@ariesheart
11 Years
I've been such a dick
How Your Zodiac Sign Can Help You Improve Your Temper
Understanding your zodiac sign can reveal insights into your anger triggers and suggest ways to manage them. Recognizing these patterns can help you develop healthier responses and foster personal growth. Astrology offers guidance for self-awareness and emotional regulation, supporting your journey to change and improve relationships.
Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Wow!!! 33 great number to turn things around. Let me be the first to say the rage of aries is what taught me what love is and the magnitude it could become undone. Aries love reminds me of the Big Bang!!! So freaking beautiful!! Anyway...start meditation it'll work wonders also look into your north node sign in your natal chart to find how to align that fiery passion to fuel purpose and life rather than destruction n learn to keep around those who understand you n know to forgive
Thank you. My north node is Aqua! Hoping that sign will give me the strength and wisdom I need
Posted by cosmicbutter
Yeah aries impulsiveness is just too much. Good u realized it. Its never too late.
Yeah, I've even scare myself
Posted by cosmicbutter
Yeah aries impulsiveness is just too much. Good u realized it. Its never too late.Lmao impulsivness? More like entitlement and immaturity
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You right, that's what makes me disappointed in myself.
Posted by LuckyLibra979
At 33 it's not being a dick, its being childish, inconsiderate and irresponsible. You won't change tik you are in your 40s
Same thing. But I'm not waiting til my 40s. I can do whatever I put my mind into. Time for a change
Posted by starlover
At least you are aware of yourself and honest OPI am doing a Personal Development Course and we are learning how to recognise the child v adult states we fall into. I feel totally different since starting it
Highly recommended
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Thank you. Recognizing it is where it begins. I may look into that since I'm going back to school
Posted by starlover
Where is your moon?
Cancer
Don't get me wrong, I have a big heart. It's when my temper come into play... My response is hateful. Destructive. I become so defensive, I could care less of hurting you...mentally, emotionally or physically. Very immature. At my age, I'm surprised I havent ended up dead or in prison. Time for a change. I want to love more and harder.
I think it is because I love so hard, that i become this egotistical cookiemonster when I feel someone is out to hurt me. But that's not always the case. Some people are actually out to do right by you and help you grow.
Posted by Flo
Thank goodness I'm not an Aries but I do have an Aries moon π
Lol. Do your moon ever outshine your sun?
Posted by Flo
Thank goodness I'm not an Aries but I do have an Aries moon πLol. Do your moon ever outshine your sun?
Yes,
Sun (air) + moon (fire) = uncontrollable treacherous flames
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Woe is us, lol!
Posted by jukey
I say you accomplished the hardest step of acknowledging it. The essence of Aqua is to be emotionally detached (i. e. staying objective when things fall apart), friendly, independent and witty. Hope you get to where you want to be. Best wishes
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I have Aries moon so I could sort of relate. Doing sports or something active can burn some of your energy so that when you're in your everyday life, you won't burn as much. Just CONTROL yourself. You are the one who starts things and who can also manage things.
At 33? really? What the hell is it that you're just now realizing this? Seems rather late in life to realize you're immature and impulsive.
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
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Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
Posted by starwars
I don't think its your sun, I think its your moon. Cancer moons are really sensitive and defensive take everything personally.I don't believe that anyone can change the way they feel at certian moments nor is it right to hate on yourself and bring yourself down because of the way you feel, but you can always change the way you react. just don't suppress them, try to get them out in more profitable-positive way other than being snappy. like go for a run, draw....etc!
I'm a Cancer moon, 32, and it takes a LOT to offend me. Sensitive sometimes, sure. but I got that shit under control ages ago.
The OP sounds like they're a little late to the "time to evolve" party.
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
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I'm a female! And I was raised by men. My mother was in prison most of my life. My father raised me and I have 6 brothers. Yep, the only girl!
Posted by rockyroadicecream
At 33? really? What the hell is it that you're just now realizing this? Seems rather late in life to realize you're immature and impulsive.
How is 33 too late when most people don't know or find themselves til their 30s. 20s is the times of growth and having fun. 30s is when most settle down and build families. Better late than never.
Posted by ShadowAbsorber
yeah it's good that u're honest with iti'm kind of on the opposite end of the stick - i'm learning to be more mean because ppl have treated me like butter when i didn't deserve it.
i generally think people will revert to their ways and can't change, but i wish you the best of luck.
I get my anger from feeling neglected and used. However, I'm learning to forgive. I believe people can change. My ma was also a jerk when I was younger. Bad temper, alcoholism. Today.... She's the sweetest person in the world. It shocks me everyday to see how big her heart and spirit has gotten.
Posted by starlover
Where is your moon?Cancer
Bahaaaa..π
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Lol, the horror!
I like your self-awareness.
Posted by ariesheart
Don't get me wrong, I have a big heart. It's when my temper come into play... My response is hateful. Destructive. I become so defensive, I could care less of hurting you...mentally, emotionally or physically. Very immature. At my age, I'm surprised I havent ended up dead or in prison. Time for a change. I want to love more and harder.
I've recently decided to let someone with a cancer moon go... It's kinda like you guys are cancerous at times... Learn to express your emotions... It's like you guys have so much hidden... Geesh.. I feel like to this day I still never knew .. It's like she'll go into these moods and I wouldn't know what to do... All I asked for was her to open up.. It was almost three years.. Lol. Must be hard for you guys..
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
I'm a female! And I was raised by men. My mother was in prison most of my life. My father raised me and I have 6 brothers. Yep, the only girl!
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I thought so. Someone's all calling you a guy in this thread. Fucking a, people.
...nope, still don't get it. Behaving like a 20 year old when you're in your 30s is really strange, sorry. It's good you want to do something about it, I'm just surprised it's so delayed. Women especially start maturing out quite a bit by their 30s.
What are your other placements?
Posted by starwars
I don't think its your sun, I think its your moon. Cancer moons are really sensitive and defensive take everything personally.I don't believe that anyone can change the way they feel at certian moments nor is it right to hate on yourself and bring yourself down because of the way you feel, but you can always change the way you react. just don't suppress them, try to get them out in more profitable-positive way other than being snappy. like go for a run, draw....etc!
I'm a Cancer moon, 32, and it takes a LOT to offend me. Sensitive sometimes, sure. but I got that butter under control ages ago.
Lol, sometimes? You're so neurotic on these boards you remind me of Eric Harris (also an Aries/Cancer) before he shot up Columbine with that other kid. Sun square moon is a real cookiemonster, eh? No wonder I get P-angel vibes from you. Unlike P though, you actually fight back when called out, even if you know you're wrong. Funny butter.
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I'm sorry, but WHO are you and why should I care what you have to say?
Yeah, bye Felicia.
Posted by ShadowAbsorber
yeah it's good that u're honest with iti'm kind of on the opposite end of the stick - i'm learning to be more mean because ppl have treated me like butter when i didn't deserve it.
i generally think people will revert to their ways and can't change, but i wish you the best of luck.
I get my anger from feeling neglected and used. However, I'm learning to forgive. I believe people can change. My ma was also a jerk when I was younger. Bad temper, alcoholism. Today.... She's the sweetest person in the world. It shocks me everyday to see how big her heart and spirit has gotten.
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This is beyond astrology, dear. Knowing you grew up with those surroundings and have those issues, you should probably seek counseling. All your reactions and temper are likely rooted in all those issues you grew up with and have yet to resolve. Work through those and you'll see the rest start to diminish.
From an astrological standpoint, I've noticed that shitty situations bring out the worst traits with Aries (but would with anyone, tbh). Remove them from those shitty situations and those bad traits stop being a problem.
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
I'm a female! And I was raised by men. My mother was in prison most of my life. My father raised me and I have 6 brothers. Yep, the only girl!
I thought so. Someone's all calling you a guy in this thread. Fucking a, people.
...nope, still don't get it. Behaving like a 20 year old when you're in your 30s is really strange, sorry. It's good you want to do something about it, I'm just surprised it's so delayed. Women especially start maturing out quite a bit by their 30s.
What are your other placements?
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I didn't say I walk around throwing tantrums. I'm a introvert so I dont involve myself with a lot of people anyways. I was pointing out that when people upset me, I do react harshly and I can be selfish when it comes to opening up to people or forgiving. People love me. If you met me, I come off goofy, educated, spontaneous, loving...i help anyone who's in need. Im well loved at work (and Im the boss), neighbors cooks and buy me gifts every holiday.... Just don't get on my bad side. That's the part that scares me and need fixing. I can become overly emotional and exaggerated in my reaction. I hurt people more than they may have deserved.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
I like your self-awareness.I do too....i admire it
So many people quick to judge others
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Awe, thank you both.
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
I'm a female! And I was raised by men. My mother was in prison most of my life. My father raised me and I have 6 brothers. Yep, the only girl!
I thought so. Someone's all calling you a guy in this thread. Fucking a, people.
...nope, still don't get it. Behaving like a 20 year old when you're in your 30s is really strange, sorry. It's good you want to do something about it, I'm just surprised it's so delayed. Women especially start maturing out quite a bit by their 30s.
What are your other placements?
I didn't say I walk around throwing tantrums. I'm a introvert so I dont involve myself with a lot of people anyways. I was pointing out that when people upset me, I do react harshly and I can be selfish when it comes to opening up to people or forgiving. People love me. If you met me, I come off goofy, educated, spontaneous, loving...i help anyone who's in need. Im well loved at work (and Im the boss), neighbors cooks and buy me gifts every holiday.... Just don't get on my bad side. That's the part that scares me and need fixing. I can become overly emotional and exaggerated in my reaction. I hurt people more than they may have deserved.
What makes it hard for you to forgive?
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I think its behind being disappointed so many times that I built up a wall. It's almost like ill hurt you before you can hurt me. Or also, you wanna disrespect me, let me show you what I'm cap able of. Those type of wrong thinking. I haven't always been this way. My heart has broken so many times by family, friends lovers. And now I've hardened. But it became extreme to where ill hu
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reaction
Posted by ariesheart
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reactionThat is hard work aries and takes a lot of negative energy
Try and be more gentle, first with you and then it will happen with others
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"negative energy"!!! Bam, you hit it on the nail! I can't live like that. Not only am I hurting others, but such negativity has caused my health to decline. It's not worth it.
Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.Yeah you're prolly not going to do that . Exhibit a ...you are a man. Exhibit B ...you are 33 Exhibit c ..you are a dick...
But good luck! :-)
Wait, wait. The OP is a dude?
Well that'd explain a lot...
I'm a female! And I was raised by men. My mother was in prison most of my life. My father raised me and I have 6 brothers. Yep, the only girl!
I thought so. Someone's all calling you a guy in this thread. Fucking a, people.
...nope, still don't get it. Behaving like a 20 year old when you're in your 30s is really strange, sorry. It's good you want to do something about it, I'm just surprised it's so delayed. Women especially start maturing out quite a bit by their 30s.
What are your other placements?
I didn't say I walk around throwing tantrums.
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Neither did I.
You also fail at answering questions.... :/
Posted by ariesheart
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reaction
...again, seek counseling. This isn't an astrological thing.
Posted by ariesheart
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reaction...again, seek counseling. This isn't an astrological thing.
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I am
Posted by ariesheart
I think its behind being disappointed so many times that I built up a wall. It's almost like ill hurt you before you can hurt me. Or also, you wanna disrespect me, let me show you what I'm cap able of. Those type of wrong thinking. I haven't always been this way. My heart has broken so many times by family, friends lovers. And now I've hardened. But it became extreme to where ill huCould it be that your thoughts of them were higher than they had deserved? Would less expectations help?
Also, do you find your strong temper/reaction to be draining of your own energy? Do you think you would be happier in some cases if you had let go?
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Wisdom
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It is draining my energy. But here's an example... I trusted my ex-husband to keep our don for a summer. We had been doing that for the first 3yrs of our son's life. The summer he decided he didn't want a divorce, he kidnapped my son for 2yrs. That was his way of saying I want my family back. Here's another.... My cousin got evicted from her home and I told her to come stay with me. During that time I was looking for a part time job, so I decided to get a job with her because she didn't have a car. Her boyfriend broke up with her one day, so on the ride to work, she decides she didn't want to go in. I said ok, ill take you back home, let me drop off something that our supervisor needed and ill take u home. She goes off on me because I wouldn't take her home first. First, our job is an hour away, and we were 10min away, second, I didn't have to take her all the way home, could have let someone from work or another family member pick her up.
These are stuff that drives me to the way I am
Posted by ariesheart
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reaction...again, seek counseling. This isn't an astrological thing.
I am
Aries, if you can go to a psychotherapist it may help...they go deeper into why we behave the way we do. Counselling is good but not as deep
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I am. This is the beginning stage of me wanting to change.
Posted by starwars
I don't think its your sun, I think its your moon. Cancer moons are really sensitive and defensive take everything personally.I don't believe that anyone can change the way they feel at certian moments nor is it right to hate on yourself and bring yourself down because of the way you feel, but you can always change the way you react. just don't suppress them, try to get them out in more profitable-positive way other than being snappy. like go for a run, draw....etc!
I'm a Cancer moon, 32, and it takes a LOT to offend me. Sensitive sometimes, sure. but I got that butter under control ages ago.
Lol, sometimes? You're so neurotic on these boards you remind me of Eric Harris (also an Aries/Cancer) before he shot up Columbine with that other kid. Sun square moon is a real cookiemonster, eh? No wonder I get P-angel vibes from you. Unlike P though, you actually fight back when called out, even if you know you're wrong. Funny butter.
I'm sorry, but WHO are you and why should I care what you have to say?
Yeah, bye Felicia.
Because you've got your own growing up to do and have no place to be spewing the "hur dur you're too old for this shit" line at the OP.
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Posted by ariesheart
My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.
Way to go you. You have made the 1st step.
Posted by ariesheart
...to where ill hurt you to the extreme. Even if you do deserve it, I'll over exaggerate my reaction...again, seek counseling. This isn't an astrological thing.
I am
Aries, if you can go to a psychotherapist it may help...they go deeper into why we behave the way we do. Counselling is good but not as deep
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Are you REALLY going to nitpick this too?
Here in the US, it's called counselling, regardless of who you're getting it from. We also refer to them as psychologists, not psychotherapists.
Either way, when it comes to counselling/seeing a therapist/whatever, people either have at least a masters in psych and have to have a PhD to be a psychologist. Both are adequate in seeking any sort of help with these types of issues.
You really do seem to forget you live in a country where things are a tad different.
People rarely change who they are . They may change the scenery..but they stay the same.
Posted by ariesheart
I think its behind being disappointed so many times that I built up a wall. It's almost like ill hurt you before you can hurt me. Or also, you wanna disrespect me, let me show you what I'm cap able of. Those type of wrong thinking. I haven't always been this way. My heart has broken so many times by family, friends lovers. And now I've hardened. But it became extreme to where ill huCould it be that your thoughts of them were higher than they had deserved? Would less expectations help?
Also, do you find your strong temper/reaction to be draining of your own energy? Do you think you would be happier in some cases if you had let go?
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Wisdom
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It is draining my energy. But here's an example... I trusted my ex-husband to keep our don for a summer. We had been doing that for the first 3yrs of our son's life. The summer he decided he didn't want a divorce, he kidnapped my son for 2yrs. That was his way of saying I want my family back. Here's another.... My cousin got evicted from her home and I told her to come stay with me. During that time I was looking for a part time job, so I decided to get a job with her because she didn't have a car. Her boyfriend broke up with her one day, so on the ride to work, she decides she didn't want to go in. I said ok, ill take you back home, let me drop off something that our supervisor needed and ill take u home. She goes off on me because I wouldn't take her home first. First, our job is an hour away, and we were 10min away, second, I didn't have to take her all the way home, could have let someone from work or another family member pick her up.
These are stuff that drives me to the way I am
I'm sorry you had to go through these kind of things. π’
Me too. I cannot think of anything worse than having your child taken away. How old is your child now Aries....is he with you, hope things have sorted themselves out
No need to blush Champ....π
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He's been back with me since they found him. He's about to be 10 and doing well. Straight A student, plays basketball and soccer.
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My temper and selfish ways gets the best of me. I'm 33yrs old and it only seems to get worst. I get more annoyed by people and I'll admit, treated those who didn't deserve it like shit. I'm ready to grow up and change my way of thinking. Before I destroy my own life in the process.