Cancer male's friends keep appearing in my life trying to...

Long story short, cancer guy's friends are still managing to "randomly" approach me, at first in a friendly manner, then eventually they switch and start to flirt. I tell them like I tell anyone, I don't feel the same way, but some will still try to date me.

Its been a loooonnnggg time since I've seen or talked to him, and I try not mention the relationship to anyone new.. specially if its someone that has some sort of connection to him.. anybody know whats going on... wtf

If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

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If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

The energy doesn't even feel right when they start to flirt, I hung out with a guy for a while that was a mutual friend.. he was a good personal overall & really wanted to be with me but he always mention the cancer in a jealous/humored way & it was disgusting, even if I'm not dating someone anymore that doesn't give someone else the green light to try to shit on them :/

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If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

The energy doesn't even feel right when they start to flirt, I hung out with a guy for a while that was a mutual friend.. he was a good personal overall & really wanted to be with me but he always mention the cancer in a jealous/humored way & it was disgusting, even if I'm not dating someone anymore that doesn't give someone else the green light to try to shit on them :/

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Are you feeling guilty about something? Why did you and Crabman not work out?

The bad feels might be coming from you having done something to warrant being broken up with, or you still have too deep feelings for him and his idiot friend/s constantly reminding you of him is annoying.

Maybe you should make new friends who don't actually know him, and take it from there.

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Posted by Spotlessmind

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

The energy doesn't even feel right when they start to flirt, I hung out with a guy for a while that was a mutual friend.. he was a good personal overall & really wanted to be with me but he always mention the cancer in a jealous/humored way & it was disgusting, even if I'm not dating someone anymore that doesn't give someone else the green light to try to shit on them :/

Are you feeling guilty about something? Why did you and Crabman not work out?

The bad feels might be coming from you having done something to warrant being broken up with, or you still have too deep feelings for him and his idiot friend/s constantly reminding you of him is annoying.

Maybe you should make new friends who don't actually know him, and take it from there.

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Every time I started to feel comfortable around him, he'd dip. It takes a while for me to warm up, specially when there's misunderstandings that have happened. We probably hurt each others' feelings without trying, he would wait until I brought something up that bothered me, to bring up something that bothered him & that equaled.. a mess.

I feel bad that we haven't been able to talk, specially with the things going on in both of our lives & it seems like the feelings are there whether I acknowledge them or not. We both know too many ppl, live in the same place & our jobs are similar so its not possible to just erase him :/ I haven't been as outgoing as I used to be, mostly to avoid any reminders of him but that wasn't even working lol

Posted by Spotlessmind

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow

Posted by Spotlessmind

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

The energy doesn't even feel right when they start to flirt, I hung out with a guy for a while that was a mutual friend.. he was a good personal overall & really wanted to be with me but he always mention the cancer in a jealous/humored way & it was disgusting, even if I'm not dating someone anymore that doesn't give someone else the green light to try to shit on them :/

Are you feeling guilty about something? Why did you and Crabman not work out?

The bad feels might be coming from you having done something to warrant being broken up with, or you still have too deep feelings for him and his idiot friend/s constantly reminding you of him is annoying.

Maybe you should make new friends who don't actually know him, and take it from there.

Every time I started to feel comfortable around him, he'd dip. It takes a while for me to warm up, specially when there's misunderstandings that have happened. We probably hurt each others' feelings without trying, he would wait until I brought something up that bothered me, to bring up something that bothered him & that equaled.. a mess.

I feel bad that we haven't been able to talk, specially with the things going on in both of our lives & it seems like the feelings are there whether I acknowledge them or not. We both know too many ppl, live in the same place & our jobs are similar so its not possible to just erase him :/ I haven't been as outgoing as I used to be, mostly to avoid any reminders of him but that wasn't even working lol

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Were you his first adult relationship or vice verca?

Unless you're ready to put your heart-guarding ways behind you, having your first serious relationship with a potential emotional overload like a Cancer can be very culture-shocking. It'd help if he had prominent earth placement/s, so he could relate to you better and vice verca.

Same way me and my Virgo boy work. I'm a Fish, he's a Virgin, but we share each other's sun (me Virgo moon, him Pisces rising). The chemistry was undeniable since day 1, that's why we became close friends very quickly. 4 years later we're far more than friends even though he's straight.

I guess that's the problem these days. Finding someone who truly gets you is too hard. My boy is doing everything in his power to keep me in his life.

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Posted by Spotlessmind

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow

Posted by Spotlessmind

Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
If you're not together anymore, where's the harm?

The energy doesn't even feel right when they start to flirt, I hung out with a guy for a while that was a mutual friend.. he was a good personal overall & really wanted to be with me but he always mention the cancer in a jealous/humored way & it was disgusting, even if I'm not dating someone anymore that doesn't give someone else the green light to try to shit on them :/

Are you feeling guilty about something? Why did you and Crabman not work out?

The bad feels might be coming from you having done something to warrant being broken up with, or you still have too deep feelings for him and his idiot friend/s constantly reminding you of him is annoying.

Maybe you should make new friends who don't actually know him, and take it from there.

Every time I started to feel comfortable around him, he'd dip. It takes a while for me to warm up, specially when there's misunderstandings that have happened. We probably hurt each others' feelings without trying, he would wait until I brought something up that bothered me, to bring up something that bothered him & that equaled.. a mess.

I feel bad that we haven't been able to talk, specially with the things going on in both of our lives & it seems like the feelings are there whether I acknowledge them or not. We both know too many ppl, live in the same place & our jobs are similar so its not possible to just erase him :/ I haven't been as outgoing as I used to be, mostly to avoid any reminders of him but that wasn't even working lol

Were you his first adult relationship or vice verca?

Unless you're ready to put your heart-guarding ways behind you, having your first serious relationship with a potential emotional overload like a Cancer can be very culture-shocking. It'd help if he had prominent earth placement/s, so he could relate to you better and vice verca.

Same way me and my Virgo boy work. I'm a Fish, he's a Virgin, but we share each other's sun (me Virgo moon, him Pisces rising). The chemistry was undeniable since day 1, that's why we became close friends very quickly. 4 years later we're far more than friends even though he's straight.

I guess that's the problem these days. Finding someone who truly gets you is too hard. My boy is doing everything in his power to keep me in his life.

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As hilarious as it is... were not each others' first at all, we both came out of relationships that almost broke us but changed the way we loved for the better & sometimes the worse (We didn't know each other until after the relationships happened.) His mars, neptune, venus & moon were earth placements. Its like I could read his chart when we first met and thought yup... I've met this guy before in a different time, he's meant to be here.

Fear from both sides caused the miscommunication, on an astrological level I had squares while he had opposites with a few aspects that we shared. We seem to fear the same things from what I can see, but I can't be the only one trying to better the situation instead of sitting in fear or settling.