Cancer and Leo :-)

Hey,

I'm sure this has been discussed innumerable times before and so apologize for starting a repetitive topic, but please advise/guide nonetheless 🙂

I've just met my Cancer Man (two months now), and he's truly adorable. Funny, caring, witty, smart basically everything. I can almost feel like i'm falling deep into the abyss, and he's helped me forget my ex-bull (something which I had been trying to for past three years). Everything is smooth, so I could basically just be paranoid here but this boy confuses me.

I'm a lawyer and with a new job so I have insanely long working hours (including weekends, and holidays), plus i'm reasonably social but not like the typical leos.
He's into advertising and is free alot, and has this HUGE friend circle full of gorgeous women who are on/off hitting on him. Most weekends when i'm working, he's busy partying. Being a possessive to the point of jealous leo, I do my best to keep calm about it cause I really do trust him and want him to have a good time, but at times he disappears and this bothers me. We barely talk/text on weekdays, and I try find time over weekend to see him, so when he disappears during the weekends I work it troubles me. Nonetheless, when we are together, its all about us and the world outside ceases to exist. And when we spend time together, we never go out, just cozy up at home.

I'm under crazy pressure at work, and while he says he understands I feel like i'll lose him (especially cause this is fresh). I'm still not very vulnerable with him as yet, so don't tell him these things. Why does he disappear? Cancers are a lot about security, so is it possible he doesn't feel secure with me?! He says he's crazy about me, but then he's a good talker, so should i just believe him on face value?!

when you say disappear do you mean, not answering his phone at all for the whole weekend? if so what at what time's during the day/night are you trying to reach him?

if this is new, just take it easy! keep things realistic in your head and don't start pouring your heart and soul out immediately. i know how we are prone to doing this. also, with cancers, u have to take things slow anyway. everything will be good as long as he doesn't feel too much pressure from u.

we leos want decisiveness. we tend to make up our minds pretty quickly. cancers do this little dance that can drive us crazy. it seems that he's disappearing because this is all still new and casual for him. he may really like u but ur not in an official relationship yet. therefore he doesn't feel it's necessary to inform u of his whereabouts at all times.

regardless, as a general rule of thumb, it's best to take men at face value unless they prove themselves to not be trusted in that respect.

lol..ima cancer dealing with a leo man...I didnt answer last wkend,,and now its a mess. You sound like you handle your Cancer very gently. Which is good. My Leo has been sending me back into my shell.

I'm a cancer... if this is a new relationship, yes we disappear a lot. Nice and slow... gives us time to think about how we're feeling about thing. This is good.
Let him have this time. If you rush them, a cancer will retreat even more.

I have a ton of attractive male friends. Doesn't mean I'm interested in any of them. Cancers are very social and can be quite charming. We can't help it.

Women will always find this guy attractive. If you want to make it work with him... get used to it.

I don't answer my phone very often. I rarely text message. Face to face time is far more interesting then cutesy texts and pointless voice messages. It's a waste of our energy. If the time you spend with him is cool and fulfilling for both of you... don't worry about the time you're apart.

He may be thinking about you loads... we LOVE to daydream and fantasize.

Your advices were great, thanks. The women were a problem, but he readily got rid of em, most of em anyway. I am very gentle with him, as he is with me and things have been great. We have a great time, my work hours are still awful, and he whines abt it, but cancels all his plans and makes himself available the moment i get free. And everything has been fine. Until, yesterday.

Hurdle : He just told me he's flying to new york in two weeks for holidaying, totally unexpected. He has a libran old school-friend/best friend/sorta ex-gf who studies there. And he hasn't said this, but I know he's chosen NY as a holiday destination to see her. All my trust in him has faded since he's told me abt his holiday plan.

Is this cancer boy just wasting my time? This couldn't all be pretense? WTF.

I don't have the energy for another bad relationship. I'll totally crash and burn.