Cancer male, aries female (Page 2)

Arrhhh.... i miss Nefer so much right now, it hurts ^^*hugs*

Well I did respond. And now he can't stop texting me. He said he has had a heavy heart all day and that he doesn't want to lose me, that he doesn't do well with ultimatums. I told him I understand where he's coming from and that I dont want him to feel pressure. I want him to feel 110% sure that he was to be with me. Now he's texting me that hes been crying and feels empty...that his past relationship lasted 4 years and he just can't get on that path right now. But that he wouldn't be feeling so off if his feelings for me weren't so strong....then he said brought up the parent thing again. I actually had a talk with my mom today and let her know everything. He said he's glad I told her but it hurts that I waited so long. Then he said goodnight....and now he just text me that he can't sleep because he can't stop thinking about me. Ahhh this is so hard.

Move on. He will hurt you much more.

I also have to move on....almost 3 weeks without any contact. Even if he loves me, he is selfish and he can't deal with his own life - and it's simple not my problem. He is not a grown up, if he was, he would told me that, we're done or do not call or text me, I'm not interested in you.

He still loves you, it is hard for him to accept what you did. Imagine if that happened to you on your business trip and came back with belongings gone. How would you feel, betrayed? It is easy for some Aries to forgive and accept the consequences, on his part, even if you think he's being selfish, it seems that way personally if that happened to me, I would be much more careful now, thinking of the situation twice... because if it happened, it can happen again.... he is extremely hurt, it is going to take some time to get pass the way he feels, (not saying he's going to forget about it...). I understand you are frustrated with the communication part, as it's not the only issue bothering you it seems like, what I'm trying to say is, do not take it out on him, do not take it on yourself either, I self-sabotage before relationships starts and since I see you are doing it to yourself, this is the reason why I'm calling out,
The part that caught me the most was, you were not expecting him to be the way he is, so what makes you think he is expected to be by the way you think of him to be, now? I apologize if I am calling you out, not a question, something to think about... I would not lose hope.... I think he is waiting until you are ready, as well as he feels like he is ready too, to present himself entirely, once again. I say once because it gets scary, feeling like that one day he will not be there, and to think again, only because it's in our imagination. Only you know, what truly feels what is there. Only I am an outsider looking in. He is going to take his time if you are willing to have the patience to understand and accept, something on your part as he is taking his time to recover, what he's doing on his part. It is not as easy for others as it is for us aries. Have no expectations, cause if we do it feels like forever. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, something to think about. But I will say, focus on yourself and have no expectations. Let it go if you need to, because it is having no expectations for what it is to be expected...

Posted by krebbsmann
@whisper
y u an arian too— well then come on board!!! :p

thank you ! 🙂

I was on a business trip last week, and because of the snowing it wasn't sure I get home yesterday.

For unknown reasons I felt I have to text him, and I sent a pretty friendly saying nothing message. He replied immediately. He asked how am I doing. I replied, I am on the way to the airport but I am a bit scared because of the heavy snowing. He replied again immediately saying I have to take care of myself and he hopes I'll get home as soon as possible.

I was impressed. Was not counting on any reply.

Sorry, not last week, this week (actually I got home yesterday night)

Posted by Whisper
He still loves you, it is hard for him to accept what you did. Imagine if that happened to you on your business trip and came back with belongings gone. How would you feel, betrayed? It is easy for some Aries to forgive and accept the consequences, on his part, even if you think he's being selfish, it seems that way personally if that happened to me, I would be much more careful now, thinking of the situation twice... because if it happened, it can happen again.... he is extremely hurt, it is going to take some time to get pass the way he feels, (not saying he's going to forget about it...). I understand you are frustrated with the communication part, as it's not the only issue bothering you it seems like, what I'm trying to say is, do not take it out on him, do not take it on yourself either, I self-sabotage before relationships starts and since I see you are doing it to yourself, this is the reason why I'm calling out,
The part that caught me the most was, you were not expecting him to be the way he is, so what makes you think he is expected to be by the way you think of him to be, now? I apologize if I am calling you out, not a question, something to think about... I would not lose hope.... I think he is waiting until you are ready, as well as he feels like he is ready too, to present himself entirely, once again. I say once because it gets scary, feeling like that one day he will not be there, and to think again, only because it's in our imagination. Only you know, what truly feels what is there. Only I am an outsider looking in. He is going to take his time if you are willing to have the patience to understand and accept, something on your part as he is taking his time to recover, what he's doing on his part. It is not as easy for others as it is for us aries. Have no expectations, cause if we do it feels like forever. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, something to think about. But I will say, focus on yourself and have no expectations. Let it go if you need to, because it is having no expectations for what it is to be expected...

I know I distreated him. And I feel really sorry. I apologised several times. I did travel again and again showing him I still love & care. I don't know what else I could do.
I gave up. I don't want to force or chase. I don't want him anymore...he is still hurt. He has to deal with his own disappoin

He has to deal with his own disappointment.

Almost a month and still no contact. From his side. I texted him 2 weeks ago, he replied right back, 2 times. I texted him yesterday (knew that he was on a ski trip and asked how it was - nothing special) he tested me right back again asking me how am I doing? I am wondering, if he is interested how am I doin' why isn't he taking the initiative to drop a call on his own? Why is it easier to answer....and ask back?

because he's being polite? read as: no effort = no interest.... move on

I forget the whole story here - but stop investing yourself is my best guess.