How would Aries break up with you?

I have been in a relationship with an Aries man for 7 months now, and for the past few weeks, I get the feeling that he wants to break up, but wants me to do it. In a nutshell, he's been working 6 out of 7 days, and I don't see him until his day off. We text once a day but that's it. He doesn't come over anymore after work, like he used to.

So how would an Aries man break up with you? Does his Mars and Mercury in Pisces cause him to be less forward? He hates to hurt anyone's feelings.

maybe he's just busy, or possibly annoyed with you? I don't think it's that extreme....and besides, if an aries wants to end things, despite any other placements, that sun is still a strong foundation of his personality. He would be straightforward with you.

Ummm yea, Aries would definitely let you know. Honestly this is just how they get. I’m positive he’s probably not only being distant with you, but close friends and family probably haven’t seen or heard from him in weeks.
This sign can be a loner at times, and they expect their partners to be independent enough to handle it.
He is the type of man that can be around you but does not always desire to be right up under you, it will literally get on his last nerve. If the two of you lived together, he would probably stay downstairs when he’s in this mode, and expect you to stay upstairs. He likes to know you’re around but not smothering him. They also require that spark, and slight chase to still be in there even once you’ve gotten him to commit you’ve got to give the fire sign that spark, or little challenge to keep their interest flowing. You cannot for any reason become stagnant or predictable to the point where he feels he does not have to do anything to continue to win you over.
You can ask him if everything with the two of you is okay? He will tell you the truth. You just make sure you can handle it. If he wanted to break up he’d do it, that’s why my guess is he just needs some space, and he needs you to understand that. However he’s a firm believer in the direct no sugar coating policy it’s the only way to know exactly where you stand with him. Go to him directly and let him know you feel some distance between you two and you just want to make sure everything is cool? Ask him if he even still desires to be in the relationship.

If he says something like he’s just busy or tired, then go off and do you. He’ll come back around once you’ve respected his space. Also, when you talk to him don’t plead, beg, or whine to him. Be firm, confident, and polite. No crying, cursing, or sad faces. He’ll likely think you’re over reacting and will only distance himself even more.

Posted by busyeyes88
I don't understand women who can share their bodies with a man yet not open their mouths to speak to them?!!! I am totally baffled!!!! 1) Ask him
2) if he does not respond or the answer is not to your liking then DO NOT wait on a person to decide YOUR FATE.
3 Dump HIM!!!!

Simples

I understand your direct black and white approach to relationships, but once you’ve put time and effort into a person you care about you first instinct is not going to be DUMP THEM! So, that’s probably more easier said than done. I know plenty of people that are always dumping their boyfriends when they mess up, but the fact is they start to think that dumping them is just another part of your little temper tantrum when upset, at some point they don’t even worry anymore, they’re like “She’ll be back in a few days, I just have to let her cool off” people that think before breaking up can break up with a clear conscience, I’m sure she cares for dude that’s why she’s coming for advice on to approach him. She might be wrong and he may not even wanna dump her. This sign is very blunt and I don’t see them holding their tongue especially if means their happiness.

Posted by SBart
I have been in a relationship with an Aries man for 7 months now, and for the past few weeks, I get the feeling that he wants to break up, but wants me to do it. In a nutshell, he's been working 6 out of 7 days, and I don't see him until his day off. We text once a day but that's it. He doesn't come over anymore after work, like he used to.

So how would an Aries man break up with you? Does his Mars and Mercury in Pisces cause him to be less forward? He hates to hurt anyone's feelings.

Alot of aries peeps are not as upfront and straightforward as google will say they are. Especially if they have water in their chart or if they are trying to hide something.

You will have to ask very specific direct questions or they will run circles around you.

If he still cant give you a straight answer, i would just excuse yourself.

on the flip side.

Some aries are very in their own lane when their trying to achieve something. they get ultra focused and damn the world.

So he could just be busy and ultra focused.

I will talk to him but the the next time he has free is Sunday. He is an honest man but also doesn't like to hurt people or confrontations. This is why I feel he may be trying to tell me I other ways he is not into this anymore.

I don't know, I guess I will ask him what is going on. A part of me is scared of the answer so I don't even want to ask.

what sign are you?

Virgo sun, Taurus moon

Posted by SBart
Virgo sun, Taurus moon

that explains the confusion. So aries are literally very straightforward. I know dmv said not all aries aren't, and that could be true depending on placements, but when it comes to relationships, we are. We can be myopic when it comes to achieving goals that are financial, pertaining to education or job related. Virgos are known to have "in their own world" moments. The thing that annoys me about mutable signs is that they are allowed to do the drift apart thing, but when others do it to them, something is wrong. Now in this case, I don't think this has anything to do with him not wanting to be with you. Maybe he is just simply busy. What confuses me is you making the assumption that he wants to break up with you. How does working, and not hanging out with you all the time automatically correlate to I want to break up with you. I don't get that logic. Aries is a masculine sign..I've said this before (many times), but I'll say it again, we do not play the passive aggressive game. It's a bunch of bullshit to us. It's not that extreme, he's busy, or maybe a tad bit irritated with you. If you ask him about this situation and over analyze things, THAT might drive him away. Even though we're a mental sign, we like to keep things simple in terms of intent. We do what we mean. If he is angry, he will act angry. If he is annoyed, he might act annoyed and perhaps a bit distant. I think you might be a little insecure about this relationship....was there anything else that made you think he might want to break up with you? I mean, how can one determine all of this based on the information you've given us....is there more to the story?

also we fall in your eighth house, so sometimes we can come across as intense to you, even though that might not actually be the case

Biosynthesis i said the same thing. That he's probably busy. My sister is an Aries, and a guy i used to date was an Aries, they both can throw themselves into work or are always on the go, their partners can either keep up or find something to do until they wind down when they get like that. But running up behind them whining or begging for attention or assuming they want out, might make them a bit irritated.

Thats my experiences with them. I've often notice one Aries i dated would go days without talking to family, so family or even his favorite cousin whom is also his bestfriend would say he hadn't seen or heard from him. But they reason they are so close is because when the Aries does resurface, the Libra is light and unharmed by his actions and they pick right up where they left off. He understands the Aries need for thinking space and solutude to map out his next move. His mind is always racing and i even often find the Libra (my cousin) is often trying to learn from the Aries, and the Aries wants to learn from Libra how to loosen up and have fun. These two learn from one another.
Gotta say, i've never heard of Virgo/Aries couple tho. This will be interesting.

lyse: actually Aries and Virgo couples are more common than you think. I prefer to interact with august Virgos who tend to have more fire in their charts. September Virgos are cool too, but they have a coldness about them that I kind of dislike, but I don't hold it against them, I guess that's just their nature and that's ok. Out of all the earth signs, I like Virgos the best. Caps are alright, i have a Capricorn stellium, but I don't find Capricorn men attractive-I always get the feeling that they need to be condescending towards you and create a mental hierarchy, but they are cool friends. I just don't like the talk tough attitude; I don't see a lot of cap men making moves in the corporate or medical world or really practicing what they preach. Its all talk. Taurus men-no, period lol. They turn me off. Aries falls in the 8th house for Virgos which rules money and sex...so we understand each other's need to work and also there is a physical attraction and connection. I think Virgo men have a very humble charm about them, and they also know how to be successful, which can turn an Aries on. I actually think this pairing can work, if both parties put in the effort.

regardless of sign however, people make time for whats important to them.

Thanks for all the advice!

There is more backstory, involving a female friend of his. He sees her at work 1-2 x per week, and he told me he was attracted to her and that he likes her a lot. But she is 10 years older than him (he is 25, she is 35) and he doesn't think that she thinks of him in a romantic way. This started back in March. So we went on with our relationship. But lately, like I said, I've noticed a change in him. So that's why I'm paranoid I guess.

Posted by SBart
Thanks for all the advice!

There is more backstory, involving a female friend of his. He sees her at work 1-2 x per week, and he told me he was attracted to her and that he likes her a lot. But she is 10 years older than him (he is 25, she is 35) and he doesn't think that she thinks of him in a romantic way. This started back in March. So we went on with our relationship. But lately, like I said, I've noticed a change in him. So that's why I'm paranoid I guess.

hmmm..that's a tough call, because aries are also known to be blunt, but there is no meaning behind it. For eg. if I compliment someone or happen to think they are attractive, I will just point it out because I saw it, not because I have feelings for the person or like him. Aries men are also visual creatures...visual in the sense, they tell you what they think of a visual that they have witnessed. Maybe by attracted he could have meant her overall energy, or just a crush. But even the word crush is a broad spectrum, because there are levels of crushes. Virgos can also be critical and maybe you accidentally hurt his feelings without even realizing, which I've seen happen all the time. Also maybe he needs acknowledgement of some sorts..aries men can often be like that. They also like to be admired by their mates, but if they dont feel that way they will keep themselves busy so they don't seem like a nuisance.

Hm my friend tells me its up to the woman. It's the woman's choice to break up. Please answer the questions about this topic. Because my Aquarius moon says and my Taurus placements say bullshit. It takes two to make a choice. I dk understand. I


He has said this to me before. This means he doesn't want the responsibility of being an adult.. because he probably always has someone on the sidelines. Lol haha this is bizarre reasoning. Not logical of course I am balanced enough to say. It must be communication if I get the slightest feeling. I have no problem speaking up. Of course I have never dealt with a guy who told me this is his logical. So idk either.

I don't think I said anything to hurt him...I hope not.

He works at Apple, and I am not really into tech stuff, so I ask how his day was, and listen but I can't give him feedback on the things he works on.

We have plans for Sunday, so I will talk to him then.

I would like advice on this. My head is a little cloudy right now, and I hope this is all in my head and I'm worrying for nothing. Every so often he will give this woman a ride home, and he helped her move some furniture around at her place. He said it was nothing, that he was just helping. But it made him late for a dinner that we had planned with friends. I just felt like he didn't care about us.

Do Aries just like to lend a helping hand? Couldn't he have told her that he would do it another time - when we didn't have plans?

Wait…He told you he likes an older woman at his job but the reason he hasn’t approached her is because she’s older and he doesn’t think she looks at him like that, so the two of you “went on” with your relationship?

Sorry but this sounds like since he couldn’t have her or didn’t think he had a chance with her, he just “went along” with you. I’m not saying you should be insecure about her, but I for sure wouldn’t let that go over my head. Now I understand why you’re concerned, as you should be. He sees her every single day, spends most of the hours out of his day around her, then all of a sudden he’s giving you the shorter end of the stick?? Hell no.

Yes ask him flat out what the deal is, and no matter his answer if I were you I’d start to pull my feelings back. People do that when dating and in relationships too.
Every Aries man I know likes older women. The Aries I had a crush on since my childhood is 3 years younger than me. For the longest he thought I was out of his league a bit, and I sort of intimidated him (very rare for a man like him that always has women laying at his feet) I was older and just…well…unbothered. I liked him back though, and as soon as he got the green light that I had interest in him too he came at me full speed. So as I said before, I wouldn’t let the remark about the co-worker go over my head. Honestly I can’t say I wouldn’t have cursed him out for thinking it’s okay to tell me he likes someone else sooo much to my damn face. If he likes her so much then that’s where he needs to be. You aint nobody’s second choice.

That's what I felt like, second fiddle. Like he would rather be with her than me. But he's still with me, so why is that, if he does have feelings for her? I will ask him on Sunday.

Posted by SBart
I have been in a relationship with an Aries man for 7 months now, and for the past few weeks, I get the feeling that he wants to break up, but wants me to do it. In a nutshell, he's been working 6 out of 7 days, and I don't see him until his day off. We text once a day but that's it. He doesn't come over anymore after work, like he used to.

So how would an Aries man break up with you? Does his Mars and Mercury in Pisces cause him to be less forward? He hates to hurt anyone's feelings.

My Aries ex has a Pisces mercury and he didn't hesitate to break up, yell, talk about what bothered him, etc. He was a little too forward with all of that, because he was also impulsive and not able to take a step back before his mouth got him into hot water. It made him look foolish a lot of times and not because I was trying to make him look foolish, but because he would act/speak without being fully informed and well...you know what happens after that. You just look...unwise.

So we talked, and I asked him if there was anything wrong and that I just felt lately that there was a change in the way he felt about me. I also asked about the woman from work. He said that his feelings for her have not gone away, but that he cares about me too and doesn't know what to do. I don't know. I didn't feel that I could be with him, knowing that he dreams of her. So I broke it off. Maybe that's probably what he wanted. That was a couple of weeks ago and since, he has texted me once asking how I'm doing. I just responded simply (good) and left it at that. Did I do the right thing? Regarding breaking up with him.

ive been wondering the same recently if the lack of communication on his end is a sign he wants out. he isnt as blunt or as straight forward as im told he would be being aries from past experience with him he just pushed me away until I LEAVE HIM he prefers me being the one who walked rather then him being the bad guy leaving. he will go weeks without talking to me, ignore me, go into a rage over day to day stuff, talk to me like crap until im in tears and im the one who says im done trying. he is tricky to deal with

Posted by gemwulf
ive been wondering the same recently if the lack of communication on his end is a sign he wants out. he isnt as blunt or as straight forward as im told he would be being aries from past experience with him he just pushed me away until I LEAVE HIM he prefers me being the one who walked rather then him being the bad guy leaving. he will go weeks without talking to me, ignore me, go into a rage over day to day stuff, talk to me like crap until im in tears and im the one who says im done trying. he is tricky to deal with

If he said it's better that you do the walking then u need to walk. He's only trying to spare your feelings so you can walk away with your head held high. Do it