Cancer girl went silent

Here goes the story...

I've had this girl as facebook friend and we chatted online a few times because we're in the same bookclub group. Extremely short convos.

And then one night, I went out to this place I visit regularly. She was there, standing with her friend next to the bar. I tried to play it cool, as usual, circulated through dance floor finally arriving where she was and ordered a drink. Somehow we got to talk. Hit it from the beggining. When her friend left to the toilet we started kissing. I rarely do this at the club but as I had a crush on her from before it just happend in the heat of the moment as she electrified me. In short, we kissed/flirted all night.

The next day, her message popped up on my facebook. She replied to my question, which I asked about two weeks ago😂. We chatted a bit because she said she isnt a texter as she prefers much more face to face communication.

4 days later (I hate face chat and she gave me her number) I sent her phone text if she wanted to meet on saturday. She replied almost immediately saying she has to see whether she'll go out with her friends or not. I said ok and that she lets me know. After that I didnt hear from her. I know that I should have checked up about her saturday plan or at least sent something. Should have chased a bit🤣But my bloody ego messed up!

I was hoping to see her again in the club but I havent, only her friend who kindly says hello everytime we bump into each other. Somehow, even if I go out with other girls shes stuck in my mind.

Now, last week, bare in mind that's 3 months later, she liked one of my older facebook photos. Is she messing with me or should I react to that and send her some cheeky message, or do something else ... I dont know... And btw shes a girl who gets approached a lot but very picky.

I'm 23, she's 22. We're both cancers. She has leo moon, aquarius asc , mars in virgo and venus in gemini. Shes into astrology and I really hope shes not on the forum haha.

Posted by niki500
Here goes the story...



I've had this girl as facebook friend and we chatted online a few times because we're in the same bookclub group. Extremely short convos.



And then one night, I went out to this place I visit regularly. She was there, standing with her friend next to the bar. I tried to play it cool, as usual, circulated through dance floor finally arriving where she was and ordered a drink. Somehow we got to talk. Hit it from the beggining. When her friend left to the toilet we started kissing. I rarely do this at the club but as I had a crush on her from before it just happend in the heat of the moment as she electrified me. In short, we kissed/flirted all night.



The next day, her message popped up on my facebook. She replied to my question, which I asked about two weeks ago😂. We chatted a bit because she said she isnt a texter as she prefers much more face to face communication.



4 days later (I hate face chat and she gave me her number) I sent her phone text if she wanted to meet on saturday. She replied almost immediately saying she has to see whether she'll go out with her friends or not. I said ok and that she lets me know. After that I didnt hear from her. I know that I should have checked up about her saturday plan or at least sent something. Should have chased a bit🤣But my bloody ego messed up!



I was hoping to see her again in the club but I havent, only her friend who kindly says hello everytime we bump into each other. Somehow, even if I go out with other girls shes stuck in my mind.



Now, last week, bare in mind that's 3 months later, she liked one of my older facebook photos. Is she messing with me or should I react to that and send her some cheeky message, or do something else ... I dont know... And btw shes a girl who gets approached a lot but very picky.



I'm 23, she's 22. We're both cancers. She has leo moon, aquarius asc , mars in virgo and venus in gemini. Shes into astrology and I really hope shes not on the forum haha.

You should of chased bruh..

If you told her you'd check up on her to confirm plans but then you never do 🤷🏿‍♀️ means to me you're not that interested.. why did 3 months go by without any form of communication? Because of ego, right.

That ego ish don't work on us.. if you prefer to have the woman chase you.. try another sun sign.. we only cling when you got us.

Like you said she is constantly being approached meaning she has options and she's picking wisely.. so for her to makeout with you at the clubs is clear as day that she liked you and If you really wanted something more with her you would of tried harder.. Now another man with less of an ego is having his turn at her.



You might still have a chance if she's not already into someone else.

Start chasing now

Oh hell to the NO on this chasing crap.

Listen, the biggest problem we men face today is this nonsense that "chasing" is effective.

Here is what you do:

Call her up, and ask her about when she is free to spend some time together. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer.

Do NOT call more than one time. I swear, this crap where women think it's right for a man to chase after a woman is total BS.

That never, EVER works out, and it shows weakness as a man.

Most women do not prefer a guy who chases and is readily available.

Enough with the backwards suggestions, people.

Dude, just call her up, invite her to spend time with you. If she doesn't respond in kind, then move on.

Psssssst.. *whispers*

" don't listen to him"

Are you a dude or girl? Just be confident af and pursue her. No crazy like but keep at it .

Also it sounds like she just isnt on fb or messenger that much...don't judge it by that. Use different forms of communication.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Also it sounds like she just isnt on fb or messenger that much...don't judge it by that. Use different forms of communication.

I think that she was attracted to me but not excited about me 🤣.

Thank you all for the answers.

Posted by UnsolvedMystery
Enough with the backwards suggestions, people.



Dude, just call her up, invite her to spend time with you. If she doesn't respond in kind, then move on.

Yes, I'll call her and see the reaction. If she responds short and cold or doesn't invest a little bit in conversation, I'll move on. Won't chase😝

Posted by UnsolvedMystery
Oh hell to the NO on this chasing crap.



Listen, the biggest problem we men face today is this nonsense that "chasing" is effective.



Here is what you do:



Call her up, and ask her about when she is free to spend some time together. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer.



Do NOT call more than one time. I swear, this crap where women think it's right for a man to chase after a woman is total BS.



That never, EVER works out, and it shows weakness as a man.



Most women do not prefer a guy who chases and is readily available.



Enough with the backwards suggestions, people.



Dude, just call her up, invite her to spend time with you. If she doesn't respond in kind, then move on.

To be honest, this is legitimately enough said.

I would prefer you listen to this advice.

I hate a Male hitting me up and trying to talk to me on virtual text. It is obnoxious asf. Sometimes I ignore them until they keep sending me more "hey" texts.

And not every Cancer would like the same thing.... so... do actions instead of words....

Posted by Echo

Posted by UnsolvedMystery
Oh hell to the NO on this chasing crap.



Listen, the biggest problem we men face today is this nonsense that "chasing" is effective.



Here is what you do:



Call her up, and ask her about when she is free to spend some time together. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer.



Do NOT call more than one time. I swear, this crap where women think it's right for a man to chase after a woman is total BS.



That never, EVER works out, and it shows weakness as a man.



Most women do not prefer a guy who chases and is readily available.



Enough with the backwards suggestions, people.



Dude, just call her up, invite her to spend time with you. If she doesn't respond in kind, then move on.

To be honest, this is legitimately enough said.



I would prefer you listen to this advice.



I hate a Male hitting me up and trying to talk to me on virtual text. It is obnoxious asf. Sometimes I ignore them until they keep sending me more "hey" texts.



And not every Cancer would like the same thing.... so... do actions instead of words.... click to expand

click to expand

I only reach out 1-2 times, and that's it. If I get ignored, then I move on.

Those dudes out there who blast a chick's phone with 30 messages are totally nuts.

Definitely not cool.

Posted by UnsolvedMystery

Posted by Echo

Posted by UnsolvedMystery
Oh hell to the NO on this chasing crap.



Listen, the biggest problem we men face today is this nonsense that "chasing" is effective.



Here is what you do:



Call her up, and ask her about when she is free to spend some time together. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer.



Do NOT call more than one time. I swear, this crap where women think it's right for a man to chase after a woman is total BS.



That never, EVER works out, and it shows weakness as a man.



Most women do not prefer a guy who chases and is readily available.



Enough with the backwards suggestions, people.



Dude, just call her up, invite her to spend time with you. If she doesn't respond in kind, then move on.

To be honest, this is legitimately enough said.



I would prefer you listen to this advice.



I hate a Male hitting me up and trying to talk to me on virtual text. It is obnoxious asf. Sometimes I ignore them until they keep sending me more "hey" texts.



And not every Cancer would like the same thing.... so... do actions instead of words.... click to expand

I only reach out 1-2 times, and that's it. If I get ignored, then I move on.



Those dudes out there who blast a chick's phone with 30 messages are totally nuts.



Definitely not cool. click to expand

click to expand

They are nuts if they don't get the hint they're just not into them like that.

I had that happen so many times and it's just aggravating.I dont like being mean to them but sometimes I have to be so blunt cause they keep on with it.