Update Aries Man: True Colors and Partly My Fault

So I have an update for you all regarding the Aries I had an interest in. Long story short, I felt very unsure about him. I know how you Aries can be, you meet someone interesting and are on them like white on rice until they are no longer enteratining to you, especially for the men. So with that said, I did not get the vibe this guy was feeling me and I just wantes to know what was what, maybe that is the fault of my Aries moon but I xan be impatient and hate anything that is not clear. I try to be a straight shooter and avoid bullshit.

So I asked the Aries what his deal was. Long stoey short, he is now doing the slow fade, ghost. The complete opposite of what he said he would do. Fine. Now I see his true nature but if Aries are so direct and straight forward why lie?

I'm gonna add the conversation below...

Me: "So let's just rip the band-aid right off, do you ever want to see me again? Or do you want to stay texting buddies?"

Aries: What made you ask that?

Me: Because that is the impression you give.

Aries: You assume and jump to conclusions way too much (my name).

Me: I am very direct. And I think you are the type of guy that is direct and upfront too, but you don't seem to be with me.

Aries: I'm a very simple and direct guy. If I didn't want to talk to you I just would have said so and stopped.

Me: Well this is why I asked. Texting isn't a good source of gauging tonality.

Aries: Haha I feel like you had a hard time gauging my tonality in person

Me: Well I was coming off of 2 glasses of wine...I told you I'm a light weight. You also had your face planted in your phone a lot so what is a lady to think?

Aries: TWO GLASSES OF WINE!? LMAO!
Aries: Well maybe you should of been more intriguing (wink face emoji)

Me: I am as entertaining as my company (wink face)
Aries: And from what I recall I am the one who asked you to hang out tomorrow night

Me: Aye yi yi, no comment lmao
Aries: I rest my case.
Me: I am taking my Dad out for dinner for Father's day tomorrow and prior to that I do have plans to go out.

Aries: That's fine I am just curious as to why you asked if I wanted to see you again?
Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions (crucify me) but I am asking anyway so you just have to deal with my directness lol. The invite you gave me seemed more like a pity invite or a "let me see if I can hookup with her" invite. Had I not asked to hang out with you (I had asked him to go indoor rock climbing with me today since I am off, but he gets off work too late), I don't know if you would of ever initiated seeing me.

Me: I am use to being courted by men, I am use to them being dominant, telling me where they want to meet me, when, what time, etc. Everything is always clear and to the point. And I am the same way in return. I hate murkiness.

Aries: Of course I want to hook up with you. I am pretty sure I made that crystal clear but that is neither here or there. I did not know what you were/are used to, so if that's how you like to be addressed then thank you for making that clear. And like I said you are a planner.

Me: You did. I will not dispute it. I plead the fifth to being a planner.
Aries: Okay well I hope I was of some help of clarifying things, or do you have another questionnaire for me Miss lady?

Aries: Are you like turned off by the fact that I am attracted to you and wanna fuck your brains out? Does it give you the vibe that it's all I want?

Me: I'm turned on by how aggressive and domineering you seem to be with your sexuality. But I need to do this on my own terms. I would like to explore my sexuality with you but I need to feel more comfortable with you. And I can't feel comfortable in my body, if I don't know you. So I would like to get to know you.

Aries: Dear (my name),

This is a formal invitation to get to know each other. Please RSVP if you would like to take part in this invitation. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Best,

The guy who apparently just wants sex.

Thoughts? Opinions, criticisms?

LMAO! You two are doing the mating dance. This is far from a "slow fade." 😆

Enjoy the ride! 😉

Is that Zoe Kravitz in your Avi? Love her.

Actually, I'd say things are going fantastically. As an Aries, I see potential written all over this. As long as you are honest with yourself about what you really want, he sure seems to be.

Posted by LillyPetal
LMAO! You two are doing the mating dance. This is far from a "slow fade." 😆

Enjoy the ride! 😉

No, he stopped talking to me. It's been about 22 hours and we normally talk all day, every day. I just dont understand why lie and say "let's get to know each other?"

I just need to join a convent.

Posted by tiziani
We said you'd psyche em out. You have long speeches. It can get lucky or it can backfire. Luck of the draw really.

Well he asked me how I felt? So he no longer wants to talk to me because I sent him a long reply? It isnt like I was INITIATING texting with him, or being clingy. He asked me how I felt and I explained. Sigh I just fail at this love game. I told you my reading you did wasnt true because my love life is hopeless 😭

Okay aside from how hot that was on his side, what did I do wrong. I thought Aries liked directness. I dont think I was being clingy by asking what his interest was. I haveny trxted him, or reached out to him since he disappeared on me.

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Posted by LillyPetal
LMAO! You two are doing the mating dance. This is far from a "slow fade." 😆

Enjoy the ride! 😉

No, he stopped talking to me. It's been about 22 hours and we normally talk all day, every day. I just dont understand why lie and say "let's get to know each other?"

I just need to join a convent.

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I'm stepping back and inhaling - I just realized that 22hours isn't THAT long considering you two are doing a dance. The fact that he's humor in you means he's enjoying it. He invited you out, albeit sarcastically, no? Are you looking for a serious relationship? Because it seems to me that he's willing to at least have some fun with you. Women often
Want to know straightaway whether a guy plans to be serious (understandably), but rarely are guy ready to express commitment when the woman asks. A lot of factor come into play as to why or why not a guy may commit early on.

Posted by tiziani
I don't see how you did anything "wrong" or what makes you believe it's over, dead and buried (unless there's some buildup you didn't include here).

Anyway I'm not an Aries but I'd just say this part either didn't need to be said/should go without saying:

"Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions (crucify me) but I am asking anyway so you just have to deal with my directness lol. The invite you gave me seemed more like a pity invite or a "let me see if I can hookup with her" invite. Had I not asked to hang out with you (I had asked him to go indoor rock climbing with me today since I am off, but he gets off work too late), I don't know if you would of ever initiated seeing me.

Me: I am use to being courted by men, I am use to them being dominant, telling me where they want to meet me, when, what time, etc. Everything is always clear and to the point. And I am the same way in return. I hate murkiness. "

Yes, that was a little cringeworthy, but I'm sure all women can relate to a moment when a side of them shrieked "STAHP TALKING RIGHT NOW!" and yet the part that controls our mouths (or fingers) just kept on going. 🙈

It's not fair (or fun for the guy) to have to pay for the mistakes of male kind.

Yeah...Aries like fiery women but I think the guys like to be in control.

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Posted by malloryor
Okay aside from how hot that was on his side, what did I do wrong. I thought Aries liked directness. I dont think I was being clingy by asking what his interest was. I haveny trxted him, or reached out to him since he disappeared on me.

I think questioning his intentions might have turned him off. That's what comes to mind. You killed the fun for him chasing you.

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Yeah, I guess it would be like prey just standing in the middle of a field like " here I am, come and get me!" And not moving as he gets closer. No fun in that.

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Okay aside from how hot that was on his side, what did I do wrong. I thought Aries liked directness. I dont think I was being clingy by asking what his interest was. I haveny trxted him, or reached out to him since he disappeared on me.

I think questioning his intentions might have turned him off. That's what comes to mind. You killed the fun for him chasing you.

Yeah, I guess it would be like prey just standing in the middle of a field like " here I am, come and get me!" And not moving as he gets closer. No fun in that.

Yes Aries man Love the chase...it's insane how we love it...

But there is one thing that we Love the most.....and its above anything...it is...Sex.

Fck his brains and *he* will still be *yours*.

(sorry for the language) ^^

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I like to run in a zig zag pattern... 😄

Dear OP.

I am also an Aries. I also love to chase. But when i won the chase, i will not just dump you and move on to another girl.

When we win the chase, then starts the "real love". Then is the time we really want to know about you. that is the moment we started to trust you.

So, if today i won the chase, and tomorrow if you ask me "you just want to fuck me and dump me", then i will surely appreciate your straightforwardness. But, your question also say that, the chase was just for sex, not for you... it will make me laugh.. because finding sex does not need a long chase and it will look like you misunderstood me or never will understand me.

I think he mentioning you as a planner is just an indication that you are just opposite to him. I don't plan.. I personally think matured people do not plan.. we have the gut and wisdom to face anything. so why plan?

He was into you. He is still into you. else he couldn't have replied in that "sweet way".

Just remember when the chase begin, our others duties will start to pile up.. When we win the chase, we will go to complete those duties. We are not dumping you but started to trusting your words that you like us.

It is like a period after war, where the soldiers come back and clear their home.

Just my thought.

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Okay aside from how hot that was on his side, what did I do wrong. I thought Aries liked directness. I dont think I was being clingy by asking what his interest was. I haveny trxted him, or reached out to him since he disappeared on me.

I think questioning his intentions might have turned him off. That's what comes to mind. You killed the fun for him chasing you.

Yeah, I guess it would be like prey just standing in the middle of a field like " here I am, come and get me!" And not moving as he gets closer. No fun in that.

Yes Aries man Love the chase...it's insane how we love it...

But there is one thing that we Love the most.....and its above anything...it is...Sex.

Fck his brains and *he* will still be *yours*.

(sorry for the language) ^^

I like to run in a zig zag pattern... 😄

haha

Great...he will keep following !

Just don't forget to throw him some *sexy things* once in a while so he doesn't forget why he is still chasing you.

😆

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That's what started the chase 😉

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Okay aside from how hot that was on his side, what did I do wrong. I thought Aries liked directness. I dont think I was being clingy by asking what his interest was. I haveny trxted him, or reached out to him since he disappeared on me.

I think questioning his intentions might have turned him off. That's what comes to mind. You killed the fun for him chasing you.

Yeah, I guess it would be like prey just standing in the middle of a field like " here I am, come and get me!" And not moving as he gets closer. No fun in that.

Yes Aries man Love the chase...it's insane how we love it...

But there is one thing that we Love the most.....and its above anything...it is...Sex.

Fck his brains and *he* will still be *yours*.

(sorry for the language) ^^

I like to run in a zig zag pattern... 😄

haha

Great...he will keep following !

Just don't forget to throw him some *sexy things* once in a while so he doesn't forget why he is still chasing you.

😆

That's what started the chase 😉

haha

So you know what you are doing 😉

Wish you all the best moon ! ^^

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Thanks! My recent ltr were Gems and my bestie is Aries so I think all the fire in my chart likes it and maybe visa versa 🙂

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Posted by LillyPetal
LMAO! You two are doing the mating dance. This is far from a "slow fade." 😆

Enjoy the ride! 😉

No, he stopped talking to me. It's been about 22 hours and we normally talk all day, every day. I just dont understand why lie and say "let's get to know each other?"

I just need to join a convent.

I'm stepping back and inhaling - I just realized that 22hours isn't THAT long considering you two are doing a dance. The fact that he's humor in you means he's enjoying it. He invited you out, albeit sarcastically, no? Are you looking for a serious relationship? Because it seems to me that he's willing to at least have some fun with you. Women often
Want to know straightaway whether a guy plans to be serious (understandably), but rarely are guy ready to express commitment when the woman asks. A lot of factor come into play as to why or why not a guy may commit early on.

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Hey do you want something fun or serious then can make a decision. People may think they want to jump into everything but they don't they ask questions to make sure and most people like stable friends first then maybe more. 90 percent we don't want to be in a relationship right away no matter how good the connection, always do want you have to. You like him so you express it. But it wasn't really helping you and it's confusing.

Posted by tiziani
I don't see how you did anything "wrong" or what makes you believe it's over, dead and buried (unless there's some buildup you didn't include here).

Anyway I'm not an Aries but I'd just say this part either didn't need to be said/should go without saying:

"Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions...

I guess, but I dont feel embarrassed or like that is cringe worthy. I was just being honest. I usually go with the flow and get caught up in something I don't want or things move too slow to the point we are not moving at all, and the advice has always been that I should of spoken up for myself. So that is what I tried to do here.

In hindsight, I can see how he could interpret it to mean that I was looking for him to be committed to me. But I just wanted him to know i am use to straight forward behavior, and above all i just wanted to hang out and do cool shit.

Clearly I rushed it.

Posted by ariesdaredevil
Dear OP.

I am also an Aries. I also love to chase. But when i won the chase, i will not just dump you and move on to another girl.

When we win the chase, then starts the "real love". Then is the time we really want to know about you. that is the moment we started to trust you.

So, if today i won the chase, and tomorrow if you ask me "you just want to fuck me and dump me", then i will surely appreciate your straightforwardness. But, your question also say that, the chase was just for sex, not for you... it will make me laugh.. because finding sex does not need a long chase and it will look like you misunderstood me or never will understand me.

I think he mentioning you as a planner is just an indication that you are just opposite to him. I don't plan.. I personally think matured people do not plan.. we have the gut and wisdom to face anything. so why plan?

He was into you. He is still into you. else he couldn't have replied in that "sweet way".

Just remember when the chase begin, our others duties will start to pile up.. When we win the chase, we will go to complete those duties. We are not dumping you but started to trusting your words that you like us.

It is like a period after war, where the soldiers come back and clear their home.

Just my thought.

Thank you. Your words are super sweet and encouraging but I doubt the chase has "begun " I am pretty sure I killed it. I would of rather he not have answered sweetly and pretended he was interested in getting to know me by saying "Dear (my name) here is an invite to get to know each other." To me that was a lead on, which makes his ghosting on me so hard and upsetting because I thought we had reached some level of clarity.

Him mentioning I am a planner, I felt too was him saying covertly that we were not a match, however I am not a planner, I just dont trust guys. There's way too many games and uncertainty in the dating world now, so I want things to be crystal clear, no blindsides, so yeah, I do like to ask questions.

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LMAO! You two are doing the mating dance. This is far from a "slow fade." 😆

Enjoy the ride! 😉

No, he stopped talking to me. It's been about 22 hours and we normally talk all day, every day. I just dont understand why lie and say "let's get to know each other?"

I just need to join a convent.

I'm stepping back and inhaling - I just realized that 22hours isn't THAT long considering you two are doing a dance. The fact that he's humor in you means he's enjoying it. He invited you out, albeit sarcastically, no? Are you looking for a serious relationship? Because it seems to me that he's willing to at least have some fun with you. Women often
Want to know straightaway whether a guy plans to be serious (understandably), but rarely are guy ready to express commitment when the woman asks. A lot of factor come into play as to why or why not a guy may commit early on.

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Ahahha oh how I wish your reality were my reality but I don't know how you see this as a dance. He is not talking to me, he has officially given me the door.

22 hours of silence...more like 36 now, is definitely a marker of a lack of interest when one day you were talking everyday to then having a serious conversation of intention and desires to not talking the next.

He is done.

I was fine being a fwb with him, clearly because we did a little hooking up when we met (see first thread) but I just wanted to get to know him more. Hang out more.

What's his moon sign, OP?

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What's his moon sign, OP?

Not sure, I only know the year and the country he was born in, so a rough guess would say he is an Aries moon too. Aries sun, Aries moon.

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What's his moon sign, OP?

Not sure, I only know the year and the country he was born in, so a rough guess would say he is an Aries moon too. Aries sun, Aries moon.

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Omg. :p

He could be a Taurus or Pisces moon..looking at the conversation..

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What's his moon sign, OP?

Not sure, I only know the year and the country he was born in, so a rough guess would say he is an Aries moon too. Aries sun, Aries moon.

Omg. :p

He could be a Taurus or Pisces moon..looking at the conversation..

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It is doubtful, his bday is March 27, 1990 born in France.That is all I know.

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Thoughts? Opinions, criticisms?

But did you reply to that Dear(Aries) note?
He was being cute! That's your cue to be playful and make up!

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Yes, after he sent that he asked me to text him in the morning because I was off and he said he wanted to let me rest. I thanked him being understanding, said Good Night and texted him in the am, saying aomething like


Dear ___

Congratulations! Thank you for participating in _____(my name) Questionnaire (because he kept teasing that it was a million and one questionnaire.), as a consolation for your efforts, (my name) has accepted your invitiation to get to know ech other better.

Sincerely,

The Questionnaire Team


He did not directly respond to that text but just asked me how my morning was going. He was being pretty slow with texts that day (Friday) but he texted me early to tell me he got off work earlier. I said I was glad for him and asked him what he was going to do with his free time?

He never responded after that and has not reached out since.

Sigh see I am usually not bossy, and kinda was not myself but I kept hearing Aries like aggressive, direct women and I just know from personal experience I can be too meek and then I get hurt or taken advantage of that way. I dont think I said anything mean or hurtful to him. I just explained where I came from. I didnt call him crappy names.

My guess is that he simply had a change of heart and decided he doesnt want to get to know me better. And that is fair and reasonable.

Or he could of just been saying all of that to be polite.

I won't hate the guy, instead I will just learn from this.

Posted by Koniuchaa
I think you just need to do what you feel is right. If you like to be direct, than be that way. There is nothing wrong with that. You will eventually find a man that will like that.

After only 22 hours, it's hard to say if he is fading away. That is a short amount of time. He could just be thinking about your conversation. I don't think guys are used to a woman being so direct. You did good.

Well thanks haha, at least someone does not see me as being cruel. I feel bad because I am really nice and sweet like a typical quiet Pisces except my Aries moon makes me emotionally impulsive but seldomnly angry. I dont see how I was mean to the guy though, he asked me where I was coming from and I shared it. I am use to guys courting me and not in a (fancy restuarant, fast cars, hold doors, buy me this, buy me that) I just meant they try to get to know me and that I would like to do that with him.

Courting was obviously a bad word choice haha. But good news my heart doesnt hurt anymore! I hate that feeling, it's unbearable lol

I think he's waiting on you to make a move...he texted he was getting out early...that was your cue to be like, cool lets do something fun!

Sex just confuses everything when thrown in before an established relationship. I dunno how many times I have to stay this to ladies... Pleeesase do not hook up with a guy before you establish a relationship with him. It just doesn't work 😢

@instantkarma thanks for your feedback.

I wasnt actually asking for his plans to try to clock him, we had already talked and I had told him I was going to be out all day doing my own thing (I went indoor rock climbing...drinks with friends and then dinner with my family for father's day), he knew this so hopefully he should not have thought I was asking him what he was doing as a hint to hang out with me.

As for the sarcasm, yes because he is very sarcastic. Originally I was kinda short, sweet and simple but he isnt very flirty but rather sarcastic so i was matching. That's what I always heard ladies are suppose to do? And no i dont text back right away because I work 2 jobs so I am usually busy but like I said I havent heard from him since Friday, and I wont text him or pursue it anymore.

I know how I cringe when someone I do not want to talk to anymore messages me.

Posted by Moonbutter
I think he's waiting on you to make a move...he texted he was getting out early...that was your cue to be like, cool lets do something fun!

Sex just confuses everything when thrown in before an established relationship. I dunno how many times I have to stay this to ladies... Pleeesase do not hook up with a guy before you establish a relationship with him. It just doesn't work 😢

One would think Moon butter but the previous night before he asked me for my plans friday evening and I told him I was going to be taking my dad out for dinner, and prior to that I went indoor rock climbing (which i invited him to but he had to work and then i met friends for a drink. So i could not see him friday.)

You think I am right in leaving him alone and not texting him? I think if he still has a slither of interest, he has my number he will reach out. But if not, his silence will continue. I already was too bossy and pushy, i might as well not be suffocating in trying to get him to talk to me again?

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I don't see how you did anything "wrong" or what makes you believe it's over, dead and buried (unless there's some buildup you didn't include here).

Anyway I'm not an Aries but I'd just say this part either didn't need to be said/should go without saying:

"Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions...

I guess, but I dont feel embarrassed or like that is cringe worthy. I was just being honest. I usually go with the flow and get caught up in something I don't want or things move too slow to the point we are not moving at all, and the advice has always been that I should of spoken up for myself. So that is what I tried to do here.

In hindsight, I can see how he could interpret it to mean that I was looking for him to be committed to me. But I just wanted him to know i am use to straight forward behavior, and above all i just wanted to hang out and do cool shit.

Clearly I rushed it.

It's just one of those things where if you really do believe you are the person you say you are, it goes without saying.

Also you cannot judge a man's level of interest by the attention he gives you. Well you can if you want... but it'll just turn into something needlessly complicated. I'd say relax, forget about it. I didn't see anything suggesting he lost interest.

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Okay, fair point. I got into my head too much, I also clearly read too many "dos and donts of dating" and after awhile it can get complicated and confusing.

Best to stay on the go with the flow train. Thanks Tizani.

Oh sweet heavens yall, the Aries has returned!

I'm just gonna go focus on my shift today...talk a huge dose of chill and reply when I am off lol.

I will come back with an update and questions of advice on how to proceed lmao

Take a huge dose of chill*

For when I do reply, should I apologize for my aggressive behavior?

His text to me reads:

Hey, I'm sorry I thought I responded to you(Text 1.)

I passed out if you still care (Text 2)

How was your weekend? (Text 3)

Ok good... No just let it roll off your shoulders no apology needed...keep it sassy and fun 😉

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I don't see how you did anything "wrong" or what makes you believe it's over, dead and buried (unless there's some buildup you didn't include here).

Anyway I'm not an Aries but I'd just say this part either didn't need to be said/should go without saying:

"Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions...

I guess, but I dont feel embarrassed or like that is cringe worthy. I was just being honest. I usually go with the flow and get caught up in something I don't want or things move too slow to the point we are not moving at all, and the advice has always been that I should of spoken up for myself. So that is what I tried to do here.

In hindsight, I can see how he could interpret it to mean that I was looking for him to be committed to me. But I just wanted him to know i am use to straight forward behavior, and above all i just wanted to hang out and do cool shit.

Clearly I rushed it.

It's just one of those things where if you really do believe you are the person you say you are, it goes without saying.

Also you cannot judge a man's level of interest by the attention he gives you. Well you can if you want... but it'll just turn into something needlessly complicated. I'd say relax, forget about it. I didn't see anything suggesting he lost interest.

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@tiziani Can you explain the part about not judging a man's level of interest by the attention he gives you? Thanks!

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I don't see how you did anything "wrong" or what makes you believe it's over, dead and buried (unless there's some buildup you didn't include here).

Anyway I'm not an Aries but I'd just say this part either didn't need to be said/should go without saying:

"Me: Do you just want to hookup with me? More assumptions...

I guess, but I dont feel embarrassed or like that is cringe worthy. I was just being honest. I usually go with the flow and get caught up in something I don't want or things move too slow to the point we are not moving at all, and the advice has always been that I should of spoken up for myself. So that is what I tried to do here.

In hindsight, I can see how he could interpret it to mean that I was looking for him to be committed to me. But I just wanted him to know i am use to straight forward behavior, and above all i just wanted to hang out and do cool shit.

Clearly I rushed it.

It's just one of those things where if you really do believe you are the person you say you are, it goes without saying.

Also you cannot judge a man's level of interest by the attention he gives you. Well you can if you want... but it'll just turn into something needlessly complicated. I'd say relax, forget about it. I didn't see anything suggesting he lost interest.

@tiziani Can you explain the part about not judging a man's level of interest by the attention he gives you? Thanks!

There are men (and women) who can say and do all the "right" things and treat you exactly how a highly interested date is meant to act and they still won't be committed to you by the end of it.

If anything my sign, Libra, is the biggest example of this.

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So true, I dated a Sagg that was like that. The perfect gentleman on paper but he was a player at the end of the day.

@tiziani The trick is being direct and asking for what you want. Letting it be known. Hmm...interesting!

@imtheram I don't think all men are simple. There are some who say one thing, but do something else. Or change their story. One day it's this. The next day it's that. Not saying women are simple either. We're definitely not, lol!

@koniuchaa I think that's what he's saying. Just acting interested for sex maybe?

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Okay so if he is not acting interested Is it possible that maybe he is??

Omg I give up lol

Yes!! Right? Isn't it like the more attracted a man is to a woman, the less confident he will be? Is this true guys??

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@tiziani The trick is being direct and asking for what you want. Letting it be known. Hmm...interesting!

@imtheram I don't think all men are simple. There are some who say one thing, but do something else. Or change their story. One day it's this. The next day it's that. Not saying women are simple either. We're definitely not, lol!

That's not actually what I meant lol but it's a topic for another day

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Ok now I'm confused lol

It looks like he left the ball in your court with that last text he sent. Have you said anything to him since then?

Blah. Nevermind, I had to read the next couple of pages.

Posted by GuardianAnu
It looks like he left the ball in your court with that last text he sent. Have you said anything to him since then?

Update:

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all of your replies and feedback. I did reply back, in a similar fashion as @ImtheRam suggested. He told me to get some rest (worked a double shift) and to text him when I woke.

Not too much happening right now because I am kinda in and out of sleep and will probably head back to bed and he is out watching the game with friends.


I'll refrain from updating until I have something "good."

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Posted by GuardianAnu
It looks like he left the ball in your court with that last text he sent. Have you said anything to him since then?

Update:

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all of your replies and feedback. I did reply back, in a similar fashion as @ImtheRam suggested. He told me to get some rest (worked a double shift) and to text him when I woke.

Not too much happening right now because I am kinda in and out of sleep and will probably head back to bed and he is out watching the game with friends.


I'll refrain from updating until I have something "good."

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Ok ðŸ‘

Update!

So I will give you all the shorter version, but the Aries and I talked much of last night although via text.

He's surprisingly being more flirty with me, where as at first he was sarcastic and dry with his humor. He was watching the NBA finals with friends when I had woke up and texted him, and asked me to turn it on. Initially I laughed and told him it would be pointless since I only know 2 players. But I turned it on because I was curious and he thought it was cute, "it's cute that you try to show your sassy feminist side but you still turn on the game :*"

He sent me a kissy emoji, he'a never done that before.

Then he asked me: Aries: "So are you gonna court me this week or what?! I can't play these games anymore!?"

Me: "LMAO, sure baby I'll court you, where do you want to go?" (First text in response to his

Me: (Second text, this time in reference to the nba game we were watching) "Omg this is so intense."

Aries: "Aww you're adorable."
(I have no clue which text that was in reference to lol)

Our texting got way more flirty than this as the night went on...

Snippet:

Aries: "Are you trying to turn me on?"

Me: "Is it working? 😉"

Aries: "Kinda but doesn't take much since I really have it in for you."

We texted more after that, but thosw are the highlights.
Hmm...

Posted by Koniuchaa
So then he liked that you were assertive and direct. There ya go.

Yeah, I guess so...provided the feedback here and his silence, I am really kind surprised in the change in his behavior. He has never been this forward and flirty before.

So an Aries sun, Aries Moon tempermental? Easily aggravated? I think his Merc is in Aries too 😕