Before You Come Crying...

We care. We really do. Probably too much. There's been joke threads about people asking for help and here we come running! We want to help. No problem.
But before you come crying about what your crab did and didn't do, how they iced out of "nowhere" or how to win him/her back, please take care of some basics. Or at least come clean about how you fucked 'em up. If you do that we won't have to spend two months trying to get to the root of the problem!

When I say basics I mean stuff like, you know, hmm....

DELETING YOUR EX OFF YOUR FUCKING FACEBOOK PAGE AND ALLL THE PICTURES OF YOU KISSING, VACATIONING, DINING ETC.

And really if you take care of that shit before hand, half of you wouldn't have the problems you're having. Just saying...

Not naming names. You know who you are.

Flooding my inbox with that bullshit...

lol yeah well if she's pissed about it and you KNOW she's a pissed about it, don't cry to the rest of the crab population that she left you and you don't know why.
are any other such bullshit.

Lol! Tell em Kim. The same happens to me too in my inbox. I don't mind helping, but sometimes it can be too much. I think we should stay away from the relationship threads for awhile. All that drama isn't good for us Crabs. Im proud of you for speaking up 🙂. Its ok to let it out.

lol I'm not trying to make anybody feel bad.
Its just the lack of common sense is getting to me.
Crabs have reps for being jealous and possessive. True or not. Sooo...why on earth would anyone friend their new crab knowing the first thing she will see is a pic of you literally making out with, wining and dining your ex?
Who does that?
Then she asks you to take that shit down and you don't.
Wtf did you think was gonna happen? Really. I mean, really.

Now you're crying.

If its so damn important for you to be friends on Facebook with her and have pics up of her that you would choose that over your crabs feelings? Then leave crab alone. Go be with the ex!!!

I don't know about the rest of you, but my ass is at least 6 feet long. It's the only way my giant overly inflated head can fit up it.

Gah! I can't stand references to exes...I will focus on that shit with a jealous eye until I bail.

Can't reason with it.

Yeah, Ms. Fisk. Stupid me, right?

*sighs*
Its hard thinking back on all those weeks, actually months, of consoling I put out only to find the knucklehead was holding on to this small bit of info.

Had it been the first thing said, we could've solved the disappearing crab act confusion on day one!

Makes me wanna cuss.

Rabbit, you can't bullshit us. WE KNOW YOU KNOW! 😄

But Kim does have a good point with this thread. People who be asking for help, do be leaving out very important information. Or if you do help them, they come back asking for the same advice again lol. That's why the relationship forum is best. Or a counselor. Better friends & family can help too with these people

Ohh by the way, Kim thanks for adding me to your favourites. I replied to what you said about my grandma. I really appreciate that 🙂. You are a perfect example of a Good Cancer Woman

I know I could give sound relationship advice.... but my PM's are either questions about makeup, hair, how to get money from guys (yes... chicks really ask me this questions lmao - I was shocked the first time it happened) or it's just a PM complimenting me on my looks.

But I love to help people too ! Sometimes it seems easier for people to get advice from someone they don't know versus friends/family. It's weird, I know.

All the Cancers on the board keep it 100, so I have no problems with the Cancers... I've noticed that sometimes It's the Virgos, Scorps who are critical, negative, and hateful for no reason.

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Posted by kim30
Rabbit, you can't bullshit us. WE KNOW YOU KNOW! 😄

I have no clue.

I'm really just a cranky Libra.

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that's what I like to think about another scorp.

Posted by kim30
lol I'm not trying to make anybody feel bad.
Its just the lack of common sense is getting to me.
Crabs have reps for being jealous and possessive. True or not. Sooo...why on earth would anyone friend their new crab knowing the first thing she will see is a pic of you literally making out with, wining and dining your ex?
Who does that?
Then she asks you to take that shit down and you don't.
Wtf did you think was gonna happen? Really. I mean, really.

Now you're crying.

If its so damn important for you to be friends on Facebook with her and have pics up of her that you would choose that over your crabs feelings? Then leave crab alone. Go be with the ex!!!

Amen!!! My moon in Scorpio and Venus in Cancer is saying BRAVO!! Tell em.. 🙂

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Ohh by the way, Kim thanks for adding me to your favourites. I replied to what you said about my grandma. I really appreciate that 🙂. You are a perfect example of a Good Cancer Woman

Hi-5!

@prettyqueenbee thanks, dear! We love you too

@QueenBee its all good 🙂. Im glad I was able to help you yesterday. I help people who I feel genuinely need some kind words. Sometimes one kind word can brighten someones day. But I definitely can spot BS. You have to beware of those who are desperate for attention. They disgust me lol. So Thanks, I like Capricorn women too

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Posted by kim30
lol I'm not trying to make anybody feel bad.
Its just the lack of common sense is getting to me.
Crabs have reps for being jealous and possessive. True or not. Sooo...why on earth would anyone friend their new crab knowing the first thing she will see is a pic of you literally making out with, wining and dining your ex?
Who does that?
Then she asks you to take that shit down and you don't.
Wtf did you think was gonna happen? Really. I mean, really.

Now you're crying.

If its so damn important for you to be friends on Facebook with her and have pics up of her that you would choose that over your crabs feelings? Then leave crab alone. Go be with the ex!!!

Amen!!! My moon in Scorpio and Venus in Cancer is saying BRAVO!! Tell em.. 🙂

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*curtsy* thank you very much

Hi-5! Back to you Kim30. Thanks

I try to be good person. *sighs*

You are a good person Kim. Now don't go running into your shell lol. I know you mean well.

Posted by Arielle83
Would you flip out and be all insecure if they had a photo album with actual pictures, from back in the day, and their exes were in them? Or is it only facebook that makes you pissed because the rest of the world can see what talent came before you?

huh? Who ARE you talking to? Way of course. Just off the track altogether.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
You are a good person Kim. Now don't go running into your shell lol. I know you mean well.

you crack me up! now how did you know i was headed for it? lol

Nevermind. I get it now.

@Arielle out of curiosity, do you and your man have old photos of past loves in albums or on Facebook?

A crab and a scorp? I can't imagine that shit would go down in your house.

Because I could tell that's where by when you put *Sighs*. I just knew Kim. Also, you forget that im a Cancer too lol. It might be the intuition thing we Crabs have too. Im not gon let youffeel bad about yourself. You wouldn't let me either. We Cancers stick together. I know we like our Shell a lot too lol

Posted by Arielle83
No to the original statement...I'm just asking hypothetically...

And yes we both have actual pictures...I have some of an Australian ex on fb, but my husband doesn't have fb.

I don't kno I don't really care to be honest...I find it interesting to know who he cared about in the past.

eh, I guess it makes a difference with the age of relationship, passion, etc.
Were these intimate pictures? Me, personally, there's a line. I don't need to see my man with his tongue in another woman's mouth.
I have built up a tolerance for the rest because I dated a man with children. With that came pictures of his ex for the children's sake. Without that experience, I'm not sure how I'd react if I were this crab.

Also Shell time can be a lil too comfortable haha. I hid in mines for a week or soo to kinda refresh & calm myself. We shouldn't go to our shell because of evil azz people. By the way, Ariel means well. You gotta admire her strength. You have it too Kim. #CancerPower 🙂

@Kim30 hopefully I didn't scare you by knowing you was heading into your shell?

Oh no, Arielle is totally cool. It took me a minute to realize she was on a hypothetical.

LOL no you didn't scare me! Ha! Crab humor

Lol ok Kool! Glad I was able to put a smile on your face. Crabs can be funny without trying. You have a Bless Day Crab goddess lol

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Posted by kim30

Posted by Arielle83
No to the original statement...I'm just asking hypothetically...

And yes we both have actual pictures...I have some of an Australian ex on fb, but my husband doesn't have fb.

I don't kno I don't really care to be honest...I find it interesting to know who he cared about in the past.

eh, I guess it makes a difference with the age of relationship, passion, etc.
Were these intimate pictures? Me, personally, there's a line. I don't need to see my man with his tongue in another woman's mouth.
I have built up a tolerance for the rest because I dated a man with children. With that came pictures of his ex for the children's sake. Without that experience, I'm not sure how I'd react if I were this crab.

UMMM ya tongue or naked pics, that would be a bit much I think. Most people get rid of those highly sexualized pics after breakups i find...i know i do...but the other types of pics where they are just looking happy together and stuff i dont care...

Ya he wanted me to get rid of my exes pics but i said no, it was a part of my life, good or bad and i want to remember it for what it was and learn from it..

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I agree completely. I still have pics of my ex with the kids. He was a part of my life, we did have some fun times and good memories together. Unfortunately there was more wrong than there was good, so that's why he's an ex. If we didn't have kids together I'd be more inclined to ditch the pics, though.

Yep you gotta accept that if you dating someone with kids. But if I was dating a lady with children, i wouldn't want a picture of her baby dady by himself in our house lol. She could get solo pictures instead. But its no big deal as long as its about the kids & nothing else. I would date someone woth kids. Just the baby dady shouldn't know nothing about our relationship & what goes on in it. He gotta know his place.

But really its up to the woman as well to have respect for her relationship. Also to keep her baby daddy in line. Because that kinda drama is childish & unnecessary. So you gotta take thegood with the bad in those situations.

Thumbs up!!

Posted by That1Girl
Thumbs up!!

where the hell have you been, missy?

Good seeing you back @That1Girl. I knew we were missing a Crab lol. Hope all is well with you 🙂

I've had a crazy 6 weeks. I finally got my BA degree and I am prepping for the MA program that starts in June. Plus I had to ditch the cancer man, and out of all crazy things in life I find myself going out with an Aries and loving it!

Posted by deepseagiant
Facebook = relationship killer.

If Facebook hasn't fucked things up for you yet, it will!

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood Pisces.

No offense but that is ridiculous. If you are an adult who acts like one , with a partner who is also an adult, Facebook shouldn't ever fuck up shit in your relationship.

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Being facetious, relax.

Hard to tell be text sometimes, but good to know

That's great things going good for you @That1Girl. Im happy for you 🙂. Cancers be on it! Lol. Keep up the good work you smart Crab

Posted by deepseagiant
Facebook = relationship killer.

If Facebook hasn't fucked things up for you yet, it will!

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood Pisces.

I don't know DSG. I think it might have saved your life...

Thanks BlackIndian!

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by Rabbit
Jesus H Fuck....

I'm guessing none of you get even half as many PMs as I do...

Everyone seems to think I know WTF their Scorpio man is thinking.

How the fuck should I know?

OMG yes!

Do they do this even though they have never posted on the boards before? Not even an introduction post, just ghost reading.. create account.. PM about Scorpio man.

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Wow, you guys have gotten PM's like that? Impressive.

Posted by kim30
We care. We really do. Probably too much. There's been joke threads about people asking for help and here we come running! We want to help. No problem.
But before you come crying about what your crab did and didn't do, how they iced out of "nowhere" or how to win him/her back, please take care of some basics. Or at least come clean about how you fucked 'em up.

This is total malarchy.

There are some GREAT CRABS out there that are receptive to good men, and there are some AWFUL CRABS out there who play games and cause trouble for everyone.

No way are ALL CRABS ever on the same page about their responses to good men, and you know better than to assume that good people should be discarded like trash by your infamous Camp 2 Cancer brothers and sisters.

Can you please put the C2C's on a desert island so they can stop giving you a bad name?

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Posted by kim30
We care. We really do. Probably too much. There's been joke threads about people asking for help and here we come running! We want to help. No problem.
But before you come crying about what your crab did and didn't do, how they iced out of "nowhere" or how to win him/her back, please take care of some basics. Or at least come clean about how you fucked 'em up.

This is total malarchy.

There are some GREAT CRABS out there that are receptive to good men, and there are some AWFUL CRABS out there who play games and cause trouble for everyone.

No way are ALL CRABS ever on the same page about their responses to good men, and you know better than to assume that good people should be discarded like trash by your infamous Camp 2 Cancer brothers and sisters.

Can you please put the C2C's on a desert island so they can stop giving you a bad name?

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*sigh*
Except the crab that inspired this thread is a decent crab. The Pisces fool sending the PM fucked up by not following a fairly reasonable request. So she left his ass.
Good for her. Cooking, cleaning, working, doting on his friends and family as if they were her own, basically spending her days and nights being the perfect girlfriend. Wife material.

She sucked the man's dick for crying out loud.

Why is she anything but a camp 1?
BC she stood up for herself?
I couldn't respect her had she stayed with him. I'm glad she iced his ass.
If I'm a good woman to my man and he can't honor a simple request of removing his EXGIRLFRIEND from his FB then he doesn't deserve me.

...this one too.