Monkey see monkey do - feelings.

I always have a laugh whenever I see posts/threads about "zomg he's emotionally autistic" or "So-and-so moons are the worst" because they allegedly don't understand feelings. What all those posts fail to realize that we are ALL human beings, programmed with feelings.



What you have to understand in the beginning is that not everyone is the same. Some wear their hearts on their sleeve, others guard it zealously. Before you start pointing fingers at their moon or other placements, take a long hard look at yourself first.

Do YOU know the true extent of feelings? Do you have a handle on yours? Can you put a name to whatever it is you're feeling at any random given time? Because if you're clueless about feelings yourself, how do you expect to understand other people's?



Bless me

As I was saying, while feelings are universal, they are not handled the same by everyone. Depending on their circumstances & upbringing, some people have to be taught how to understand & deal with them.

Let's use Cap moons as an example, the moon many people say is the coldest/worst. I, a Virgo moon, am dating a Cap moon. He comes from a big family with lots of siblings, just like me. He is very close to his folks, whereas I can't stand the sight of mine. Much different upbringing. Relationship-wise: I've been in true love twice before, but he's a late bloomer in that way. I'm his first serious relationship. So in the feelings department I'm way ahead of him.

It doesn't make him useless with feelings, he just had to become familiar with the romantic side of things. We were best friends for 4 years beforehand, which gave us plenty of time to grow close and gave me plenty of time to get a feel for how he deals with everything. But if I was worthless on that front, he'd never learn anything. My analytical Virgin moon and my laid-back aura helped him relax around me early on, so his guard didn't need to stay up for long. Natural major chemistry from the start. And now? Well....I won't brag.



DAMN IT!!!

Now, if I was some fruitloop on clinginess overload from day 1 constantly demanding he tell me what I want to hear *cough cough Cancer/Leo moon cough sneeze*, he would've run a mile. IT TAKES TWO. Experiencing feelings is natural, understanding them has to be learned during one's lifetime. If you are intriguing enough to the other person, he/she will make an effort to understand better what's what. But you can't teach anyone anything if you're too self-absorbed and only care about how you feel. So stop being a selfish cow and try to put yourself in your love interest's shoes for a minute.

Practice empathy and patience, not sociopathy. The lesson I taught my beautiful boy is:

Where there is desire, there is gonna be a flame

Where there is a flame, someone's bound to get burned

But just because it burns, doesn't mean you're gonna die

You gotta get up and try

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Welp, got nothing to say right now but...*thumbs up*

Maybe I'll be back later with an actual answer, when it's not 2am.

*two thumbs up and I'd give a third if I had one*

Lol I have that speechless effect on people. It's part of my disarming charm

@Awakenawarness WHY DON'T YOU SAY THAT TO MY FACE, BISH—?

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@Awakenawarness WHY DON'T YOU SAY THAT TO MY FACE, BISH—?

Ohh ohk, like I said..you're doing exactly what you laugh at. Making yourself look stupid.

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@Awakenawarness WHY DON'T YOU SAY THAT TO MY FACE, BISH—?

Ohh ohk, like I said..you're doing exactly what you laugh at. Making yourself look stupid.

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Except I do it in style .