Why are Aries females such Haters!!—

ok so i have a friend, she aries and when i first met her seemed cool - but the more i hang out wit her and when she's around the more i'm disliking her - she's such a hater - i mean ppl will jus be paasin by and she always has something negative to say bout dem - ok fine somethings bou ppl r shockin n we notice it and comment on it but when she comment on it she does it wit hate - i keep wonderin if she's the one wit problems - i mean she does this everytime we all hang out - its such a negative - i hate negative jus that she's part of the group i hang out wit - tell me is this an aries thing—?
the male aries i kno seem pretty cool bout demselves - maybe she's got some issues wut u guys think?? or maybe i'm too liberal - i mean i live and let live

I don't know what you're talking about because you're not using English.

You mean . . opinionated.

yea P-Angel i guess that would be the word for it...opinionated - but is this an aries thing?? i keep wonderin if she has some deep self-esteem issues - she's not ugly but i remember once a few friends and i wanted to go to a bar - we'd jus come from work - but we all looks fine but she wanted to go home so bad to change - she's not an ugly person but her remark to me was - u naturally look good u don't have to do anything - i have to do stuff to look good (something to that effect)

Oh, the bar thing . . that's an Aries issue.

Their vanity surpasses nearly everything else. It's mandatory that they outdo other people in looks. And, the purpose for this is their ego because they desire to have everyone look solely at them . . they are suppose to be the brightest star in the sky and have eyes looking only at them. That's why when she sees other people walking down the street, she will look scrutingly at them and comment about their appearance. It's a constant judging thing, for their own personal reasons, so they can avoid allowing themselves to be viewed that way.

Fortunately, though this is a trait . . it seems to be prevelant in the younger ones. Once the women grow up, they realize that their natural beauty is what draws approval and then comprehending that this is something most other women don't have. Most women do have to do a lot of make-ups and fussing about their looks . . but, the female ram is more desirable with her natural looks. Once she realizes this, her opinions about other people will stop because she will no longer feel threatened.

Personally, I like this trait in the Aries female. I give them a hard time about it, but, that's only because they can get carried and become totally concieted if their ego's are stroked while they are still going that . . look at me stage, aren't I wonderful?

Once matured, the conciet and opinions leave and the world is left with confident woman who is strong and vibrant.

I know what you mean, though. It can be insuffereing and you just want to strangle them, sometimes. How old is this woman?

An example of this would be . . look at the title of some of these threads in here. It's all about how wonderful they think they are. When they are still young and feel the need to pursuade the world that they are wonderful . . their opinionated in a negative manner about other people's appearance, so they can believe within theirselves that they are wonderful and not aweful or ugly in any way.

Cancer12, your friend will grow out of it. The men already know their hot, even when they are young. They don't have to toot their own horns, like the females. It's just an insecurity issue. In time, she will mature. Hang in there with her as your friend. But, the worse thing you can do, is tell her she's beautiful when she's acting ugly. They will put out leading questions that leave you thinking that your only option is to compliment her . . if you do that, her berating of other people appearance will get worse because she now has someone who will allow her to ego to get inflated. Just be kind and patient . . she come around.

It's an aries immaturity thing. When I was in my teens, i judged people by their looks. Cool people versus not cool people. When I started at a new school, I did the same thing. I kept my oppinions to myself ofcource. So anyways, in my class there was this ugly nerdy guy. I pre-judged. So when I got a seat next to him i thought to myself "damnit". When i got to know him, it totally changed my perspective of the way i see people. I no longer catagorize people like i did. He's one of my best friends i've ever had, and a really good guy. So I grew on that experience. Got alot more friends too. I guess I became open minded.

thanks P-Angel and Crisp wut u guys say makes sense - this woman is like 26 i'm 23 - anyway when she makes these comments bout ppl i tell her she's a hater and tell her to jus leave dem alone - or i say stop being so mean.

i went on vacation earlier this month to visit my friends in the bahamas and my friends can get carried away wit the camera - they started taking "super model shots" on the beach which i had no prob with them doin - i saw it as them havin fun however i didn't take many shots -if u saw the pics u'd see that they were tryin to pose like super models - anyway so i was showing her the photos and she made her comments again - she acts like wut they were doin was totally wrong - sh#t how often do old girlfirends get to hang out and do silly things - anyway i'm jus annoyed wit her

i had an experience a few weeks ago that fits this topic perfectly well:
i was visiting a good friend of mine for the weekend in another town, we went out to dinner and while we were waiting for our food, all of a sudden, she says: "i feel like a monster when ?'m with you".
so i asked her why on earth are you saying this? because she certainly is no monster at all, and she replied "because i constantly make bad remarks about the looks of some ppl at the other tables and you never do this". so there, not an aries thing at all, at least not for me. and i never in my life put ppl down because of their looks, not at 13, not at 23, and not now. i never was a hater and i don't have any intention being one in the future. i hate haters 😉

tupeline,

I don't think this is being a hater. It's more like being insecure and having derogatory comments about other people because it makes the person feel better if the other person is uglier. I have a few friends who are like that. They feel that if they point out someone elses physical flaws, like a big nose, or fashion distaste, or anything . . . then that gives them the false sense of feeling comfortable with their own imperfections. Yet, these people don't necessarily hate . . anyone.

Inferiority complex, I suspose. And, also, these people only want to date and make friends with people who they believe are physically uglier because then they feel beautiful in comparison.

It's not that every Aries does this, it's just more prevelant in the ram because they have this inherent need to be better than everyone else. It's all in the manner of how a person wishes to express it, or, about a low self-esteem. In your case, you nurture your desire to be above people by being mature and NOT making these remarks. That makes you a better person inside. Unfortunately, a lot of the rams take time to realize this and so they feel compelled to get up in people's faces and tell them, "Hey, look at me, aren't I wonderful", or, "I'm so hot", or, "Look at her, what was she thinking wearing THOSE shoes with that dress". Confidence will easily turn to downright conciet if these "little girls" are permitted to talk like this, if people condone the behaviour.

It's a matter of maturity. You were apparantly mature at 13. Everybody is different and everybody looks different . . that really doesn't make any one person better looking than another. It happens with a lot of signs, it's just more likely in the Aries. I have a friend who does this all the time, and, she's a Gem.

how old are u P? u make alot of sense - i definetely think dis girl has some self esteem issues - i espicially agree wit this part:

"They feel that if they point out someone elses physical flaws, like a big nose, or fashion distaste, or anything . . . then that gives them the false sense of feeling comfortable with their own imperfections. Yet, these people don't necessarily hate . . anyone."

thanx man - feels good when someone gets it and can articulate it so well

"I don't think this is being a hater. It's more like being insecure and having derogatory comments about other people because it makes the person feel better if the other person is uglier."
true, and that's indeed an inferiority complex.

"In your case, you nurture your desire to be above people by being mature and NOT making these remarks."
so whatever i do, i'm doing it wrong in your opinion? if i make bad remarks about ppl i try to be above them, if i don't do it, i still try to be above them? then i'd really like to know what you consider an appropriate behaviour.

"It's a matter of maturity"
true, but that goes for everybody, it's not a typical aries thing. everybody changes over the years, and hopefully for the better.

p-angel, i have the feeling that you got either badly hurt or are really pissed of with some female aries and now you have a tendency to lump them all together.

tupeline, wtf . . . . That was a compliment. I say you are mature and you respond like that ——————? Wow !!!! Alrighty then.

cancer12, I'm 47 and I have to tell you, I like all the Cancer you have in your chart, especially in Mars. Ummmmmmmm . . I definitely like that. Where are you? You're not American, or, at least, you don't talk like it. How old are you?

then either i got your post wrong or you got mine wrong...might have to do with the language barrier, it's hard to get across what i mean in a foreign language. my last post wasn't meant to be offensive, it was just a reply to some sentences you posted, the way i understood them. and some parts, in my understanding, were not offensive but opinionated, so i gave my opinion. well, anyway, if i got your post wrong, i'm sorry, be gentle with me, english is not my mother tongue.

but i'd still like to know what you meant by " In your case, you nurture your desire to be above people by being mature and NOT making these remarks."
care to explain? i don't think i understood this the wrong way, therefore my reply to that was justified.
and for the other three sentences i commented on, i basically agreed, but pointed out that this is not an aries thing at all, but the difference between 20-year-olds and, say, 30-year-olds. chill out, hon 😉

Don't tell me to chill out . . you're the one who took offense. Does this chill out have a tone to suggest that you are superiour to me and I must take a chill to converse with you. You took the tone . . you then command someone to chill. Does that suggest that you are . . I don't know . . above me in some way?

That . . hon . . is your answer to the question, if you choose to comprehend.

oh dear

you don't make the effort to even try to understand what i'm saying. you take things as an offense that weren't meant to be one. so, sadly, i'm out of here.

I'm not offended, dear . . you were. Condenscend and then leave. Typical !!!!

Tupeline,

Dont you know all aries are immature, and condescending and what else P Angel .... insecure, and haters, love the word dont you.

And here u r arguing with the all knowing piscean Mama of the boards!

Tupeline and you asked HER to chill out————/ How could ya?How cud ya be so condescending by asking her to CHILL OUT! LMAO

Dont u already know how chilled out and mature and understanding Pisceans are——??

And OPINIATED that was the word, look whose opiniated!!! I think ur right about the bad experience P angel must have had with some rash aries gal.

lol, ingo, at least someone who gets my words right. yep, to ask someone to chill out is a major sin...as said, i didn't mean to be offensive at all and i don't understand why it was understood that way.

and that "hon" is there because i spent quite some time in of britain and that's a common word to use there.

forget the "of" 😉

hi there.

i'm not a hater. not at all. although i suppose any insecure female could be a hater. from what i have seen though, most aries females are too wrapped up in their own lives and such to pay that much attention to those around them.

i can honestly say i've never been a chick hater. actually, more often than not, if i am with my man walking around say the mall or someplace, and i spot a gorgeous girl, i am always the first one to be like "hey, look at that gorgeous girl! i just love her eyes, hair, outfit, etc.etc."

i appreciate beauty in all things. so i guess your experience just so happens to be with a very insecure person?

dont know.

whoa!! what happened here while i was away?? lol

tupeline- i think u misunderstood - maybe it is a language barrier thing cus what P_Angel said "In your case, you nurture your desire to be above people by being mature and NOT making these remarks." i understood it as a compliment - maybe u shudn't have assumed it to be an insult - maybe u jus shud have asked P_angle what he meant by that - anyway jus tryin to make peace - anyway ...

i'm 23 P_Angel , and my heart is breakin right now - screw this love thing - it's a waste of time - so tired of being let down!

okay. can i just say something in defense of tupeline? and i only say this because i think i understand where she is coming from... being a fellow aries and all..

has anyone here ever heard of a backward compliment?

well, let me tell you all..it goes something like this...

first you insult the person
then you compliment the person
and i am an expert in this field because this was my mother's very favorite way of communicating with me


since most of the human race (and not just certain signs of the zodiac, mind you) only usually remember the bad things that are said to them, this is NOT an effective way of communicating with someone!! wow! how about that?

p-angel- if enough people are taking offense to the things you say, then hmm.....

perhaps you should learn how to say what you mean in different ways?

just a thought.

but hey...pay no attention to me. I am just a selfish, taking offense at everything type of person right?

hey..look at it this way. would you use those words to establish a friendship with someone? i think not.

ok so the conclusion i have made is that areis women are hot.

cancer12: thanks for trying to make peace, but from my point of view it's not necessary, i didn't see this as a war, it was a disagreement.
and to jenna: i, indeed, got it as a backward compliment, and i asked p to explain (second post on page 2) , but never got an answer.
anyway, i'm done and over with this, i'm not at war with p-angel, just to put this straight, i'm gonna agree or disagree with her depending on my opinion, not because i feel bad about her in general.

P angel or P angle 🙂The 'lady' sure has some problem

I know, some things have to be explained to the Aries.

Ok, EVERY person has a desire to be better, to rise above, to succeed in their jobs, to gain respect, some want better fashion sense than other people, some want to look better physically and so exercise, some want to be smarter so focus at school . . we all as humans have a need to expand and become better at something, even if it's just being a better person.

Geeeeeeez . . so, in your desire to be better, you become that way by NOT being immature. You find some satisfaction of bettering yourself, by not being immature.

My god . . . . this should be elemetary.

Someone should start a thread in here about why people find it so hard to hold a conversation with Aries, then direct them here, so they'll know.

The only people who take offense to being real . . is the Aries. Everyone else can comprehend the difference.

"i'm 23 P_Angel , and my heart is breakin right now - screw this love thing - it's a waste of time - so tired of being let down"

Ok, cancer12, I'm confused . . I thought you were talking about a friend who irritates you? Your heart is broken by her? Or, another person?

"Why are Aries females such Haters!!—"

It's probably the penis envy.

lol - P_angel i was talking bout a girl friend of mine oringinally- that part bout the love thing has absolutely nothing to do wit this post - i was jus expressing my frustration bout this aries guy i'm in love wit - lol hahaha sorry - now that i've regained composure let's get back on topic!

sorry i strayed for a sec

Aprilbaby, here this man is trying to understand certain traits in this particular ARies person and NOT one of you bothered to try and help him to understand. It's either just being in defense mode, or saying the whole thing is silly.

He's just trying to understand. I'm talking and not even an ARies. If you want him to comprehend from an Aries point of view . . then speak. Perhaps, it might seem silly to you, but, he only asked a question.

Why is that so horrible?

If you dont' want a Pisces answering his question . . then speak up without being in just denial of his concerns . . that would be a mature thing to do, don't you think?

cancer12,

Your Aries friend has to grow into herself, such as we all do. I know what you mean, though. My daughter-in-law is much like your friend. If a lady is walking down the street, she'll comment negatively about everything about the woman ONLY if the woman is pretty. If the female who is walking down the street is ugly, then my daughter-in-law will defend her choice of hair color, style , clothes, etc. It seems to be a compitition thing, of some sort. They only defy people who seem more powerful, smarter, prettier . . until the mature.

So, with your friend, if I were you (which I do this with my daughter-in-law), I'd always make comments to show her that what's she's doing isn't right. Like, when she says something derogatory about a complete stranger, look at her and tell her that that wasnt' a nice thing to say. Eventually, she'll stop. My daughter-in-all probably still does this when I'm not around, but, she knows in my presence, I'll call her out for her disregard of another person's feelings and so it doesn't happen around me. In essence, she probably still does it . . but, has learned that she should first consider other people in her group . . . a tiny step, but, still a step.

"How come no one wants to talk about more happy things like porn??"

lol . . .

We did on here, but, the only thing Aries wanted to talk about was being IN it.

I tried to talk to you about male gay sex and you did, but, everyone else just wants to see theirselves. That's not really much fun . . just buy a mirror.

"I would normally agree with you, but I don't see how an entire statement could be made about any one sign, whether it's Aries, Pisces, or whoever based upon ONE person and ONE experience with that sign, so I kinda think the post is silly."

I understand this statement . . however, we are on a horoscope community and well, Aprilbaby, everything everyone says is sign specific. If you, or, anyone else posts on a board that's NOT Aries and asks a question . . the intention is to get an answer from another sign, therefore, making the generalization.

In that theory, this whole community is silly.

Which, personally, I think it is silly. In real life, I don't even ask a person what their sign is before making any decisions on their character . . do you?

Futhermore, once I find out their sign, I don't then change my mind, do you?

So, really, you're right about the question . . and it's true about the whole place, it's just sillly.

Except . . . I DO see this pattern in Aries females, so that does mean something, and what better place to discuss it, then with the Aries?

Can't very well ask the Cappy, or the Leo?

thanx for the advice p_angel - that's a good idea - i'm usually so disgusted by her comments that i say it like that - but i will definitely tell her it's not nice in a softer tone -

and yea we're all generalising - gosh aries stop being so defensive

Hmmgh. Are you referring it to ALL FEMALE ARIES?? AS HATERS?
Like a few of my fellow Aries Ladies had said on previous comments, I think I'm a pretty friendly person. I do love to make lots of friends..no matter how they look or whatever. I'm not a judgemental person PERIOD! I think the more friends the merrier everything else is. Wow..I only talk about those who talks about me..or did me wrong somewhere..but if you're speaking in general of complete "strangers"? I don't think it's necessary to talk about anyone.
Maybe you haven't came across the really nice Aries...just like the human population that we are..there are the goods and the bads..despite the signs.

That really only defends your own actions, or non-actions of the kind. How about some insight for him as to why this Aries friend might be doing this.

well it's good to hear from the nice aries - thanx for all ur imputs!! dis girl is out!!

Hey P angel is ur daughter-in-lae aries?

For cancer 12, aries people , men or womoen are generally friendly. We have alot of friends and dont find it problematic to make new ones.

Also hey P angel i see u as the next Linda Goodman, when are u writing ur book on astrology? Atleast write one on aries , im sure u cud with all the gory bad points actual ones and the ones IMAGINED by ya.

🙂🙂

ALV its not really non aries people , its just P angle!

The aries girls that I know have sunny sweet personalities.

ingo

i never said aries ppl had trouble making friends——

wut i said was that this girl seems like she has tp pick on other ppl for now good reason, ppl she doens't even kno, ppl who are jus walkin on the street.

the aries ppl that i kno - guys are very friendly - this is the only aries female i think i kno so dats y i asked bout dem being haters