Cancer Rising - How to approach this girl?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by AriesFireKnight on Thursday, April 14, 2016 and has 4 replies.

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@AriesFireKnight
10 Years

Ok, she is an Aries, posted the same situation on the Aries forums and realised that she does't act like an Aries at all, but more as a Cancer, bc that's her rising and mine too so I know that until I get to know someone better my Aries fire stays under the hood 😛

So yeah, how to approach a Cancer ascendant? I tried some direct approach, most of the time she shy away, like - she is staying with our group, I ask her a question, she give me a surprised look and just answer shortly and then just shy away, but most of the time she obviously ignore me in public - I stay and talk with her friends, I see her watching us from distance without joining and when I leave I see her coming around... It were some times when we talked... She seemed a little bit cold at first, but she was always giving intrest in what I said and laugh at my stupid jokes
when no one else did.

The thing is that this girl is mostly cold and dominant, at least outside her friend group. Her acting seem a little bit strange.

After this I tried a little bit of Facebook texting to enstablish somehow of a comfort zone. We talked about books, a subject that she likes very much, because one of her biggest hobbyes is buying books and reading. Things have gonne really nice, had 3-4 coversations in total, she was replying at a decent speed (like mine) and asked me questions about me in the first time. I used this convs to set up some situations in wich I would have the occasion to talk to her, like a time when I showed her my architecture homework for a month and she looked really impressed. With this occasion i gave her one of my pencil that I saw she liked because she told me that she started drawing some time ago (i have the slight immpresdion that she did that for me, but I really don't know).

Had a few convs after that event, in one she stop replying out of the blue. I didn't do a great deal of it, girls use to do that. Then on my birthday (a week or so after I gave her the pencil) she told me Happy birthday trough messages, used the ocasion and started a conv... The best one, because she told me about how she used my pencil, sent me some photos of drawings (I know that Cancers take little thigs, like a pencil present to hearth). Used the momebtum of the conv to tell her that I'm avalabile in the next period and we could hang out togheter with some friends. She gave me her number and I gave her mine. After that I had to go.

A few days later I gather my courage to get out, and I sent her a text telling her that "we are in town, she could comeand blahblahblah". I was pretty nervous about this. Got no reply so I got really dissappionted. My friends told me that she is the "seen type" and I didn't wanted to look like one of thouse idiots that pursue her and end up looking like idiots. So I promised myself to just ignore her for a while and I didn't tried to engage in any interaction with her.

Now is been almost two weeks without any contact. What do you advice me Cancer

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@RumiL
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Is it an Aries thing to discuss studies and homework with crush 😄

On topic...i have nothing to say 😕

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@iroxane
10 Years

dont ignore her...even though she ignored you.
They need to feel reaaaally comfortable around you before they let their guard down, so keep making an effort

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@AriesFireKnight
10 Years

Ok, so I will put my brain to work to create a context to start a smooth conversation with her again.

I'm writing a tragic novel right now. Would it work if I update the first chapter on a story platform, sent her a link and ask her what she think about it?