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Do a lot of dads abandon their families?
Abandonment isn't as prominent as divorce is numbers-wise. Generally speaking a man who gives up on his family just doesn't want to deal with the responsibilities of having that family. Maybe he sees his family as a burden on him, maybe the love died in the relationship, who knows?
Posted by Chuckcem
Abandonment isn't as prominent as divorce is numbers-wise. Generally speaking a man who gives up on his family just doesn't want to deal with the responsibilities of having that family. Maybe he sees his family as a burden on him, maybe the love died in the relationship, who knows?How could the love for a child ever die?
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Oh, I meant the love for the spouse. To answer your question though, the love for the child was never there to being with.
Posted by Chuckcem
Abandonment isn't as prominent as divorce is numbers-wise. Generally speaking a man who gives up on his family just doesn't want to deal with the responsibilities of having that family. Maybe he sees his family as a burden on him, maybe the love died in the relationship, who knows?How could the love for a child ever die?
the love for the child was never there to being with.
😢
That's a foreign concept to me. I don't have children, but still, can't imagine not loving my child.
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Some people don't want kids, but wind up having them. They stick around due to family and societal pressure though. For these people children are not a blessing.
Posted by Chuckcem
Abandonment isn't as prominent as divorce is numbers-wise. Generally speaking a man who gives up on his family just doesn't want to deal with the responsibilities of having that family. Maybe he sees his family as a burden on him, maybe the love died in the relationship, who knows?How could the love for a child ever die?
the love for the child was never there to being with.
😢
That's a foreign concept to me. I don't have children, but still, can't imagine not loving my child.
Some people don't want kids, but wind up having them. They stick around due to family and societal pressure though. For these people children are not a blessing.
That's not always true. I'd say that's not usually true. You'd be surprised how many babies are accidents.
Four of my little cousins were accidental oopsies. All four of them are well loved by both parents. One of them has a mother who does crazy shit, and one has a dad who is a fuck up, but they still love them.
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Oh I'm not saying that accidental babies aren't always wanted/loved. I'm an accidental baby myself and my parents have been together forever. I'm just saying that not all accidents are happy (or accepted) accidents unfortunately.
For some people, especially if they have no real inkling to have kids, an accidental kid is a cause for panic.
In what way do you mean 'abandon'?
Emotionally? Physically? Monetarily?
Posted by clay541
i dont see why you would ever completely abandon your children if you want to leave your wife then fuck it, its not that hard to spend at least 2 or three day a week with your child and teach them things and give them that experience of course they might grow up with the view that relationships might be like that but hey you can teach them, thats what your there for.
My dad took off when l was 17... Hardly ever saw him again, he literally cut us out of his life.
Posted by Chuckcem
Abandonment isn't as prominent as divorce is numbers-wise. Generally speaking a man who gives up on his family just doesn't want to deal with the responsibilities of having that family. Maybe he sees his family as a burden on him, maybe the love died in the relationship, who knows?How could the love for a child ever die?
the love for the child was never there to being with.
😢
That's a foreign concept to me. I don't have children, but still, can't imagine not loving my child.
Some people don't want kids, but wind up having them. They stick around due to family and societal pressure though. For these people children are not a blessing.
That's not always true. I'd say that's not usually true. You'd be surprised how many babies are accidents.
Four of my little cousins were accidental oopsies. All four of them are well loved by both parents. One of them has a mother who does crazy shit, and one has a dad who is a fuck up, but they still love them.
Oh I'm not saying that accidental babies aren't always wanted/loved. I'm an accidental baby myself and my parents have been together forever. I'm just saying that not all accidents are happy (or accepted) accidents unfortunately.
For some people, especially if they have no real inkling to have kids, an accidental kid is a cause for panic.
Yeah, you're right. When I said I didn't know anyone in my family, I totally forgot about my cousin's dad. I don't even know who he is. He totally bailed on my aunt when she was pregnant, and she is very bitter. She loves my cousin, but she's abusive. 😢 I don't know if they were even dating. She was just a high school girl who got swept off her feet and had no knowledge of sex.
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Yeah that's a more common scenario when a dad bails out on his family. It's unfortunate that the circumstances made her bitter to the point of being abusive. Hopefully your cousin doesn't continue that cycle.
Posted by clay541
i dont see why you would ever completely abandon your children if you want to leave your wife then fuck it, its not that hard to spend at least 2 or three day a week with your child and teach them things and give them that experience of course they might grow up with the view that relationships might be like that but hey you can teach them, thats what your there for.My dad took off when l was 17... Hardly ever saw him again, he literally cut us out of his life.
I'm really sorry about that.
Were you close before he left?
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The problem was it threw me off course, l didnt prepare my future, and he didnt care at all.
Posted by clay541
i dont see why you would ever completely abandon your children if you want to leave your wife then fuck it, its not that hard to spend at least 2 or three day a week with your child and teach them things and give them that experience of course they might grow up with the view that relationships might be like that but hey you can teach them, thats what your there for.My dad took off when l was 17... Hardly ever saw him again, he literally cut us out of his life.
I'm really sorry about that.
Were you close before he left?
The problem was it threw me off course, l didnt prepare my future, and he didnt care at all.
I can see why it would. 17 is a rough age.
Do you think his astrological placements played into what happened or was it just life stuff?
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He had huge childhood trauma...well still does probably ? And yeah Mars square pluto...lots of virgo, very critical, cold. Saturn cancer...too tough on his emotions as well as family.
Posted by clay541
i dont see why you would ever completely abandon your children if you want to leave your wife then fuck it, its not that hard to spend at least 2 or three day a week with your child and teach them things and give them that experience of course they might grow up with the view that relationships might be like that but hey you can teach them, thats what your there for.My dad took off when l was 17... Hardly ever saw him again, he literally cut us out of his life.
I'm really sorry about that.
Were you close before he left?
The problem was it threw me off course, l didnt prepare my future, and he didnt care at all.
I can see why it would. 17 is a rough age.
Do you think his astrological placements played into what happened or was it just life stuff?
He had huge childhood trauma...well still does probably ? And yeah Mars square pluto...lots of virgo, very critical, cold. Saturn cancer...too tough on his emotions as well as family.
Not really surprising. People who pass on trauma usually experienced it themselves until someone breaks the cycle. Cancer Saturn is too tough on their emotions and family? Interesting. I have that one.
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They feel a huge responsability, and affection for their family, but they push them away, cause they're so easily hurt and have a subconscious need for drama. It's hardcore crab behavior ?
Posted by bricklemark
What do you think? And is it like a "giving up on" ...do they consider the, good as dead?Um. Is this an astrology thread question? haha
Well, it's most prevalent in minority/urban culture that has fractured marriage/partnership culture.
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Yeah l opted on miscellaneous and then l forgot ?
Maybe we're a bit urban cause my parents had a bar, and stuff...
Posted by Andalusia
In what way do you mean 'abandon'?Emotionally? Physically? Monetarily?
I was thinking physical, and so financial, but any abandonment is bad l imagine...
I know a fair few women whose partners did a runner when they got pregnant.
Posted by infires
Yeah my dad left us when I was 5, but he came back into our lives much later on. We don't have a good relationship, it's the same as him not being there
Damn... ?
Posted by clay541
i dont see why you would ever completely abandon your children if you want to leave your wife then fuck it, its not that hard to spend at least 2 or three day a week with your child and teach them things and give them that experience of course they might grow up with the view that relationships might be like that but hey you can teach them, thats what your there for.My dad took off when l was 17... Hardly ever saw him again, he literally cut us out of his life.
I'm really sorry about that.
Were you close before he left?
The problem was it threw me off course, l didnt prepare my future, and he didnt care at all.
I can see why it would. 17 is a rough age.
Do you think his astrological placements played into what happened or was it just life stuff?
He had huge childhood trauma...well still does probably ? And yeah Mars square pluto...lots of virgo, very critical, cold. Saturn cancer...too tough on his emotions as well as family.
Not really surprising. People who pass on trauma usually experienced it themselves until someone breaks the cycle. Cancer Saturn is too tough on their emotions and family? Interesting. I have that one.
They feel a huge responsability, and affection for their family, but they push them away, cause they're so easily hurt and have a subconscious need for drama. It's hardcore crab behavior ?
Well, fuck me and call me Dolly. I didn't know that. I love my family, but I moved far away from them.
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Well there you go ?... It must be really hard. It's an emotional test. Unless well aspected l mean some people are lucky. Seth McFarlane has it. Dunno his personal life tho.
It's messed up imo. In today's world the best thing for any kid is 2 functional parents. They will be much better off in the long run. My mom and dad divorced when I was 4, so I spent childhood mostly with my mom. I was lucky enough to are him every other weekend, tough he would leave me alone at night to go party and pick up women. I felt terrified all alone in that house way out in the country.
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What do you think? And is it like a "giving up on" ...do they consider their kids good as dead?