Ask a Cancer Male (Page 7)

@silentkiller if not is inappropriate to you about him, you need to set him straight. If you are over him, then you need to let him know its not kool for his kind of behavior or stop talking to him. But we Cancers can be krazy in a good way sometimes lol. But most of us are sweethearts, i can guarantee you that.

Cancers normally fall in love with someones personality 1st. After that, everything about that person becomes beautiful 🙂 @DMV an emotional person would never turn us off. Its actually a good thing in my eyes.

Posted by silentkiller
(and I am not asking, if you think, he is interested in me still. We talk about it being hard hanging out as just friends, and joke about it, and he asks me out of the blue, what I have missed about him, so I know, he still has some feelings for me. Which way they will go, time will tell. But I just think, it is so strange - it's like he as a seperate relationship with them, like askin abut my Family or something😄 ) Ha ha ha, sorry for being so lame. It's Friday and I'm waiting for it to be saturday, where the party will be ON!

He's just being friendly.
You all are not in a relationship anymore, but apparently he still wants to keep you in his circle.
Its not a bad thing.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Cancers normally fall in love with someones personality 1st. After that, everything about that person becomes beautiful 🙂 @DMV an emotional person would never turn us off. Its actually a good thing in my eyes.

I apologize to you if you felt I was ever rude 2 you. I mean that.

He definitely is a sweet, disciplined, stubborn, intelligent, witty individual. Very mums the word on his feelings but hes opening up alot.

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How do Cancers feel about emotional honesty? Do you guys crave? is superficiality lost on you?

i ask because my conversations with the Cancer are never superficial. I cant help but to just blow chunks of how he makes me feel. because I KNOW he feels the same way. hes just shy about opening up. So i just state what were both feeling. talking about the weather just seems like a waste of my time or asking him his favorite basketball team. Im not interested in that right now. interestingly enough, i spill the beans with my heart pounding in fear that it will run him off; too much too soon kinda stuff. Him being a scorp moon i think he appreciates it because he mirrors me not in words, but in actions; like tenfold.

all in all, does an emotional person scare you off? positive and negative emotions by the way.

Multiple questions in there, but I'll answer starting with the last one first.
Emotional people don't scare me off, as long as the display of emotions is both honest and appropriate in the context/situation they're expressed. When I say appropriate, contained in that description is that situations are always fluid-so someone constantly displaying one set of emotions all the time falls into the inappropriate/disingenuous category.

To your earlier questions, I prefer honesty in expression. I dont think your expression of how you feel will run him off as long as he doesn't feel pressured to immediately reciprocate at the same level. This is where Sag and Crab are weirdly similar in terms of being tied down/commitment-phobic.
As far as superficiality, I've known some fairly shallow Crabs, but I think the majority of us are fairly deep.

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I feel u with the commitment phobia shit.

I never want him to feel like his feelings are lost on me. I never want him to feel self doubt. I know what that feels like when someone you like creates self doubt inside of you to the point where it affects you emotionally. I never want him to guess where I stand.

@aquavita heyy it's ok, you are totally fine with me. You are always welcomed here. I wasn't mad at you in the 1st place lol. You are actually a very kool person. I have no issue with you. I love you sagittarius people anyways. You are very funny & nice to talk to. So no hard feelings ok 🙂

@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

@aquavita I'm glad i make you smile too 🙂. You'll get a lot of those on the Crab board lol

hi, i want to ask, when cancer man have breaking up, and he said, i dont accept u anymore. that's my final decision. wont be change at any other cost. is he really mean it? and he said dont make me crazy(just bcos i text him) or i will find another gf.

i am a sag girl, everytime cancer man needs space i ever give him. but im afraid he wont ever come back

i read that if u wanna going back with cancer man u should give him hints.

i did. usually 4 days then i text. but im afraid. the more i text, the more he ran away. i want to come to his workplace making him some meal. but afraid he just more sick of me.

i just try 2x to works things out by texting, i realise nothing change, though im glad he still reply me. should i just moving on.
he blocked me from everywhere, i dont know how to get him again.

everytime, i text i ever said, i respect your decision etc, but again i text for 2x. at the end, same thing, he just said delete my number. he just always get cold to me.
i decide just have faith what could be happen. i just love him so much more than myself. so feel fragile. miss him badly.

advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated. he is my first bf. i just dont wanna lose him easily. i always try my best to make this relation works long

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I feel u with the commitment phobia shit.

I never want him to feel like his feelings are lost on me. I never want him to feel self doubt. I know what that feels like when someone you like creates self doubt inside of you to the point where it affects you emotionally. I never want him to guess where I stand.

That's where I think the Sag-Cancer thing can work despite what all the cat lady sites say.
I know it seems a little unbalanced because Crabs tend to be a little circumspect on the expression of where they're at in terms of feelings, but they take a lot of comfort in knowing where they stand in someone else's eyes (keep in mind that Crabs will watch to see if actions match words).

Posted by sagirl
hi, i want to ask, when cancer man have breaking up, and he said, i dont accept u anymore. that's my final decision. wont be change at any other cost. is he really mean it? and he said dont make me crazy(just bcos i text him) or i will find another gf.

i am a sag girl, everytime cancer man needs space i ever give him. but im afraid he wont ever come back

i read that if u wanna going back with cancer man u should give him hints.

i did. usually 4 days then i text. but im afraid. the more i text, the more he ran away. i want to come to his workplace making him some meal. but afraid he just more sick of me.

i just try 2x to works things out by texting, i realise nothing change, though im glad he still reply me. should i just moving on.
he blocked me from everywhere, i dont know how to get him again.

everytime, i text i ever said, i respect your decision etc, but again i text for 2x. at the end, same thing, he just said delete my number. he just always get cold to me.
i decide just have faith what could be happen. i just love him so much more than myself. so feel fragile. miss him badly.

I'm not going to sugar coat it.
I would respect what he said in your first sentence.
By texting and chasing him, you're pushing him further away.
If he told you he told you he made his final decision, and is blocking you from contacting him, that's a pretty clear sign he's not wanting a relationship.

You should move on. I know it hurts, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

I agree with @CancerOnTheCusp. I actually said the same thing in rapunzel's thread here. I really don't he cares for you. Chasing him won't change his mind.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

If a man is talking in the forest, and no woman is there to hear him, is he still wrong?

Depends on who you're asking.
From the woman's POV, yes.
From the man's POV, he doesn't really care if the woman thinks he's right or wrong.

😄

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

cancer man and sagittarius woman are on the top three of real life marriage statistics. so i can see what they mean. Sagittarius woman can help make him be a little free, and Cancer man can give a place of home and tradition to wandering Sag woman.

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@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

cancer man and sagittarius woman are on the top three of real life marriage statistics. so i can see what they mean. Sagittarius woman can help make him be a little free, and Cancer man can give a place of home and tradition to wandering Sag woman.

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I find that stereotyped. Sag women I have known are far from wandering and are very grounded.

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@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

cancer man and sagittarius woman are on the top three of real life marriage statistics. so i can see what they mean. Sagittarius woman can help make him be a little free, and Cancer man can give a place of home and tradition to wandering Sag woman.

I find that stereotyped. Sag women I have known are far from wandering and are very grounded.

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I agree. I've said it before its one of the most underrated zodiac pairings.

I agree with all 3 of y'all. sagittarius can be a great asset & positive influence on a Cancer. especially since we can get quite sad or worried sometimes. sagittarius are very strong people but can be caring. Us Cancers can calm them & make them feel loved. So sagittarius are verry kool. Have any of you Cancer guys here met a sagittarius before? what was it like to be around them? I do know they are very funny

@aquavita aww Thanks A lot! 🙂. Well i try to be a gentleman, but it came after a lot of mistakes & learning. I awe it to my grandma & Mom for helping me be who i am. But i'm glad you feel that way about us Cancers. So it means a lot considering the amount heat we get on here lol. Thank you!

@Scruffy you are on point too. I actually have a sagittarius Mom. So they are actually very caring & nuturing despite what those weird astrologers says lol. Yes, sagittarius women are very uplifting. As you say, you won't be sad around them for long. We should definitely as of now, add them to Cancer compatibility list (Male & Female). I need to get me a sagittarius friend or gf one day haha

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@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

cancer man and sagittarius woman are on the top three of real life marriage statistics. so i can see what they mean. Sagittarius woman can help make him be a little free, and Cancer man can give a place of home and tradition to wandering Sag woman.

I find that stereotyped. Sag women I have known are far from wandering and are very grounded.

I agree. I've said it before its one of the most underrated zodiac pairings.

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I just met the wrong ones. Very needy and dramatic. All had venus in scorp... I run from that shit.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

I've been wondering...

What did Geronimo say when he jumped out of a plane?

Wait, this is a backpack, not a parachute!

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I feel u with the commitment phobia shit.

I never want him to feel like his feelings are lost on me. I never want him to feel self doubt. I know what that feels like when someone you like creates self doubt inside of you to the point where it affects you emotionally. I never want him to guess where I stand.

That's where I think the Sag-Cancer thing can work despite what all the cat lady sites say.
I know it seems a little unbalanced because Crabs tend to be a little circumspect on the expression of where they're at in terms of feelings, but they take a lot of comfort in knowing where they stand in someone else's eyes (keep in mind that Crabs will watch to see if actions match words).

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as a fellow scorp moon, I know he pays more attention than he , lets on. I treat him emotionally how I want to be treated. If I say boo boo imma hit u up when I get home, I do just that bec thats what I want. Follow through.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
I agree with all 3 of y'all. sagittarius can be a great asset & positive influence on a Cancer. especially since we can get quite sad or worried sometimes. sagittarius are very strong people but can be caring. Us Cancers can calm them & make them feel loved. So sagittarius are verry kool. Have any of you Cancer guys here met a sagittarius before? what was it like to be around them? I do know they are very funny

My Cancer cant stop laughing at whats comes out my phone. I say phone because we text, up to 50-70 times a day. Weve never talked on the phone yet. Hes waiting on me to call him n let him know its cool to do that. I think his venus is gemini and merc in gemini prefer texting to phone. My merc in scorp finds phone conversations exhausting.

but yes, are banter is pretty witty and fast.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

I've been wondering...

What did Geronimo say when he jumped out of a plane?

Good one

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@DMV Heyy no need to apologise. You was never rude to me or anyone else here. You just trying to understand us Cancers. I appreciate your kindness. & don't worry about your Cancer guy. It just takes him awhile to get comfortable with you. Let him know it's safe with you. Make him laugh ( You Sags are naturally funny ). Be direct & sincere. A Cancer needs a strong person like you. Apparently Cancers love sagittarius lol 😉. You are ok with me

cancer man and sagittarius woman are on the top three of real life marriage statistics. so i can see what they mean. Sagittarius woman can help make him be a little free, and Cancer man can give a place of home and tradition to wandering Sag woman.

I find that stereotyped. Sag women I have known are far from wandering and are very grounded.

I agree. I've said it before its one of the most underrated zodiac pairings.

I just met the wrong ones. Very needy and dramatic. All had venus in scorp... I run from that shit.

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lol see? you know that some stereotypes are too much. I know there are different types of Sagittarius women. My sis has got that ViS, she gets upset if she LOSES though; she has an strong need to "win" for some reason.

Well idk if i can do a text only relationship. If i'm with a lady, i would wanna hear their voice. A text only relationship is super boring & weird. I guess i'm traditional when it comes to conversation. I need to be able that persons presence. Also long distance relationships is pain too. I need to be close to my partner. I think long distance relationships are bad for Cancers. My worst times were those.

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@ CancerOTC

I've been wondering...

What did Geronimo say when he jumped out of a plane?

Wait, this is a backpack, not a parachute!

And also...

Did he make a splat sound or a thud when he hit the ground?

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More like a crunch...

@aquavita it's all good 🙂. You have always been sweet to me. I was only trying to help my fellow Crab Panda. He's probably busy with his own stuff. But he does try to answer all the questions. @Scruffy & @CC has been a great help here too. It's nice to have a Cancer woman's touch around here lol. If you ever wanna know anything about us Crabs lol, feel free to ask. Glad we could help you

@aquavita You can comment on things we do. But it's all in how you say things or put words out. Voice tone or communicating style . Basically keep our feelings in mind. Easy thing to do.

@aquavita theres nothing wrong with your Sag humor. Don't ever think that. I like your humor. You can always be yourself ok. I said those things above are for general things. No harm at all. Your welcomed here 🙂 *HUG*. As for Scruffy, idk. She seems nice so far that's why i thought she was kool here. It doesn't matter tho. @aquavita you never did anything wrong. I'm sorry you felt that way. But you're kool here

How come I have never managed to like Cancer males?

Posted by WolfMoon
How come I have never managed to like Cancer males?

Then sweetie you are missing out 😉

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How come I have never managed to like Cancer males?

Then sweetie you are missing out 😉

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I would honestly give them kudos if I could but In my 30 + years on this planet I can safely say I have yet to meet ONE nice Cancer male.

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How come I have never managed to like Cancer males?

Would be interesting to have you elaborate on that, just out of curiosity.

Why all the hate toward Scruffy?

Umm idk lol. I haven't been here enough to know that answer @ScorpioFish. Maybe she said something or someone started stuff with her. She's always been kool to me. But hey, not everyone will like you around here. She's always been nice, especially in this thread

Posted by ScorpioFish
Why all the hate toward Scruffy?

I can't see it, so it must be coming from a certain individual I have blocked.
There is no explanation, I wouldn't even bother to figure it out.

COTC is right... scorpfish... cc thinks scruffy is trolling her... or something derivative of that bs, and what cc doesn't like her gaggle of devoted fans follow...lol or thats what it seems like to me. CC started hating Scruffy and then suddenly you get all these other girls hating on her too, whether it's CC fault or not I don't know I think her dislike for Scruffy open a flood gate for others girls who think they can do the same too... who knows really *rolls eyes*. I happen to like Scruffy and CC so don't make me choose 😛.

We have our first date tomorrow. Im giddy as a school girl

@DMV Wow that's great! 🙂. I hope it turns out great. With a Cancer, it's bound to be fun & romantic

Posted by DMV
We have our first date tomorrow. Im giddy as a school girl

Congrats.
Be interesting from a Sag lady pov how their first experience with cancer guy goes.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

This has been bothering me...

Why are there flotation devices under plane seats instead of parachutes?

Because a parachute under the seat wouldn't deploy properly while you're free falling.

I cooked for him. Never an awkward moment. Deep conversation, witty, laughter. I felt comfortable. We cuddled afterwards. I had a blanket, but he hid it so he could keep me warm and not the blanket. He was the perfect gentleman. I love his memory.

@DMV wow im glad everything worked out 🙂. You definitely doing the right things get you a Crab lol. Cooking us food & being sweet will get you verry far. Expect him to do the same next. We always give back as much as we receive. If a Cancer Man cares about you, we won't forget your favorite things, or food. So don't be surprised if he does all the things you like. I'm proud of you

@DMV By what i'm reading, your Crab is very into you. Looks like you found your perfect fit

Scruffy!

DMV-Well done!
Glad it went well for ya 🙂

thanks guys. he growing on me like mold.

He actually brought up the lack of phone calls. and said that he just prefers to text over calling. I feel the same way. I always am looking for something to say on the phone.