he didn't want that to happen because he didn't want to lose me over his temper. so he would act like nothing was wrong until i basically forced him to admit that there was a problem or that he was in the wrong about something.

to his credit though, he has gotten a lot better about expressing himself. i feel like he was used to confrontation ending up in bitterness and hurt feelings. it doesn't have to be that way though. i see confrontation as a way to start working thru issues so they don't build up and fester to toxicity. sooner rather than later. he sees where i'm coming from with that, and it has been good for our communication.

we're on the same page the majority of the time these days.

oh and yes he can be incredibly manipulative, or at least he attempts it. i can see right through it though, and i can't STAND manipulation. i find that when i call him out and stand my ground, he'll acknowledge that he was being immature/indirect/manipulative. it has led to a few, shall we say, tiffs. but i think he likes being challenged and not always getting his way.

besides, he should realize the best way to get his way with me is to ask for it. i love to see him happy. but i respect honesty and don't stand for games, apart from the playful & harmless ones.

im a very poor communicator. it's without a doubt my worst quality

the acting like nothing happened thing is rather characteristic of an aries too. with me it has more to do with being annoyed with myself for getting my panties in a bunch over something that isn't such a big deal a day later so i feel foolish for pouting/getting huffy. if im over it and i didnt explode i dont see the reason to apologize every single time because im only annoyed with myself but people have feelings and shit so you have to acknowledge it. i guess it just depends on your partner too. a more sensitive water sign might have more trouble with this than say, an air sign. but people that want to talk every stinking thing out are a drag (not saying youre one of those. your venting is probably totally called for lol)

Posted by saggie1123
b/c they think its ok to not communicate and then they act like nothing ever happened and everything is ok. or they will just throw it back in your face as if your the annoying one for seeing it as a problem. they are so manipulative.

so true 😢

i'm trying to get over it but every time he cracks a joke it pisses me off.

i wish i could stop brooding but the way they approach conflict fuels it sometimes. it's like can we please just be mature for a whole day? just one whole day of maturity to hash this out would be stellar.

Posted by LovelyMissAries

You know who else sucks at communicating? Leo/Cancer combos.
Worst.

interesting. my leo ex and my mom were born the same day and on the "cusp."

oddly, his personality was what drew me in when in reality, it should've repelled me but his communication style reminded me so much of my mom and the only word that comes to mind is "withholding."


on a side note, this thread came right on time. my aries spazz asked me how long i was going to be mad at him and wtf! this jackass avoided talking to me for months because he's an emotard and i guess i'm supposed to be all rice and beans about it now that he's ready to move forward. i think not!

this thread really hit the spot.

you know, i've never compared their charts but it would be interesting to find out which planets my ex and my mom shared.

and yeah, i know i should leave the aries alone but he makes me feel bad for being so distant with him. i know he just wants to smooth things over and what doesn't help is that he's being more emotarded in the process.

HE WILL NOT CALL ME!!! he's afraid i might yell him or emote all over him i guess so he texts and now he's on messenger all the time. f'ing spazz.

I agree...but then when they are nice to you..they are SOOOO nice.. also i want to add that they misplace things A LOT..and my aries friend has learned to ask me first without looking very hard for his cell phone or whatever..and somehow I always know where it is.

We aren't crazy people with mixed up ways of acting, we want to be clear and understood, and the long winded back and forth can feel so untrue and full of b.s.

We love and care for our lovers passionately, we can wonder why someone wants for us to write essays along the way.

We can be very cautious about saying things around those we love, because we know we can say the wrong things and it come out wrong, so why fail.

Ask them simple questions that you can be satisfied with short answers.

Why can't the conversation be like: Do you like it when we kiss? Yes, I so do. (that doesn't help you understand we care for you?)

We admire your ability to communicate, but we are doers, let us do, let us be. We don't want you to be anything you are not, why should we stop doing and stop acting and talk everything out and think everything out like others do. If you are exactly what we don't want we learn to not be with you, simple as that.

My father was an aries and yes his communication skills where lacking seriously. He could never make a point with out also arguing about something as well. I also felt like sometimes he couldn't talk without yelling, I mean no matter the subject or the reason for the conversation. he was however very funny, kind, giving, and charming. It was just the yelling that I never liked and currently can not deal with at all

Lady's Lady's Lady's Aries airhead enough said.