Cancer Man - What could it mean?

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Phenjx
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What I had typed earlier on could not be viewed. I am dating a cancer man and we are both in our early twenties. He's loving and sweet, but then his mood changes so quickly. I am used to that by now. However, I have realised that he likes to hide away, be it any problem, but he would somehow talk to me about it. We have little arguments and misunderstandings. He would off his phone and I would lose contact with him. By the next day, I would talk to him, and he would be okay, we would be okay. Talking it out with him, just makes it okay. Recently, we had not spoken for about 4 days, since I had some issues and he was disturbed, said by him. I try talking, it wasn't much but there was a little communication. I appreciated that little communication. It is hard to talk to Cancer man, so I am happy for that tiny bit. I talk again the next day, as I wanted to share my problems with him. I was saying that I had some issues and I took time to evaluate everyone in my life. I thought about how they treated me and if they really cared. Seeing this, he gets angry and blocks me off whatsapp. I was stunned but I let him be. I text the next day, apologising. He replies, "I don't need your apology...Keep it". I try texting and calling, where he cuts my calls and doesn't reply. I try the next day, I call and text and still nothing. The day after that, I call just once to let him know that I do care and I want things to be okay. To let him know that he is still on my mind. I end it with just one call. This is a monday. Today, being tuesday is his sister's birthday. Since he is the only mode of communication between me and her, I sent him a message with a birthday wish for her, asking him to pass on the message to her. There isn't any reply. What does it mean? Please help.
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Phenjx
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To happyface1,

I had some family drama and I said to him this.

"I sat and thought it out. Those four days. I thought about all of you guys. Each and everyone. How you guys treat me and do you guys really care."

He replies, "Wow. Is that it. Ok."

In which i reply, "Of course. You, I know do care and so does my other friend." (He sees this message and then blocks me).

He was assisting till I sent that message. I am an Aquarius. I have my issues and he is aware of them. He helps but then this time he just blocked me out. I help him through his issues as well, or just being there.
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Ok...well you did nothing wrong in your last exchange but I don't know about the previous ones.

Doesn't matter though.

You've reached out several times. Let him reach out to you.

He's probably just upset that you had to figure out that he cares..."like really you're just now figuring this out" probably what he's thinking.

Especially bunching him in with other people.

They kind of want you to feel like they care in a different special way. But I guess maybe everybody does when it comes to their SO.

Maybe it took him off guard that you said something he thought was clear as day.

He'll reach out soon.
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Phenjx
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To happyface1,

Previous ones aren't as serious as this. He isn't really obvious on the 'I care part'. It's truly a guessing game. I always let him know how I feel, but he on the other hand, just shields away. Which I realise is really common with him. Usually if I don't talk to him for 2 days, I would get a text from him. The other time, it had been four days, and no text at all. So when I was dealing with my issues, and he wasn't there, it made me think of him too. But I realise he cares, and that was what I tried to point out.

I do agree about the bunching up part, didn't make him feel special. Yea, I made a mistake there. Thus the apology.

I am afraid he would not reach out anymore, and that it would be over. Is that possible? I am worried.
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Phenjx
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Hi guys, i have an update and want to know what you guys think of it. I texted his sister and she says to go by the house and talk to him. That's because he wants attention, a lot of it. The sister earlier said to give him a day or two, and then he would be fine. When i told her that it had been two days, and that he blocked me. She asked me to go over.

What do you guys think about it?
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Phenjx
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Hey guys! I did contact him and things are going amazing. He just had some issues and needed time. But contacting him and giving him attention helped. I learned that leaving someone alone to fight their own battles too long is not helpful either. So after two days, seek them out and help them through it. I am not the kind of person to just forget and move on. I love him and I want to be there for him. Even though it sounds draining, it is worth it when it all works out. That's love and nothing is truly perfect. I accept him for who he is and I am still learning about relationships and life as well.
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Posted by Phenjx
Hey guys! I did contact him and things are going amazing. He just had some issues and needed time. But contacting him and giving him attention helped. I learned that leaving someone alone to fight their own battles too long is not helpful either. So after two days, seek them out and help them through it. I am not the kind of person to just forget and move on. I love him and I want to be there for him. Even though it sounds draining, it is worth it when it all works out. That's love and nothing is truly perfect. I accept him for who he is and I am still learning about relationships and life as well.
Happy for you!! I hope he stays and that´t not just a halt before leaving again. as they always do. not in all cases of course
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Posted by Phenjx
Hey guys! I did contact him and things are going amazing. He just had some issues and needed time. But contacting him and giving him attention helped. I learned that leaving someone alone to fight their own battles too long is not helpful either. So after two days, seek them out and help them through it. I am not the kind of person to just forget and move on. I love him and I want to be there for him. Even though it sounds draining, it is worth it when it all works out. That's love and nothing is truly perfect. I accept him for who he is and I am still learning about relationships and life as well.
OP: is it worth it when it works out?

what do you mean? that you have to be grateful for a tiny bit of communication? If somebody blocked me, it would be the last time they did it........

I cannot believe you reached out to this loser so many times after he blocked you....... and now things are going amazing? what do you mean by amazing? that he talks to you after he ignored you (not the first time?)

You must have some heavy water placement, I understand how you feel, I have them as well, but I dont understand your actions....... reaching out so many times? is it really worth it? until he get his next tantrum and cut you off?

sorry, if I sound negative, I hope you are OK and happy with him.....