Allow me to shed some light on Cancer behavior

For those currently frustrated with a Cancer, it may be because he/she hasn't matured yet. See, an immature Cancer is the most childish person you'll meet, and I'm not only referring to their behavior, but their way of thinking as well. Let me explain...
An immature Cancer is very egocentric. It is all about him/her. They are only happy when they have things their way, otherwise they'll sit in their corner and pout with arms folded. They like being the boss and making the decisions. They get to choose the movie you're gonna watch, and they genuinely think you'll enjoy the movie because they like it, and being egocentric means if they like it that must mean you'll like it too. While they want to be the boss, they also want you to take care of them. This is especially true for immature male Cancers. They're looking for a girl to be their mommy: you'll cook for him, clean house and do his laundry, take care of him when he's sick, and have sex with him any time he wants it, while still allowing him to make most of the decisions.
He is super sensitive. If you say or do anything to hurt his feelings, he'll either give you the silent treatment while he withdraws into his shell or the claws will come out to draw blood. He has a sharp tongue and will use it to hurt you for hurting him. Not only that, he's gonna send you on a guilt trip for being so mean to him, and he'll continue to bring it up in the future to manipulate you. If he withdraws, leave him alone. When he's calm and ready, he'll reach out to you. Usually when you're in the early stages of the relationship is when he's most likely to withdraw, because he's afraid of saying or doing something to you that will make you leave. Once you've been together for awhile and he's comfortable with you is usually when he's no longer afraid of upsetting you, and Bossy Boots will come out.
Immature Cancers are extremely insecure. If you don't give them enough love and attention, they take that as a sign your interest has moved from them to someone else. This often results in jealousy, anger, and/or that lovely clingyness we're so well-known for. In their mind, attention and affection equals love. They want to be the center of your universe, while having their freedom to do what they want when they want. They expect you to drop everything for them and put their needs first.
Immature Cancers are dreamers. Reality and their dream world are two different things. They spend a lot more time in their little world because in that world, everything is as they want it to be. They are usually fantasizing about things that would make them happy. They avoid anything that would be difficult or unpleasant, and reality is usually one or both of those things.
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Cancers love attention, and will often develop feelings for anyone who gives it to them. Yes, we do often stay friends with our exes. We're very sentimental and nostalgic people, and we hold onto things with pleasant memories attached to them, including people. We don't like to burn bridges, and when we've loved someone, it's usually lifelong. The type of love may change, but some part of us will always care for those who are or were dear to us.
We like what's familiar and comfortable. Things that are new and different usually freak us out. Even good change takes getting used to for us. For this reason, we may stay in an unhappy relationship. Even though the person we're with no longer makes us as happy as they used to, they're familiar. They know us. We're comfortable with that person, and we're holding on to those happy times of the past. Meeting someone new is scary. Being alone is terrifying to an immature Cancer.
Immature Cancers possess more of those negative traits we're known for, but also the positive ones. They are extremely childish, but also still very loving, affectionate, funny, compassionate, and often loyal. Unfortunately there's nothing you can do to help a Cancer mature any faster. It'll happen eventually. When a Cancer finally does grow up, you'll find they're less moody and needy, while being more secure and...well...grown-up. What I can tell you is they will not grow up if they don't have to. As long as someone is taking care of them and letting them have their way, they'll stay a child.
Everything I've said is based on my own experience as a once-immature-now-mature Cancer and with immature male Cancers. It isn't meant to be an absolute truth for every single Cancer out there, but hopefully it has helped you understand why you may have been having issues with a Cancer in your life.
Blessed be, dear ones.

Checks out

I've witnessed this with other immature signs. Aries and Pisces, Taurus (Speaking for myself). It isn't just cancer.

I have a Cancer Venus and can be very immature and demanding in relationships. I tend to move to fast and fear getting dumped for someone else which happened once, and is in the back of my mind at times.

Yeah, I finally realised this about my cancer friend (male). He's selfish in that he wants to do things his way and very inconsiderate of how others may feel about it. He wants to do whatever he wants to do but and left you on your own if he feels like it. But when you left him, he wonders why. He's unable to communicate like an adult (ie. by not throwing temper tantrums) but expects you to understand why he's unhappy even though he doesn't tell you. This is BS. No one can read minds.

He didn't like it when I was worried of his whereabouts after he went missing for 3 weeks. He thinks it's not manly to be asked by his friend if he's okay. This is not normal. Most people will be happy if their friend call up to ask what happened after he/she goes MIA for a few weeks. After all, we spoke almost every day prior to this incident. Then he turned weird. He can't look at me when I'm around him whereas before he could talk to me without problem.

When I asked why he's turned weird, he blocked me on WhatsApp but still uses it to monitor me from afar. Asking me who I was talking to the previous night, for example, which is none of his business since he's blocked me. He doesn't seem to understand that it's creepy to be monitored like this. He got pissed off when I blocked him in return so he retaliate by ignoring me. Except that, he hasn't exactly been talking much since 6 months ago when he turned weird.

I tried to reach out to him again and again for 6 months with no result but cold shoulder so eventually I left him on his own. Now he wants to reconcile but he doesn't want to put a substantial effort. His idea of reconciling is bumping into me on the street but acting like he doesn't see/recognise/care about me. It's like stalking, except he managed to make it look like it's a coincidence that happened 3 or 4 times even after I altered the time of my arrival.

When that didn't work, he started using fake numbers to call me then hanging up when I picked up the phone. It's a way for him to remind me of him. I don't accept this kind of passive-aggressive BS. To me an apology from an adult consists of coming over to the person you want to apologize and tell the person you're sorry for what you've done. Now he's used another phone to monitor my WhatsApp activity. So I set my status to say "Unless you can apologize, this is pointless".

Why is it so hard for him to be direct? Surely his logic would have told him by now that his passive/aggressive method doesn't work. And I'm not the only friend he's had problem with this year because he told me how he had problem with his other friend too before this incident. Is it stubbornness? Is it all about winning and losing? I'm a guy too and have venus in cancer but his behavior just puzzles me.

Wow thanks for this!! Sounds like a Cancer I know but can he be 36 and still immature? Is it possible?

Immature Cancers aren't very good communicators. Cancers are feelers, not thinkers. We can have strong emotions and express them without analyzing why we feel what we feel. Our only reasoning is that we just do. When immature Cancers feel negative emotions, it's someone else's fault, not their own. Sometimes, though, when you all a question and don't get a direct answer it's because of one of two things: either they have so many thoughts and feelings going on in their head that they just can't process it all and it's overwhelming, so they keep quiet, or it's because they don't want to hurt your feelings and can't come up with a good enough lie in time to spare you. Most of us are bad liars.

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Wow thanks for this!! Sounds like a Cancer I know but can he be 36 and still immature? Is it possible?

It's possible at any age. Like I said, unless life forces them to grow up, they probably won't.

Posted by Hemispheres
I've witnessed this with other immature signs. Aries and Pisces, Taurus (Speaking for myself). It isn't just cancer.

Every sign shares personality traits with other signs. Mine is the only one I can truly speak for because I've been there.

Thank you for this insight!!

So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that! 😛

Posted by Shellyd238
So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that! 😛

Unless you cater to them like a good little doormat, yeah, pretty much.

Posted by M00Nchild

Posted by Shellyd238
So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that! 😛

Unless you cater to them like a good little doormat, yeah, pretty much.

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But even if you do act like a doormat, it doesn't guarantee that they'll be nice to you instead of nasty. So in the end, what else can you do but leave them alone? After all, that's the message that they are sending, whether intentionally or unintentionally.

I feel bad for my friend. I really do. I can see that maybe there's an underlying issue he's dealing with. But using others as a scapegoat for the emotion that he can't handle is not acceptable.

I still care about him but I know that if I had stayed not only will I continue feeling sad, he'd also never see that what he's done is wrong. Even now, I'm not sure if he's capable of understanding what he did is wrong. And he doesn't like to communicate/talk about his feelings so we end up nowhere. Humans are not mind-readers. Without communication there is no way to resolve problems and misunderstanding.

Yup so true. I've met mature and immature ones. One specific Cancer wanted me to move in with him just to cook for him,clean up after him, and sleep with him regularly. And we weren't even dating! I can handle the moodiness pretty well, but the insecurity is the worst!!

Sister is an unevolved 50-something year old Cancer. Everything you said hits home for me. Unfortunately, she has alienated every one in the family and still won't grow up.

It's very sad, but it was always her choice. By my choice, I haven't spoken to her in 15 years. Just can't deal with that kind of crazy.

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Posted by Shellyd238
So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that! 😛

Unless you cater to them like a good little doormat, yeah, pretty much.

But even if you do act like a doormat, it doesn't guarantee that they'll be nice to you instead of nasty. So in the end, what else can you do but leave them alone? After all, that's the message that they are sending, whether intentionally or unintentionally.

I feel bad for my friend. I really do. I can see that maybe there's an underlying issue he's dealing with. But using others as a scapegoat for the emotion that he can't handle is not acceptable.

I still care about him but I know that if I had stayed not only will I continue feeling sad, he'd also never see that what he's done is wrong. Even now, I'm not sure if he's capable of understanding what he did is wrong. And he doesn't like to communicate/talk about his feelings so we end up nowhere. Humans are not mind-readers. Without communication there is no way to resolve problems and misunderstanding.

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I understand your frustration. The thing is, you just can't win with an immature Cancer. If you have a backbone and refuse to cater to their ridiculous ways, they'll be hurt and sulk in their shell or throw a tantrum. As you said, though, even when you try your best to make them happy by letting them have their way and being oh so careful about what you say or do, they'll just take advantage of you.
You can't win, and you can't make them see they're being selfish. Immature Cancers are always the victim in their minds. When they're in one of those dark moods, they're convinced the world is out to get them, so they may as well kill themselves, because life is just awful and no one cares. They won't really do it, don't worry. They're just feeling sorry for themselves.
There are really only 2 ways to deal with an immature Cancer: put up with their bs, or walk away.

It truly is, MissGemmi. I deeply empathize with everyone who gave their heart to an immature Cancer. Not only have I been that Cancer, I'm one who made the same mistake, and paid dearly for it.
I sincerely hope that one day you meet someone who will see your heart as the beautiful gift it is, and not only cherish it, but give you theirs in return.

Posted by Sugarfoot
Wow. So accurate. Thanks for writing all of this out. Coming from a cancer this should clear up a lot of things for people who are confused. The part where you said you either have to walk or put up with the bs is especially helpful. I finally came to that realization with my ex but I didn't want to admit those were my only options for a loooong time. I have faith in him that he will mature though. He had a lot of great qualities.

I know. You think any day now he's going to grow up and finally achieve his potential, but that day never comes. As long as they're getting what they want, why change?
Someone said they'll mature when they choose to. I disagree for that reason. Immature Cancers are very dependent on others.
As an adolescent I was dependent on my parents, then I got engaged at my senior prom, and my dependency on my mother shifted to my fiancé. We got married and had a child, and while I was an awesome mom, I was a terrible wife. Needless to say after 7 years of putting up with my b.s., my ex-husband had enough. We separated and I moved back in with my parents, so dependency shifted back. My mom did the right thing, she gave me a time limit: one year to get on my feet. I got a job, kicked my renter out of my house, and when the year was up, I moved back into my home. For the first time in 26 years I was on my own. I found that the more independent I became, the more I wanted it. I finally grew up. Looking back on my past behavior, I'm ashamed. I am a COMPLETELY different person now. I didn't choose to grow up until after I was forced to. It took a hard slap of reality to make me leave my grab world and face the real one. I've been rocking single parenthood for the last 4 years.
It can happen, folks, but not without people showing tough love the way my mom did. When dealing with a childish character like immature Cancers, you have to be the adult.

I have been reading the cancer forum for a while and never comented.I myself am going through some terrible times with a cancer man.I wanna thank all these nice people who take their time to enlighten us who are confused and hurt.It's a really a big help in understanding what is going on.I noticed that almost every woman here blames herself and feels guilty for something.I say this is not right.There are always two people in a relation,no matter if it's friendship or love one.I have observed the behaviour of cancer men,the ones I know,and it's almost identical.Moonchild is very precis and accurate.No one could have said it better.Thank you Moonchild.Why should they change if they are getting so so much of you/me/others?I noticed the more you ignore them/tough love,the more they insist.Like a 5 year old who cries to get a toy and when they have it they get bored.But try taking that toy away for good..they suddenly remember it's their favourite and cant live without it.My question is: why do we put up with this?Out of love of course but love it's not about being hurt,a doormat or humiliation.No one has the right to treat another person like a doormat.Once again Moonchild and all these nice people thank you for taking the time to explain.Let's not judje each other but help each other through some weird times.

hahaha..... good stuff....

Posted by M00Nchild I understand your frustration. The thing is, you just can't win with an immature Cancer. If you have a backbone and refuse to cater to their ridiculous ways, they'll be hurt and sulk in their shell or throw a tantrum. As you said, though, even when you try your best to make them happy by letting them have their way and being oh so careful about what you say or do, they'll just take advantage of you.
You can't win, and you can't make them see they're being selfish. Immature Cancers are always the victim in their minds. When they're in one of those dark moods, they're convinced the world is out to get them, so they may as well kill themselves, because life is just awful and no one cares. They won't really do it, don't worry. They're just feeling sorry for themselves.
There are really only 2 ways to deal with an immature Cancer: put up with their bs, or walk away.

Yeah, I guessed that he must see himself as the victim somehow. But I hope he doesn't entertain that thought that I bolded. The only time I was worried about him was when he just crossed the street without paying much attention to traffic so it looks like we "almost" bump into each other "coincidentally". It'd have been believable if he didn't do it 3-4 times despite my attempts to alter my timetable so we don't bump into each other. I don't want him to get hit by a car because of a foolish passive/aggressive attempts at reconciliation.

So yeah, I feel sad/awful for walking away. But I'm not going to waste another 6 months trying to chase after him/get him to talk/pacify him when I didn't even get much result back then. Why would things be different now? Especially when he won't even make real effort at reconciliation and I still don't know what bothers him in the first place since he won't tell me. I can guess but my guess is as good as anybody else.

LOLz Cappys suck sometimes too. Everybody has a selfizh asshole lurking inside them.

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Posted by Shellyd238
So what you're saying is, they're insufferable! I hear that! 😛

Unless you cater to them like a good little doormat, yeah, pretty much.

But even if you do act like a doormat, it doesn't guarantee that they'll be nice to you instead of nasty. So in the end, what else can you do but leave them alone? After all, that's the message that they are sending, whether intentionally or unintentionally.

I feel bad for my friend. I really do. I can see that maybe there's an underlying issue he's dealing with. But using others as a scapegoat for the emotion that he can't handle is not acceptable.

I still care about him but I know that if I had stayed not only will I continue feeling sad, he'd also never see that what he's done is wrong. Even now, I'm not sure if he's capable of understanding what he did is wrong. And he doesn't like to communicate/talk about his feelings so we end up nowhere. Humans are not mind-readers. Without communication there is no way to resolve problems and misunderstanding.

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OMG!!! thats my story with my ex cancer friend... she doesn't communicate... I've tried and tried but she avoids it... calling it drama, for me dusting things under the carpet is not solving problems, and talking about the problems with the objective to find a solution is not drama is working on solving them.... I guess moonchild as usual hitted the nail on the head... love her honest post that helps to understand a person who is a puzzle and acts like a child.

It's hard being a cancer, so hard, and nobody understands. :')

So basically it sounds like I'm dealing with an immature cancer or was at least. But maybe you can help me to shed some light on my situation. So we talked for a few weeks so we meet, yes we got intimate. After that we still talked and saw one another. He was very affectionate towards me. Then he became distant so I communicated to him like what's going on and he's like oh I'm sorry I'm not a good communicator, I'm not a phone person I'm a in person kinda guy and I'm open to whatever happens between us. After that he gets distant. So me being a Leo I refuse to text him myself. So that's where we are now. Is it safe to say that he's immature ?

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It's hard being a cancer, so hard, and nobody understands. :')

You think nobody understand but is not true

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So basically it sounds like I'm dealing with an immature cancer or was at least. But maybe you can help me to shed some light on my situation. So we talked for a few weeks so we meet, yes we got intimate. After that we still talked and saw one another. He was very affectionate towards me. Then he became distant so I communicated to him like what's going on and he's like oh I'm sorry I'm not a good communicator, I'm not a phone person I'm a in person kinda guy and I'm open to whatever happens between us. After that he gets distant. So me being a Leo I refuse to text him myself. So that's where we are now. Is it safe to say that he's immature ?

Yes.

This "ghosting" shit that people are doing these days is both immature and petty.

It sounds like he is ghosting you, and that is not only rude, but it is very pathetic too.

Women are constantly seeking men who will take charge and RESPOND to their communication attempts.

It sounds like this douchebag is a bad communicator, and if bad communication style is expected to lead to something fulfilling, then you have another thing coming.

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Agreed.
Move on from him, angel, while your heart is still intact. He is very much one of the immature Cancers.

Yeah, my last attempt I text him and said have a good day and no response so I'm done. It kind of sucks but hey lesson learned. Then another excuse of why we hadn't talked was he was working overtime. If I can make time then so can he, I work two jobs and made time. I sent him a farewell text for my closure, I just wish the circumstances were different.

...................................................................................................................well crap.

Well said wise Moonchild.....well said. I too was once an immature crab, until I analyzed the HELL OUT of my life and observed my actions, as well as those of other Cancers. I took a really deep look in the mirror and realized every flaw that exist in my terrible ocean of emotions. It took some serious soul searching to understand my being. But well worth it!!!!

I appreciate it, it means a lot. The show must go on lol. And it really is crazy because for a minute I was like well is it something I did or said but then I really thought about it and I was like no I was homest from the very beginning and open which is very rare for me to be as open but I did. I try not to be cold hearted due to one douche bag but I must admit it is difficult not to. this was my first time dating a cancer and I won't rule them out but my guard may be up if I ever meet another one. And if he comes back around that's a hell no lol.

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I appreciate it, it means a lot. The show must go on lol. And it really is crazy because for a minute I was like well is it something I did or said but then I really thought about it and I was like no I was homest from the very beginning and open which is very rare for me to be as open but I did. I try not to be cold hearted due to one douche bag but I must admit it is difficult not to. this was my first time dating a cancer and I won't rule them out but my guard may be up if I ever meet another one. And if he comes back around that's a hell no lol.

Truth be told, each and every sign can be "Crazy." We all just have our own unique way of showing it. So don't be discouraged. Any and everyone can be a nightmare to deal with, if that person is still immature in their sign.

I have known a few Cancers closely and they are all a nightmare. Cancers are weak and nasty. I'm done with the lot.

WOW! 🙂

And how does the mature cancers look like? Has anyone seen such (except for M00Nchild, of course)? Male or female ... Can you describe how the mature cancer acts?

One of my best friends is cancer, she is female and honestly, I have never seen her being immature. Honestly. Yes, she was acting strangely from time to time with men when we were 15-16 years old but yet ... She was always in long-term relationships and always protected by someone, very patient, calm, and in love with the guy.

People don't come here to seek help with and complain about mature Cancers. We're your dream come true. Hahaha

This is spot on!!!!!!!

Evidently there's something going on with the crab guys right now, based on all the threads by broken-hearted women. I'm commenting on this again because the newer people need to read it. I don't have the energy to provide anymore advice today.

Something is up because Saturn is acting up in everyone signs now

Thank you for sharing moonchild! This was very helpful 🙂

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Posted by MissGemmi
@Moonchild

What you're saying is so sad for the ones who meets them in their immature era. Because we see so much potential knowing that we won't be the ones to get showered with all that love and care that is in that wonderful 'immature' shell. It's frustrating, knowing that someone else in their more mature era will taste and enjoy all of the sweet honey goodness they have to offer. Because they will get passed it. And when they do they will dismiss you, because when they were with you, they were not there consciously (in their emotions) to ever consider you as a potential romantic partner. They will happily involve you in their life as a 'friend' nothing more and that sucks.
So when they are over it, they meet someone else to pour it all out and I'm already sooooo jealous of this person.

In this case I wish I had met my cancer 4 years later from now.

^^^^THIS SO HARD!

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I agree and disagree at the same time.

It is bittersweet.

But to me IME so long as you loved your Cancer to the fullest then you should have no regrets. To me, knowing I loved my Cancer to the best of my abilities and loving the deepest I ever loved. And that our love will continue to be a sweet memory to my dear Cancer in the future then I am more than happy and content with the love we shared.

*sight*

Thanks @moonchild for writing this... And to whom ever that revived this post.... Ive read this while ago.... But after all ive been through all this year...

Inmature cancers are like a cancer (illness) they get into you and they consume you little by little...

The words that have stroked me so hard from this post are
"There is no way to win with inmature cancer" for so long I fought agains the odds but in days when i get melancholic about my lost best friend.... Reality is there was no way to win with a person who doesnt want to be reasonable.

The end of the day we all make mistakes :-/ anyhow...

Posted by GreyWiz
no one has time for all this bullshit. the world is hard and unforgiving and when we come home we just want some warm cooked food and a bj. hell with everything else. we don't give a damn.

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WOW! 🙂

And how does the mature cancers look like? Has anyone seen such (except for M00Nchild, of course)? .

Ever see a Leprechaun riding on the back of a unicorn through the eye of a Category 5 Hurricane?

It's quite something to see, you know.

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So unless you are on some strong hallucinates, what you are saying is not only have you never seen a "Mature Cancer" but they do not exist. Awesome, thanks for your input..NOT!

wow Moonchild, so accurate and is my 61 YO man to a T!!! All the things you say is him!! He could be the poster child for immature Cancers!! In fact right now after 3 years of being on again off again., we are off and I think I know why but after he scolded me saying he was unfriending me on Facebook, something he has threatened but never did, went ahead and did so, including blocking me from FB and his phone and text, WHILE we were on the phone this past Friday having a fight. He actually read to me what he was doing on the FB blocking thing while I was in tears telling him not to. The reason? Not quite sure, we had been on the OFF again portion of our relationship for about 2 months, during this time he was ignoring me for the most part BUT reading and listening to every message I sent through messenger, in fact for 3 years whether he was speaking to me or not, he was reading my messages, came back to me after a long breakup about 8 months ago and was angry because when he came back i refused to start dating him until he could act as a friend to me first. A few weeks ago I went to a wedding with another man and I let him know it, he said nothing but started deleting comments on his FB posts that I made, nothing about our relationship but just regular comments like "OH i agree with the post", he does stuff like that because he knows it pushes my buttons! CHILDISH!!! I am not much better, when he ignores me I will say something to push his buttons and he will then break silence. Well Friday night he checked my messages and said nothing, they were loving sweet messages. After I saw he read them, I sent a voice message through messenger and he came on and went to listen, immediately after he heard it he came on and typed that he was unfriending me, this message he heard was me praising another man and saying how great he treats me. Now he made up a lie of why he was mad because he will never admit jealousy, and when he said he was unfriending I called and he answered and for an hour and a half he berated me as I cried and most of what he brought up was stuff about me and other men and then went on to block me on FB, and we hug up and he blocked everything. I have no way to get a hold of him short of going to his house 10 min away. However I did send a hand written letter professing my love because I do love him, but unless I do what he says when he says it, he gets a chip on his shoulder and goes silent. He says I reject him. Normally he will go silent but always read my messages, for 3 years he has read them, and let me tell ya I send him tons a day and they are long, but even when he dated others during the 3 years he never told me to stop and never ignored them. But now he has blocked it all. I am scared, but I am hoping because he seemed addicted to my messages, he will cool off and return. I am 54 years old, and I am sick of this but I have allowed it too.

My closure to Cancer males is that all of them are prone to all the shit written about them. They want to have just a short term romance with women without any commitment from their side. You should accept his "fragile " personalities which are all about their selfish sufferings they won't share with them. They come and go without any explanation. They treat you like a queen one moment and like complete stranger the other. However kind and generous you are with them - they will always hurt you with no contact or unexplicable childish stuff. When you finally decide to move on, they will be cherries on top all of the sudden again. However old they are, they will pull those trigers mentioned just to be sure you' re there for them, but no incestment as usual. If they settle down in life, this happens with those poor things who decided to humiliate their dignity and be a constant tissue for their cancer precious however they treat them. IM sorry, this is my shaped opinion on cancers based on two examples i had. Its like running a two- legged race with a one- legged person.

Posted by TaurusMarine
My closure to Cancer males is that all of them are prone to all the shit written about them. They want to have just a short term romance with women without any commitment from their side. You should accept his "fragile " personalities which are all about their selfish sufferings they won't share with them. They come and go without any explanation. They treat you like a queen one moment and like complete stranger the other. However kind and generous you are with them - they will always hurt you with no contact or unexplicable childish stuff. When you finally decide to move on, they will be cherries on top all of the sudden again. However old they are, they will pull those trigers mentioned just to be sure you' re there for them, but no incestment as usual. If they settle down in life, this happens with those poor things who decided to humiliate their dignity and be a constant tissue for their cancer precious however they treat them. IM sorry, this is my shaped opinion on cancers based on two examples i had. Its like running a two- legged race with a one- legged person.

This is so on point

This is what people should read when they wanna know about Cancers, especially the crab guys.

I agree with you on that, but I think the ex had to do something pretty horrible for that to happen that brings you to the point that you have to remove this person from your life because they're harming you. For example, I'm friends with all my exes except one: the one who completely emotionally traumatized me. Every Cancerian I've ever known, including myself, has gone back to an ex at least once.
We're kinda crazy, I think 😛

Apart from the comment of being alone scaring us, its never scared me and I love my own space, that is spot on!!