PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS ARIES MAN

Since I know aries are impatient, I'll keep this short and simple. We met years ago, fell off, got back into contact last year. Dated solid for roughly 2 months (about 3-4 times a week seeing each other), then it wasn't going anywhere so I started to distance myself. At the same time, he was kind of distancing himself too (or so it seemed, purely assumption) because he wasn't calling or texting as much. I kept in contact for thanksgiving and christmas (3 month period of rare contact) and we just seen eachother. He was a COMPLETE gentleman, won't go into details, pretty much dinner, movie, and sex. During the night, he was saying how he's done meeting new people and done dating; how everyone has kids now a days and he wants to settle down soon etc. After that night, barely no contact, but no red flags. He told me last year about how he doesn't text, which is what I prefer, he rather call, which is what he prefers, but he rarely calls or text. I don't know what to think or do, I just want a straight answer. I want to ask him but I don't want to sound clingy or needy, if it's time he needs, i'm willing to wait. I just want to know. Please help me!
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we always text good morning and today he said whats up...i asked him if wanted to do dinner tonight, he said he couldn't (understandable), if we could do tomorrow or wed, I can't because i close at work and he'll be in bed already, pretty much I can't see him until the weekend which he rarely makes time for me on the weekends, i asked fri or sat and he just said ok

Posted by mack253
Since I know aries are impatient, I'll keep this short and simple. We met years ago, fell off, got back into contact last year. Dated solid for roughly 2 months (about 3-4 times a week seeing each other), then it wasn't going anywhere so I started to distance myself. At the same time, he was kind of distancing himself too (or so it seemed, purely assumption) because he wasn't calling or texting as much. I kept in contact for thanksgiving and christmas (3 month period of rare contact) and we just seen eachother. He was a COMPLETE gentleman, won't go into details, pretty much dinner, movie, and sex. During the night, he was saying how he's done meeting new people and done dating; how everyone has kids now a days and he wants to settle down soon etc. After that night, barely no contact, but no red flags. He told me last year about how he doesn't text, which is what I prefer, he rather call, which is what he prefers, but he rarely calls or text. I don't know what to think or do, I just want a straight answer. I want to ask him but I don't want to sound clingy or needy, if it's time he needs, i'm willing to wait. I just want to know. Please help me!
Additional Details
we always text good morning and today he said whats up...i asked him if wanted to do dinner tonight, he said he couldn't (understandable), if we could do tomorrow or wed, I can't because i close at work and he'll be in bed already, pretty much I can't see him until the weekend which he rarely makes time for me on the weekends, i asked fri or sat and he just said ok

Okay i think i missed your question

Methinks you fell into the fwb/booty call category.

Ask him what he sees this as between you two. If he gives you a "friends" spiel, be gone from this scenario (unless you're okay with being a fwb for the time being).

Knowing you two finally had a night out, hooked up, and then he's suddenly unavailable speaks booty call. I'm not sure why you haven't connected the dots here. I'm also not sure why you wonder or why you're waiting around on this guy when you admitted you felt it wasn't going anywhere.

You already have the answers to your situation, you just aren't seeing them.

if you want him to increase his interest in you, decrease yours.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket. And that's not just with Aries, that's any man. This way your expectations and feelings won't get ahead of themselves before you get a chance to see where this is going and you wont get disappointed.
In my experiences with fire signs like Aries and Sagg, they either like you or they don't. There's no in between with them. Why beat around the bush. So if he didn't like you, you wouldn't hear from him at all. However, you need to determine what you want from him. If it's a relationship definitely communicate that to him and let him tell you what he's looking for as far as YOU AND HIM are concerned, NOT in general. Also I saw that someone told you to lower your interest, I wouldn't exactly say do that because an Aries will chase but you have to give them some reassurance that's it not for nothing and they aren't going to do it forever, nor are they going to do it 24/7. I would say just back up a little. Let him be the man. Aries men are all MAN. And they like to take charge and they like a girly girl that can stand her ground but appreciate his masculinity and not challenge it. So just be soft, and danty if you will. Let him know you like him, STAY CONSISTANT whatever you do, NO FLIGHTY or fake behavior, then just chill watch him work.

I must tell you, be careful on handing over the goodies with him. I must suggest you keep the cookies on lock until you know what he wants from this long term. Aries are beast in the bedroom and can easily make you feel loved when they are sexing you crazy all the time, but in reality, they just like the sex.lol. So beware on that tip.

Lol. @starlover

We Aries make it pretty obvious when we are into you. And I agree with starlover...just because we woo you into having sex with us does NOT mean we're into you. Action speaks louder than words and it's obvious this Aries is not that into you. Move on. For your own good 🙂.

Posted by feby16aqua


You both distanced from each other. My feeling from reading this and just based on my personal experience as well as limited perspective, he likes you.

This logic doesn't even make any sense. :/

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by feby16aqua


You both distanced from each other. My feeling from reading this and just based on my personal experience as well as limited perspective, he likes you.

This logic doesn't even make any sense. :/

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Damn aquas always got to be the rebels 😛

He likes her vag.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He likes her vag.

+100
LOL

A man should know to call you SOON after you've been intimate for the first time. That he hasn't called you is not a good sign. Still, it might be simply a case of nerves on his part. Things got hot & heavy fast and he might need time to process it all. Therefore, don't jump to any conclusions but observe his behavior. I think it's going to take more time to suss out whether you're really moving forward together or not. Good luck & try to stay busy.

Posted by xtina

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He likes her vag.

+100
LOL

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Right?

Overall, I've been in a very similar situation to hers. Know who it was with?

A freaking fwb.

Kept a basic level of communication but it had a lot of spotty periods, and it always increased right when he wanted to get some nookie. Then he'd go MIA for awhile and then contact would be random up until he wanted to hook up again.


OMGZ THAT'S WHAT'S HAPPENING TO THE OP. *gasp*

If she wants more romance, she needs to talk to him about where she stands. There's really no secret to what's going on here.

Posted by Este8
A man should know to call you SOON after you've been intimate for the first time. That he hasn't called you is not a good sign. Still, it might be simply a case of nerves on his part. Things got hot & heavy fast and he might need time to process it all. Therefore, don't jump to any conclusions but observe his behavior. I think it's going to take more time to suss out whether you're really moving forward together or not. Good luck & try to stay busy.

I thought Aries liked things at a fast pace, especially where sex is concerned. Seems to me the only time they close up and want to slow things down is when you start using words like —relationship??, —commitment??, or —love??, all these words mean you want to get into other parts of their world, the parts they only allow certain people into. So if she hasn't mentioned a relationship or where she stands or anything like that I cant see why he would cool off unless he got what he wanted and now he's gone. Shoot, or maybe she didn't put it down. I had a Aries tell me bad sex is a straight up deal breaker, but he??ll be friends with someone all day.lol.

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Posted by xtina

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He likes her vag.

+100
LOL

Right?

Overall, I've been in a very similar situation to hers. Know who it was with?

A freaking fwb.

Kept a basic level of communication but it had a lot of spotty periods, and it always increased right when he wanted to get some nookie. Then he'd go MIA for awhile and then contact would be random up until he wanted to hook up again.


OMGZ THAT'S WHAT'S HAPPENING TO THE OP. *gasp*

If she wants more romance, she needs to talk to him about where she stands. There's really no secret to what's going on here.

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Agreed! For some reason a lot of women can't through their heads that men can really just be in it for the putang and nothing more.

Posted by starlover
xtina 🙂 ... a lot of women are deluded where men are concerned

So true.

I think it's true of a lot of men, not just sign specific. It boosts that ego to be lil playa playa and have a harem. Makes them think their dick is bigger than it is.


On another note-
http://www.cracked.com/article_20999_5-terrifying-ways-being-in-love-chemically-impairs-you.html/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage

Agreed! For some reason a lot of women can't through their heads that men can really just be in it for the putang and nothing more.



It is exactly these kind of comments on here that has made me lose my trust in men completely.
I wish the negativity would stop. NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS.

Before I started to read all of this I never had trouble finding dates and having good relationships, now every time a man looks at me I think...he has no real interest in me, he just wants in my pants!
No one ever makes it sound like there could be another reason a guy fades..

To compare its like saying a woman fades on a guy because he spent money on her and thats all she wanted. He spent, she got spoiled and left. She never answered his calls. Some women do this..most don't.

I take the advice I read on here seriously cause feedback is always good, but no lie, it has made me lose my faith in men completely and two promising relationships wilted because all I could think of was he doesn't care about me, he just wants it, because of what I read on here!!!!!
Knock it off please...
There a a million dif scenario's out there...don't generalize.

And another thing p*sses me off...a woman can't sleep with a guy right off the bat..she has to wait until he is invested in her. BS..we are physical and passionate too. We want it when we first meet him..its chemistry. I get that it has to wait etc., but 2nd or 3rd date it is hard to suppress it.


You could wait 6 months, do it and then never hear from him again as well!!

Posted by sunshine222

Agreed! For some reason a lot of women can't through their heads that men can really just be in it for the putang and nothing more.



It is exactly these kind of comments on here that has made me lose my trust in men completely.
I wish the negativity would stop. NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS.

Before I started to read all of this I never had trouble finding dates and having good relationships, now every time a man looks at me I think...he has no real interest in me, he just wants in my pants!
No one ever makes it sound like there could be another reason a guy fades..

To compare its like saying a woman fades on a guy because he spent money on her and thats all she wanted. He spent, she got spoiled and left. She never answered his calls. Some women do this..most don't.

I take the advice I read on here seriously cause feedback is always good, but no lie, it has made me lose my faith in men completely and two promising relationships wilted because all I could think of was he doesn't care about me, he just wants it, because of what I read on here!!!!!
Knock it off please...
There a a million dif scenario's out there...don't generalize.

Your reading comprehension is fail, and you assume that all this applies to ALL men and not the SOME that fall into this category.

It sounds to me you have your own internal issues, poor judgment, and lack of following instinct to blame- not the advice given here.

You also fail to realize that the real issue here is that MANY women are not aware that guys can and WILL be like this. They go in, uber naive, fall for all the fairy tale misleadings that will get them the guy, and end up being burned. The OP is a good example- utterly clueless that she's been fuck buddied zoned.

It's nobody's fault but your own that you sabotaged two potential relationships because you took situational advice and applied it generally to two situations that probably didn't warrant that advice to begin with.

Do you sue over burning yourself on hot drinks, too?

Posted by sunshine222
And another thing p*sses me off...a woman can't sleep with a guy right off the bat..she has to wait until he is invested in her. BS..we are physical and passionate too. We want it when we first meet him..its chemistry. I get that it has to wait etc., but 2nd or 3rd date it is hard to suppress it.


You could wait 6 months, do it and then never hear from him again as well!!

You can blame on society and the dipshits who keep that belief alive by living it.

It's a bs double standard for sure.