Confused about a FWB situation with Cancer man.

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So I’ve known this cancer guy for a really long time, recently we started hanging out and one thing led to another and were FWB, this has been going on for a few months now. But I am confused, he’s hot and cold, almost never initiates conversation, sometimes makes plans and doesn’t show up, but when he is around he sticks around for hours and hours and we generally have a good time, he opens up and talks about his life and family and he’s very affectionate and considerate when around but after he leaves it’s like he disappears. I don’t understand what his intentions are, if there’s any feelings there or if he really actually doesn’t care about me and comes around when he has nothing better to do and is bored. Any cancer guys who can shed some light?
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.
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You don’t sleep with a guy and then expect to get a relationship... in fact, you are decreasing your value every time you sleep with him. You want to be seen as a gf? See your self as one first and then act accordingly 😉 tell him you want to be together or just friends. Fwb was invented by men to low key use women with the unspoken promise of a relationship 😔 don’t fall for it anymore!
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Posted by Firesign21

ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.


Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.
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Just my two cents... I am a cancer female in love with a cancer male. My situation is a mess lol but that’s another story. What I can tell you based on myself and my guy is maybe consider pulling away. When I feel someone or something slipping away I freak out if they are what I really want. I have to hold onto them. I have a tendency to play mind games and make people jealous but it’s only because I sometimes feel like I need to double check where I stand with them. I know it’s childish but I know other cancers and they do the same thing. ONCE ONCE AND ONLY ONCE YOU HAVE MY HEART.... I cling for dear life. Almost too much. Also, Cancer men and women do need their own private space but that doesn’t mean they don’t love or care about you. It’s just something we need.

IMHO.... absence usually makes the heart grow fonder.
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Posted by Arielle83

This fake wanna be fwb with guys u want a relationship with us long a drawn out grooming session.

Soon enough he’ll be stuck in a relationship he never wanted or was never ready for.

No wonder so many ppl have drama in basic relationships

I’m thinking I just leave it for now and see what happens, I’ve read somewhere that if a cancer man really sees value in a woman then he will pursue her. I don’t want to trap him in a relationship or anything, I would only want it if he wanted it too, I’m an Aries Pisces cusp so I’m fiery but extremely emotional and passive when in a relationship of any sort. He’s just got me up and down because he acts as if he wants more then he pulls away. He tells me that I make him happy, when he’s around he sticks around for hours and hours, once he slept over and we didn’t even have sex. When he’s around I cook for him and look after him and try to make him as comfortable as possible, given we share the same friends and his best friend is my best friend and we’ve all grown up together. But he is one confusing man.
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.
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In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.
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"He's never had a relationship before." 😱 Wow. I'm surprised you took this risk given that fact AND the fact that "you don't know if he sees value in you."
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Yeah I feel a bit stupid tbh, hes a typical cancer guy thought, very reserved, shy, doesnt give much away so understand why he hasnt taken the risk of a relationship so he doesnt get hurt, my confusion comes from his lack of initiation but then hes very affectionate when around, strokes my hair, cuddles, kisses, buys me dinner.. gosh i wish i was just a mind reader.

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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.
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FWB doesn’t work. Women who truly want a FWB find a guy they don’t have feelings for to fuck and that’s it. Guys get into FWB because they can string girls along, get what they want and not feel guilty. You get what I’m saying??!!! FWB should not be an option unless u just wanna screw/ no emotions. None.
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Do you not understand what a FWB is? That means he owes you NOTHING. He doesnt even owe you not to flake out on plans. He owes you zero explanation.

Do you expect the dude your in FWB situations to treat you like a cum dumpster and immediately get up and leave after? Treat you like a 1 night stand? He's treating you civilly after fucking.

Bunch of idiots saying they are okay with FWB, when they want more. Do yourself a favor, and stop expecting relationship treatment when you aren't in one. JFC

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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

Hey pinkbird03 🙂

He’s very sweet when he’s around, playful, considerate, sensitive, attentive to my needs, he makes an effort to make conversation and he’s very open, I can say this because we also hang out in our friend group and he’s completely different, more closed and reserved around others, when we are around others, there’s a lot of eye contact, small smiles, as though we’re looking for each other in a crowd. But he seems to be himself when it’s just us two, we both liked each other back in school, but nothing eventuated from this, so only in the last few months have we started hanging out alone and things have gone into an intimate relationship, he used to talk about other girls he was seeing, before we started having sex, now he doesn’t, he said he’s not seeing anyone else, when he’s around he stays for 10-12 hours, sometimes sleeps over, I wake up to him stroking my hair and holding me tight, these are the reasons why I’m confused, it has me thinking if he has feelings for me or not. I haven’t expressed my feelings to him but I show him in my actions.
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.
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Say this to him^^^.....at least then you will know the score...
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.


.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.
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How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.
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No. I want marriage and kids. He doesn’t. It’s why we dated for a month then stopped over 3 years ago. I kissed two different guys last week. He’s talking to another girl on bumble. He has a boat and lake house. I’m good looking and make him look good on his boat. It’s a win-win situation.
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

Hey pinkbird03 🙂

He’s very sweet when he’s around, playful, considerate, sensitive, attentive to my needs, he makes an effort to make conversation and he’s very open, I can say this because we also hang out in our friend group and he’s completely different, more closed and reserved around others, when we are around others, there’s a lot of eye contact, small smiles, as though we’re looking for each other in a crowd. But he seems to be himself when it’s just us two, we both liked each other back in school, but nothing eventuated from this, so only in the last few months have we started hanging out alone and things have gone into an intimate relationship, he used to talk about other girls he was seeing, before we started having sex, now he doesn’t, he said he’s not seeing anyone else, when he’s around he stays for 10-12 hours, sometimes sleeps over, I wake up to him stroking my hair and holding me tight, these are the reasons why I’m confused, it has me thinking if he has feelings for me or not. I haven’t expressed my feelings to him but I show him in my actions.
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To me it sounds like he enjoys the companionship, but you aren’t the one he wants to spend his life with. Cancers are picky. We don’t settle or commit if you don’t have the total package. When we want someone, we want that relationship title. We don’t want anyone else to have you. We get very jealous.
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How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.
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Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time
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You go girl👍

Wedding next year?
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time

You go girl👍

Wedding next year?
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Lol no. Cancer doesn’t want marriage or kids. Other than that we are good together. Everyone that lives on the lake near him thinks we should be together. They see we are good together. Maybe because we are friends. But I want marriage and kids. Sooooo he’s not the one.
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How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time

You go girl👍

Wedding next year?

Lol no. Cancer doesn’t want marriage or kids. Other than that we are good together. Everyone that lives on the lake near him thinks we should be together. They see we are good together. Maybe because we are friends. But I want marriage and kids. Sooooo he’s not the one.
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So if you’re seeking marriage and motherhood you need to show the Universe you’re serious. Being someone’s Fwb isn’t cutting it so maybe you need to widen your search now

👍😊
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time

You go girl👍

Wedding next year?

Lol no. Cancer doesn’t want marriage or kids. Other than that we are good together. Everyone that lives on the lake near him thinks we should be together. They see we are good together. Maybe because we are friends. But I want marriage and kids. Sooooo he’s not the one.

So if you’re seeking marriage and motherhood you need to show the Universe you’re serious. Being someone’s Fwb isn’t cutting it so maybe you need to widen your search now

👍😊
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I’ve always been looking. I’m just tooo picky and I will not settle. I need companionship right now and I’m actually happy with the fwb. It helps me get over the aqua.
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time

You go girl👍

Wedding next year?

Lol no. Cancer doesn’t want marriage or kids. Other than that we are good together. Everyone that lives on the lake near him thinks we should be together. They see we are good together. Maybe because we are friends. But I want marriage and kids. Sooooo he’s not the one.

So if you’re seeking marriage and motherhood you need to show the Universe you’re serious. Being someone’s Fwb isn’t cutting it so maybe you need to widen your search now

👍😊
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I’ve always been looking. I’m just tooo picky and I will not settle. I need companionship right now and I’m actually happy with the fwb. It helps me get over the aqua.
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Because when he’s around he treats it like a relationship when he’s around, that’s where the mixed signals are coming from. I have feelings for him and have for a while.


Talking about himself and being a decent person to your face is not treating a hit it and quit it situation as a relationship.

There are no mixed signals here.

There is him, hitting you up for sex and going ghost after.

And there is you, looking for the smallest thing to warp into "he must have feelings for me".

Do yourself a favor and stop fucking him, don't open your legs to anyone who isn't in a relationship with you. You can't handle it. No should you have to if a relationship and catching feels is what your after.
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.

FWB doesn’t work. Women who truly want a FWB find a guy they don’t have feelings for to fuck and that’s it. Guys get into FWB because they can string girls along, get what they want and not feel guilty. You get what I’m saying??!!! FWB should not be an option unless u just wanna screw/ no emotions. None.
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Spot treetrunking on. I wish women would take your advice.
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Posted by pinkbird03

How does he act around you when you’re hanging out with friends? Have you expressed your feelings to him? What did he say?

I have a new fwb relationship with a cancer who I’ve known 3.5 years. We act like we are a couple. We are open about everything, including our feelings. But we aren’t a couple. So there’s no expectations from either of us.

.....for now there isn't, but you may have expectations as time goes on.

Oh and FYI mystarsshine,

Cancer and I were boating and bar hopping. I followed him to the bar and Aqua was sitting at the table directly behind us.......... my friend who was bartending said he was staring at me the whole time

You go girl👍

Wedding next year?

Lol no. Cancer doesn’t want marriage or kids. Other than that we are good together. Everyone that lives on the lake near him thinks we should be together. They see we are good together. Maybe because we are friends. But I want marriage and kids. Sooooo he’s not the one.

So if you’re seeking marriage and motherhood you need to show the Universe you’re serious. Being someone’s Fwb isn’t cutting it so maybe you need to widen your search now

👍😊

I’ve always been looking. I’m just tooo picky and I will not settle. I need companionship right now and I’m actually happy with the fwb. It helps me get over the aqua.
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ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.

FWB doesn’t work. Women who truly want a FWB find a guy they don’t have feelings for to fuck and that’s it. Guys get into FWB because they can string girls along, get what they want and not feel guilty. You get what I’m saying??!!! FWB should not be an option unless u just wanna screw/ no emotions. None.

Spot treetrunking on. I wish women would take your advice.
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Right?! I know what I’m talking about at least 95.5% of the time 😆
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Posted by LibraSupreme
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Posted by sweetpea2977
Posted by Firesign21

ive Known him since since we were 10, we have the same friends group so we naturally have some plans, for example he tells me about his nephew and sends pictures of him, and he is adorable then says we’ll take him out soon.

So was supposed to come the other day but he actually stood me up and he didn’t even let me know, he sent me a message saying he got held up, but I was too upset to reply because I feel like he doesn’t have respect for me or my time, I waited and waited and he could have easily let me know on the night, he was active on fb but he didn’t. I am

So confused, don’t know if ignoring him now is going to trigger anything or if he’s just going to go.

Rudeness is never cool. So, no excuse there.

But, it seems to me, that you've settled somewhat. You have a history of friendship, and feelings. Yet, you've decided to co-sign a FWB relationship. Naturally, you want more, because you're already emotionally involved. What is your real goal here? You may have read more into something that may not evolve or grow to your liking. Good luck.

In all honestly, I wouldn’t mind a slow progression into a relationship because he is a nice guys and has a great personality and when I’m with him time flies. But I don’t know if he sees the same value in me. He’s never had a relationship before whereas I’ve only ever been in committed relationships. This FWB is very new to me.

FWB doesn’t work. Women who truly want a FWB find a guy they don’t have feelings for to fuck and that’s it. Guys get into FWB because they can string girls along, get what they want and not feel guilty. You get what I’m saying??!!! FWB should not be an option unless u just wanna screw/ no emotions. None.

Spot treetrunking on. I wish women would take your advice.

Right?! I know what I’m talking about at least 95.5% of the time 😆
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Yes you do and i totally agree with you....