Cancer man: are what they said when there's only 2 of you and with other people different?

Hello, i'm new to this forum. I am cancer woman and i'm also in relationship with a cancer man. We knew each other for about 9 months and just start relationship 2 months ago. Before we're in relationship, he's just the sweetest person i've ever met. I've been hurt by my previous relationship so when i met him actually i vowed to have a break in love life and stay single for awhile. But he's very persistent trying to make me believe in relationship again. We lived in different country and he's trying to prove that he's serious by constantly visit me every month. After 6 month since he confessed me for the first time, finally i accept him because i think he really showed his commitment to me.

But, since i know him for the first time until now there's something that bothers me, he's acting different when only 2 of us and when we with our friend. I work as cabin crew, so i fly a lot. just now, one of our friend ask him if he's worried whenever i'm on duty, what if there's an accident. and he replied no, just find a new one. Maybe he tried to joke around but still i felt hurt by his word and my best friend warned him by saying he shouldn't said that even he's joking. He seems realized that i felt offended and he keep poking me (to show that he just joking). I tried not to make drama in front of our friends, so i keep talking and acting as usual. Then on the way back, i talked to him about it. He said he's just joking and he said that i'm too sensitive. I still told him that he cross my boundaries and show no respect to me. In the end, he apologize to me and promise he won't do that again. He said that there's no way he will replace me with someone else because he love me and i should know from every effort he did (by patiently waiting for 6 months until i'm ready for relationship and constantly visiting me). But then i asked, why you have to said that? he said everyone didn't need to know how much i love you(?), only you need to know. And actually i realize that whenever we with other people, the way he speak is different, like more casual and sometimes yes, his joke to me often came out rude (not like how guy treated his girlfriend) but when we're together, his tone and words is gentler.

My question is:

1. Is he just shy or he really didn't respect me?

2. Am i being too sensitive?

I really need your feedback. Thank you so much!

I'm Aquarius and I'm telling you, you're too sensitive. I have two parents for Cancers and Lord knows I love my father, but his jokes can be extreme. What you have to remember is that with Cancer...it really is, just a joke. Simplicity at its finest. Actions speak louder with a cancer and he's done above and beyond more than any other man would have done to prove his love to you. If I were in your shoes, adore the heck out of him. Good men are hard to find and if you caught a cancer man, you have to be a very special woman. Know that you're irreplaceable and never doubt your confidence. He feels comfortable enough to joke around with you, don't make him question that by being easily offended. He truly loves you. =)

FME cancer men need to be told privately what hurts you. Honestly say how it made you feel. He will either acknowledge it and work on it, of you'll be sensitive and keep feeling this way.

Communication 101.



Maybe there was a different scenario that prompted you feeling this way. Did you feel insecure?

Posted by ChanelLucas
I'm Aquarius and I'm telling you, you're too sensitive. I have two parents for Cancers and Lord knows I love my father, but his jokes can be extreme. What you have to remember is that with Cancer...it really is, just a joke. Simplicity at its finest. Actions speak louder with a cancer and he's done above and beyond more than any other man would have done to prove his love to you. If I were in your shoes, adore the heck out of him. Good men are hard to find and if you caught a cancer man, you have to be a very special woman. Know that you're irreplaceable and never doubt your confidence. He feels comfortable enough to joke around with you, don't make him question that by being easily offended. He truly loves you. =)

agreed.

you might be reading more into than what the situation warrented. It's good you told him it upset you, but yes you are a tad sensitive.

You have 2 Aquas saying this.. take that for what it's worth lol

This makes me smile.

This is so typicaaal of these guys, they try to appear tough, cool, joking around friends because they don't want to reveal their soft side in front of men. Plus, just like Scorpios they like to keep their privacy and not be all mushy in public, the sweet side is just for you baby, so enjoy it instead of feeling offended :=)

My guy is a Cancer, and he jokes around a lot in public with me. He isn't a hyper affectionate person in public either, cause he was raised not to be that way. He's affectionate in front of his family and in private.

Stop focusing on the negative, and focus on the positive.

You're just too sensitive. I'm a cancer, and I used to be like that but it's not good for any relationship. Don't read into things too much. 🙂