Ask a Cancer Male (Page 6)

Is that where they get the term star crossed lovers from? They are doomed and fated never to be?

Or is it more astrology based.

Do you know?

Posted by xtina
Is that where they get the term star crossed lovers from? They are doomed and fated never to be?

Or is it more astrology based.

Do you know?

That I don't know.

@xtina I think Cancer and Aries can work if you two want it too. Always be mindful of his feelings. Be sincere and direct. As long as you good to him, he'll be good to you. Don't let astrology determine how your relationship is going be.If you are happy, don't let anything online ruin that ok 🙂

Posted by blisss
My question to sum it up short is after a break up...that Cancer man kept coming back into my life. Each time it would end badly with a dispute but he kept coming back. Each time had a span of 2/3yrs in-between. The first two outcomes were bad and then he tried a 3rd time! I was young and kept giving him the benefit of the doubt. Like "Maybe we can be friends..." yeah no it could never happen. He would be incredibly rude so my question is why bother coming around again? What the heck did he want? I really regret not asking him this question back then.

I take it you finally ended it, firm and with closure.
After 3 times I think its enough.

He may have had feelings for you he couldn't shake. That not a sign you should give him another chance.
The fact that it always ended badly indicates either a basic incompatibility between you and him, or (speaking about him based on what you have said) the guy may not have been able to handle a relationship once he was in it.

No sense in mulling over it, drop him and move on.

Or, maybe his "tastes" have changed....

What makes a Cancer jealous over a significant other? Does this sign even get jealous? I know Scorpio does. But does Cancer at all? Male and female Cancers please 🙂

I know I do in the very early stages when I am uncertain he is into me.
Once I know he wants me and we move forward trying to get to know each other I calm down.

@Xin i agree with LunarMaiden, im very uncertain in the beginning as well. I know loving & caring i can be. I always hope that i'm good enough for that person. Or if my love is strong enough to keep them. I only get jealous if i see my partner all up in dudes faces i don't know. If you make a Cancer jealous, you'll only push them away. At least that's how it is with me. Never flirt with anyone in front of your Cancer or behind their back. It hurts a lot. Plus why would you wanna hurt such a beautiful soul anyway

@Xin Once i know my partner is 100% emotionally invested in me, & i feel comfortable around them; i'm happy as a bird or Crab lol

Posted by Xin
What makes a Cancer jealous over a significant other? Does this sign even get jealous? I know Scorpio does. But does Cancer at all? Male and female Cancers please 🙂

Super jealous! But it also depends on a lot of things as to how we might handle that.

How well do you Cancers handle the "silent" treatment? I know for us Gemini's it's agony.

@Xin definitely don't handle silent treatment well lol. It makes me miss a person a lot or think that i actually have lost them. It's a bad feeling 😢

Posted by Xin
How well do you Cancers handle the "silent" treatment? I know for us Gemini's it's agony.

I handle it very well because I do understand the ins and outs of it, as it's a Cancer weapon, too. It doesn't bother me at all and I'll just wait it out.

Posted by Xin
What makes a Cancer jealous over a significant other? Does this sign even get jealous? I know Scorpio does. But does Cancer at all? Male and female Cancers please 🙂

I used to, similar to Lunar Maiden.
But not so much anymore. And if the SO is doing things like flirting especially in front of me, its not jealousy I feel, but disappointment. Said person probably would not be an SO for much longer (I've had the good fortune NOT to have that happen).

Posted by Xin
How well do you Cancers handle the "silent" treatment? I know for us Gemini's it's agony.

That's one war you won't win with me.

@CancerOnTheCusp wow i liked how you put that. I do think disappointment is the best word to use. I like your answers

Posted by CluelessCancer
This thread is killing me. Xin wtf is wrong with you. Remember you don't like cancers.


Sigh

Just trying to understand.

nothing wrong with that. Just don't use it against us. You're just trying learn how we operate. But it takes time for all that.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

Ever stop to think and forget to start again?

Frequently. Especially if I haven't had my morning coffee.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

This question has been plaguing me all day...

If one synchronized swimmer drowns, do the rest of them have to drown too?

Yes. They all function as one unit, so if one goes down they all go down....but at least they do it with style .

Posted by Scruffy
And one more...

How do you pre-heat an oven if turning it on just heats it?

A shot of whiskey or brandy with a little foreplay usually does the preheating because sometimes you just can't "turn on" an oven....
Oh wait, I don't think that's what you were asking about....

Posted by woodenmeow
My cancer guy says he misses me but I have not seen him in three weeks. (we have been seeing each other 6months)Three weeks ago he said we are in a slow moving relationship, and did not want me to date other guys.
But he makes time for fishing, and meeting friends for drinks?
Very confused.
Can you make any sense of it.?

This is the scene where you delete his number, and go out with your girlfriends this weekend and get some new phone numbers from decent men.

Yeah, you read that right.

DECENT MEN.

Not idiots, jerks, fools, imbeciles, chumps, kids, wimps, assholes or other losers.

DECENT MEN.

Posted by Scruffy
Oooooh you can tell it you molest your pet panda or some shit. She'll even take screen shots of it and everything.

Gotta love teh internetz dramaz 😄

Not sure which thread it is.

Posted by Scruffy
"Blah blah ANYONE HERE blah blah truth/reality" post on the Scorpio board.

Nah. Bad fishing there.

Posted by aquavita

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Scruffy
"Blah blah ANYONE HERE blah blah truth/reality" post on the Scorpio board.

Nah. Bad fishing there.

CAncer male, Question>: Are you in a relationship?

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Casual or exclusive?

Posted by aquavita
Both. Or either. Thanks,

Several casual relationships at the moment.

Posted by Scruffy
I've been wondering...

Who was the genius who knew that he could get away with marketing bottled tapwater to suckers for $ 3 a pop?

Probably the same guy who started throwing mud on people's windshields in NYC and then offered to wash it off for $ 5

Once a Cancer man has been told by you several times to not contact you AND agrees to not contact, why does he continue to contact? Especially after he initiated the end of the relationship? Several weeks will go by then he sends that text out of the blue. Why not just let go and move on?

I've had a hard time getting over this guy. He keeps contacting, which opens the wound for me. Yes, I want to be with him but he's said he can't date me any longer. I tell him to not contact me, he agrees, then pops back up.

Posted by MissLibra
Once a Cancer man has been told by you several times to not contact you AND agrees to not contact, why does he continue to contact? Especially after he initiated the end of the relationship? Several weeks will go by then he sends that text out of the blue. Why not just let go and move on?

I've had a hard time getting over this guy. He keeps contacting, which opens the wound for me. Yes, I want to be with him but he's said he can't date me any longer. I tell him to not contact me, he agrees, then pops back up.

You need to make a clean break.
No contact. Don't respond to his texts.
Block his number if you can.
I'm almost suspecting he ended it to play the field and still sending feelers (don't know this for certain).
You need to close that door and move on if he won't.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

What about the pigeon poop that's indigenous to NYC car windshields?

Its a feature if you know what to do with it.
For instance, scraped off and remixed with the proper amount of water, it can be spread on the inside of a doorknob of someone you don't really care for and provide a Hallmark moment. 😄

@MissLibra your answer is simple, don't respond. If you keep responding, it'll only enable his behavior. This is the first the step to getting over him. So it's up to you

What kind of music genre are you listening to, mostly?

Posted by aquaglass
What kind of music genre are you listening to, mostly?

Classical, blues, and industrial

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

I can't sleep until I know....

How does one "draw a blank"?

Take a ream of printer paper, fan it out on a counter, close your eyes, and pick one.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

And one more...

How come there aren't any pigeons in Seattle?

Someone is eating them.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@MissLibra your answer is simple, don't respond. If you keep responding, it'll only enable his behavior. This is the first the step to getting over him. So it's up to you

I thought I had answered that ..

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@MissLibra your answer is simple, don't respond. If you keep responding, it'll only enable his behavior. This is the first the step to getting over him. So it's up to you

I thought I had answered that ..

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You did. I agree with your advice. Thank you for your honesty. 🙂

@CancerOnTheCusp sorry about the confusion. I think we answered a lot of the same questions here lol. Maybe copy & paste would make it easier to get through this Q & A

As a Cancer male, how would you respond to this?

You meet what you think is a great girl who goes to church and has a solid job. You spend a good deal of time together, often kissing and holding hands while getting to know each other. She then suddenly tries to make a pass at your friend. Other than walking away forever, what else would you do?

Well i mean i put her in her place, & get rid of both of them. If she has to talk to another guy, let along my friend, then obviously i don't mean nothing to her. If someone values you, there is no 2nd option. That person is all you want.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@CancerOnTheCusp sorry about the confusion. I think we answered a lot of the same questions here lol. Maybe copy & paste would make it easier to get through this Q & A

Glad its confusion, because I was getting this weird idea you were working an angle.

Posted by Scruffy
@ CancerOTC

I have one more...

Is a fly without wings called a walk?

Why yes, yes it is...

@CancerOnTheCusp no, I was truly trying to help you out here. But I come in peace. Since I felt it's better than one Crab doing all the work

If you were trying to get get your girl friend back from a two year relationship with a 3 month break how would you go about it??_. and would you be persistent as you broke you up with the girl as you wanted some time to your self?

Posted by jaxz
If you were trying to get get your girl friend back from a two year relationship with a 3 month break how would you go about it??_. and would you be persistent as you broke you up with the girl as you wanted some time to your self?

I saw that this question was asked in another forum as well.

This sounds very similar to another thread. Are you that Libra who met your man working on a cruise ship?

How do Cancers feel about emotional honesty? Do you guys crave? is superficiality lost on you?

i ask because my conversations with the Cancer are never superficial. I cant help but to just blow chunks of how he makes me feel. because I KNOW he feels the same way. hes just shy about opening up. So i just state what were both feeling. talking about the weather just seems like a waste of my time or asking him his favorite basketball team. Im not interested in that right now. interestingly enough, i spill the beans with my heart pounding in fear that it will run him off; too much too soon kinda stuff. Him being a scorp moon i think he appreciates it because he mirrors me not in words, but in actions; like tenfold.

all in all, does an emotional person scare you off? positive and negative emotions by the way.

Posted by DMV
How do Cancers feel about emotional honesty? Do you guys crave? is superficiality lost on you?

i ask because my conversations with the Cancer are never superficial. I cant help but to just blow chunks of how he makes me feel. because I KNOW he feels the same way. hes just shy about opening up. So i just state what were both feeling. talking about the weather just seems like a waste of my time or asking him his favorite basketball team. Im not interested in that right now. interestingly enough, i spill the beans with my heart pounding in fear that it will run him off; too much too soon kinda stuff. Him being a scorp moon i think he appreciates it because he mirrors me not in words, but in actions; like tenfold.

all in all, does an emotional person scare you off? positive and negative emotions by the way.

Multiple questions in there, but I'll answer starting with the last one first.
Emotional people don't scare me off, as long as the display of emotions is both honest and appropriate in the context/situation they're expressed. When I say appropriate, contained in that description is that situations are always fluid-so someone constantly displaying one set of emotions all the time falls into the inappropriate/disingenuous category.

To your earlier questions, I prefer honesty in expression. I dont think your expression of how you feel will run him off as long as he doesn't feel pressured to immediately reciprocate at the same level. This is where Sag and Crab are weirdly similar in terms of being tied down/commitment-phobic.
As far as superficiality, I've known some fairly shallow Crabs, but I think the majority of us are fairly deep.

lol @ boobs. I made sure that the Cancer has a great look at my cleavage in my FB profile pic. gives him something to fantasize about.

@DMV emotional honesty?? lol. im not sure i heard that before. But yes, we do love that you are always honest and sincere to us. If we not talking to much, its because we aren't comfortable around you. So you gotta make us feel safe by asing about our life and making us laugh. So give that guy some time ok.

@aquavita you need calm down on the questions lol. I think that's why too much at once. You dont wanna scare anyone off now. But yes We Cancer Men like big breasts. They don't have to be super huge you know. But its one of the best ways to lure a Crab besides food lol. But yeah im a Breast man, there's nothing wrong with that. But Cancers aren't superficial at all like the other signs when it comes to women. Just be classy, and sweet to us