@xoxscorpio
8 Years
How do you handle your clinginess fellow scorps
Posted by Toti
I'm not a clingy Scorpio but I do have a tendency to obsessively think about a man I'm into. Just take a step back and have some "me" time doing the things you like without him of course. He needs a space to breathe, or shall we say- fire needs air. Be unavailable for him for a while. Let him miss you.
I'll definitely try it, it's just so hard because I know I'll end up missing him
Posted by peachy06
Scorpios ain't clingy. We are not Pisces and Cancer.
Lol it's probably because my moon is in pisces
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
Posted by wildflower
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
YES EXACTLY! Like sometimes I can tell he's clingy and up under me but lately he's been a little less, and here I am wanting to be near him at all times with insane constant thoughts about him haha. I definitely need to pick up some more hobbies lol
I like my space.
Posted by peachy06
Scorpios ain't clingy. We are not Pisces and Cancer.
I know right? But I’ve heard that more than once. So maybe something in Some Scorps makes those clingy...
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Posted by wildflower
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
YES EXACTLY! Like sometimes I can tell he's clingy and up under me but lately he's been a little less, and here I am wanting to be near him at all times with insane constant thoughts about him haha. I definitely need to pick up some more hobbies lol
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I had a hobby for 8 years. Thinking of him...lmao
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by xoxscorpio
Posted by wildflower
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
YES EXACTLY! Like sometimes I can tell he's clingy and up under me but lately he's been a little less, and here I am wanting to be near him at all times with insane constant thoughts about him haha. I definitely need to pick up some more hobbies lol
I had a hobby for 8 years. Thinking of him...lmao
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lmaoooooo
Posted by xoxscorpio
Posted by wildflower
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
YES EXACTLY! Like sometimes I can tell he's clingy and up under me but lately he's been a little less, and here I am wanting to be near him at all times with insane constant thoughts about him haha. I definitely need to pick up some more hobbies lol
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Yea, don't react. Don't say anything, just be about you and do your own thing. If he is cancer, he will feel the distance and come right back. They hate distance. I do this often with my cancer pals because they gets a bit clingy sometimes, not in a bad way but they're moody and I can't stand all the moods all the time.
If a cancer cuts you off, chances are you did something to hurt them. Theyre sensitive LOL all you have to do is tell them how great you think they are and lay your feelings on them. they love that shit
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by peachy06
Scorpios ain't clingy. We are not Pisces and Cancer.
I know right? But I’ve heard that more than once. So maybe something in Some Scorps makes those clingy...
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I think it comes to possession, if you are mine I do not need to worry about it but if I don't feel you are totally mine based on how much you give me, Im wanting that until I get it.
Posted by wildflower
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by peachy06
Scorpios ain't clingy. We are not Pisces and Cancer.
I know right? But I’ve heard that more than once. So maybe something in Some Scorps makes those clingy...
I think it comes to possession, if you are mine I do not need to worry about it but if I don't feel you are totally mine based on how much you give me, Im wanting that until I get it.
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True statement. I want you to do what I say and act how I want you to act when I want you to act that way. And at this moment I realize how possessively crazy I am, shit
Posted by Gemitati
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Posted by wildflower
Im not clingy when I know he is obsessed with me but when he's not obsessed with me, its like Im obsessed with him. LOL I can appear clingy because I know what you mean, I love to interact and be in their presence BUT I also need my space and will tell you to fuck off. What helps is having hobbies and things going on for yourself. The less clingy you are towards him, the more he will be towards you
YES EXACTLY! Like sometimes I can tell he's clingy and up under me but lately he's been a little less, and here I am wanting to be near him at all times with insane constant thoughts about him haha. I definitely need to pick up some more hobbies lol
I had a hobby for 8 years. Thinking of him...lmao
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LMAOO
Alright all bets are off. For the past hour I've been trying to cut back on responding back to his texts within 30 secs of him sending them and I just can't. The longest I've waited is 2 mins and my heart is hurting.. and I'm at work so like the whole hobby thing probably won't do me any justice. Any other suggestions? Lmao
Posted by Toti
Posted by xoxscorpio
Posted by peachy06
Scorpios ain't clingy. We are not Pisces and Cancer.
Lol it's probably because my moon is in pisces
I have my moon in pisces but I'm not clingy. Probably my cap Venus and virgo mars keeping me balanced😂
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Yaaa, your cap venus for sure
Posted by Ellygant
Posted by xoxscorpio
Alright all bets are off. For the past hour I've been trying to cut back on responding back to his texts within 30 secs of him sending them and I just can't. The longest I've waited is 2 mins and my heart is hurting.. and I'm at work so like the whole hobby thing probably won't do me any justice. Any other suggestions? Lmao
Well you’re going about it all wrong.
1) You’re being a bit dramatic. You started this thread, what, a few hours ago? Lmao. You cannot pick up a hobby in that time. You’re heart isn’t hurting either. Now, it might be a little insecure.
2) You’re overthinking it. Who gives a fuck how long it takes to respond to texts. You’re messing with the natural flow of the connection.
3) Circling back to insecure. If you need something to overthink, focus on that, not him. Why do you compulsively feel the need to emote? Why do you feel the need to cling? What benefit could that possibly bring you? Why do you want to give up before even really trying? Are you hyper focusing on what you perceive to be his distance? Or was there a fight or the like recently that sent you into panic mode? Focus on yourself and why you feel the need to do this.
4) if y’all are at a comfortable stage, talk it out with him. Ask him if he’s noticed it. Mention you’re not sure why you do it but you’re hoping to work through it some so you can more organically enjoy your time with him.
5) think about your life before you met him. Think about what you liked to do and where you liked to go. Start doing that again. Or think about things you’ve always talked about trying but haven’t. Actually do them.
Not always, but often excessive or suffocating clinginess is a symptom of something else going on within a person.
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wow great advice, im tattooing this on my leg for future reference when acting nuts
hmm.... to op, since you're at work, how about... working ? lol jokes jokes. Thats the worst, what helps me is my awesome coworkers who never stop talking about themselves lol
Posted by Ellygant
Posted by xoxscorpio
Alright all bets are off. For the past hour I've been trying to cut back on responding back to his texts within 30 secs of him sending them and I just can't. The longest I've waited is 2 mins and my heart is hurting.. and I'm at work so like the whole hobby thing probably won't do me any justice. Any other suggestions? Lmao
Well you’re going about it all wrong.
1) You’re being a bit dramatic. You started this thread, what, a few hours ago? Lmao. You cannot pick up a hobby in that time. You’re heart isn’t hurting either. Now, it might be a little insecure.
2) You’re overthinking it. Who gives a fuck how long it takes to respond to texts. You’re messing with the natural flow of the connection.
3) Circling back to insecure. If you need something to overthink, focus on that, not him. Why do you compulsively feel the need to emote? Why do you feel the need to cling? What benefit could that possibly bring you? Why do you want to give up before even really trying? Are you hyper focusing on what you perceive to be his distance? Or was there a fight or the like recently that sent you into panic mode? Focus on yourself and why you feel the need to do this.
4) if y’all are at a comfortable stage, talk it out with him. Ask him if he’s noticed it. Mention you’re not sure why you do it but you’re hoping to work through it some so you can more organically enjoy your time with him.
5) think about your life before you met him. Think about what you liked to do and where you liked to go. Start doing that again. Or think about things you’ve always talked about trying but haven’t. Actually do them.
Not always, but often excessive or suffocating clinginess is a symptom of something else going on within a person.
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Lol well for starters dramatic is my middle name so there's that haha. I'll definitely try talking to him about it, it's just like my thoughts are super intense I think even for me sometimes so it's really hard to explain them and not feel like it may be a bit much for him. But thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it!
Posted by xoxscorpio
Posted by Ellygant
Posted by xoxscorpio
Alright all bets are off. For the past hour I've been trying to cut back on responding back to his texts within 30 secs of him sending them and I just can't. The longest I've waited is 2 mins and my heart is hurting.. and I'm at work so like the whole hobby thing probably won't do me any justice. Any other suggestions? Lmao
Well you’re going about it all wrong.
1) You’re being a bit dramatic. You started this thread, what, a few hours ago? Lmao. You cannot pick up a hobby in that time. You’re heart isn’t hurting either. Now, it might be a little insecure.
2) You’re overthinking it. Who gives a fuck how long it takes to respond to texts. You’re messing with the natural flow of the connection.
3) Circling back to insecure. If you need something to overthink, focus on that, not him. Why do you compulsively feel the need to emote? Why do you feel the need to cling? What benefit could that possibly bring you? Why do you want to give up before even really trying? Are you hyper focusing on what you perceive to be his distance? Or was there a fight or the like recently that sent you into panic mode? Focus on yourself and why you feel the need to do this.
4) if y’all are at a comfortable stage, talk it out with him. Ask him if he’s noticed it. Mention you’re not sure why you do it but you’re hoping to work through it some so you can more organically enjoy your time with him.
5) think about your life before you met him. Think about what you liked to do and where you liked to go. Start doing that again. Or think about things you’ve always talked about trying but haven’t. Actually do them.
Not always, but often excessive or suffocating clinginess is a symptom of something else going on within a person.
Lol well for starters dramatic is my middle name so there's that haha. I'll definitely try talking to him about it, it's just like my thoughts are super intense I think even for me sometimes so it's really hard to explain them and not feel like it may be a bit much for him. But thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it!
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DOOOOOOONT TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT YET
only if its serious or clearly something is wrong
dont create problems out of nothing
girl, youre texting back in 30seconds?? get grip of yourself
No lie, go masturbate real quick and see how much you miss him after LOL
Posted by wildflower
Posted by xoxscorpio
Posted by Ellygant
Posted by xoxscorpio
Alright all bets are off. For the past hour I've been trying to cut back on responding back to his texts within 30 secs of him sending them and I just can't. The longest I've waited is 2 mins and my heart is hurting.. and I'm at work so like the whole hobby thing probably won't do me any justice. Any other suggestions? Lmao
Well you’re going about it all wrong.
1) You’re being a bit dramatic. You started this thread, what, a few hours ago? Lmao. You cannot pick up a hobby in that time. You’re heart isn’t hurting either. Now, it might be a little insecure.
2) You’re overthinking it. Who gives a fuck how long it takes to respond to texts. You’re messing with the natural flow of the connection.
3) Circling back to insecure. If you need something to overthink, focus on that, not him. Why do you compulsively feel the need to emote? Why do you feel the need to cling? What benefit could that possibly bring you? Why do you want to give up before even really trying? Are you hyper focusing on what you perceive to be his distance? Or was there a fight or the like recently that sent you into panic mode? Focus on yourself and why you feel the need to do this.
4) if y’all are at a comfortable stage, talk it out with him. Ask him if he’s noticed it. Mention you’re not sure why you do it but you’re hoping to work through it some so you can more organically enjoy your time with him.
5) think about your life before you met him. Think about what you liked to do and where you liked to go. Start doing that again. Or think about things you’ve always talked about trying but haven’t. Actually do them.
Not always, but often excessive or suffocating clinginess is a symptom of something else going on within a person.
Lol well for starters dramatic is my middle name so there's that haha. I'll definitely try talking to him about it, it's just like my thoughts are super intense I think even for me sometimes so it's really hard to explain them and not feel like it may be a bit much for him. But thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it!
DOOOOOOONT TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT YET
only if its serious or clearly something is wrong
dont create problems out of nothing
girl, youre texting back in 30seconds?? get grip of yourself
No lie, go masturbate real quick and see how much you miss him after LOL
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Lmfaooo
I find myself more obsessive then clingy... I'd shut your phone off... I do that a lot when I start to overthink situations, makes things way easier. Sounds like you're just twitterpated it should wear off. Just remember you can't suffocate him as that'll make him eventually run. You have to remember who you are as an individual to and what kind of person you were before him. Don't lose yourself in a relationship, it shouldn't be your be all end all.
Clinginess, is a sign that something is off balanced and that I would need to get down to the source of that urge.
Usually by taking time out, to be alone, to brood, and figure out what the issue is. Address it, and if I cannot as of yet, then expend my energy into my work and whatever else I enjoy doing to curb it.
Sheer will, and a dose of dissociation.
Meditation, and camomile tea (especially, when I cannot sleep).
Although, I must say often I find myself less clingy and more so, obsessed. That would be the more appropriate term.
Posted by wiseblood
Try having a Cancer Mars & Venus.. then you'll know clingy. I have no solutions and am not great at managing how clingy I am :/
I have cancer mercury and Venus and I’m clingy af 😢
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I've gotten super obsessed with my Cancer man and I thought he was supposed to be the more clingier one but I've definitely got him beat.. at least I think or he hides his well. Which might be because of my placements but how do you guys handle the clinginess. I literally want to be around him all the time, talk to him all the time and even when I'm at work I can't stop thinking about him. It's actually super annoying because I'm trying so hard not to smother him that I think he feels a little distance from me. It's like I can't describe the feeling but I feel like it's so intense it'll scare him so I'm trying to keep it together and to myself but I'm driving my damn self crazy lol. Any one have any suggestions?