Cancerian87
@Cancerian87
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Can someone help me figure out a Cancer man?
I would stop texting him for now. He could feel a little overwhelmed. you sound like you're ready to dive right in and he sounds like he wants to take things real slow and casual.
if you hear nothing in a week just ask if he wants to catch up?
if you hear nothing in a week just ask if he wants to catch up?
I figured the same. I don't mind taking it slow but I'm scared that he may be just keeping my around. He actually texted me today saying he's had a busy week and asking what I'm upto. I don't know how to respond anymore. To be nice or cold.
My guess is he likes you, but go slowly and take it casually and dont initiate much. Aqua moon in men is not my favourite placement, detached and can be cold/cruel. Need to be friends first.
Posted by Cancerian87be detached and keep things light
I figured the same. I don't mind taking it slow but I'm scared that he may be just keeping my around. He actually texted me today saying he's had a busy week and asking what I'm upto. I don't know how to respond anymore. To be nice or cold.
that's how you will survive this interaction
Agreed with everyone here... no expectations... he is distancing because since you guys slept together he now feels obligated to you and that's making him panic. Just chill out and be a friend... no more sexy time until he's ready to take it to the next level ?
Thank you all for your responses 🙂 I only initiated the first time. Since then it's just been him responding. I don't mind "no sexy time" and taking it slow. But jeez, this is at a glacial pace lol. We only text and that too he takes hours/day or two to respond. He texted me 2 days late and apologized saying he had a busy week. Asked me what I was doing this weekend, I told him and he disappeared again ugh! Makes me feel like he's not interested or just keeping me around. Sometimes I feel like just asking him what are his intentions but scared it will make him run.
Posted by Cancerian87Do you text him right away all the time?
Thank you all for your responses 🙂 I only initiated the first time. Since then it's just been him responding. I don't mind "no sexy time" and taking it slow. But jeez, this is at a glacial pace lol. We only text and that too he takes hours/day or two to respond. He texted me 2 days late and apologized saying he had a busy week. Asked me what I was doing this weekend, I told him and he disappeared again ugh! Makes me feel like he's not interested or just keeping me around. Sometimes I feel like just asking him what are his intentions but scared it will make him run.
No, i usually wait 2-3 hours. Sometimes longer if I'm at work.
I mean sometimes I respond a little guarded because I'm upset he takes that long to text. That's when he texts more. But then when I am more open he goes back to ignoring.
Posted by Cancerian87Yes... the crab dance ahhh... you need to break through the barriers and just wait out the crab dance
I mean sometimes I respond a little guarded because I'm upset he takes that long to text. That's when he texts more. But then when I am more open he goes back to ignoring.
Any advice on how to break through the barriers? I mean if we never meet up or have a real conversation, how can I really gain his trust on few texts a week? This is all so confusing lol
Posted by Cancerian87Are you being sarcastic?
Any advice on how to break through the barriers? I mean if we never meet up or have a real conversation, how can I really gain his trust on few texts a week? This is all so confusing lol
No, I'm genuinely asking.
Posted by Cancerian87You don't meet up or have real conversations...
No, I'm genuinely asking.
Yea, what I'm trying to say is.. if we barely text and he doesn't ask me out, how can I gain his trust? Should I just be friendly and respond when he techs even when he ignores me for hours? Should I tell him if bothers me when he reaches out and then ignores?
Posted by Cancerian87How do you gain trust from someone you barely know? You have to spend quality time with them, understand their needs and be there for them. Don't wait for him, say you want to hang out with him you will have to be brave ?
Yea, what I'm trying to say is.. if we barely text and he doesn't ask me out, how can I gain his trust? Should I just be friendly and respond when he techs even when he ignores me for hours? Should I tell him if bothers me when he reaches out and then ignores?
I took your advice Moonbutter, so freaked out now! Being a cancer myself I never make the first move lol I guess it's just a waiting game now. He's either into me or he isn't.
Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeThanks for all your advice, I will take it. But you don't have to be so rude. I'm obviously here because I don't know how to react.Posted by Cancerian87Be nice idiot
I figured the same. I don't mind taking it slow but I'm scared that he may be just keeping my around. He actually texted me today saying he's had a busy week and asking what I'm upto. I don't know how to respond anymore. To be nice or cold.click to expand
Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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Posted by Cancerian87Good for you! I get it... I went through that as well with a guy who has cancer Venus soo he did the crab dance... fingers crossed ?
I took your advice Moonbutter, so freaked out now! Being a cancer myself I never make the first move lol I guess it's just a waiting game now. He's either into me or he isn't.
Posted by Cancerian87Awesome girl! What did you say to him? Let us know as soon he responds ?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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Posted by MoonbutterI told him I had a really nice time on our date and would love to get to know him more and asked when he's free to meet. Eeekkkk!!!!Posted by Cancerian87Awesome girl! What did you say to him? Let us know as soon he responds ?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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Posted by Cancerian87?Posted by MoonbutterI told him I had a really nice time on our date and would love to get to know him more and asked when he's free to meet. Eeekkkk!!!!Posted by Cancerian87Awesome girl! What did you say to him? Let us know as soon he responds ?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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Try giving him an idea of what you want to do... like soo.. I was thinking we could grab dinner and a movie or see if he wants to go to a festival with you... or picnic.. you get the idea lol
Posted by WaterDevilOMG I'm a cancer too and that's exactly How I think. Scared he won't reciprocate now that we have been intimate. I usually hold off for a long time so I don't get my feeling hurt but I felt such a connect with him I just went for it. From earlier part I didn't have doubts about him being interested, but now I do because he's distant. I waited a week for him to get in touch with me after our date. He didn't So I texted him. Since then he responds but ever so lightly. Then when I feel like he's just not interested I stop responding as much and he talks more and then goes back in his shell again. Its so hard to decipher his thoughts. Though Ive been burnt in the past so i always think a guy will use me and leave me. I can never tell...Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
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But I texted him today and said I had a great time with him and would like to get to know him more and asked when he's available. No response.. I wouldn't call him because after we were figuring out plans I called him and he said no one calls him except his family. I asked him it bothered him and he said no it's a compliment that I'm old fashioned. But I don't know if he meant that so did not want to call lol Also if he didn't pick up I'd be really hurt and my mind would run god knows where lol
Posted by Cancerian87I am genuinely telling you he is not interested. He finds you attractive and pleasant company. But he is not going to fall in love with you. TRUST me.
No, I'm genuinely asking.
Posted by MoonbutterWell I don't know anymore.. he read my message within minutes but didn't respond. Maybe I was just a one night thing go him 😢
Try giving him an idea of what you want to do... like soo.. I was thinking we could grab dinner and a movie or see if he wants to go to a festival with you... or picnic.. you get the idea lol
Posted by Cancerian87I think I'm missing something here. Did you ask him out or not?. So listen. Imma let you in on a little secret real quick. Because it may help you. Iv gone through a year of extreme self reflection. Half of which includes my dating life. I started out heart on sleeve open. Knowing those consequences. To the complete extreme opposite of playing games which in turn... you guessed it.. also didn't pan out so well. HOWEVER. Through my drastic change from played to player.. to now indifferent. I can tell you that Iv learned a lot about psychology and specifically on the realm of astrology. And how everything is relative. And everyone perceives things differently. Listen. I'm not AT ALL suggesting you do what I did. Matter of fact. I'm suggesting you don't attempt it at all. And simply learn from the knowledge Iv gotten through my mistakes. That are still ongoing. I'm not perfect AT ALL. But Iv learned. And I can tell you ? that if dude isn't messaging you after sex. It's because he wants you to message him. That if he wasn't interested. He would do something ever so classic for a text book "ghoster".. and that is message you ASAP to tell you he had a "lovely time" as to get that out of the way so that he doesn't have to think about hurting you and that his conscious is cleared. I can also tell you that when he is being distant when you text him.. and you back off.. and he chooses to than CONTINUE the conversation.. even if he's saying virtually nothing of substance. That means that he wants to keep talking to you. And YES I could very well be wrong about all of this. But this is just from my experience after all. If I don't like someone. And they back off through text. I'm relieved. And I also back off. PERIOD.Posted by WaterDevilOMG I'm a cancer too and that's exactly How I think. Scared he won't reciprocate now that we have been intimate. I usually hold off for a long time so I don't get my feeling hurt but I felt such a connect with him I just went for it. From earlier part I didn't have doubts about him being interested, but now I do because he's distant. I waited a week for him to get in touch with me after our date. He didn't So I texted him. Since then he responds but ever so lightly. Then when I feel like he's just not interested I stop responding as much and he talks more and then goes back in his shell again. Its so hard to decipher his thoughts. Though Ive been burnt in the past so i always think a guy will use me and leave me. I can never tell...Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
But I texted him today and said I had a great time with him and would like to get to know him more and asked when he's available. No response.. I wouldn't call him because after we were figuring out plans I called him and he said no one calls him except his family. I asked him it bothered him and he said no it's a compliment that I'm old fashioned. But I don't know if he meant that so did not want to call lol Also if he didn't pick up I'd be really hurt and my mind would run god knows where lol
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Actions speak. Remember that.
Try what I do.. which is putting your self in his shoes. It's weird. But it works. When you are about to do something.. think.. "how would I feel if I was getting these types of vibes?"
Good? Bad? Indifferent?
In the end of the day. Being genuine works. It does. You are both cancers. And you are playing the classic game of "feelings chicken". Who's gonna break first. I'm not saying profess your love. I'm just saying.. i would call him. And ask to hang out. And there will lie your answer.
Posted by WaterDevilThank you so much for this answer. Your advice was soo good, I really appreciate you taking out time to share your experience and wisdom 🙂 What you're saying is what I want to think, but scared I just have my rose colored glasses on.. I think you're right though, he wouldn't continue to text me if he wasn't interested. I've been thinking both ways.. maybe he likes me or maybe he's just being nice. After all, he's a cancer.Posted by Cancerian87I think I'm missing something here. Did you ask him out or not?. So listen. Imma let you in on a little secret real quick. Because it may help you. Iv gone through a year of extreme self reflection. Half of which includes my dating life. I started out heart on sleeve open. Knowing those consequences. To the complete extreme opposite of playing games which in turn... you guessed it.. also didn't pan out so well. HOWEVER. Through my drastic change from played to player.. to now indifferent. I can tell you that Iv learned a lot about psychology and specifically on the realm of astrology. And how everything is relative. And everyone perceives things differently. Listen. I'm not AT ALL suggesting you do what I did. Matter of fact. I'm suggesting you don't attempt it at all. And simply learn from the knowledge Iv gotten through my mistakes. That are still ongoing. I'm not perfect AT ALL. But Iv learned. And I can tell you ? that if dude isn't messaging you after sex. It's because he wants you to message him. That if he wasn't interested. He would do something ever so classic for a text book "ghoster".. and that is message you ASAP to tell you he had a "lovely time" as to get that out of the way so that he doesn't have to think about hurting you and that his conscious is cleared. I can also tell you that when he is being distant when you text him.. and you back off.. and he chooses to than CONTINUE the conversation.. even if he's saying virtually nothing of substance. That means that he wants to keep talking to you. And YES I could very well be wrong about all of this. But this is just from my experience after all. If I don't like someone. And they back off through text. I'm relieved. And I also back off. PERIOD.Posted by WaterDevilOMG I'm a cancer too and that's exactly How I think. Scared he won't reciprocate now that we have been intimate. I usually hold off for a long time so I don't get my feeling hurt but I felt such a connect with him I just went for it. From earlier part I didn't have doubts about him being interested, but now I do because he's distant. I waited a week for him to get in touch with me after our date. He didn't So I texted him. Since then he responds but ever so lightly. Then when I feel like he's just not interested I stop responding as much and he talks more and then goes back in his shell again. Its so hard to decipher his thoughts. Though Ive been burnt in the past so i always think a guy will use me and leave me. I can never tell...Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
But I texted him today and said I had a great time with him and would like to get to know him more and asked when he's available. No response.. I wouldn't call him because after we were figuring out plans I called him and he said no one calls him except his family. I asked him it bothered him and he said no it's a compliment that I'm old fashioned. But I don't know if he meant that so did not want to call lol Also if he didn't pick up I'd be really hurt and my mind would run god knows where lol
Actions speak. Remember that.
Try what I do.. which is putting your self in his shoes. It's weird. But it works. When you are about to do something.. think.. "how would I feel if I was getting these types of vibes?"
Good? Bad? Indifferent?
In the end of the day. Being genuine works. It does. You are both cancers. And you are playing the classic game of "feelings chicken". Who's gonna break first. I'm not saying profess your love. I'm just saying.. i would call him. And ask to hang out. And there will lie your answer.
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To answer your question, I did text him. I told him I had a great time with him last time and want to get to know him more. I even said I'd like to meet up soon and asked when he's free. This is not my personality at all, to sleep with someone this early or to ask them out. He read my message within minutes but didn't respond. How should I take that? I feel like I'm trying the most 😢
Posted by Cancerian87Sounds to me like he's assurting his dominance. And is probably wanting the exact reaction he's getting out of you. It's sick and twisted. But I'm guilty of this all the time. And it bites me in the ass a lot. He should have just answered you. Yes. But sounds to me he's trying to hold the ball in his court for egotistical purposes. Give it some time. He'll answer. He may just be trying to match the amount of time you waited to ask him out. Which is stupid. But Iv definitely done that to create suspense. Just live your life. Keep with your routine. You put your self out there. Now go think about other things until he answers. 😉Posted by WaterDevilThank you so much for this answer. Your advice was soo good, I really appreciate you taking out time to share your experience and wisdom 🙂 What you're saying is what I want to think, but scared I just have my rose colored glasses on.. I think you're right though, he wouldn't continue to text me if he wasn't interested. I've been thinking both ways.. maybe he likes me or maybe he's just being nice. After all, he's a cancer.Posted by Cancerian87I think I'm missing something here. Did you ask him out or not?. So listen. Imma let you in on a little secret real quick. Because it may help you. Iv gone through a year of extreme self reflection. Half of which includes my dating life. I started out heart on sleeve open. Knowing those consequences. To the complete extreme opposite of playing games which in turn... you guessed it.. also didn't pan out so well. HOWEVER. Through my drastic change from played to player.. to now indifferent. I can tell you that Iv learned a lot about psychology and specifically on the realm of astrology. And how everything is relative. And everyone perceives things differently. Listen. I'm not AT ALL suggesting you do what I did. Matter of fact. I'm suggesting you don't attempt it at all. And simply learn from the knowledge Iv gotten through my mistakes. That are still ongoing. I'm not perfect AT ALL. But Iv learned. And I can tell you ? that if dude isn't messaging you after sex. It's because he wants you to message him. That if he wasn't interested. He would do something ever so classic for a text book "ghoster".. and that is message you ASAP to tell you he had a "lovely time" as to get that out of the way so that he doesn't have to think about hurting you and that his conscious is cleared. I can also tell you that when he is being distant when you text him.. and you back off.. and he chooses to than CONTINUE the conversation.. even if he's saying virtually nothing of substance. That means that he wants to keep talking to you. And YES I could very well be wrong about all of this. But this is just from my experience after all. If I don't like someone. And they back off through text. I'm relieved. And I also back off. PERIOD.Posted by WaterDevilOMG I'm a cancer too and that's exactly How I think. Scared he won't reciprocate now that we have been intimate. I usually hold off for a long time so I don't get my feeling hurt but I felt such a connect with him I just went for it. From earlier part I didn't have doubts about him being interested, but now I do because he's distant. I waited a week for him to get in touch with me after our date. He didn't So I texted him. Since then he responds but ever so lightly. Then when I feel like he's just not interested I stop responding as much and he talks more and then goes back in his shell again. Its so hard to decipher his thoughts. Though Ive been burnt in the past so i always think a guy will use me and leave me. I can never tell...Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
But I texted him today and said I had a great time with him and would like to get to know him more and asked when he's available. No response.. I wouldn't call him because after we were figuring out plans I called him and he said no one calls him except his family. I asked him it bothered him and he said no it's a compliment that I'm old fashioned. But I don't know if he meant that so did not want to call lol Also if he didn't pick up I'd be really hurt and my mind would run god knows where lol
Actions speak. Remember that.
Try what I do.. which is putting your self in his shoes. It's weird. But it works. When you are about to do something.. think.. "how would I feel if I was getting these types of vibes?"
Good? Bad? Indifferent?
In the end of the day. Being genuine works. It does. You are both cancers. And you are playing the classic game of "feelings chicken". Who's gonna break first. I'm not saying profess your love. I'm just saying.. i would call him. And ask to hang out. And there will lie your answer.
To answer your question, I did text him. I told him I had a great time with him last time and want to get to know him more. I even said I'd like to meet up soon and asked when he's free. This is not my personality at all, to sleep with someone this early or to ask them out. He read my message within minutes but didn't respond. How should I take that? I feel like I'm trying the most 😢
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Posted by Cancerian87Only thing I can think of is he is debating if he wants to jump right into a relationship... remember.. guys fall in love, don't necessarily look for it so until he falls he's gonna be on the fence. I would just text "ok guess not ?" it's silly and prompts a response. Keep things light. See what WaterDevil says too... ?Posted by WaterDevilThank you so much for this answer. Your advice was soo good, I really appreciate you taking out time to share your experience and wisdom 🙂 What you're saying is what I want to think, but scared I just have my rose colored glasses on.. I think you're right though, he wouldn't continue to text me if he wasn't interested. I've been thinking both ways.. maybe he likes me or maybe he's just being nice. After all, he's a cancer.Posted by Cancerian87I think I'm missing something here. Did you ask him out or not?. So listen. Imma let you in on a little secret real quick. Because it may help you. Iv gone through a year of extreme self reflection. Half of which includes my dating life. I started out heart on sleeve open. Knowing those consequences. To the complete extreme opposite of playing games which in turn... you guessed it.. also didn't pan out so well. HOWEVER. Through my drastic change from played to player.. to now indifferent. I can tell you that Iv learned a lot about psychology and specifically on the realm of astrology. And how everything is relative. And everyone perceives things differently. Listen. I'm not AT ALL suggesting you do what I did. Matter of fact. I'm suggesting you don't attempt it at all. And simply learn from the knowledge Iv gotten through my mistakes. That are still ongoing. I'm not perfect AT ALL. But Iv learned. And I can tell you ? that if dude isn't messaging you after sex. It's because he wants you to message him. That if he wasn't interested. He would do something ever so classic for a text book "ghoster".. and that is message you ASAP to tell you he had a "lovely time" as to get that out of the way so that he doesn't have to think about hurting you and that his conscious is cleared. I can also tell you that when he is being distant when you text him.. and you back off.. and he chooses to than CONTINUE the conversation.. even if he's saying virtually nothing of substance. That means that he wants to keep talking to you. And YES I could very well be wrong about all of this. But this is just from my experience after all. If I don't like someone. And they back off through text. I'm relieved. And I also back off. PERIOD.Posted by WaterDevilOMG I'm a cancer too and that's exactly How I think. Scared he won't reciprocate now that we have been intimate. I usually hold off for a long time so I don't get my feeling hurt but I felt such a connect with him I just went for it. From earlier part I didn't have doubts about him being interested, but now I do because he's distant. I waited a week for him to get in touch with me after our date. He didn't So I texted him. Since then he responds but ever so lightly. Then when I feel like he's just not interested I stop responding as much and he talks more and then goes back in his shell again. Its so hard to decipher his thoughts. Though Ive been burnt in the past so i always think a guy will use me and leave me. I can never tell...Posted by Cancerian87GOOD 🙂.. Im a cancer. Im a lesbian. And when I ask a girl out all the time with no reciprocation it gets me in deep shit. ESPECIALLY after intimacy. He could be feeling very insecure and prideful at the same time. Thats How I get. But from the earlier part of the story it sounds like he was interested in you. What was it that you said when you asked him out. Did you text him or call him?Posted by WaterDevilI'm very nervous to make the move, I have never asked guys out. Not because I think I'm all that, only because I'm scared of being rejected. I asked him out today, waiting on his response.Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂
But I texted him today and said I had a great time with him and would like to get to know him more and asked when he's available. No response.. I wouldn't call him because after we were figuring out plans I called him and he said no one calls him except his family. I asked him it bothered him and he said no it's a compliment that I'm old fashioned. But I don't know if he meant that so did not want to call lol Also if he didn't pick up I'd be really hurt and my mind would run god knows where lol
Actions speak. Remember that.
Try what I do.. which is putting your self in his shoes. It's weird. But it works. When you are about to do something.. think.. "how would I feel if I was getting these types of vibes?"
Good? Bad? Indifferent?
In the end of the day. Being genuine works. It does. You are both cancers. And you are playing the classic game of "feelings chicken". Who's gonna break first. I'm not saying profess your love. I'm just saying.. i would call him. And ask to hang out. And there will lie your answer.
To answer your question, I did text him. I told him I had a great time with him last time and want to get to know him more. I even said I'd like to meet up soon and asked when he's free. This is not my personality at all, to sleep with someone this early or to ask them out. He read my message within minutes but didn't respond. How should I take that? I feel like I'm trying the most 😢
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I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
Posted by carrazedaA good perspective. I agree, his actions will determine his intentions now that OP put the ball back in his court.
I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
Posted by carrazedaIm thinking the same thing and hope it's not true 😢 Either way my text to him is pretty clear about what I'm looking for so I guess we will know soon.
I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
You all have been amazing with the responses, thank you!
Posted by Cancerian87Either way... you are stronger then before this and wiserPosted by carrazedaIm thinking the same thing and hope it's not true 😢 Either way my text to him is pretty clear about what I'm looking for so I guess we will know soon.
I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
You all have been amazing with the responses, thank you!
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Posted by Cancerian87What type of connection did you feel?Posted by MoonbutterYea, I'm still hoping he will though.. since my last relationship I've been dating but I haven't been able to feel a connection with someone until now. He just had something different, you know?Posted by Cancerian87Either way... you are stronger then before this and wiserPosted by carrazedaIm thinking the same thing and hope it's not true 😢 Either way my text to him is pretty clear about what I'm looking for so I guess we will know soon.
I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
You all have been amazing with the responses, thank you!
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Posted by Moonbutter@Moonbutter I sent you a private message, did you get it? It said sent successfully but doesn't show in my outbox.Posted by Cancerian87What type of connection did you feel?Posted by MoonbutterYea, I'm still hoping he will though.. since my last relationship I've been dating but I haven't been able to feel a connection with someone until now. He just had something different, you know?Posted by Cancerian87Either way... you are stronger then before this and wiserPosted by carrazedaIm thinking the same thing and hope it's not true 😢 Either way my text to him is pretty clear about what I'm looking for so I guess we will know soon.
I hate to say this and I hope I'm wrong but I think that he just used you. He wanted to have a nice time for his bday and you were available for that. I'm not the typical cancer, but if I'm interested in someone you will now. I'll always initiate conversation and I'll shower you with attention and wanting to meet you. But if I'm not that interested I do exactly what he is doing. Keeping you around because he might want to see you again (in between the other dates he is having). But I don't think he got interested in progressing to another level. Good that you confronted him. If he felt anything he'll came back to you. If he don't or if he deflects again saying he is busy, you'll know where he stands.
You all have been amazing with the responses, thank you!
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Any & all advice would be much appreciated on how to deal w. this particular Cancer guy. I say "particular" b.c of the simple fact that he's from what I know of in a stressful, 3yr long distance (5,000 miles) relationship. I don't know his star details
So my cancer bf texted me at night and I didn't respond because the text didn't come through til mid morning the next day. Now he's been ignoring me for a week. What should I do?
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Ok I need help!
Last Wednesday I was texting with my boyfriend and told him I wanted to see him before my hospital shift started. Jokingly I said "I'm coming to your house and don't tell me no". Honest it was in a joking way, I would never show
Hi, Im new here so bare with me, but could anyone help me understand what's going thru my cancer mans head. Ok, we have been together a little over a month. Everything in the beginning was wonderful. We texted all thru the day and evening and we saw eac
Tell me why or why not your sign wouldn't work with a Cancer Male/Female.
(That sounds weirdly worded someone correct it)
Hi all,
I met a cancer male on a dating site. He seems pretty honest and has never given me reason to not trust him. We've been messaging each other all day for quite some time now. I noticed he was busy last weekend so I didn't want to pester him and
I usually attract Leos, Geminis, and Tauruses... This is my first time dealing with a Cancer. ?
I'm currently dating/seeing a divorced Cancer man. He has 2 young children and has co-parenting arrangments with his ex wife. I have never been married and
When I wake up I've caught him staring at me three or four times. I think it's super cute but why does he do this?
I have been dating/living with my cancer bf for over a year.. I am a Pisces. A week ago without any notice. It was the day after June 1St the rent was paid he said he didn't see a future and broke up and know he is acting really cold hearted towards me
HI:). I met this guy recently and he is Cancer with Gemini Moon/Venus and Leo Mars. We are both in our forties... He has definitely a feminine side, is a bit shy and likes to gesticulate a lot with his hands (nothing really gayish, but just some borderlin
And I said lol why you say that
And he said I can feel it in my soul
Lol
Why does he think that? Has anyone's bf ever guessed that they were preg
And puts it in a cup by the sink?
My man is turning 24 on the 28th of June and I was wondering what are some great ideas for a cancer man!?
Thank you!!
Contrary to the popular belief that men don't date/prefer older women, I find Cancers, as chauvinistic as they are, do in their younger days (20s to 30s). I know couple Cancer guys who are in their 30s dating a women nearing 40s to late 40s. Granted that
I knew I've seen this cancer guy somewhere when he appeared on my suggested Facebook friends. I added him and messaged him stating he looked familiar, he messaged back stating I as well looked familiar he just didn't know where from. I was on bumble recen
So I've read cancers can be possesive and somewhat clingy when they are highly interested in/dating someone. *Just what I've read from numerous sources*
Question is, do Cancer men (or women) like the clingyness or possessiveness back in return as well
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you 🙂