Cancer guys

how do they usually display/hint their affection towards someone they like?

Cancers are known to be indirect.. and I even their affection comes in indirect ways too right? Correct me if I'm wrong.

very subtly..we are not very direct so we might disguise our insecurity by asking serious questions in a joking manner. but after our feeling out stage and we know you are interested in us we will make it very apparent we like you too..

=) thanks. i can usually tell when someone's into me, but man, this guy's just so tricky! i'm very interested in him, but i'm also insecure about letting my feelings become known. so... have you any suggestions on how i should go about letting him open up?

i'm a Scorpio by the way

some of us are rather shy so just give him as many green lights as you can. what i mean is just make him feel comfortable and safe around you. also, just be honest and open with him. show him that he can trust you since trust is very high on our list. again, goes back to our insecurity thing..

We cancers are pretty intuitive and we read body language well. Your friend is probably already aware of your interest. My advice is to hint at your interest in subtle ways but don't be overly direct about it. Otherwise agree with what cansir said about trust.

how do they usually display/hint their affection towards someone they like?

Read the boards and U will find out! I know U C all these women on her complaining.

krobe, you know they complain because we are complex creatures which can't be figured out..lol. try as you might but when someone finally figures us out please let me know cause i would like to be enlightened myself :-)

What is happenning on this board with Scorpios and Cancers—

I mean, I do know a ton of madly-in-love-and-lust Scor-Can relationships, but this is getting a bit weird.....so many Scorps asking advice from Cancers.
Yes they are VERY indirect, pay attention to hints, hints, hints and the body language. Also, they will be watching you all the time, to see your reactions, but this is when you are not watching.
But I don's think Scorpios really need to ask this question. Scorpios should be able to feel the increadible intense vibe and magnetism these two signs produce when they are together (even when they are apart). If they feel this vibe, it is most likely that the feeling is mutual, the collision of their energies is unmistakenable.

Sorry, I didn't see another question about how to let him know.

I wouldn't be very direct if I was you, as it may scare Cancer in the beginning stages. Just be relaxed, try to make great friendship with him first, and of course, make sure to put out those sexy, magnetic Scorpio vibes when around Cancer.
I think that the mere presence of Scorpio will eventually make Cancer fall for her (I am sure SRG will agree). It really is quite an increadible chemistry and magnetism between these two signs, and only those who have experienced it know what I am talking about.
And as I said, pay attention to his hinting. Or an inderect invitation to go out, eg. Cancer may say to you :"I head that there is a great movie currently showing (insert the cinema name), I really want to see it", Cancer is now expecting you to say :"Wow, I always wanted to see it to. Can I come with you?". Or something like that, don't miss the indirect hints, questions and suggestions.

Instead of:

Cancer may say to you :"I head that there is a great movie....

I meant to write :" I HEARD......

Sorry

Katica that is funny:


....just was dumb in jumping in way too fast !!!

But so true! They hint, and if you play stupid and don't respond to their hint, they get really frustrated, and "a bit" discouraged. They run away, plotting what their next hint is going to be. Then they casually (as if they didn't obsess over it for days/weeks) say some other hint and wait for you to bite the bait.
Ah, they are such funny creatures, and very sweet. But once you bite, and they are really interested, you may regret the biting, as they will hang on to you for dear life.
Oh, well... some signs like that, LOL.

And also, they secretly like their little games, so as katica says, one shouldn't jump in too fast. Because, if you do, you take away their fun, so a little bit of "playing stupid", but just a little bit, may be quite a good thing.
Anyway, I think it is the best to start as friends, develop good trust and raport, and the next stage will happen, if it is meant to be.

Absolutely.. every female Scorp i've ever been in contact with there's always been an instantaneous attraction. It isn't necessary to even admit it.. you just know and feel it. I too am a bit surprised why there are so many scorps asking for advice from cancers.

dang i don't even know any scorps..geez, i guess i am missing out on the excitement :-)

"how do they usually display/hint their affection towards someone they like?"

Well this cancer guy would always call me or text me...
He would also make a lot of jokes and always managed to say something very sweet in our conversations (I just wished he was more direct at times)...

~Oh and he wanted to know SO much about me~

Hey, Cansir,

even though not everything is astrology, purely astrologically speaking, you don't even know what you are missing, because it is hard to describe in words.

I myself didn't know any Scorpios for a long, long time in my life. But when I did meet one, and only one, oh my God!!! I honestly never tought I could ever experience something so deep, intense, strong and lasting, this last word underlined. Because most of my previous attractions would fade pretty quickly, but this one just got better and stronger with time. And yes, it was instant, as SRG says, like some magnetic force zaps you right throughout the whole body, lightning and thunder, it is quite something.
Anyway, you will see one day when you meet a magnetic Scorp (keep an eye on late Oct. + November birthdays). Of course, when it happens we would like a repport here promptly.

oh belieeeeve me! i can definitely feel the vibes radiate, it's very intense

i guess i am going to keep my eyes open for a scorp. these virgos i have been attracting drive me crazy so maybe i should switch it up..lol. well the verdict is still out on the latest virgo but if i do meet a scorp i will definitely report back 🙂

how do they usually display/hint their affection towards someone they like?


I am a Scorpio. As such, I don't like people to figure me out. I like to keep some things back, not to be mean, but more of a protective thing. I think Cancers are a lot like that too. So if you think you've got one figured out, definately don't clue him in that you are on to him or he'll change it up. 😉

One rule of thumb I use is if something seems unusual or strange from regular behavior, he usually means the opposite of what he says or does. Here is a story that highlights this perfectly:

I gave Cancer guy, CG for short, a small token gift. I knew he liked me doing this because he kept every dang one of the previous tokens and prominently displayed them. I set the token down on his counter and he walked in behind me. He greeted me and asked what was up. I told him I was just bringing him a little something and headed towards the door. He walked over to the counter and turned his back to me to look at the token. He didn't think I could see because his back was turned, but he blushed and was grinning from ear to ear. He turned around and faced me, straight face on, no blushing, and said kinda grumbly, "I thought I told you that you didn't have to do that." Hearing that most people would have assumed he was pissed or ingrateful and would reply rudely to him. However, he was really just trying to play it cool and not give himself away. So, I said, "Oh, well I can give it to someone else if you don't want it," calling his bluff.

Cancer/Scorpio is intense, magnetic, otherworldly, and whoever said it gets stronger over time was right on. The good and bad thing is that we can both see through the other's shell sometimes. It is good in that it keeps you close to one another but it is bad in that you can feel naked and it can be a bit scary if you can't ocassionally go to your shell to hide from the intensity.

As far as how to communicate attraction, I hear Cancers like the subtle thing. I don't have any advice on this, because I have a scorpio mercury. I'm not subtle. If I like you, my eyes will be boring into your sole and it will be very obvious. I also don't beat around the bush, I'll simply say "I like you." That will probably cause a Cancer to run a bit saying something like that, but I have to believe that they are secretly smiling undercover because I said it, just like the story above.

Opps.

sole = soul

Where is the edit button on here?

Speaking of eyes boring into your soul.. scorps are the only ones that have the power to turn me on at will just by the way they look at me. Hell having one just standing within 2 feet of me is enough to turn me on.

lol SRG....yes our eyes will definately turn you on and we know this. i luv the fact that i can do that, especially to u cancers....its deep

damn, ok i am sold! i am looking for a scorp :-)

actually now that i think about it. i think my ex sister-in-law is a scorp. i wonder if my exwife would mind..lol..

Cansir.....u near NY? i got a twin sister

and she needs a cancer, her last guy was a gemini....ugh gross...manipulation central

Sometimes have to be careful though.. we cancers can get so turned on we may need to act out the thoughts going through our heads.

SRG....do u think we mind that? :-)

lady scorp, well after all this scorp talk i wish i was 😢 would have been happy to accomodate your sister though

Oh, not at all.. I gather that would be the whole point.

Cansir, u have to find a scorpio....u really are missing out, and its not only about sex, so many other signs think thats what its all about between us and its not. the sex is just intense BECAUSE of that deep level of connection and attraction!!!

its amazing to not have to say a word and just sit there and feel the other person with your soul.

i gotta get off this topic....i'm still at work...lol

sounds like i had one if i didn't live so damn far 😢

hmm, sounds like a certain lady scorp is getting turned on with all this cancer/scorp talk..lol..

Lol Cansir....I really can't take it! Tomorrow night I'm going to a party and I might see a cancer i know from years and years ago....i'm going to avoid him like the plague but i'm sure that won't happen. but no worries, i'm a good girl waiting for her current cancer for 6 weeks to come out of that shell....i sometimes wish i didn't have patience!

i do admire the loyalty waiting on your current cancer..maybe that is why we make such a great pair 😉

yeah, i stick by my man, i know its the right thing. and u can't imagine how many tears i have shed in 6 weeks...it takes a strong woman i'll tell u that much because he's in that shell really deep!

What a sweet topic this turned out to be...🙂

Scorpchick is so right, we Scorps and Cancers are very similar. The thing about secretly blushing and smiling but outwardly being gruff is soooo true. I do the same, I am not rude, I keep my cool, but inside I may just about faint of happiness.
Uhhhhh, those scorpios, they really get so deep inside our souls. And don't even get me started on the eyes....Scorpios rule! And they are bloody funny, always great fun with them, we realy click in every way, that's what so good about us.
And LadyScorp, Cancers also cry after Scorps, but they would never admit it in the million years. Actually, these two signs are so similar emotionally, that's why they "know" one another so well.

all the advice is appreciated! well, i know he's at the point where he feels he can trust me, because he's confided to me a few things. as a Scorpio, trust is a top notch values and the same goes for Cancer, no?

also, now that you mention the whole hinting deal, i can definitely recall when he's done so. ex. "i dunno who i'm going to take with me yet..." and he would repeatedly mention this

Trust is important for us cancers.. if you want to know who we really are, we have to trust you. It's not really an issue with scorps though.. if I'm going to trust anyone it'll be a scorp before anyone else.

"an inderect invitation to go out, eg. Cancer may say to you :"I head that there is a great movie currently showing (insert the cinema name), I really want to see it", Cancer is now expecting you to say :"Wow, I always wanted to see it to. Can I come with you?". Or something like that, don't miss the indirect hints, questions and suggestions."

And if you miss the clues, they get angry and pout and maybe get revenge on you.. I almost started a fight with mine today because she was trying to piss me off on purpose. The reason for that? Probably because I've missed out on so many hints (now that you've pointed it out).

Cansir, u have to find a scorpio....u really are missing out, and its not only about sex, so many other signs think thats what its all about between us and its not. the sex is just intense BECAUSE of that deep level of connection and attraction!!!

its amazing to not have to say a word and just sit there and feel the other person with your soul.

Lady Scorp, I couldn't have said it better.

"an inderect invitation to go out, eg. Cancer may say to you :"I head that there is a great movie currently showing (insert the cinema name), I really want to see it", Cancer is now expecting you to say :"Wow, I always wanted to see it to. Can I come with you?". Or something like that, don't miss the indirect hints, questions and suggestions."

And if you miss the clues, they get angry and pout and maybe get revenge on you.. I almost started a fight with mine today because she was trying to piss me off on purpose. The reason for that? Probably because I've missed out on so many hints (now that you've pointed it out).

Crudemood, this is so true.

Me being a direct person, the indirect hints or clues are often so subtle that I don't pick up on it.

Back to my story posted on the second page about the cancer guy with the tokens of appreciation. He often comes to see me but makes it a point to have it appear as if he was really intending to come talk to this other person. He never talks to this other person if I'm not there and makes a point of positioning himself so he can watch me while he is talking, so he is obviously using that as a protective cover to his real intentions of coming to talk to me. I play it cool and don't point anything out.

One time, he was chatting with this other person when my other cancer male friend (who is gay, so there were no jealousy issues) started talking to me. He wanted me to go with him to get some coke. The cancer guy was watching and listening. I made the mistake of going right away with the friend instead of waiting around for him to come chat with me. I figured out he was miffed when he told me he'd do something a few days later and never did.

I have a hard time with this one. I mean, I am not the type to sit around and wait for someone, especially when they are trying to make me believe that they aren't there to see me anyway. On the other hand, I knew what he was about and that he really did want to see me. So I just let it slide that he didn't do the thing he said he'd do and never said a word.

I'm too wordy. I had to post another time.

Anyway, pay attention to those subtle things. Probably the most direct thing that he said to me was when I commented that only a really cool person would give him that(while pointing at a thing he had on display that I'd given him) and he replied, "That's what I was thinking."

It took like 10 minutes for that to register and then I was like, "Holy crap!"

I just surf the waves.

yeah i am very guilty of finding an excuse to visit someone or be in the vicinity to visit someone. of course i wasn't there for the reason i gave but oh well that is how i am. i used to do that to the exvirgal all the time during my feeling out stage. we worked in different buildings but i would walk over there to intentionally see her but popped in her cube saying i was in the area for something else and thought i would say hi. yes our indirectness can seem a little junior highish sometimes..lol.

scorpiochick you are not to wordy at least not for me since i like lots of detail :-)

"Anyway, pay attention to those subtle things. Probably the most direct thing that he said to me was when I commented that only a really cool person would give him that(while pointing at a thing he had on display that I'd given him) and he replied, "That's what I was thinking."

It took like 10 minutes for that to register and then I was like, "Holy crap!"

I just surf the waves."

Alot of things they do are very very subtle, its hard to draw the line where you're actually looking for the signs or they are there. It starts to get confusing. I had asked mine to go to a meeting once and then afterwards we'd come back to my house. Of course she said yes but her reasons were that 'the meeting is manditory'. 😉

Scorpiochick,

That is sooooo funny, hahaha. And so true about Cancers, see, me and Cancir do it all the time.
I always (until I am sure I am liked) pretend I came to see someone or something else. But of course, I stand close to my target (Scorpio) and make sure I can see him, his reactions. I don't know why, but it is simply like that. If he shows interest, like looks at me a bit longer, I will then, as casually as I can, start a little conversation with him. And I hint a lot, but very subtle hints. But what is funny about Scorpios, is they pick up on those hints, ohh, yes they do (I just know), but they sometimes pretend they didn't. And so, the little game can go on, for a very long time. At least its never boring, LOL.

LadyScorp,

You could not have described the "feeling" better, excellent!

"scorpiochick you are not to wordy at least not for me since i like lots of detail :-)"

cansir, you are too kind.

"Alot of things they do are very very subtle, its hard to draw the line where you're actually looking for the signs or they are there. It starts to get confusing."

Crudemood, you are on to something here. If often wonder whether or not I'm letting my imagination get carried away.

"But what is funny about Scorpios, is they pick up on those hints, ohh, yes they do (I just know), but they sometimes pretend they didn't. And so, the little game can go on, for a very long time. At least its never boring, LOL."

Lubineca, You are right sometimes I do think that I might have heard something so I play along to see if I can confirm it wasn't my imagination, but I swear that at least 50% of the time I am really completely dense and don't get it. Sometimes, in retrospect, three hours or days later it will hit me and then it is too late to do anything about it. Then you can hear the sound of me pounding my head against the wall wondering how I could have been so blind.

Semi-charmed life, how are things going?

Yes, the hints can be very, very subtle. Such as talking about someone in third person, but really thinking of myself (yes, I know, terribly confusing), but mostly subtle hints about liking something, or wanting to do something. And we do get quite discouraged if the other person doesn't respond, but I know it's hard, most people are not mind readers.
However, this is just in the beginning, until we are certain, and underlined certain, that we won't be rejected. When another person gives us "green light", then we stop hinting, and are more direct. It is all the part of being afraid of rejection, so if we hint, and someone doesn't respond, at least it is not this full-on rejection if we asked a question directly. It is like "beating around the bush" a bit, testing the terrain.

ok, my cancer guy (friend) sent me this song one day, out of the blue, told me "maybe you like it" and then vanished away (went offline).these are the lyrics:

Hey girl, what you doin'?
Hey girl, you'll drive me to ruin
I don't know what it is about you
But I like it a lot
Oh why don't you let me hold you
Let me feel your lovin' touch

Communication breakdown, it's always the same
I'm having a nervous breakdown, drive me insane!

Hey girl, I got something I think you want to know
Hey girl, I wanna tell you that I love you so
I wanna hold you in my arms
And feel your love tonight
I'm never gonna let you go
'Cause I like your charms "

Question, do i take it as a HINT?he's never sent me songs just for the sake of it.Two weeks after this he asks me out (to see a play with him and some friends).

There have been a lot of other things that happened between us that i could easily consider "hints" but this i guess is pretty much too hard to ignore.Am i fooling myself?Cancer guys,SRG if you're around, what ya think?