Cancer married another

I dated a cancer for five years and he married someone else....he said at times he knows what he wants but others he doesnt. I told him you already made your choice. He left and said he needed time to sort things out...uhm....didn't he get married....sort what out— Very weird...it's been 3 months and I haven't heard a peep out of him. I'm in school so I haven't had the time to grieve but want to get over it and prepare for if this sneaky cheatibg bloke tries to come back.

I would forget anyone who went off and got married. Best case scenario he stays married and worst case scenario he doesnt, in either case you are dealing with someone who obviously cares little about you.

I never said I wanted him back I just said what happened and what he said on his way out. From what I found out he was seeing a married woman and when she divorced he married her. Who knows I caught him in so many lies it's hard to tell.

He sounds like a douche.

And when I say prepare for him possibly trying to make contact it's not to take him back its to prepare to not be caught off guard. Anyway....this site has not been much help....but I tried it....it's kind of a dumb site.

Yeah.....

Well of course I'm working on moving on...it's not been easy after 5 years...and yes I want to be prepared if i run into him...we have some of the same connections through work...and such...I've just created a life that keeps me away from his area....y'all act as if poof someone can get over someone after 5 years.....
overnight.....if it's to stick...it's a process....it would be stupid for me not to prepare for that....duh! I do however find it interesting that the other woman who took him away is a homewrecker but now she's respectable because theyre married....sigh! The way I see it...I dodged that bullet....now his cheating and lying butt is her problem. But pkease don't tell people to get over something in a day....I have good days and I have bad days....and don't really care what others think about it....it's my process and my life....

Posted by Renee2016
And when I say prepare for him possibly trying to make contact it's not to take him back its to prepare to not be caught off guard. Anyway....this site has not been much help....but I tried it....it's kind of a dumb site.

Your original post is all jumbled together and confusing and you call this site dumb?

And to the guy who chose someone else. Good riddance I say. Block all contact. Completely remove that tumor from your life. 🙂

Thanks kiss....but he's more like a hemorrhoid.

What a prick!!! What a horrible asshole. Mine cheated in me too. Total liar. Said he wasn't ready but apparently was ready for someone else. Gross.

Posted by Renee2016
Thanks kiss....but he's more like a hemorrhoid.

Good riddance to that butt sore! 😄

lololol....he's her buttsore....now...

I feel so much better now and am looking forward to my true soulmate coming into my life....I feel pretty and witty and wise....lol

Posted by Renee2016
I feel so much better now and am looking forward to my true soulmate coming into my life....I feel pretty and witty and wise....lol

I'm so glad! Keep on trucking!

Posted by Renee2016
it's been 3 months and I haven't heard a peep out of him.

Do you want him back so you can get real closure? Some answers to unresolved questions.

Posted by Renee2016
I'm in school so I haven't had the time to grieve but want to get over it and prepare for if this sneaky cheatibg bloke tries to come back.

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Or do you want to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself to dismiss him when he comes back?

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What a prick!!! What a horrible asshole. Mine cheated in me too. Total liar. Said he wasn't ready but apparently was ready for someone else. Gross.

Gross. How did you find out he cheated?

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he told me. Just to hurt me and rub it in. While I was trying to get my stuff back. Which I finally did.

Through a friend of ours......last time I heard they were in marriage counseling after 3 days of being married.....that's a nice start.

I'm much happier.....I need a real man from God....the way he acted is beneath me....he's a belly crawler....and I am on higher ground....don't throw your pearls to swines.

I believe that a true soul mate will never let you go...in a healthy way....and I am traditional and like to be chased...so if a guy goes... amen....the next one will be better and I am definately looking forward to a true gentleman....who's got his stuff together and knows what he wants.....and how to treat a lady....I'm excited to meet this guy.