have I lost my aries man?

Well, I was dating an aries man, and he broke up with me 3 weeks ago.
After reading some messages here, I think our relationship makes a little
more sense to me. I am a taurus, and we are both rather stubborn and
tend to hit heads from time to time. We would bicker about little things
but it always just turned into us making up. We had talked once and he said
that even though we fight, when its good, it's the best he has ever had, which
I completely agree. So, we fought, then made up, and for the next two weeks
our relationship was the best it had ever been. We talked, laughed, had a very
good intimate relationship, then out of nowhere he broke up with me.

Well truthfully, he showed up to work with a hickey on his neck. He told me
it was from an ex and he cared for both of us and needed time to think things
out. Well, being stubborn and pigheaded, I kinda said some not so nice things
because I was trying to prove I was ok. Well, after, I sent him a very heart
felt letter appologizing and basically pouring my heart out to him. We have
several mutual friends and they tell me he doesn't have any other girl, that
he just sits at home depressed all of the time. At work, he walks around sad,
yet, he won't return my calls. He has a very overbearing mother that always
tried to come between us, and I think she had a lot to do with whatever happend.
I am so confused I don't know what to do.

He tells our mutual friend he still loves me and cares about me, and can see
us getting back together some day. But, he won't talk to me. I know I betrayed
his trust, but, he had a hickey on his neck. So, did I ruin everything by
talking badly, or is there a way to salvage what we had? I write him these letters
since he won't talk to me, saying I miss him and I'm sorry for what I did wrong,
and that I am willing to work through everything, and try to remind him of all
of our good times, but, knowing him, he is sitting at home making himself think
of all the bad. Is there something I can do to gain his trust back, or make
him realize love is better than loneliness??

You say "Well truthfully, he showed up to work with a hickey on his neck. He told me
it was from an ex and he cared for both of us and needed time to think things
out. Well, being stubborn and pigheaded, I kinda said some not so nice things
because I was trying to prove I was ok. Well, after, I sent him a very heart
felt letter appologizing ..............."

RhiannonS........Flamin' Nora....I've read your post and I am saying to you - what are apologizing for lady—————?
He was the one that betrayed you big time by being with his ex....
You had every right to be mad, bad, mean and kick his shins when you discovered this.

You say "Is there something I can do to gain his trust back" - but I'm saying to you, this is all coo-coo, lu-la stuff the way you are thinking and behaving....and I don't mean to be harsh on you.........you're the one who's gotta hold your head high, remember your second to nobody and HE@S got to earn YOUR respect and trust again...not the other way round.

OK, so we all make mistakes - to make mistakes is our birthright!....and everyone deserves a second chance which you really want to give him and that's very loving and forgiving of you - but it's time-out time for you Missy.....stop writing the letters, stop being the "forever chaser" - go out and have a good time and make sure he knows this........men respond to lack of contact rather than words.......


You say "make him realize love is better than loneliness??" - make him REALIZE honey, that his behaviour was unacceptable - he deserves the loneliness for now anyway...and you deserve the best of the best.....

I wish you the best.

A x

I agree with Alana on this one. If he is the one showing up with hickies, then how are you the betrayer? Additionally, sounds like you're taking all the responsibility of making this relationship work, but where is his? Regardless of what he's telling your friends, what is he telling you? What are his actions towards you? Doesn't look like he's making enough of an effort, and you may have lost a connection with him. But unless he makes more of an effort to communicate with you, and work things out with you, I don't think you've lost much.

Just to add to what the ladies said...don't Aries men like to be the aggressors? Maybe if you leave him alone for a while to let him realize what he is missing he will either 😢 Leave you and you will be better off or 🙂 Stay and you will be stronger as a couple. Also, it has been my experience that Aries men like arguments in their relationship...that is exciting to them, which I'll never understand...

Cancerlady

Thanks for your help...I don't know I've been really confused. I've
never been broken up with before, I've always done the breaking up, and
my friend keeps telling me that is why I can't let him go. I know we
had a lot of problems, but, we did genuinely love each other. I talked
to a guy friend, and he told me that he is playing a game with me seeing
what I'll do to get him back. Regardless, I've decided to give up
my letters and just let whatever happens happen. But, just to make him
suffer a little, I've been making sure to dress really sexy at work,
just to rub it in his face a little about what he gave up.

I know he made out with this other girl, and that is an awful thing
to do to someone you supposedly love. He told a mutual friend that
it was kind of a test to see how I'd react...which is just absurd,
childish, and vindictive. I guess I didn't pass because I got upset,
but if that is how he proves my love for him, he'll realize down
the road how amazingly good he had it with me, and how stupid he was
to throw it away. But, on a plus note, some coworkers saw the other girl
and said she was disgustingly ugly, I know it's wrong, but, knowing that
puts a little grin on my face.