Dealing w/ a misunderstandings with a Cancer (Page 2)

Leo, Id love to know your name, so I stop calling you Leo, ha!

Just relax..work through your issues. we water people, and specially crabbies, as Shellshocker well said, absorb feelings and we just KNOW when others expect sth.from us..and crabbies don't like BEING TOLD WHAT TO DO, or feeling that they SHOULD DO something...

remember it has been just a couple of months....

I agree with you, that the other person should take your needs into consideration. When I was in the first stages, believe me, before I came to this board , I lost weight, I smoked a lot..I was anguished and felt a stone in my stomach. Then I started to relax.. and I came to understand that I STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP, nobody is forcing me to, and if I want to, then I must accept things as they are.
Im not a martyr by the way..but I SENSED the potential, just FELT...he was the one for me..and I could tell he loved me but had some issues to work through. We all have, but he is at a different moment than me, Im more "ready" for this, he is just going through the first year of seroius changes in his life...find out about yours. Timing is important....

Dont despair, breathE ,, relax, tend to your own stuff and solve it, REMAIN POSITIVE, THINK POSITIVELY..what is meant to be WILL BE!

PiscesArgie! haha, yes it is a bit cryptic to keep using the name Leo when we exchange msgs so much on this board. *DRUMROLL* My name is .............. Nicole! lol! What's your name?

You know late last night and this morning I just came to this place where I don't want to worry about it anymore. If he doesn't care, I don't care. WHy should I use up my time and energy on someone who's obviously not wasting any time on me. I want to quit stressing out about it and thinking about it all the time. He can go do his own thing and I'll do mine. Its disappointing but I really thought he was different and that we had something special and it almost feels like he's just cut me off.

PiscesArgie, I know sometimes you say that you are online but not are you computer or something but I"m not sure if that is the case with him. This is the first wknd we haven't made plans to do something and I think that says alot. I think maybe he is seeing someone else; spending his online time talking to them and ignoring me/cutting me off.

I don't know what clicked in his mind to change it, but it is what it is... *shrugs*

Nicole...let me introduce myself...I'm (drums hahaaha)Julieta!!!

I see what you mean...anyway I know crabs a bit by now and I know that he is not chatting to sb else and having fun and ignoring you, he is in his shell, you are in his mind but he can't or won't do anything..they have trouble initiating...I used to idealize my crab's life, thinking wow, he is so mysterious, what is he doing, where is he? and normally they are just at home...no mystery

I guess it is difficult to understand water signs and their stuff being fire like you.
Just let it be and don't analyze or fantasize about his doings, you are probably wrong imagining those scenarios.
He prob just needs time to be alone...
He will reappear, and he does care, he has invested feelings on you and he won't see them to waste..
you will see...

Posted by GeorgiaPeach
If he is taking forever to respond to your messages then stop contacting him. Let him contact you if he wants to talk. I understand that you really like him, but it needs to go both ways. If he needs space because of work issues than give it to him. Get busy with your own life and stop worrying about this guy so much.

You are right, Georgia.

Relationships are supposed to be reciprocal, so if a human being calls someone, that call should be returned.

Blowing people off and playing hide games is very rude, and it shows some emotional insensitivity at hand.

Granted that Crabs like to hide and have some space from time to time, they tend to cause emotional havoc and destruction if they stay away from the person for too long.

Snap!!!!!!!!

Julieta!!

Perhaps one day I will be wise and happy with my crab too! One day I will counsel a young girl on a dxpnet Cancer forum about a confusing Cancer man! Hahahaha! Well I don't know about that, but its really cool that everyone has been nice enough to offer their tidbits and opinion!

My thing is - where do you draw the line from a guy who's just being a Cancer or just your run of the mill a**h**e...i mean on Sunday everythings great; he's telling me how he kept his mom out until 4am, blah, blah...and them BAM iced out. But trying to figure out what is going on in another person's mind could leave you going in circles all day.

I just have to let it go...each day it will get better and it will bother me less and less and ill stop wondering why...