Capricorn man disappears - what should I do please help!

I am a virgo woman and have been seeing a capricorn male for about 2 months. I’m 43 yrs old and had pretty much given up on ever meeting and being with someone. so i was very pleasantly surprised meeting this guy. i was smitten and have never felt this way before i really thought this was the one! all the cliches were coming up and i had never had these sayings going through my head before. it felt so good to be with him and it felt so right. i thought things were going so well. it felt natural and i enjoyed being with him and wanted to be with him all the time which is also unlike me. i did invite him a couple of times to meet my friends and family on a couple of separate occasions. he said no thanks and the last time I saw him (4 weeks ago) he said that he needs to take it slow and that he is complicated and hd would call me. i texted him after i hadn’t heard from him for a few days, no reply, i called him, no answer, i text saying is everything ok and he texted back ‘sorry i missed your call i am just going to take it a bit slow with us at the moment before we get too serious, plus my back is giving me absolute grief lately so I’m not much fun at the moment, chat soon. i responded ‘ thanks for letting me know, hope your back is better soon… look forward to hearing from you when you’re ready’ i have not heard anything since then and that was almost 3 weeks ago. what do you think? i am trying not to contact him again, as I feel a little humiliated he was quite full on and said things off and on like ‘when we get married….’ ‘shall we move in together’…. ‘how many children do you want’…. i feel like i might have mis -read his signals….. a couple of other things happened but i won’t go into them, as this is all about the crux of it all. should i say anything to him or just let it go? do you think i will ever hear from him again?
many thanks
hope you can help to shed some light and bring me some relief. i feel sick from it all.

Thats what they do...do u know how many cap women i had u just dissappered

I just texed 1 four days in a row just had sex with her ..she texed me i knew i was a booty call ..i said no u not ..then she vanished

When the disappearing acts happen do y'all fall deeper or get obsessed?

Who can really say?

If he comes back, he comes back...if not, what can be done?

These things are beyond our control. Just...dont take stress or feel bad about it because there's nothing we can do in relationships other than being sincere.

Maybe he does mean what he says..maybe he doesn't...who can really know other than himself(hopefully).

Time will tell everything...just enjoy yourself. (: Don't feel bad! (:

Do you believe him or is he maybe making excuses using his bad back to get out of a relationship he feels uncomfortable with. Disappearing is something all men do from time to time, not just Caps. I've had a lot of Caps in my life and they always come back but sometimes it takes them so long you may have lost interest and moved on by the time they do. Caps are basically insecure so if you can work it out with him, I'd give it a go. At least you'll both know where you stand. I'm sure he cares. Caps are pretty serious about relationships.

"I’m 43 yrs old and had pretty much given up on ever meeting and being with someone. so i was very pleasantly surprised meeting this guy"

I think this is the saddest part of you confession. There are plenty of men in their forties-fifties on dating sites, and many are serious. Perhaps you haven't been dating for a while?

1) Do not make it personal if it doesn't work. Dating is like testing the waters. Going for a swim, investigating the area. There is no commitment to buy the cottage at sea, if you don't feel like it!

2) Most couples that form are not there to last. It doesn't matter why not. One either lacks something the other needs and/or has something the other dislikes. It is so personal, it's not even worthy of finding out what it! was! Or simply, the competition won this time. Do not get upset (and certainly not obsessive) over spilled milk. Carry on dating till you find a better match.

3) You need good luck, sense of humour and patience. Do not chase after men. Attract their attention, flirt with them, intrigue them, surprise them, let them wait for you, but don't chase after them!

You may or may not hear from this Cap again. It does not matter. It is perfectly normal. Expect it to happen! Stop obsessing about why, how and when AT THE SAME MOMENT you realise he put you on a back burner. It means you are just another option for him, maybe too good to dump today, but not good enough to worry about losing it.

Just say it to yourself: "This was not the one. A better match is out there." Be patient.

Posted by cherishedlibra
When the disappearing acts happen do y'all fall deeper or get obsessed?

Yep. It is a normal reaction for many of us and will happen every time we get dumped or are about to be 🙂.

The thing is, our reaction is what actually causes us the most discomfort! Learning to get a grip of ourselves, stop getting hopes too high or too early would be useful!

This is not about two committed people fighting to save their long relationship. It is about accepting that not everything is possible or under our control. It takes two to tango!

Posted by Gobshite
Assuming his intentions were honourable, either one of two things happened:

1) You weren't patient enough and rushed things.

2) You revealed an unattractive side of yourself that he wasn't expecting.

From reading all these 'Where is my honourable Cappy?' threads, over the years, at least 75% of the time the root cause is one of the two above reasons. Whether or not the affected women want to admit this is another thing altogether...

Posted by cray

said things off and on like ‘when we get married….’ ‘shall we move in together’…. ‘how many children do you want’…. i feel like i might have mis -read his signals…..

So, you're 43 years old and are falling for this sweet talking bullshit?! Any man who harps on about this so soon is highly likely to be a player, regardless of their star sign.

The oldest trick in the book (by US Casanova standards) and you fell for it - hook, line and sinker (that's assuming the Cap was indeed a player).

Either way, someone needs to seriously wake-up.

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THIS.

OP, He probably found you boring or he saw something in you he didn't like. We don't disappear for 3 weeks if we were interested. We move slow, but we're not stupid. We know 3 weeks is enough time for you to switch gears in the "feels" department if we disappear like that, and the last thing we'd want is for you to start looking elsewhere.

I would move on, some Caps don't know how to reject someone when the other person is nice but the feeling just isn't there for them.