FWB is a Cancer.....

and of course, I'm a Taurean lady. 🙂

He and I work at the same place-I'm in HR, he's in Audit. It will be a yr. in July that we've been...'seeing' each other.......but he's not like "typical" FWB.....he calls everyday, we've grabbed breakfast together a few times, had lunch once. He gets mad at me if I don't speak to him..... I dunno--I just expect him to only call when, you know, but he doesn't. I like to keep things private, whereas he will make SURE I see/talk to him.

I dunno--I guess what I'm asking is: is he digging me more than a friend, or this is how Cancers are, all the time-regardless of what type of relationship they have with ppl—

::RENCENTLY::

For the past 2 weeks, I really haven't heard/seen him (and in my last discussion, I stated that HE MAKE SURE HE MAKES CONTACT W/ME)..and when he DID make contact--it's abrasive (like he wants to start arguments-stupid ones at that). So, we're not talking.....(for now or forever, I dunno).

I'm not exactly sure what's going on with him, and I asked if he's avoiding me--he said "Nah, just chilling for now". Um.......WTF does that mean? I asked him if he wanted to part ways, no reply. Just: "I'm not avoiding you". That doesn't really tell me anything. I need to KNOW what's going on on my relationships in order to fix the problem, if necessary. That's just me. I already told him early on that if he's 'getting tired' of me or whatever, he should say something, instead of going ghost. SMH...................I swear..........I think he has another "friend", and he's not telling me.

*so out of anger, lol--I deleted his number and from FB as well*

I know I sound silly, but--I'm looking for advice, not chatisement.

Should I wait it out/Leave him alone for good?

Mkay, yes, you are right.

But he's weird. I asked him what was his malfunction, why I haven't heard from him, etc. I also asked if he had 'moved on'. "No, it isn't like that" was his reply. ::shrugs::

(up until recently) He calls EVERYDAY (not just at nite, like typical fwb/bootycalls). We actually TALK (him moreseo than I). He comes by my desk EVERYDAY to see me. If I'm not there, he'll ask of my whearabouts. He hasn't done anything romantic. Expressed that he liked me (and vice versa), but circumstances keep us that way that we are.

He asked me if I were to get pregnant....what will the baby look like, etc...

I just didn't expect this type of behaviour from a FWB--esp. the guy! So, I dunno. Thoughts??

*update*

He's coming out of his shell. Apparently, he's having issues in his division at work, so he's been busy (and tired!)

Fuck with bunnies?

Posted by mr.crabby
Fuck with bunnies?

Care to elaborate? :smirk:

Posted by LovelyScorp
I don't have much more. FWB and getting it on with somebody in the workplace perplexes me. sorry. no judgement, just don't have nothing.

It's kewl. Thanks for your input earlier. 🙂

Fool with booty?

Posted by mr.crabby
Fool with booty?

*sighs*.........what are you talking about? 🙂

Posted by MegStings
hahaha.... Crabcakes... How you doin?

*when you call me that, yeah tipsy, I know...

Posted by LovelyScorp
polyamory is just a fancy word for fwb.

Mkay, so only 2 ppl gave me sound answers while everyone else have their side conversations.

Thanks.

Posted by MegStings

Posted by mr.crabby

Posted by MegStings
hahaha.... Crabcakes... How you doin?

Just stalking the cheap pieces of ass and bothering them for no reason. I love it when you call me like it. Got a party tonight?

Sounds like fun... No party tonight... Just toking going to play some video games later.. You must be having a good time.

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Thanks wineaux.

I agree with wineaux......He has feelings for you.....that prolonged FWB for a cancer is like psuedo relationship.

IMO I think he is getting something from you that he needs but not the full commitment, and if hadn't mention being exclusive then he is getting his cake and eat it too.

He probably wants all your attention and sex but not a real relation. He could be dragging you along till he finds someone "better" or more desirable.

I think ignoring him for awhile will do you benefit because Cancers hate being ignored by people they care about.

Just do you....for reals cause after a year of FWB its sort of a relationship but not really because you haven't discussed it.

I say leave it alone and let him come to you.

I thought this was about fat womens butts have cancer I guessed that was why they were so big.

and do you let him talk to you all the time? do you actually go to breakfast with him? If so, your feeding his desire for wanting more. Were simple, if you just want FWB and nothing more, you gotta make it clear and keep it that way, or we will attatch. Were very affectionate loving people, we cant help that we roll on lovers lane!!! lol

Yonnabear:

There is no sense crying over spilt milk.

I wish for your sake, heretofore, your gifts would be reserved for the One who appreciates your worth. 🙂

None of this FWB bullshit!!! A realtionship is either based upon mutual respect or it is not.

Let this one ride off into the sunset!!!

Xo.

Relationship - damn spell check!!!

But perhaps it should read real - tionship. 🙂