Venus in Capricorn

I'm curious how you guys deal with this placement, whether you have it yourself or know someone who does.
How long does it take you to get into a relationship and what is it you want in a partner? Do you do the chasing?
What do you like best and worst with VinCap?

I have it and it takes me at least a year of friendship and a lot of time knowing each other before I cave in and settle in a relationship.

A venus in cap chooses you and NOT the other way around.

I take a long time to open up in general, so obviously I'm not one to jump into a relationship....and I've been in the same relationship for 10+ years now, if that says anything about willingness to commit.

I am definitely not a chaser - my Leo moon would never allow that shit. I am also not competitive. In general, I feel like I'm fabulous and people should want to date me, not the other way around, lol. This is also a Venus in Cap thing though I think - we make sure people know we DO NOT need anybody. If we choose you, it's because we want you, not need you.

Also, I could care less how much money a guy makes, or what kind of car he drives, or the watch he wears, etc. Those are not even in the realm of things I notice... but I do love an ambitious man, because that reflects passion...and a passionate man is the sexiest thing on earth.

Posted by 4ND5
"Love doesn't pay the bills" said no Venus in Capricorn ever

Truth

Posted by DonJohnson
my girl and the sagg before girl have venus in cap.

there's like a blockage emotionally.

Yep. I'm dating a Venus in cap, and it's sometimes hell for a fire dominant person like me.
Usually everything is fine. But on occasion, he will just shut down completely and I feel like I'm talking to a rock. It's not like an airy detachment but a complete absence of feeling. They're selfish too, and come with many insecurities.
I do like the placement though. 😆

I take my time in getting to know people. Trust is delicate. It either takes me a while to trust, or when I do trust it's fully until it's been broken. Then never again. I dont chase. I believe all things will come to me. What do I want? Security, trust, mutual respect, and harmony. I hold back my emotions until I feel comfortable enough to release them. People say I'm kind and sharing, but they can't get a feel of emotion. I think I'm just reserved.

I'm a VIC and am in a relationship with a VIC.

I used to be that way when I was younger. It took me FOREVER to settle into a relationship and consider someone my partner. Now that I've gotten further in my career than then, I'm more about that and my home business than anything else as I also only have one child left at home. Right now, my VIC is not concerned about falling in love to set up home, build a family, etc. I did have that strong urge when my bio clock was expiring...maybe about 34-39. I felt such an urge to get married, have another child or two, and establish a standard lifestyle in compliance with societal expectations. However, that urge didn't compromise the quality of mate and it actually made me more cautious. After I turned 40...FORGET IT! Lol...something clicked in me and my partnership focus changed dramatically. Now, it's about finding someone to just settle into a comfortable, drama free companionship with where we can travel together, eat Sunday morning breakfast on the back patio from time to time, host social gatherings with decent wine and good food, etc. Since my relationship urges are no longer connected to things that you typically need a partner for...like procreation, I feel much more comfortable taking relationship risks. If it doesn't work, there's nothing that I was doing as a single person that I can't do without that mate.

I think it's about the risks that relationships bring with it. If it's risky, we take our time. If it's not as much of a risk, we are comfortable with it.

Posted by brianafay
I take a long time to open up in general, so obviously I'm not one to jump into a relationship....and I've been in the same relationship for 10+ years now, if that says anything about willingness to commit.

I am definitely not a chaser - my Leo moon would never allow that shit. I am also not competitive. In general, I feel like I'm fabulous and people should want to date me, not the other way around, lol. This is also a Venus in Cap thing though I think - we make sure people know we DO NOT need anybody. If we choose you, it's because we want you, not need you.

Also, I could care less how much money a guy makes, or what kind of car he drives, or the watch he wears, etc. Those are not even in the realm of things I notice... but I do love an ambitious man, because that reflects passion...and a passionate man is the sexiest thing on earth.

omg i love ambitious men. like seriously. heavily attracted to successful ambitious men. a definite plus if you have everything i have. i like things to be equal.

Posted by DonJohnson
my girl and the sagg before girl have venus in cap.

there's like a blockage emotionally.

id agree with that. In time the blockage does go away. little by little. were meant for the long haul.

i wish "chase" and let you know that im interested. But id i dont see a return on my investment, im calling it quits.

Yes! Emotional blockage indeed. Not allowing it to 'flow'.

I'm with a Sag venus girl, took me so much time to commit. Even though she was almost begging me to.. I just don't feel ready quickly. Everything has to be 100% clear & perfect. Love is 90% worrying anyway for me.

I don't get the emotional blockage thing....I feel like that is such a generic response

I'm always torn between my scorpio moon making me feel things, especially pain, intensely and my venus in capricorn make me go emotionally blank.
When I see people cry or go super ecstatic, I unconsciously tone it down and barely anything comes out, it's weird.

I'm also really bad with giving out compliments and verbally making someone feel loved even when I appreciate everything they do.

My guy has venus in cap. He shows love by actions. Was very slow expressing any feelings verbally. Can be very frustrating for the partner. It Takes a lot of patience to be with someone with this venus placement. However you can sense how seriously they take relationships and get the overall impression they are in it for the long haul. Definitely stable, consistent and a non game and non drama demeanor, which is very appreciated.

^^ just my impression from the partner's point of view

I'm dating a Cancer sun mars in taurus, I laid down all my past blockage and conditions after our second date which is admittedly very early in our relationship but every date there's a new level of comfort added, I appreciate his patience and his will to win me over, haha.

Do V in Cap usually dislike PDA though? Because I absolutely abhor it. I'd rather socialise with his friends or have a good conversation than play the happy young horny couple... Behind closed door is amazing, but yeah, I still have to remind myself not to back away when he initiates PDA lol

I like it a lot

but then again I have a venus in Taurus. I like the slow pace and the practical approach, gives me a sense of security.