Cancer man and I are dating each other only, but no exclusive talk. Is this a dead end situation? (Page 2)

Posted by kissmygrits

Posted by Illuminati

Posted by kissmygrits
So you're leaving it all on him while you make assumptions.


Yup this was the start of virgo and I breaking up.

Thought you were rooting for the guy? You think he is going to dump her now?

I am rooting for both of them. But here's the problem with a Virgo and Cancer communication sucks balls. Lots of things could be saved if people would open their mouth. Am I right or wrong? This is for any relationship not just this zodiac combo.

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Communication is indeed the key to relationships. I read that the OP already made her intention known by saying she is willing to explore. That is why I was not impressed with his lack of contact. Moreover I'm not sure if there's more the OP can do apart from waiting.

Look up her other threads.

Posted by kissmygrits
Look up her other threads.

i vaguely remember those.

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Posted by kissmygrits
Look up her other threads.

i vaguely remember those.

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Right. Too busy telling everyone to stay away from cancers. 😆 😛

Last thread she freaked out because he was busy with work and moving.

Posted by Poppyseeds
Been dating for a bit over 2 months and been on 7 dates.

We made it known that we are only dating each other

It's early days and your exclusive, what more do you want?

Just cause he's not ready for gf/bf titles yet doesn't mean the relationship is going nowhere. From your other, numerous threads, it's apparent that your new and rather naive to dating so let me share some advice.

A guy asking you to be his gf doesn't really mean shit. In fact many men blind the girls they are seeing with this title of girlfriend and then proceed to continue to date and fuck multiple women. The important thing will always be how he treats you, his ACTIONS not his words.

Once again, as I have on your multitude of other threads, I urge you to calm your mind and take it day by day.
Your manic thought process is only going to fuck up what you have going here....

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Posted by kissmygrits
Look up her other threads.

i vaguely remember those.

Right. Too busy telling everyone to stay away from cancers. 😆 😛

Last thread she freaked out because he was busy with work and moving.

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I have a quota to meet you know 😉

It's true she was freaking out. I feel like this time she has mode of a valid reason. Guys often hit and quit by ghosting.

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And yes true but I still think she's over thinking and needs to ask him again. Or she's going to need some tums.

Posted by kissmygrits
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And yes true but I still think she's over thinking and needs to ask him again. Or she's going to need some tums.

I think actions speaks louder than words. His lack of contact is already a message.

If we give him the benefit of the doubt he probably thinks this is the best for them both if there is a potential for him to move away

Posted by kissmygrits
So you're leaving it all on him while you make assumptions.


Yup this was the start of virgo and I breaking up.

He must be pretty tired of having to always be the first one to initiate contact. Communication is a two way street.

Thank you!

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Posted by kissmygrits
So you're leaving it all on him while you make assumptions.


Yup this was the start of virgo and I breaking up.

He must be pretty tired of having to always be the first one to initiate contact. Communication is a two way street.

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If a guy wants you they will be eager to lock you down. He is not afraid of losing her. He wants to keep things casual.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by kissmygrits
So you're leaving it all on him while you make assumptions.


Yup this was the start of virgo and I breaking up.

He must be pretty tired of having to always be the first one to initiate contact. Communication is a two way street.

If a guy wants you they will be eager to lock you down. He is not afraid of losing her. He wants to keep things casual.

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You may not remember her many threads about this guy, but I do.

He has shown interest every step of the way. But because he's gone a few hours without contact he must be tossing her to the side...smh.

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Posted by kissmygrits
So you're leaving it all on him while you make assumptions.


Yup this was the start of virgo and I breaking up.

He must be pretty tired of having to always be the first one to initiate contact. Communication is a two way street.

If a guy wants you they will be eager to lock you down. He is not afraid of losing her. He wants to keep things casual.

You may not remember her many threads about this guy, but I do.

He has shown interest every step of the way. But because he's gone a few hours without contact he must be tossing her to the side...smh.

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I might be wrong but I got the impression the guy is not contact her for days after sex?

Posted by Illuminati
It still amuses me that people never really read the post, they apply the story they made up in their own head before they leave their supposingly insightful comment.

Just like you did with my post.

Funny how that works.

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Posted by Poppyseeds
Been dating for a bit over 2 months and been on 7 dates. We have a lot in common intellectually and emotionally, as well as our values when it comes to relationship and sex.

We made it known that we are only dating each other, and he wants to take it slow like only see me once a week which suits my schedule. We did it after the talk and he kept telling me how amazing it is during and after. We cuddled and showered together then we went to bed. The next day he made me breakfast and walked me to the station.

I some how have a gut feeling that he wants to take it slow is due to the instability of his career, as it might take him overseas. I asked if that's the case. He was shocked that I could sense it. He said he is not taking it slow consciously due to this reason but it make sense. He also added he's been single for 18 months so he's been in "preserved mode" not sure what that really means... he said his previous relationship was intense with lots of hot and cold from his Virgo ex, they had lots of arguments during the relationship as that's the only way she communicates, and the end was an ugly fight. I asked if they are still in touch. He said not really. As she is overseas and he cut it off when it got too much, she was going through a lot and would randomly message him just to use him to listen to all of her problems.

Perhaps that is why he said to me many times that I'm really sweet and he really likes that. As I seem to be the opposite to his ex?

I told him no one really knows what's going to happen, lets just keep getting to know each other and enjoy our time together. I'm glad we both are very open to talk about stuff. I'm glad we both have a trust foundation and emotional openness that allows us to talk.

I guess sex has more impact on woman as it makes me feel more vulnerable now... he hasn't made solid plan to see me, he only said I will meet his house mate when he is back from holiday. he also said I have to show him that photo next time. he kissed me passionately at the station before he left, I told him he should go as he was running late. haven't heard from him since.

Hunny. I say this without the slightest bit of shade or ill intentions.

But what the fuck happened to you that resulted in this mindset?

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I'm not sure what you meant?

@kissmygrits @arielle83 @illuminati @ladyneptune @FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Ladies, I thought this will be easier to answer respond to your comment. He finally got in touch, took him 52 hrs... also the text was at least 4 times shorter than what he used to send me. He didn't use my name nor the nickname he gave me. He didn't mention when can we see each other either.

What do you think? it's not looking positive to me. Feels like he is gradually reducing contact...

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Posted by Poppyseeds
Been dating for a bit over 2 months and been on 7 dates.

We made it known that we are only dating each other

It's early days and your exclusive, what more do you want?

Just cause he's not ready for gf/bf titles yet doesn't mean the relationship is going nowhere. From your other, numerous threads, it's apparent that your new and rather naive to dating so let me share some advice.

A guy asking you to be his gf doesn't really mean shit. In fact many men blind the girls they are seeing with this title of girlfriend and then proceed to continue to date and fuck multiple women. The important thing will always be how he treats you, his ACTIONS not his words.

Once again, as I have on your multitude of other threads, I urge you to calm your mind and take it day by day.
Your manic thought process is only going to fuck up what you have going here....

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He didn't use the word exclusive.. all he said was he is not dating or sleeping with others. He also mentioned he has been abstained since Jan, because he wants to clean his act up to be ready for a partner.

Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @arielle83 @illuminati @ladyneptune@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Ladies, I thought this will be easier to respond to your comment. He finally got in touch, took him 52 hrs... also the text was at least 4 times shorter than what he used to send me. He didn't use my name nor the nickname he gave me. He didn't mention when can we see each other either.

What do you think? it's not looking positive to me. Feels like he is gradually reducing contact...

Follow your gut, prepare for the worst. These are all signs of backing off.

Oh hell no lady really. I know this is going to hurt but do it now for the sake of your well being. You know you tried , maybe tired of it.

Try POF or Okcupid.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh hell no lady really. I know this is going to hurt but do it now for the sake of your well being. You know you tried , maybe tired of it.

Try POF or Okcupid.

This girl wasn't being paranoid, she has some serious intuition.

Posted by Poppyseeds

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Posted by Poppyseeds
Been dating for a bit over 2 months and been on 7 dates.

We made it known that we are only dating each other

It's early days and your exclusive, what more do you want?

Just cause he's not ready for gf/bf titles yet doesn't mean the relationship is going nowhere. From your other, numerous threads, it's apparent that your new and rather naive to dating so let me share some advice.

A guy asking you to be his gf doesn't really mean shit. In fact many men blind the girls they are seeing with this title of girlfriend and then proceed to continue to date and fuck multiple women. The important thing will always be how he treats you, his ACTIONS not his words.

Once again, as I have on your multitude of other threads, I urge you to calm your mind and take it day by day.
Your manic thought process is only going to fuck up what you have going here....

He didn't use the word exclusive.. all he said was he is not dating or sleeping with others. He also mentioned he has been abstained since Jan, because he wants to clean his act up to be ready for a partner.

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The definition of exclusive is not dating or sleeping with others. So yes, he has talked about exclusivity with you.

*facepalm

This is what I'm talking about. 😆

Posted by Poppyseeds
@kissmygrits @arielle83 @illuminati @ladyneptune @FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Ladies, I thought this will be easier to answer respond to your comment. He finally got in touch, took him 52 hrs... also the text was at least 4 times shorter than what he used to send me. He didn't use my name nor the nickname he gave me. He didn't mention when can we see each other either.

What do you think? it's not looking positive to me. Feels like he is gradually reducing contact...

How are you getting all of that from a text?

Call him, speak to him over the phone. You'll know instantly where you stand from his tone of voice and what he says.

There are so many different reasons as to why he waited to contact you.

He is in the middle of a stressful move.

He may have not wanted to seem over eager.

He may be insecure from his performance/size and from the lack of affirmation from you.

If your going to speculate on what he is thinking and feeling without communication with him directly, you may as well explore all sides of the coin instead of thinking so negatively.

Posted by Poppyseeds
he hasn't made solid plan to see me, he only said I will meet his house mate when he is back from holiday. he also said I have to show him that photo next time. he kissed me passionately at the station before he left

HE'S ON VACATION!?

How did I miss this? Wow you are really high maintenance and needy. He's already planning to have you over when he's back from his vaca.

Its only been 52 hours in between contact from him.

52 hours guys!

Of which he was probably traveling for at least 10-15 and then another 8 hours for sleep...

But because he's not all up your ass you get all insecure and start second guessing everything.

Smh...you really are your worst enemy in this.

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Posted by Poppyseeds
he hasn't made solid plan to see me, he only said I will meet his house mate when he is back from holiday. he also said I have to show him that photo next time. he kissed me passionately at the station before he left

HE'S ON VACATION!?

How did I miss this? Wow you are really high maintenance and needy. He's already planning to have you over when he's back from his vaca.

Its only been 52 hours in between contact from him.

52 hours guys!

Of which he was probably traveling for at least 10-15 and then another 8 hours for sleep...

But because he's not all up your ass you get all insecure and start second guessing everything.

Smh...you really are your worst enemy in this.

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I think his housemate is the one who is away...

Posted by SensitiveBlues
i can't take anymore of this useless woman's threads.

she's like a nightmare to a crabs being. can you imagine. she only thinks this, what happens when she's in full rage


does he know you're a VIRGO and that he's going to get the same kind of crap as he got before with his EX?

Virgo men are not for you. You couldn't keep them yourself.

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i can't take anymore of this useless woman's threads.

she's like a nightmare to a crabs being. can you imagine. she only thinks this, what happens when she's in full rage


does he know you're a VIRGO and that he's going to get the same kind of crap as he got before with his EX?

Virgo men are not for you. You couldn't keep them yourself.

who wants to keep self absorbed selfish annoying azz entities


are you tired of sucking our dicks yet?

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Didn't realize you have a dick. I thought you were a woman

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i can't take anymore of this useless woman's threads.

she's like a nightmare to a crabs being. can you imagine. she only thinks this, what happens when she's in full rage


does he know you're a VIRGO and that he's going to get the same kind of crap as he got before with his EX?

Virgo men are not for you. You couldn't keep them yourself.

who wants to keep self absorbed selfish annoying azz entities


are you tired of sucking our dicks yet?

Didn't realize you have a dick. I thought you were a woman

who cares what i am. you do realize i have dated many virgos, got bitten by just one.

but why are you here? seriously.

why don't you go off into Aries land or wherever you belong


i dont like you whiny annoying bytches.

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Your liking is really significant to everyone here, look who's the self absorbed one

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Posted by Poppyseeds
he hasn't made solid plan to see me, he only said I will meet his house mate when he is back from holiday. he also said I have to show him that photo next time. he kissed me passionately at the station before he left

HE'S ON VACATION!?

How did I miss this? Wow you are really high maintenance and needy. He's already planning to have you over when he's back from his vaca.

Its only been 52 hours in between contact from him.

52 hours guys!

Of which he was probably traveling for at least 10-15 and then another 8 hours for sleep...

But because he's not all up your ass you get all insecure and start second guessing everything.

Smh...you really are your worst enemy in this.

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He is NOT on holiday, the one who is on holiday is his house mate. Which is why I've been there twice and haven't met him.

Regarding the insecurity about his performance. I told him he is really really good and could be a porn star. That should have gave him a confidence boost?

Anyway I already replied his text, it matches the length of his text, basically just something non committal that matches the "warmth" on his text. He talked about his days on the text and I did the same. I made a small joke at the end to lighten the situation up. See if he will ask me out...

Chill your cray. Go water plants. Hug some puppies. Wash your car. Go focus on something else right now. You're over thinking stuff.

Posted by kissmygrits
Chill your cray. Go water plants. Hug some puppies. Wash your car. Go focus on something else right now. You're over thinking stuff.

haha ok girl, I will get off dxp for a few days, will update you when / if he ask me out.

Posted by kissmygrits
Chill your cray. Go water plants. Hug some puppies. Wash your car. Go focus on something else right now. You're over thinking stuff.

get your dating profile up too, This cancer guy is already gone....

😆 😆 😆

...can't wait for the season finale...

Posted by kissmygrits
😆 😆 😆

You finally agree with me that the guy did a smash and dash ‚‚‚

I'm hoping not. I want a good ongoing thing for once. 🙂

In 2 months you should have by now figured if this is a good match.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
In 2 months you should have by now figured if this is a good match.

I'm not being a wet blanket. I do think they started out great and things did sound promising. I also hope things works out for them.

He could be now having cold feet due to the possibility of relocation what so ever.

I still believe that men fight for what they treasure, even if it means long distance he will still try to convince her. Boys run from first sign of hurdle.

Posted by kissmygrits
I'm hoping not. I want a good ongoing thing for once. 🙂

well.. I'm back sooner than you think.. I realized my text was a bit close ended.. so I sent another one that shows my feelings. I told him I miss his voice.

He wrote back really quickly and the text was LONG. He told me what he is busy with but didn;'t mention when can we get together... he ended it wtih I hope you're staying warm tonight! x

I'm getting mix signal..

And you text him why, see I'm learning on here and irl. That really if a guy is interested he will call alot and would never worry. He would treat you special, he would tell everyone including hot chicks after him and verbally express he's seeing you. Guys show differently but you will know if he is serious or not.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
And you text him why, see I'm learning on here and irl. That really if a guy is interested he will call alot and would never worry. He would treat you special, he would tell everyone including hot chicks after him and verbally express he's seeing you. Guys show differently but you will know if he is serious or not.

I texted him because my last text wasn't genuine.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
And you text him why, see I'm learning on here and irl. That really if a guy is interested he will call alot and would never worry. He would treat you special, he would tell everyone including hot chicks after him and verbally express he's seeing you. Guys show differently but you will know if he is serious or not.

We are not dating or seeing other people, others on dxp calls it exclusive.

He responded quickly and finally it's a "long text" that you would like. He cares about you and wants you to keep warm and gave you a kiss.

Yet you whined about he hasn't asked you out. Can he do anything right? Why don't you ask him out?

Posted by Illuminati
He responded quickly and finally it's a "long text" that you would like. He cares about you and wants you to keep warm and gave you a kiss.

Yet you whined about he hasn't asked you out. Can he do anything right? Why don't you ask him out?

he doens't like girls to initiate

I probably have discouraged you a lot, burnout it this way. If he doesn't want to keep this going. Would he responded as promptly as he did.

Sounds you both are waiting for each other to make a move...

Posted by Illuminati
I probably have discouraged you a lot, burnout it this way. If he doesn't want to keep this going. Would he responded as promptly as he did.

Sounds you both are waiting for each other to make a move...

He didn't have issue with initiating before...

Big milestone like this can make man have doubts as well. Like someone said he could be worrying about his size and performance.

Seriously did you go for round 2 the next day? If you didn't he might think you didn't want him.

Oh I been through that too initiate because I am a bull and take control after awhile I wonder if they get used not having to do anything else because people know they be back and know where .

Fuck that either you happy to see me or not and should actually see you come see me or open up alittle too. If I have to keep going or asking a guy he's not interested in you or gay or has another woman. Or by then we figure out they are not the one.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh I been through that too initiate because I am a bull and take control after awhile I wonder if they get used not having to do anything else because people know they be back and know where .

Fuck that either you happy to see me or not and should actually see you come see me or open up alittle too. If I have to keep going or asking a guy he's not interested in you or gay or has another woman. Or by then we figure out they are not the one.

He innitiated eveyrthing in the past. I still haven't initiated