Advice maybe?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by aimers on Thursday, October 6, 2011 and has 5 replies.

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@aimers
15 Years

Hellooo,
as much as I love you cancers,
ya'll drive me nuts- in a good way though
though I do have a question,

If you got rejected by the person (you knowing that the person was interested in you too),
would you move on even if you still have a strong attraction towards him/her?

I'm aware rejection isn't taken very well, pretty much goes with everyone :\

I rejected him and I recently got rejected by him too

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@Cancer87
15 Years

I would definitely move on. I fear rejection and if it happens, I will not try again. Pride and EGO on the line now..at least for me. Although, I would respect a person for rejecting me off top. So I would respect you for your honesty. But in this case, "you didn't want me when I wanted you so I guess we are not going to be."

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@aimers
15 Years

It happened twice. Also a few deep intimidations hehe

The reason was because I might get the manager's position as us being co-workers
He doesn't know the other reason - I closed myself from getting hurt. Gotten comfortable with myself for three years. I sabotaged myself for not taking this risk.
We agreed to be friends from now on- we both misunderstood each other
My fault for asking it when I rejected him the first time.

I'm respecting it, life goes on : )

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@AstroGal
15 YearsCancer

Cancer female here.. I think us cancers take rejection a lot deeper then most. I have always clung to the motto, I don't want anyone who doesn't want me. Once I see that is the case, it's like a switch flips and I logically look at why it is not going to work. However, if you don't put yourself out there and be honest, you could misinterpret things and that turns into a missed opportunity. If it doesn't happen then you just look for true love elsewhere. Good luck 🙂.

Geeze, I am mush.. True love.

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@Irok
15 Years

Personally being a cancer female if it were me depending on the rejection and if I knew he still had feelings for me I might still keep it in the back of my mind. I'm am determined though to figure out things and what went wrong etc. So usually I don't generally respond well to rejection but in this case keep I'd say keep your options, and eyes open depending on the likability.

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@aimers
15 Years

Thank you for the responses.

We hung out and kissed when he was drunk. Something that I shouldn't have done cause I keep hurting myself and he doesn't seem to be affected by it.
:/ I'm keeping my hands to myself.