Posted by Ellygant
He’s insecure and probably things you’re too good for him. Which is why he volleys between controlling behavior and constantly trying to to be the kindest person you know.
You could ask him why he’s reacting that way and if he is willing to work through his insecurities and you two be a team. However you’d have to bring that up extremely softly and at the right time. Aries can be extremely blunt and harsh on cancers if they don’t have a lot of earth or water placements.
If that’s off the table or he blows up, painful as it is, you two might just not have compatible communication skills for the long haul.
Posted by Arieseira
So I've been dating this cancer guy (Leo moon) for almost 4 months now and I must admit, understanding his personality is hards, frustrating and emotionally draining. (I am aries sun, virgo moon). It is almost like walking in egg-shells around him!
Set aside his moodiness and going from fooling around to total silence in a snap, it is harder for me to understand the controlling side of him. Its is almost like he wants me to become a different person- think his way, dress how he likes it, do things how he finds it right, etc etc. I have even been called names and critiqued badly only to, how he explains, help me to become a better person. If I disagree or try to put things into perspective- Its just not acceptable and I must only agree with him or, better, say nothing to contradict. Sounds sick, but I really really need to understand if this is just cancers typical "psychotic" behaviour. On the other side, when he is "in the mood", he can be the sweetest, silliest and caring person! He keeps initiating dates, does kind little things to show he cares and so, But it is quite draining if I again do/say smth to piss him off for no reason almost every time we meet.
Also, are Cancers generally home bodies? It almost feels like we could just lay in bed in front of TV for the rest of our lives, if it was his choice.
Yes, I know there is a lot to say about self-respect and getting out of this crap, have thought about it, not gonna lie. But, if Cancerians could back this behaviour just a little and help me to find the right way to get to him, I would really appreciate it.
Posted by Leeta
You want ppl to back up his psychotic behavior? So if ppl told you these are Cancerians traits you'd accept his behavior and stay? That is crazy.
Btw, I don't think these are Cancer traits.
He's controlling, calling you names and is disrespectful because he's an ass hole with mental problems.
I don't understand how girls put up with this kind of crap! I would have left a long time ago at the first sign of disrespect.
Posted by Arieseira
Sorry, took a while. Past week has been a rollercoaster of me loosing dignity and trying to find last bits of common sense of his acts. Long story short- we broke up. Or.. he broke up with me.
I invited him to an event I waited for for MONTHS!! Took him to dinner before, and there he goes, and I quote "do we have to be here? Im bored, I dont feel like you are smart enough to talk to. All you talk about is b***t." At this point Im completely shocked of how DARE he act like that when I plan the whole day and the next for both of us! I asked him wheher he even wants to go (being completely ready to walk out the rstaurant myself) and all he says"well I have to..." Then I asked him if he is even into me anymore? He asks where the bathroom is and walks out the restaurant. Im like... what. Did. Just. Happen.
I drove back to his home, waited for him for explanation and all he says-" lets quit it. Its not you, its me (reeaaaallyyyy.?.). Lets stay in touch later, we are too emotional to talk right now."
I came home to discover im blocked on w/up.
A couple of days ago I asked himwhy is he so distant, to which he said its all fine, it comes in waves and it will pass.
So.. yeah. My mind is completely aware of this mess and I honestly cannot believe I wasnt the one to end this. Like sadly laughung about myself of this turn of events.
One thing i NEED to understand- WILL he contact me soon or not? I need my answers. Cause I know ill be the one calli g in a week to check up on him.. pls help..?