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Alessa, you should just jump on the person. Someone needs to take charge ASAP. Don't leave things in a predictable limbo. Lay it all down as honestly and directly as possible.
Well, may be not jump.. but be physically affectionate in a sort of subtle way. You don't always have to express how you feel with words.
"but be physically affectionate in a sort of subtle way. You don't always have to express how you feel with words."
I was just like that when we saw each other daily, he always grinned and smiled at me, always cheerful and ready to joke, laughed at the silliest jokes i told him, but now that we don't see each other anymore (different universities we're studying at) i can only show him by words...
I think i'll just let him know today i've been missing him the past week... i can't stop thinking about him, it's nerve wreaking, i just have to give in.
I was just like that when we saw each other daily, he always grinned and smiled at me, always cheerful and ready to joke, laughed at the silliest jokes i told him, but now that we don't see each other anymore (different universities we're studying at) i can only show him by words...
I think i'll just let him know today i've been missing him the past week... i can't stop thinking about him, it's nerve wreaking, i just have to give in.
You must do what you feel is right of course. Is studying at different schools a total imposition to seeing each other in person?
no, of course it isn't 🙂
thanks loads for help guys, it means a lot to me🙂
thanks loads for help guys, it means a lot to me🙂
I just got to reply about the cancer men making hints and if you don't respond they get upset.
Well let me tell you what happened to me. I was over my cancer friend house and he was getting ready to get dressed and I was still laying in the bed. He got his clothes out and said "I hate irnoning clothes" and with me being all slow I was like" i feel you" and just got up and stated getting ready for work. He didn't really say anything else to me for that morning. So when I was at work I was reflecting on my time with him. And then it hit me OMG I think he wanted me to iron his clothes.
So the next time I sayed with him, He was getting prepared to go work and he pulled out his clothes and the iron and I immediately asked him did he want me to iron and just said"no" with a smile on his face.
He was trying to be funny because I didn't catch on when he was hinting around for me to do it a few days earlier
Well let me tell you what happened to me. I was over my cancer friend house and he was getting ready to get dressed and I was still laying in the bed. He got his clothes out and said "I hate irnoning clothes" and with me being all slow I was like" i feel you" and just got up and stated getting ready for work. He didn't really say anything else to me for that morning. So when I was at work I was reflecting on my time with him. And then it hit me OMG I think he wanted me to iron his clothes.
So the next time I sayed with him, He was getting prepared to go work and he pulled out his clothes and the iron and I immediately asked him did he want me to iron and just said"no" with a smile on his face.
He was trying to be funny because I didn't catch on when he was hinting around for me to do it a few days earlier
LOL, I wonder too LeoKitten, how the hell did you end up with a cancer? You are a typical Leo and believe me when I say I know what they are like (my mom and one of my bestie are both Leoans)...With your responses here on the cancer board, I too sometimes wonder that, lol.
You know what LeoKitten you is a real bitch, I'm sorry i just have to say it. I'm surprised that you aint by yourself with the type of attitude you got.
Yeah that's what you say
why don't you go and chill with your man or something, espically since you are so much better and you don't have no type of empathy.
I am new here and I came to the chat room to get advice not to be talked to like this, what I am not understanding if you are in so much of a great relationship and you are so happy why are you even in the chat room, why you not cuddling up with your man?
Because all the comments that you posted shows that you spend alot of your time in the chat room and the people that's posting comments seeking advice is so irritating to you, and upsetting you. SO why are you even spending your time entertaing us? You constantly talking down to people and trying to make yourself look good.
And I may not have the best gammar and may not type that good, that still don't give you the right to talk to me the way that you did.
It's clear that you are angry, why I don't know, but if I make you that mad with my comments then just skip over mines or just don't reply. I did not come here to argue and make enemies, I came here seeking advice.
I am new here and I came to the chat room to get advice not to be talked to like this, what I am not understanding if you are in so much of a great relationship and you are so happy why are you even in the chat room, why you not cuddling up with your man?
Because all the comments that you posted shows that you spend alot of your time in the chat room and the people that's posting comments seeking advice is so irritating to you, and upsetting you. SO why are you even spending your time entertaing us? You constantly talking down to people and trying to make yourself look good.
And I may not have the best gammar and may not type that good, that still don't give you the right to talk to me the way that you did.
It's clear that you are angry, why I don't know, but if I make you that mad with my comments then just skip over mines or just don't reply. I did not come here to argue and make enemies, I came here seeking advice.
Ok, So I am yet another Scorpion girl asking for advance on Cancers guys...well, one in particular of course 😉 And I'm sorry if this gets a little long...I want to add more detail to help yall better understand it all 🙂
BACKGROUND....
So, a few months ago, this guy--we'll call Jeff-- and I were "set up" through a casual friend and started talking on the phone and online quite a bit. He lives about 2 hrs away so we're "long distance". We totally hit it off on the phone and person, I never felt like anyone had EVER 'gotten' me before like he does and we both recognized a real connection between us. At this point, we've spent about 1 month talking for hours and hours in all but have still not met in person--only exchanged multiple pics and seen eachother's facebook profiles.
Well the time comes that I have this week long conference at his university and I ride with some people leaving (from my school) the night before because Jeff and I have decided that this would be a perfect opportunity to meet up finally. Jeff comes to pick me up from where my friend I rode with is staying and takes me back to his place about 11:30pm. Its already really late and we ended up just talking to his roommates for a little bit and then talking to each other for awhile and going to bed. We slept in the same bed, and made out a little bit, but we had talked about not doing anything else beforehand anyways. The next morning we get up and get ready and he takes me to the site of my conference and that was that.
He brought my stuff to my hotel later that night but had to run to meet a group for a project. Pretty much, the whole thing was "off" compared to our phone convos. We didn't speak much after that but I ironically ended up running into him at a bar downtown a couple nights later (when I thought he was out of town, because last I knew he had to go home for something) and he started apologizing for not letting me know that he was not going out of town anymore... and I got mad at him...I don't really remember but I think he said something like "he just didn't feel it" and blah blah blah.
Well I was incredibly hurt because we both knew how much of a connection was there and no, our first actual physical meeting was weird, but I wasn't expecting anyting but weirdness. I def didn't think that it signified that things should be over! A couple weeks later he texted me something casual...making a joke about our football team and I def did the same a few wee
BACKGROUND....
So, a few months ago, this guy--we'll call Jeff-- and I were "set up" through a casual friend and started talking on the phone and online quite a bit. He lives about 2 hrs away so we're "long distance". We totally hit it off on the phone and person, I never felt like anyone had EVER 'gotten' me before like he does and we both recognized a real connection between us. At this point, we've spent about 1 month talking for hours and hours in all but have still not met in person--only exchanged multiple pics and seen eachother's facebook profiles.
Well the time comes that I have this week long conference at his university and I ride with some people leaving (from my school) the night before because Jeff and I have decided that this would be a perfect opportunity to meet up finally. Jeff comes to pick me up from where my friend I rode with is staying and takes me back to his place about 11:30pm. Its already really late and we ended up just talking to his roommates for a little bit and then talking to each other for awhile and going to bed. We slept in the same bed, and made out a little bit, but we had talked about not doing anything else beforehand anyways. The next morning we get up and get ready and he takes me to the site of my conference and that was that.
He brought my stuff to my hotel later that night but had to run to meet a group for a project. Pretty much, the whole thing was "off" compared to our phone convos. We didn't speak much after that but I ironically ended up running into him at a bar downtown a couple nights later (when I thought he was out of town, because last I knew he had to go home for something) and he started apologizing for not letting me know that he was not going out of town anymore... and I got mad at him...I don't really remember but I think he said something like "he just didn't feel it" and blah blah blah.
Well I was incredibly hurt because we both knew how much of a connection was there and no, our first actual physical meeting was weird, but I wasn't expecting anyting but weirdness. I def didn't think that it signified that things should be over! A couple weeks later he texted me something casual...making a joke about our football team and I def did the same a few wee
when i really like someone i tend to not look into their eyes because they make me have butterflies
Unusual Cancer,Thank you for your comments.
The whole "I got mad at him" thing was sheer frustration that he was going to just stop because of the strangeness surrounding our initial meeting. I mean, as much energy and effort we had put into the whole "relationship" leading up to that point, I think it deserved at least another chance. We were both drunk when we accidentally ran into each other downtown. It wasn't supposed to be addressed at that time, but it was kind of forced since it was the first time we had spoken since he brought me my stuff at the hotel that I'd left at his house.
What I am stuck on, is that we had a a good connection platonically, and nothing physically/sexually really took place (except a little making out--like 2 minutes very minimal) when he made the "I just don't feel it" comment--> which came out while I was grilling him about what the hell was going on (at the bar).
When he called me a couple nights ago, he told me that he knows plenty of girls in my town, and he could have called one of them if he wanted to just "hook up" but he wanted to see me so he called me....and that he didn't know/expect something was going to happen. Sure, alcohol was involved then too, which caused us both to let our inhibitions down, but alcohol has never fooled me into thinking that sex is "hot" or that there is actually chemistry there. That is why I think he made the comment later that he was really surprised "how good it was"--because all he had to base our "chemistry" on was the awkward (almost forced) mini-makeout session we had back when we first met.
Main point--obviously I like him, and I am not the one that ever blocked our relationship from growing--he did--becuase he "didn't feel it" in person. But I think he "felt it" when he has told me since we hooked up that he thinks about it a lot and he was surprised at how good it was. (He's no virgin, but not a man-whore either) So, now he has felt the "chemistry" and and if he felt a connection (he's actually said he's never met a girl that he felt so compatible with [back before all this]) THEN what is the hold up?
I am seriously thinking of just emailing him...and just laying it out there how I feel and that I am held up on what is stopping us now? I am not mad, so it wouldn't be aggressive, but I don't want to freak him out, but they say a Scorpio has to be direct because Cancers are not direct...ever 😉
I'm going to have to finish in the next post...I'm to
The whole "I got mad at him" thing was sheer frustration that he was going to just stop because of the strangeness surrounding our initial meeting. I mean, as much energy and effort we had put into the whole "relationship" leading up to that point, I think it deserved at least another chance. We were both drunk when we accidentally ran into each other downtown. It wasn't supposed to be addressed at that time, but it was kind of forced since it was the first time we had spoken since he brought me my stuff at the hotel that I'd left at his house.
What I am stuck on, is that we had a a good connection platonically, and nothing physically/sexually really took place (except a little making out--like 2 minutes very minimal) when he made the "I just don't feel it" comment--> which came out while I was grilling him about what the hell was going on (at the bar).
When he called me a couple nights ago, he told me that he knows plenty of girls in my town, and he could have called one of them if he wanted to just "hook up" but he wanted to see me so he called me....and that he didn't know/expect something was going to happen. Sure, alcohol was involved then too, which caused us both to let our inhibitions down, but alcohol has never fooled me into thinking that sex is "hot" or that there is actually chemistry there. That is why I think he made the comment later that he was really surprised "how good it was"--because all he had to base our "chemistry" on was the awkward (almost forced) mini-makeout session we had back when we first met.
Main point--obviously I like him, and I am not the one that ever blocked our relationship from growing--he did--becuase he "didn't feel it" in person. But I think he "felt it" when he has told me since we hooked up that he thinks about it a lot and he was surprised at how good it was. (He's no virgin, but not a man-whore either) So, now he has felt the "chemistry" and and if he felt a connection (he's actually said he's never met a girl that he felt so compatible with [back before all this]) THEN what is the hold up?
I am seriously thinking of just emailing him...and just laying it out there how I feel and that I am held up on what is stopping us now? I am not mad, so it wouldn't be aggressive, but I don't want to freak him out, but they say a Scorpio has to be direct because Cancers are not direct...ever 😉
I'm going to have to finish in the next post...I'm to
I'm too wordy...
If there is a negative response [to my email] then that will just be the end of it all. I just hate the "not knowing"
But I'm not stupid, he hasn't shown overly 'promising' indicators that he is interested, but because I like him and really think that we are very good for eachother, I am not letting the chance go. I want it, so I am willing to work. And I feel like if he just opened his eyes he'd realize it too.
If he wanted to "end it" back when we met, then he could have done so, easily. We live in different towns and could never see eachother again. But he has been the one to initiate 'conversation' since the confrontation in the bar--where I remember telling him that there is no point in us being just "friends". He also wanted to see me when he came to visit his friend in my town...so for some reason, he can't seem to let it go himself. And me realizing this gives me the little bit of 'hope' that something is there.
I feel like getting everything out there would make me feel better and I can move on if I need to. An email would let me express myself better than on the phone...
If there is a negative response [to my email] then that will just be the end of it all. I just hate the "not knowing"
But I'm not stupid, he hasn't shown overly 'promising' indicators that he is interested, but because I like him and really think that we are very good for eachother, I am not letting the chance go. I want it, so I am willing to work. And I feel like if he just opened his eyes he'd realize it too.
If he wanted to "end it" back when we met, then he could have done so, easily. We live in different towns and could never see eachother again. But he has been the one to initiate 'conversation' since the confrontation in the bar--where I remember telling him that there is no point in us being just "friends". He also wanted to see me when he came to visit his friend in my town...so for some reason, he can't seem to let it go himself. And me realizing this gives me the little bit of 'hope' that something is there.
I feel like getting everything out there would make me feel better and I can move on if I need to. An email would let me express myself better than on the phone...
brutal, but probably true.
But until I have a 100% , "spelled out" response outcome (answer), I don't give up on the things I want.
At least, scorpions are known for their ability to move on... (only for me, that time won't come before I get my guarantee)
But until I have a 100% , "spelled out" response outcome (answer), I don't give up on the things I want.
At least, scorpions are known for their ability to move on... (only for me, that time won't come before I get my guarantee)
hmmm, does this magnetic attraction work if one has scorp rising?
Totally appreciate this old thread about the connection betweeb scorps & cancers....I've experienced it first hand & know it to be true =)
Posted by caesarkreshenPosted by semi-charmed life
how do they usually display/hint their affection towards someone they like?
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Their presence...
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To simply ignore the automatic "lock down" of energetic release without reservation is pretty impossible with two "feely" shelled signs like these. The natural fear of getting hurt while so open is grounds to encourage reserved observation until something can naturally bloom.
Notice how all of the beautiful chemistry just seemed to flow on the phone? Where is the danger over the telephone? With no fear and the ability to let your imagination run wild I am sure it was quite easy to let your expectations build such beautiful tapestries of what could be...but mother nature has her rules and no one can simply be so free in person without some reserve.
I imagine that there was some inkling of doubt you both had when you met in person, which is healthy, but is a step back from where you both were emotionally, without the physical IRL experience, which I could feel would through a screw into the gears.
It would seem like you both are on slight gaurd despite your efforts to just be open, which you can both feel immensely and is a distracting "red light". It may just be mother natures way of slowing down and letting it build up. Maybe inject a little bit of "care free" and "this may end but I will enjoy it for what it is" into your encounters and then there won't be that looming and distracting feeling of possible loss getting in the way of some good feelings to blossom.
To simply ignore the automatic "lock down" of energetic release without reservation is pretty impossible with two "feely" shelled signs like these. The natural fear of getting hurt while so open is grounds to encourage reserved observation until something can naturally bloom.
Notice how all of the beautiful chemistry just seemed to flow on the phone? Where is the danger over the telephone? With no fear and the ability to let your imagination run wild I am sure it was quite easy to let your expectations build such beautiful tapestries of what could be...but mother nature has her rules and no one can simply be so free in person without some reserve.
I imagine that there was some inkling of doubt you both had when you met in person, which is healthy, but is a step back from where you both were emotionally, without the physical IRL experience, which I could feel would through a screw into the gears.
It would seem like you both are on slight gaurd despite your efforts to just be open, which you can both feel immensely and is a distracting "red light". It may just be mother natures way of slowing down and letting it build up. Maybe inject a little bit of "care free" and "this may end but I will enjoy it for what it is" into your encounters and then there won't be that looming and distracting feeling of possible loss getting in the way of some good feelings to blossom.
Such a potent energy the Scorpio releases from their eyes. Like a cut of the purest intoxicant, it can run through your body and leave you so distracted. This thread has me enchanted on the notion of finding a Scorpio lady again. The reward is so great. How the tail does hurt though when it pierces the exposed insides of the tender crab...almost to the point of killing something. Such a risk, but for such a drug...
How good it feels to be known without having to say so much is something a Cancer craves. The naked post is so accurate...to be seen through isn't always easy, but if everything is going well, why not live naked?
How good it feels to be known without having to say so much is something a Cancer craves. The naked post is so accurate...to be seen through isn't always easy, but if everything is going well, why not live naked?
@Pandybear,
He still gives you that attention even after that long time of not seeing him? If that's the case, it would make his WEEK if you actually did go visit him at work. I remember a couple of years ago I really liked this girl who worked close to the same area that I did (I worked in retail/sales job, she worked at a cafe type place). I would visit her shop whenever I was on break to get a drink, but more importantly to see her and eventually talk to her. Whenever I was served by her, I'd take the opportunity to chat her up and gradually we became more at ease with each other, started joking around and found out more about each other, and she enjoyed my presence too. Through this way I found out her hobbies, her school, interests, etc.
I was very interested in her, but I was still indirect. I mean you could tell that I liked her (and her coworkers knew and even helped me along lol), but I didn't put myself in the position where I'd be dismissed or rejected. Like I didn't directly ask her if she had a boyfriend, but I would ask if she was for example going to some upcoming dance/event with some people. I didn't ask if she had a Valentine already, but I would ask if she always 'celebrated' it and what she planned on doing. After doing this and getting a feel that she at least enjoyed my presence, I'd tell her of where I work (which was super close to her) and hinted that she could come there anytime by saying how dead it was during a certain time period (I told her how me and my coworkers had fun since we had a tv in the backroom and that anyone could just visit).
At some point you get more direct, especially if you finally get into the relationship, but that's how I did it in the "seduction" phase =P And I would say that if he talks about where he works, and he visits you all the time, he would want nothing more than if you were to go up there and do the same at some point.
He still gives you that attention even after that long time of not seeing him? If that's the case, it would make his WEEK if you actually did go visit him at work. I remember a couple of years ago I really liked this girl who worked close to the same area that I did (I worked in retail/sales job, she worked at a cafe type place). I would visit her shop whenever I was on break to get a drink, but more importantly to see her and eventually talk to her. Whenever I was served by her, I'd take the opportunity to chat her up and gradually we became more at ease with each other, started joking around and found out more about each other, and she enjoyed my presence too. Through this way I found out her hobbies, her school, interests, etc.
I was very interested in her, but I was still indirect. I mean you could tell that I liked her (and her coworkers knew and even helped me along lol), but I didn't put myself in the position where I'd be dismissed or rejected. Like I didn't directly ask her if she had a boyfriend, but I would ask if she was for example going to some upcoming dance/event with some people. I didn't ask if she had a Valentine already, but I would ask if she always 'celebrated' it and what she planned on doing. After doing this and getting a feel that she at least enjoyed my presence, I'd tell her of where I work (which was super close to her) and hinted that she could come there anytime by saying how dead it was during a certain time period (I told her how me and my coworkers had fun since we had a tv in the backroom and that anyone could just visit).
At some point you get more direct, especially if you finally get into the relationship, but that's how I did it in the "seduction" phase =P And I would say that if he talks about where he works, and he visits you all the time, he would want nothing more than if you were to go up there and do the same at some point.
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