Surrendering to Love

So...here's my prob. My partner decided over the summer that he wanted us to move back to his home country after i finished my Master's in May 07, so he could attend Poland's film school. I was allllll for it because I desperately wanted to move abroad after school, and get some field experience teaching english. Well...the plans have changed (which is TOTALLY an Aries trait...you know, indecision, hahaha!). Now, everything has been put on hold because he doesn't have enough $ saved, nor the common sense to just get a second job so he COULD save $ (you guys always have to take the hard route, dont cha) BTW, school is only $ 3000 a year...that could easily be saved!

Now, I know that I have another semester of school, and I know that a lot can happen between now and when I graduate, but say that then IS now...what would you do? I have ABSOLUTELY no desire to stay where I am after school. I really, truly want to live and work abroad for a couple of years. But I don't want to do a long-distance thing (I'm completely against it...been there, done that, hated it). I don't want this relationship to go bye bye, either. I obviously haven't made up my mind on anything because i can't just yet (thank god!)

Would you surrender your plans to love, or do your thing (BTW, I've been doing my thing for the past 25 years)?

" (you guys always have to take the hard route, dont cha "

Perhaps. Itz difficult for us to take short-cuts OR to keep the bylanes ready. And we arent master strategists like leos. ( barring a few exceptions)

"Would you surrender your plans to love, or do your thing (BTW, I've been doing my thing for the past 25 years)? "

Ideally U shudnt. Make sure that U r happy/comfy with the all the inportant arrangements in life and never ever go for a sacrifice if U arent a natural "giver" or if itz just not a part of Ur instinct.

Never ever give up anything just for love.

Thanks GA. I guess I'm a bit of a romantic. The truth is, I would not be happy sticking around where I am...I'm not happy now, but I deal with it because of school. We've been temporarily seperated a couple of times before, and it was unbearable. I dunno...like I said, I have some time to figure things out for myself so I'm not gonna stress over it now. I know things could change, but it's still sad to think what if they dont 😢

I don't agree GA. Sometimes it is better to make the sacrifice for love

"I don't agree GA. Sometimes it is better to make the sacrifice for love"

Indeed. But U wont regret it later only if U have the right temperament. U make a sacrifice based on some judgement which later may fail U.

Another thing...my partner doesn't have the most faith in himself. I know that he really wants to specialize in his passion (film making) and I think he's just afraid of failing...you know. What he's been doing so far has earned him very little...he knows that if he goes to school, he'll have more luck. Someone please explain this to me. He's EXTREMELY talented, creative and just amazes me w/ what he knows w/out any kind of trainig (regarding editing, directing films, graphis, etc.). He said "I'm just gonna do it the hard way." But, normally the hard way is the route we don't want to take, which would be him saving the money to go to school...i'm so confused. It's really frustrating because i would hate to see his dream and talent go to waste...but there's nothing I can do, he needs to do this for himself...urrrggghhh!

GA,

It's true if giving isn't part of your personality you may regret it later if it isn't

Good point!

Well, giving is a part of my personality. Although I want to live and work abroad, if I knew that I was altering my dream because my partner was ACTIVELY pursuing his, that would be a different story. That's what worries me the most...basically, am I surrendering for a good cause or a lost one?

This is soooo cool! I just finished reading a quote on surrender and thought it was really awesome.

"Surrender. Whatever happens will happen because it must. Our task is to enjoy our life more and to express what is inside of us. If we have hate inside us, we share hate. If we have saddness, we share saddness. We can only share happiness when we are happy. We cannot share love unless we love ourselves first." Mary Carroll Nelson

Truthseeker ..

What's the problem?
You: want to live abroad and teach English
He : wants to go to Poland to go to a Film School

Sollution: Go to Poland and teach English there !

Or am i seeing something wrong?

Geeeez, you need a hard head-pounding . . lol

There's nothing wrong with this picture, boy . . just truthie being paranoid . . .

" was altering my dream because my partner was ACTIVELY pursuing his, "

Yeah I agree. Guess U shud take the lead and do something worth emulating. Or U can puch him over the cliff so that he learns to fly. I have seen many Aries just not ready to take the plunge for they fear that they wud fail. In fact I may be a victim of that as well at times.

But U shud definitely not put Ur plans on a back-burner for anybody. Not for long.

Thanks GA!

Just to clear things up, I WANT to move to Poland w/ him while he goes to school, and teach english there...that was the plan. However, he's not sure, now, if he's going to go back to Poland for school...that's the problem and why I'm annoyed.

Thanks for your advice, everyone. We did talk about it yesterday. I never know what my boundaries are w/ him...sometimes I feel like I should just sit back and support his wishes, and other times I feel like I need to push him more. I guess only time will tell what happens :-)

Truthseeker !

i'm Aries too.

I usually let things flow , and then regret it ! . indecisive that i am...
I'm sometimes also looking for a guide .. someone who can pull me thruw it .

Seems like your boyfriend has the same workway! I'd say: JUST DO IT !

You two won't regret it ! your BF just needs a push in the right way !
( so do i sometimes 😄😄😄 )

Good Luck !