Emotional investment

What would it take for you to emotionally invest into a partner?
How would you difine "emotional investment"? no dictionary definition pls
What would a person have to have to trigger your want to invest into him/her?
What situation you're hoping it would lead into?

My own experience has shown that watching a persons actions and listening to their words to see if they match up is a starting point for me to consider an emotional investment with anyone. An emotional investment is a decision I make to allow myself to open my heart to someone. Trust someone with little things first and see if they open up to you at all. I have found that I have to watch very closely how fast I open myself up to a man. As an Aries I do have a tendency to jump in too soon (with disastrous result I might add)From past experience I would have to say...take it slow. Be reasonably sure that the other person is on the same page(do they want a r-ship or just something more casual) Hope that helps.

you're soooooo right!!!! that's a perfect explanation!!!! i used to be the same way in regards to relationships - jump in and disaster later. now i'm taking it easy as well.

damn!! 😢 i thought only libra uses the phrase "emotional investment" .. grrr... now i know one step more into an aries nature.

sorry thelibran. we're slow but we catch up eventually🙂

deivil- thanks for sharing your scorp story🙂
what sign are you?

your head—? oh never ending stories of aries and scorps😉

thanks for the points

It appears to me that all women put in emotional investment with relationships .. if this were not true, then there wouldn't be so much heartache we hear in here on a daily basis ... 99% of topics are about this very thing .. the woman LOVES so deeply, while the man remains distant or indifferent to her .. or, he even forsakes her emotional love she has given him and cheats on her.

So, it's my opinion that EVERY man a woman loves .. she invests.
If she didn't .. she wouldn't be in pain over him.

However, to point ..... I should think that the only time a woman SHOULD invest is when it's reciprocated. If a man is NOT providing adequate emotional support in the relationship .. then for a woman to find herself, identify her needs, give of herself, be honest, true, to care, to take care of .. is all in vain, and will only lead her to feel used and cheap.

To invest is elementary to a woman, it's second nature ... for it to be warranted, and deserved .. should only be when he puts forth the same amount of effort, and has a desire to do so.

We live in an era where women put forth everything on equal terms in a man's world .... he should put forth everything on equal terms in a woman's world, as well .... and a woman's world = feelings.

P-Angel....

HERE, HERE!!!

I agree with what you said.

Thing is, for a man to understand this about a woman, he has to be in touch with his feminine side as well, and understand that women are not just there for physical gratification....thus...we would be speaking of a more mature male.

I have "invested" in many relationships, both physical and friendships over time. I've been taught many lessons on what to look for as to whether the other person is deserving of what I have to offer. If they are not, it doesn't make me love them less (in an unconditional way) yet I realize that it is better to remain detached...not attached, as it is up to me what I will and won't allow.

Relationships will "hurt" because we allow personalities and ego's to "muck" it up.

you're all right. sometimes guys emotionally invest as well. that's what my boyfriend told me and i was trying to make a sense of it. you can invest as much as you can and willing and hope that your partner will respond the same way.