Using astrology to determine if you've met 'the one'

I used to have a crush on an older girl in high school. I never spoke with her--she was far too pretty and a few grades older--but at age 28, I noticed that she became a professional counselor in my hometown area. I started to see her, thinking that it would be fun to meet my biggest crush, but what followed was quite bad... I fell completely in love with her, and at one point, I saw her soul. (I have always been able to see auras, but I experienced a completely sublime moment while locking eyes with her and I saw her actual divine--light, soul, or whatever you want to call it--being, which was the most beautiful thing that I have ever seen, and I am madly in love with her now).

My seventh ruler is Saturn and transiting Saturn is currently exactly conjunct my natal Saturn (27 Sagittarius). In other words, it's my exact seventh ruler return right now. My Saturn sits in the sixth house of service and health, so it makes sense that my love interest would be a therapist. Capricorn and Saturn also govern older persons, so it makes sense that she would be older.

Also going on right now is Pluto transiting through my seventh house, which is supposedly a time when you can meet your soulmate and form an intense and magnetic attraction.

Sadly, though, she is married. It's terrible... but.... that also makes sense, since I have a twelfth house Venus, and we are said to fall for unavailable people.

My plan right now is to tell her--the last time that I ever see her--that I love her and that I want her to contact me if she ever gets divorced.

Anyways, what do you guys think about all of this stuff and about the seventh ruler and soulmates in astrology?

I wish that someone would reply, but okay.

Yeah I'm not sure if it is fair to tell her I just want to give you a hug because I'm the same way or when I'm feeling something I feel like I have to say it I have to say it I have to say it but I never do and I fight with myself because you don't want regrets but the same time you don't want to confuse her either. Also are you guys actually friends or are you watching her from the far because I know firsthand how it feels when you feel destined with someone and they have no idea this kind of connection even exist

Pluto 7 transit is also when your partner changes, or you meet partners going throug a life change, most often Pluto transiting their first house.

Saturn 7 transit highlights your relationships, with their specific quality i.e. Saturn-like. It's more of a test of this area of life rather than a positive experience.

Soulmates exist (and they are explained by astrology). My advice is, if you really love her maintain contact but never advance in other terms, since she is married already, be patient.

And probably, with that aura, she will be a magnet for more people like her and you, just be close.

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welcome fellow pisces mars

Thanks for the comments. I see her a few times a month. She's my therapist... I've been through a lot - lost both siblings to rare diseases when they were 25, just two years a part. (I have an afflicted Mercury in the 12th house, so it makes sense that I would suffer through losses related to siblings).

I teach her astrology and burn her music. I also try to flirt with her, but in a harmless way, since I know that she is married. I don't think that it would be wrong to tell her that I love her once I am ready to stop seeing her. It seems that 42 - 45% of U.S. marriages end in divorce and if she ever gets divorced, she could contact me.

Tell her so she knows. Just in case...

Darn! Hugs ?

I don't expect anything right now. I know that she will remain married and loves her husband. I also know that I can't be her patient anymore after I tell her, so I will wait until I am ready to stop seeing her.

But I also feel very confident that she feels a connection with me and if she does get divorced one day, she will probably remember me. That will be my ask of her - that if she ever gets divorced and falls out of love with her current husband, she remembers that there is a man out there who already loves her and always will love her more than any person can or will.

And I am going to get her an album that represents my feelings for her - Disintegration by The Cure. (Listen to the album if you haven't. It's the best love album of all-time).

The song Plainsong is exactly what plays in my mind when I see her face.

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Thanks for the comments. I see her a few times a month. She's my therapist... I've been through a lot - lost both siblings to rare diseases when they were 25, just two years a part. (I have an afflicted Mercury in the 12th house, so it makes sense that I would suffer through losses related to siblings).

I teach her astrology and burn her music. I also try to flirt with her, but in a harmless way, since I know that she is married. I don't think that it would be wrong to tell her that I love her once I am ready to stop seeing her. It seems that 42 - 45% of U.S. marriages end in divorce and if she ever gets divorced, she could contact me.

When you meet your soulmate it is usually your "therapist", since it cures your soul but it can be reciprocate in hercase, since she is a therapist for profession. For that you shouldn't expect divorce, and I think you should not stop seeing her, or at least maintain communication.

I feel like no one is reading my posts... I am saying that I do not expect reciprocated feelings. And I do not expect her to divorce BECAUSE OF me... It is merely a statistical probability that she will divorce one day (40% ).

Once divorced and considering dating again, she may think of me.

Posted by PiscesMarsFighter29
I don't expect anything right now. I know that she will remain married and loves her husband. I also know that I can't be her patient anymore after I tell her, so I will wait until I am ready to stop seeing her.

But I also feel very confident that she feels a connection with me and if she does get divorced one day, she will probably remember me. That will be my ask of her - that if she ever gets divorced and falls out of love with her current husband, she remembers that there is a man out there who already loves her and always will love her more than any person can or will.

And I am going to get her an album that represents my feelings for her - Disintegration by The Cure. (Listen to the album if you haven't. It's the best love album of all-time).

careful with that Pisces Mars dude. you know.. boundaries, illusion and such.

Disintegration yes great album. i have it 😄

I never stalked her. I was searching for therapists in my area and I recognized her face. I never even knew her name. Why did you assume any of that stuff? It was a coincidence that she became a therapist and that I needed a therapist.

There's really nothing bad that can happen... I don't expect the feelings to be returned. I just want her to know. I won't feel better until she knows.

OK, but if you just love her, be with her, dont go away, volunteer to help other people with your experience or something like that.

I get what you're saying. It is just actually hurting my functioning by going to see her more than it is helping, because I can't think about anything else. That's why I know that I need to stop soon. It's not healthy.

Interesting, LovingSeraphina. I think my last girlfriend was a definite shadow, but I saw this person's soul and I knew with certainty that it was the soul that I belong with in the end. If she never realizes it and stays married for life, I am still right and I know it. I think that one "soulmate" can recognize another, even if the other never comes to the realization.

Anyways, I just want to reiterate that she and I definitely bond a little more than is typical for a therpist and patient. Since we are from the same high school and only a few grades a part, we had a lot in common from the beginning. But after I shared music with her and taught her some astrology, it is apparent that we have bonded.

Have you read about transference and worked it out that you aren't experiencing that? It isn't uncommon for people to fall in love with their therapist because of the trust and emotional intimacy that happens with a good therapist client relationship -- but so often the feelings are just transference. It can happen the other way around, too, with the therapist having feelings.

I'm not writing this disrespectfully -- I know that people can fall in love for real too -- I just wanted to mention it in case you weren't familiar and also your therapist, if you tell you that you love her, may suggest that it's transference.

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Posted by CopperDove
Have you read about transference and worked it out that you aren't experiencing that? It isn't uncommon for people to fall in love with their therapist because of the trust and emotional intimacy that happens with a good therapist client relationship -- but so often the feelings are just transference. It can happen the other way around, too, with the therapist having feelings.

I'm not writing this disrespectfully -- I know that people can fall in love for real too -- I just wanted to mention it in case you weren't familiar and also your therapist, if you tell you that you love her, may suggest that it's transference.

That's what I was implying, but didn't know the term for it. It is her job to create a connection, and it sounds like she is very good at it. Those feelings are probably not authentic.

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Yes, it's really common for that to happen, so common that it has been named. Some people believe that it's a natural and even necessary part of the therapeutic process (not if it's acted on, though, I just mean they believe the feelings are useful to motivate a client to make changes). The kind of dynamic that happens with a good therapist is, in part, what people often desire with a romantic partner -- positive regard, support, trust, for example.

Yes, I've read about transference. I can definitely see how that would happen, but it really IS her that I want and I'm not transferring my emotions. (She doesn't remind me of anyone and I even had that crush on her before I ever knew her). I didn't fall in love with her because of her therapy (or her amazingly good looks); it was the moment that I saw her divine essence. I realize that I sound nuts, and I had never seen someone's "soul" before, until that moment. It was brilliant and radiating with amazing energy. I fell for her in that moment. I've never had any other moment like that in my entire life.

We were locking eyes for a while and I saw it... I've seen auras that way before, but never a person's divine being. It was a sublime moment.

I'll post more about her chart later. I'm tired now. But I don't think it is a coincidence that Capricorn/Saturn represent things that take a long time to develop and I have a Capricorn 7th with Saturn in the 6th (house of service). Maybe she really will get divorced in her late 40's or something. She's only slightly over 30 now. I obviously won't count on it, but it's pretty much a flip of the coin, statistically speaking.

If it helps, her husband doesn't make a lot of money and I know this for a fact, because she told me that she didn't marry for money. He's a soccer coach.

Yeah that's life. Hugs