recent break up with a cancer

So I need a little light on this situation i'm in. A month ago, my cancer girlfriend broke up with me, we were together for a year. The relationship was pretty good we both enjoyed a lot of things together and we just had an amazing attraction towards each other. I'm a sagittarius and ever since the beginning of our relationship there were trust issues because I was still seeing other women when i started dating her, however, once me and the cancer became official i stopped fooling around. She was deeply hurt that i was hooking up with other people when her and i were just getting to know each other on an intimate level. She pretty much gave me the ultimatum i've always needed for someone to give me, that security. Anyway, a year later, she still express that she cannot trust me. And, i'm confuse as to why has she been able to for a whole year and now all of sudden it bothers her. So, what sparked the break up was a month ago, i was being friendly with a girl i thought was cute a long time ago, and gave her my number. My lady over heard the conversation and stormed off and left me at the bar. I chased after her, and she decided to leave. I the next day she broke up with me after back and forth arguing and texting.

I've realized i can't just be her friend, and i want to get her back. She never texts me, i'm always the one texting her. She keeps replying. We went out for dinner one night as friends, and the past got brought up and our evening ended badly. i can't help but she her out and about because shes friends with all my friends now. I keep seeing her out, and anyway one night we were drunk and made out. We both went our seperate ways. I thought that it was a good thing that just happened. however, she texts me that shes sorry and didn't realize the severity of the situation. I ask her if it was a bad thing, and she says "not necessarily." THen i ask her if we should get back together and she tells me that this isn't something to talk about thru text. So i see her that night, i ask to speak with her outside, and she just says shes hurt and can't get back together with me, and that she needs time.

I'm so confused. I want to get her back but at this point i feel like its a dead end.

btw:

me--Sun: Sag -Venus: Aquarius -Mars: scorpio -moon: gemini
her--sun:cancer-venus:cancer-mars:cancer-moon:leo

yeah that is true, i've tried talking with other women, but i'm not interested in that sort of way.

i was just being friendly with her, she asked for my number because she wanted to send me her album artwork that i might be interested in. Funny thing is she never did call me. This girl was in a relationship aswell, so i saw no harm .

its just weird... i feel like I might still have a chance. Maybe its my timing. I've also noticed that if its just her and I, shes more open communicating with me and flirty like when we first met. But, if we are around her friends she closed off, her arms crossed, no smile on her face. And just the other day, i found out she is still suscribed to my status updates. after we have been broken up for a month. If she was that over me. it would be so simple for her to stop receiving notifications about me...

i know i've crossed the line, but I've never even talked to the girl. i just gave her my number cause she asked. It is crazy to me because she told me a while back that her ex has been contacting her via facebook. I tried not to get upset because she did tell me. However, shes never cheated on me and verbally tells me that she will never, but she gives other guys this emotional connection i can't compete with. Like her best friend who happens to be a guy. I know she takes everything he says about me into consideration and there were a lot of times she would take his side and get into fights about it. Everytime i've confronted her about how i felt neglected, she laughed and thought i was crazy and said "that she would never cheat on me like i would"

I don't know how to get rid of this cheater card. i want to be 100% loyal to her, but we've got to both have our own separate lives and be able to come together as one in the end.

hmm i know what i did was wrong.. and no i'm not offended you're right. it just sucks that this whole relatinoship is just over.

I hear ya. The mars in scorp with the venus in aqua is hard.

it really is! I come off as too flirtly when i'm just being friendly.

Posted by solielkiss
it really is! I come off as too flirtly when i'm just being friendly.

Same!

CrabbyCakes got it right on the money.

Just a tip..even if she decides to get back together with you, there's no way she is going to go back to being the same ole girl, and it won't last long. And if she's anything like me, you really should stop contacting her, because every time she sees your name on her phone, or sees your face, it's killing her.

hmmmmmmm very true.. her leo moon does put the icing on the cake. I also went about 5 days without contacting her, and her friend told me that she thought i was already over her. And, that's not true at all. I'm trying to move on because i feel as if shes moved on and will never want to be with me again. She doesn't want to get back with me. I'm thinking about trying to be her friend and ask her out for dinner but we probably are going to get in another arguement. I feel like i've done everything i can to get her back, and i just want her to come back to me.

this is actually the second break up. the first time we were apart for a few days and she told me that she missed me and i told her things would be different. 2 weeks after that. and we broke up again.

she's expressed that she doesn't want to be that couple that breaks up and gets back together, pver and over. And, i can see where shes coming from with that. I need to work 500x as hard. i'm still kinda taken back from the other night , when i asked her if she wanted to get back together after we previously hooked-up. perhaps i shouldn't have pushed it on her that quickly.

I honestly do want her in my life as a partner, there is no doubt in mind.

Suffice it to say and quite simply, you fucked up. You didn't think and you hurt her. She was in from the get go, you weren't. It lingers. Her coming back the first time was tentative at best, she was trusting you not to hurt her again; congrats. You did. You can laugh out the side of your sleeve and blame it on your placements or "Hey, I was being a good boy, didn't even talk to the artsy chick." but deep down you know it's bullshit. You didn't use your brain.
If there is zero doubt in your mind that you'd like her as a partner you'd be more clued into her as a woman and mindful of where you step with her. Especially after your auspicious beginning. C'mon man, really.

yeahh i really don't know what's wrong with me. I can't help but talk to other people and come off flirty when i'm just being sincere and nice. it's like i need to have my arm around my girl at all times, for someone to not think i'm hitting on them.

another thing is too, i dont know if it's the sun and moon opposition in me but i always find myself blurting things out so bluntly, i qquickly regret it right after i say it. i honestly can't control this. I'm better off just not talking, but that's impossible.

update: we went out for dinner tonight, she was sighing the whole time and wasnt keeping eye contact with me. It was weird. awkward conversations. after dinner we went our ways. and then i called her to meet back up to smoke for a sec. and she drove to my house. So we sat in my car and just sat there. and she expressed how weird it was that we were exes and were hanging out. an hour pass by, she had to go and so i blurt out once again i dont want to move on, and she got upset. and told me it was never going to be. Told me that i can't keep asking her that. I see where shes coming from cause it has been over a month now.

sooo yeah... its really done. i can not get her back.