First cancer I dated briefly last year I knew was not interested in being serious with me after a couple of dates - in my gut I could tell but in communication he said everything but that and it was as if he wanted to keep me on a string but then just sent more polite non flirty messages before never getting in touch again. All he avoided was not messaging me directly and telling me he didnt want to waste my time - which i would respect! Instead he made me more mad because he didnt seem to mind confusing me and making me think "all i need to do is be patient' when actually no my gut was right. This feels like disrespect because I was very direct with him and gave him the chance to walk away and still he feed me a story about how he just moves slow.
Three days ago I went on a date with another cancer who admittedly is bad with texting etc anyway... so even before we met I was unsure of his interest. However, in person, really nice and we had loads in common. Seemed like it definitely wouldn't be a once off date so the next day I let him know about this show that was on that we half discussed on date. I threw the rope and left it casual - he could reply either way but at least reply. He seen the message and didnt reply at all. He's a bad texter but not responding at all!!! Isn't that just rude? So the next day I sent him a message saying 'did i miss my cue to read between the lines'. I am annoyed why cant he just have the decency to respond that he isn't interested.I would never do this to someone who asked me on a second date ESPECIALLY if I wasnt interested I would release them from thinking about me asap. I wouldn't want to do that to someone.
These post are full of advice saying that this is just these guys and you have to be patient - really what cancer men out there can say 'im glad my girl was patient while I treated her dismissively know i can be proud of the strong woman I have in my arm'. Really do people really believe this?
No other men have treated me this immature way so it does stand out that these two guys are cancers. I also have male cancer friends who are yes men - say yes to everything and completely neglect the commitment they made to you - leaving it to the point where you are sitting alone in the restaurant waiting in them for them to cancel on you - and again my gut probably knew they were a no show but you could not have told that by their words - its ridiculous!