Wondering is Cancer and Aries is a bad idea....

Ok so there is this guy who is an aries (27 soon to be 28), I am a cancer woman(23). So I bartend at this really nice spot and thats where I met him, this was 2 months ago. The first time we met, I was working of course but everytime I was free I would walk over to him and talk, we had great conversation, I could not keep myself away from him; I forgot to mention he is extremely handsome omg!!! Ok so anyway, the very first time we met he said to me "you're going to be my baby one day" of course I brushed it off like "yea whatever" Now two months later still friends I am really starting to like him; he's extremely funny, and I am the type who loves to laugh until my stomach hurts. And he's very affectionate, loves to hold hands, he kisses me on my forhead, and hugs me to the point where he doesn't want to let go. He comes to my job just about every fri and or sat hanging out with me, and then he always waits for me until I get off from work at 5 sometimes 5:30 in the morning. He's very protective of me as well, and since I bartend he always ask if I am ok, is their anyone who is bothering me. He's really sweet. There would be times when I wouldn't hear for him for days, and then days later he will call or come to my job still wanting to give and get attention.

Ok so the other morning he waited for me to get off from work to take me home, and we spent the night together; NO we didnt have sex we just kissed and held each other until we fell asleep, I've learned it's better to wait then rush and I also feel there is more to learn, I don't want to jump in too fast, and of course I am a bit skeptical because I've had relations with an aries guy once before (although he was younger) he was a pathological liar and a cheat. So what do you guys think? Is it a good idea to continue to allow myself to like this guy? I mean honestly eversince he spent the night with me I cannot get him off my mind, and I remember him telling me that things are going to be this way more often, he's going to be under me until I get tired of him (now I am not sure if I believe that though). Help me out guys. Thanks

Yes, but if I were you I'd start investigating him with my friends. LOL I'm like that...Actually my friends are they insist on knowing everything. And sometimes my mom even spies...odd.
I'd keep going for it but don't go smexing with him till your absolutely sure!

i honestly do believe that there are some things that he is not telling me. he says hes single but i believe he could possibly have someone in his life. there were a few times where he would tell me that he wanted to come by and see me and then he woulnt come and he wouldnt call so i often wonder. and im known to let things slide and then later on the line find out that the person i have been suspecting was actually lying after all, so i learned my lesson. and i actually have not heard from him since we spent the night together. and if he is with someone i would rather not continue on with things.

You will be hurt, dahlin', so it would be wise to move on NOW.

ok there is defintely a problem now; so he calls me at two this morning telling me he got arrested for no reason. ok let me say i dont deal with guys who have been in jail no matter what. the other day he was suppose to come see me and i didnt hear from him until the next day and he comes to my job telling me that he was pulled over and didnt have his id and they locked him up. besides all the good things that i mentioned about him i must say that there is always something crazy going on with him. and to get locked up for no reason, yea right i dont believe it at all. its all coming back to me when i was with an aries guy i remember he always had stories, he would lie even when i knew the truth.im sorry this may sound selfish but im not into helping any guy right now especially a guy who gets locked which seems to me is on a regular basis.

ok there is defintely a problem now; so he calls me at two this morning telling me he got arrested for no reason. ok let me say i dont deal with guys who have been in jail no matter what. the other day he was suppose to come see me and i didnt hear from him until the next day and he comes to my job telling me that he was pulled over and didnt have his id and they locked him up. besides all the good things that i mentioned about him i must say that there is always something crazy going on with him. and to get locked up for no reason, yea right i dont believe it at all. its all coming back to me when i was with an aries guy i remember he always had stories, he would lie even when i knew the truth.im sorry this may sound selfish but im not into helping any guy right now especially a guy who gets locked which seems to me is on a regular basis.

Definitely sounds like you should move on sweets. I've never been with a guy like that, but my Gemini sister has dated flocks of them and believe me when I say this: You won't get no where! Go find some nice sweet guy with a decent job. LOL Thats what my mom always said (Though she's worse than my sister) I seem to be the only lucky one in love in my family...eh.

You sound like a smart, sweet girl. Move on!

i once dated an aries guy and he was EXACTLY like the one you described. he always came to see me so we could hang out, he treated me like a princess and he too said that "he's going to be under me until I get tired of him"...we eventually had sex and i never heard from him again. i now realise that when he said all those sweet things to me...he wasn't saying it to my face...he was saying it to my genitalia!

"he's going to be under me until I get tired of him" Ladies, when a man says this... it translates into - he only wants to have sex with you and when you get tired of him or better yet, figure him out - then he is gone!

When a man truly loves a woman, you will not hear these type of words from him. He will have no reason to say anything about "getting tired of him." The man in love KNOWS you will not get tired of him and he will make sure that you don't!

Ok. I am so glad that I didn't sleep with him, I tend to get caught up with guys that I sleep with especially the ones who are handsome and speak sweet nothings in my ear. But I definitely learned from that and think it's a good idea to wait because there are other ways to get to know a person and I refuse to get myself caught up with a guy like this. And honestly I don't want to be that person that he will one day call for bail money. Sorry I am not into individuals who get themselves into trouble; I have preferences and I choose to stick with them than to settle. Thanks you guys for your advice and input, it's greatly appreciated. I love being single anyway, it's less stress, and I can think about the most important person ME.

On the other hand .. Aries men are awesome in bed .. so you could just have him available for booty-call .. at your convenience, of course.

Save the sweet side of yourself for someone who will appreciate it .. in the meantime, women need servicing too, so why not with someone who's good at it, right? 😛

"in the meantime, women need servicing too, so why not with someone who's good at it, right?"

I dunno....maybe I am of a different mind set but, I'd rather service myself if all I needed was to be "serviced." My thoughts on having sex just to have it and especially with someone who I may think is good at it but with no real emotional connection can leave one with a bit of an empty feeling. I personally prefer to engage in this activity with someone who will rock my boat, flap my feathers, light my fire and jump my jonkers where there is an established loving connection.

There is NOTHING that beats this feeling.....BLISS 😉

As they say....to each their own and to this I say, if it feels good and it is working for all involved - ROCK ON!

"no real emotional connection can leave one with a bit of an empty feeling"

I hear you .. I know a lot of women like this too. For myself .. sex doesn't have to be emotional .. just hot and satisfying .. but, we're all different.

thanks guys for the advice.