Cancer's and the L word

ok, my favorite sign, needing feedback... do you just throw the words "i love you" around? Somehow, i highly doubt you do, but some people/signs do.
background: i have never asked for anything more than he was ready to give. unspoken looks/chemistry has always been the way it was before.

Whats up Linda. How u doing. Im a Cancer and if I say it, I mean it.

I only say it to my mother and nieces and nephews. Only when I travel or death in the family do I say it to my siblings. My sister in-law died a few months ago so I say it to my brother. I don't throw it around to every guy I have strong feelings for either. I have said it once to a guy a long time ago, but I was a teen then.

i really dont understand our aversion to telling other people we love them. why is that? i tell people i love them all the time, simply for being a fellow human being. then pile on friendship and romantic feelings, and the love goes deeper.

we are so quick to flip someone off in traffic or go off on the sales clerk or whatever....but we struggle to tell each other "i love you". society is fucked up

I ONLY say it if I mean it. I'm a Cancer female, and that isn't something I throw around loosely.

you guys are awesome. i think it's a really special thing to say as well. i might tell my friends and family that i love them, but romantically speaking, i never say it unless i truly mean it. you all brightened my day! many virgo hugs!!

My Cancer guy told me he loves me. And now not even 3 weeks later he thinks maybe we should just be friends for now. Not really sure how to take that?

Posted by iwin32

oh my gosh!!! i laughed so hard seeing this because its what i feel inside, but would never let show

What should I think about him telling me he loves me and now retreating?? So confused!!

Posted by 2libras
What should I think about him telling me he loves me and now retreating?? So confused!!

Be patient. Might have freaked him out that he said that to you. I've just continued being me. sometimes, he wants to talk a lot, sometimes not. i dont push him. it's hard sometimes. i think that crabs truly see who you are and if you are being you or not. the thing i truly like about about my crab are all his emotions. love them for the way they are...even when you might not always understand. when they care, it is a wonderful thing to be a part of. if not, or if you cant handle this, then jump ship.

So I did forget to mention that he said he fully expects for us to go hang out still?? Wtf?

Nope don't plan on running. Just wasnt sure if this was typical. Flip flopping back and forth. It's really funny because it is almost like he retreats into his shell. Totally get that now. Just gonna sit back and be patient.

Nope don't plan on running. Just wasnt sure if this was typical. Flip flopping back and forth. It's really funny because it is almost like he retreats into his shell. Totally get that now. Just gonna sit back and be patient.

You threw out the word too soon so you are in the category with most women who a Cancer is still unsure about and now
feel obligated.

Falling in Love is a better word to use with a Cancer.

well, i finally broke. he doesnt call after he says he loves me. i texted him that i care and think about him when we dont talk and i need more communication(we live in different places). it is so hard for me to open up, and all he says is "we can talk sometimes". Really? Then, i ask if he just wants random weekends of great sex or more? and he says he doesnt know what he wants..and we have distance between us. ouch, it hurt. so i said thats my answer. if that how you feel, please dont contact me anymore. then i called him an ass after i tried to call him and he didnt pick up. know, i shouldnt have said it, but i am deeply hurt. i am in love with this idiot and caremore about him than any person i have met in my life, and he plays it cool. i balled myself to sleep last night and tried really hard to keep it together all day at work.
now, he sends me a text tonight that says... i fell asleep last night when you called... glad to know what you think of me. i havent replied. i'm just so hurt. i'm not willing to compromise who i am and what i need from someone. i feel that if i respond things will get brushed to the side and go on the way they were. any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated

Originally posted by Ellybean:

B)Like my ex: From what I've heard, he's on his fourth 'soulmate' in two and a half years.

Terrible!!!!

He sounds like a really troubled person.

Be glad that you didn't end up with someone who runs from one relationship to another, referring to each one as a "soul mate" before crashing everything.

What a crazy mess he must be.

😢

Posted by 2libras
My Cancer guy told me he loves me. And now not even 3 weeks later he thinks maybe we should just be friends for now. Not really sure how to take that?

Going through similar

Posted by ScorpioFish

Originally posted by Ellybean:

B)Like my ex: From what I've heard, he's on his fourth 'soulmate' in two and a half years.

Terrible!!!!

He sounds like a really troubled person.

Be glad that you didn't end up with someone who runs from one relationship to another, referring to each one as a "soul mate" before crashing everything.

What a crazy mess he must be.

😢

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lol been there heard that

Mine told me he loved me whilst drunk..several months ago..has never said it since..played the disappearing act one and off and on and off..now he wants to move in with me but is scared..they're scared! They're all scared!!!! Be strong be independent be patient expect very little they will come around.

Said he loved me broke up when I was finally moving on lunged at me and said he was IN LOVE with me a month ago... Now I asked for commitment and he says he doesn't want a relationship? I broke it off 3 days ago and he's been avoiding me.... Hurts but I'm just trying to heal and focus on self. I feel betrayed, lied too and 8 moths of wasted time... But I'm just focussing on keeping my emotions in check. I haven't updated my status either on social sites... I feel he's watching.

That's totally wack! ^ mine def pulled some shit like that with me...but not that bad. They do hate pressure and only come back on their own terms when they dont feel threatened or pressured. They hate it when you come at them head on, I think they expect the same sideways dance they do. @goligold mine is afraid of everything, letting me down, being disliked, having it not work out, being hurt the list goes on and on and on.....Š I dont think he'd look for a back up plan.

Posted by lindavi20
well, i finally broke. he doesnt call after he says he loves me. i texted him that i care and think about him when we dont talk and i need more communication(we live in different places). it is so hard for me to open up, and all he says is "we can talk sometimes". Really? Then, i ask if he just wants random weekends of great sex or more? and he says he doesnt know what he wants..and we have distance between us. ouch, it hurt. so i said thats my answer. if that how you feel, please dont contact me anymore. then i called him an ass after i tried to call him and he didnt pick up. know, i shouldnt have said it, but i am deeply hurt. i am in love with this idiot and caremore about him than any person i have met in my life, and he plays it cool. i balled myself to sleep last night and tried really hard to keep it together all day at work.
now, he sends me a text tonight that says... i fell asleep last night when you called... glad to know what you think of me. i havent replied. i'm just so hurt. i'm not willing to compromise who i am and what i need from someone. i feel that if i respond things will get brushed to the side and go on the way they were. any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated

but you are too emotional.check your emotion. think more. When you talk with an a*s*s*h*o*l*e be firm. be strong. deliver the word to break his neck. lol