Cancer Man/ Virgo Woman

Is it possible for a Cancer man to fall in love quickly? I have read that they take their time, but this guy has opened up to me immediately and has told me that he has fallen in love with me. Do they lie about their feelings or is this possible for them? Everything about us seems effortless and being a virgo that scares me lol.

Thank you

Does he make a mad dash at you for the sake of "love" and nothing else?

Depends on whether he is on the rebound or having some other mental-emotional problems.

If he is a mature and emotionally careful person, then he will approach slowly just like I would.

However, if he is in some crazy rebound type situation, be careful!

I have seen that happen, and it's not pretty to watch!

Go with your intuition on this one!!!!

Posted by 69virgo

Posted by stasha313
Is it possible for a Cancer man to fall in love quickly? I have read that they take their time, but this guy has opened up to me immediately and has told me that he has fallen in love with me. Do they lie about their feelings or is this possible for them? Everything about us seems effortless and being a virgo that scares me lol.

Thank you

You must have put that virgo smell on him..lol now go to the crab man compliant forum and tell them what you done because they aint got it.hahahahahahah.

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Haha Virgo smell!!!! I put the stank on it!!!! Awesome!

Posted by Scubafish
Does he make a mad dash at you for the sake of "love" and nothing else?

Depends on whether he is on the rebound or having some other mental-emotional problems.

If he is a mature and emotionally careful person, then he will approach slowly just like I would.

However, if he is in some crazy rebound type situation, be careful!

I have seen that happen, and it's not pretty to watch!

Go with your intuition on this one!!!!

Yeah he is and my intuition is messing with me. One minute I'm cool and then the Virgo paranoia kicks in and I'm not sure what to think. I can say he's consistant on the things he says and does, but yeah I will have to watch and see what happens. Thank you

Posted by piranhaparadise
They get feelings very quickly but they do move slowly...they are cautious

mine got feelings for me very quickly within a few weeks...but don't smother them...don't get paranoid otherwise that turns them off...lol

they are very persistent...they will always contact you all the time...never a day goes by that you don't hear from you...you yourself may feel smothered because they
do focus on you even more when their feelings are in...however be careful not to get needy...then that puts them off and they will be the opposite...

Oh thank you so much!!! That sounds alot like what I'm going thru. He contacts me daily. He texts me first thing in the morning and we are on the phone on/off all day. The odd thing about this is is that he is in Fla. and I'm in MI. Me being a Virgo can be very picky, but there was just something about this man that I couldn't get enough of even tho it freaked me out. I've never experienced someone having feelings for me this fast or I myself having these feelings. I haven't been clingy at all (I have done that in the past) if anything I can be a little stand offish and it freaks him off. If I get quiet for a little longer than he likes he's asking me what's wrong. He's having issues right now so I think he is in/out of his shell a bit, but reading these posts have made me understand more. He wants to be here with me in Mi so he says, but sadly has no way of being here at the moment. To be honest this is really a messy situation, but I can't seem to walk away from it. And I hate drama! lol.

Trust your gut....if something feels off then it usually is. I"m doing the same song and dance with a crab.....I'm a virgo too by the way. 🙂

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Trust your gut....if something feels off then it usually is. I"m doing the same song and dance with a crab.....I'm a virgo too by the way. 🙂

Well it's not so much of feeling off because he's in a situation that is not ideal. K guess I'll just come out with it. He's married to a psycho and no I don't just go by his word, but I know this sounds bad. Other people that I know that know him tell me it's pretty bad and he really needs to leave her. I just actually asked him if he just wants to be with me to get away with her. He said that it's going to happen whether I'm in the pic or not. He's been trying to get away for a while, but everytime he gets one foot out the door she tries to kill herself (that has been confirmed by others.)

So he feels bad and goes back. I told him I will not deal with the back/forth thing and that if he comes here to be with me then that's it. If he goes back then he is gone forever. He constantly assures me that I'm the one he wants to be with, but yeah I wonder if it's a rebound thing. I want to believe, but have been played.

I will say this about my Crab. I have never been able to talk to a man the way I have him. We can talk about absolutely everything...From the most mundane to very serious etc...Just taking it day by day, but feedback is very welcome!

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Posted by stasha313

Posted by piranhaparadise
They get feelings very quickly but they do move slowly...they are cautious

mine got feelings for me very quickly within a few weeks...but don't smother them...don't get paranoid otherwise that turns them off...lol

they are very persistent...they will always contact you all the time...never a day goes by that you don't hear from you...you yourself may feel smothered because they
do focus on you even more when their feelings are in...however be careful not to get needy...then that puts them off and they will be the opposite...

Oh thank you so much!!! That sounds alot like what I'm going thru. He contacts me daily. He texts me first thing in the morning and we are on the phone on/off all day. The odd thing about this is is that he is in Fla. and I'm in MI. Me being a Virgo can be very picky, but there was just something about this man that I couldn't get enough of even tho it freaked me out. I've never experienced someone having feelings for me this fast or I myself having these feelings. I haven't been clingy at all (I have done that in the past) if anything I can be a little stand offish and it freaks him off. If I get quiet for a little longer than he likes he's asking me what's wrong. He's having issues right now so I think he is in/out of his shell a bit, but reading these posts have made me understand more. He wants to be here with me in Mi so he says, but sadly has no way of being here at the moment. To be honest this is really a messy situation, but I can't seem to walk away from it. And I hate drama! lol.

just be relaxed...chilled...go with the flow...

don't let him see you sweat...don't put all your emotions out for him to see...

no clingy behaviour...just friendly and don't be answering him straight away..let a few hours pass...

mine was like yours...however the moment I changed my behaviour became needy...started texting him first...he left...

let him do the initiating ...let him be the man and lead the way...don't lose yourself...bad mistake...

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Thank you Piranhaparadise....So far he is doing all of the initiating. When I even wait 15 mins he starts texting me like crazy. I really care about him and woul

Posted by 69virgo
Don't listen too none of these women that's on that crab man complaint board..hahahahaha..just keep doing what your doing and everything should be alright and if he do start that running in the shell shit for like 4,5,6,7,8,weeks with no contact or nothing just run for the hills and don't look back..hahahahah..

Easier said then done.... The crab shell shit in my life... in on its 3rd year... with nominal contact... 2010 N/C by me... but him... 4 calls... and 2 texts.... with me doing nothing... But the beat goes on... as I texted him back in order to confirm it was him... Sneaky bugger... used a different number... but I knew it was him ... Yup my gut told me so.... I have now sent him back to the curb.

Spoke to my doc.. today... and apparently this crab may be contributing to my physical ailments at the moment....It's all in my head of course...He has a stranglehold on me.. eventhough I haven't seen or really spoken to him in 3 years...

I need a MAN... not a child in my life... Games and more Games... and then more friggen Games... and the beat goes on.

Married? And the truth comes out!

This isn't a "gut instinct", it's right in front of your face that this is off. Yeah, he's eager to jump into your arms because he feels trapped in a loveless, shitty marriage. Even if you guys aren't compatible your grass probably looks a lot greener right now. Just about anyone's pastures look more inviting than his own.

So this situation you got yourself into is stupid. You know it's stupid otherwise you wouldn't be sniffing around here seeking the advice that we all know you won't follow anyway. Sorry to come off sounding condescending but it's obvious that you are aware that this isn't healthy. Take care of you!

What he needs to do is face his problems first instead of entertaining new ones. Running off to be with you is only going to compound his issues. If he has a potentially suicidal wife then he needs to get her help. Even if it's just a manipulative tactic on her part, how is he to really know? He can have her committed for her own safety. Getting the police involved during one of her moments will either get her in their custody (and to the mental ward) or get her to knock that shit off real quick. Then he needs to file for divorce and get his own head straight. Then maybe, just maybe, if you guys can weather this storm, you can live happily ever after. Or whatever.

@ Catin: You need no one but yourself right now. As you stated above, your doc told you that this situation is bad for your health. It's pushing you into therapy too. In fact, I highly recommend that after 3 years. You seem obsessed and unwilling to let go. For the love of it all, please don't go searching for another "man" to get with until you've got your shit together first. If you had any sense of compassion for others, and yourself, you would leave your love life well enough alone until you've healed from this.

Yep and you're all right!!!! I haven't really gotten myself into anything because he is in another state so basically it's whatever, but I'm starting to realize that this dude can lay it on thick!!!! I think I'll just walk away!!! Thanks for all of the advice!

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Honey he's no good for you until he gets out of that situation. Cancer men are so loving, convincing, just everything a woman could want. Yes, they pour it on thick. It's almost like a spell has been cast over you.

the best way for an immature Cancer to get over feelings for an old love... is to find a new one.

It's selfish... because they see you as the greener pasture, fantasize about how 'things could be/ should be', chase the new feeling and try to BURY the old. They don't own up to the role they played in the demise of the past relationship. This is when you hear all the stories about the psycho ex and how much they have suffered.... ya, whatever.

A mature Cancer may use the same technique of 'transferring feelings' but they will go extremely slow in the new relationship, all the while gaining insight into themselves and owning up to the fact that it takes two to tango. OR they can randomly date for years, always trying to shake the shadow...

My Virgo girlfriend just broke up with her Cancer. Apparently she felt like she was
walking on eggshells all the time and is very happy to be rid of him. He himself let go pretty
easily which makes me think they weren't meeting eye to eye very well...

One of the problems is that I believe he was still talking to his ex (bm)
and Virgos don't put up with a lot. Virgo tried to make it work but as
soon as she realized that he wasn't holding up his end of the deal she
cut all ties. She said she "gives up" pretty quickly but I think she's
a smart girl. I personally don't see a cancer-virgo relationship going
very well. Virgos are pretty straightforward and Cancer men are a bit
on the sensitive side... which my Virgo gal HATEDDD..

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One of the problems is that I believe he was still talking to his ex (bm)
and Virgos don't put up with a lot. Virgo tried to make it work but as
soon as she realized that he wasn't holding up his end of the deal she
cut all ties. She said she "gives up" pretty quickly but I think she's
a smart girl. I personally don't see a cancer-virgo relationship going
very well. Virgos are pretty straightforward and Cancer men are a bit
on the sensitive side... which my Virgo gal HATEDDD..

the fact that this Virgo thought she had any right or say in telling a free, individual who is a god damn ADULT who he can and can't speak with is such a huge pile of fucking shit!!!

and what does the bm mean... baby mamma? The Virgo had a problem with a man speaking to the mother of his child—?

ya, no wonder he gave her selfish, pathetic ass up without a second thought. insecure, controlling... see ya!

I knew something was wrong with this guy!!!!!!!

If he is married, then you need to keep away from him.

His life is currently trouble, wrapped up in chaos and surrounded by turbulence.

End of story.

Posted by stasha313
Is it possible for a Cancer man to fall in love quickly? I have read that they take their time, but this guy has opened up to me immediately and has told me that he has fallen in love with me. Do they lie about their feelings or is this possible for them? Everything about us seems effortless and being a virgo that scares me lol.

Thank you

I think it is possible. Just be yourself, stop over analyze. If you trust him, keep him as a friend but nothing more, he might need one. He has a wife you know... Let him solve his problems before getting into others. Don't put you life on hold because of him. Everyone here knows that I am a fan of C/V relationships. We virgos, love to feel needed, we love to protect the weak ones, and he seems to be ideal for this need. But... if he is not free to love you and be next to you when you need him.... what is the use? Often, trying to make so much good for the others, we forget that they should return something to us too. What are your feelings about him? You should talk to him and tell him to stop saying those words and get back to reality, remember him that he has a wife and should work on his problems instead of running away from it. Tell him that he is a strong man and he can do it. Talk to him as a true friend and not a lover. He will appreciate it.

😢 I think they dont...one male Crab I know told me that he likes to take things "slow" ....

Virgos can make you feel loved and appreciated more than probably any sign in the zodiac. They also like to be adored yet not as much as a Leo and in more of a subtle way at that. They are also sneakingly good in bed and will make you feel like what you have to say matters(even if inside they think they know whats right 🙂

However,I am a Cancer man and my hardest breakup was with a Virgo Woman. I am an emotional sign and Virgo women are almost pure logic so they can move on much much easier if they feel the relationship has failed. Its close to impossible for them to want to get back with you when they make their mind up. If you are a Cancer man please be wary of how Virgo woman operate during breakups so you won't mope for a year like I did. They will toy with you a while if you let them know you miss them because they (pretend) feeling sad you are taking it so hard, but don't take it as them wanting to get back. They aren't emotionally gifted enough to realize some people need proper closure and not just "I use to love you last week, but I decided I don't anymore, wish you the best! They aren't meaning to be coldhearted, they just come off that way.

The Virgo issue during breakup doesn't seem to affect the Cancer Woman/Virgo Man matchup as much. The Virgo man usually has a hard time of letting go of the Cancer woman if he has strong sexual ties to her or left his ex to be with her. If his feelings aren't as deep he can let go just as easily as the Virgo Woman.Overall the Cancer Woman can make a Virgo Male act more out of his nature than the Cancer Man can with the Virgo Woman.

So basically if you are a sign that isn't rule by emotions, Virgo is a safe bet. They never think of the emotional consequences of how other people view their actions/reactions. They usually mean the best when it comes down to it however.

Im a Cancer man, and I cannot get this virgo woman off of my mind. Its driving me insane. The aloofness or wutever the hell it is. I feel crazy.....really....it suckz. Just got her a dozen roses for her birthday. If u check the "Virgo" forum, look for "should I continue to pursue virgo woman". I started that post. U can get the entire story there. Let me know wut u think. This thing is killing me.