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How Long Does it Take Cancer Men to Commit to a Relationship? (Page 2)
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Posted by TaurusFlower22
Hi guys! I'm new here. I've known this Cancer man for 6 months now. He texts me every day, and we meet up like twice a month. He says he likes me very very much, and eventually he wants more, but right now he is trying to work on himself/his goals. He ended a long term relationship with his child's mom almost 2 years ago. And he says during that relationship, he had no time to focus on himself.I have no problem with that, and would like more with him eventually as well. But, I'm not willing to wait forever. My question is how long does it take Cancerian men to commit to a relationship?
Honestly the whole, “I’m not ready for a relationship cause I gotta focus on myself/goals” is a load of bs. If he met ‘the one’ tomorrow he would lock her down ASAP.
Example: my sisters cancer ex sold his home, cars, quit his job, and moved from Florida to Colorado after a few weeks of meeting her.
You’ve already given this man 6 months of your life. How much longer are you willing to wait around for him to decide whether your the one for him??
Prioritize your wants and needs. Time for an ultimatum.
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
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I don’t understand. Can people not be in a relationship AND focus on their careers?
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
I don’t understand. Can people not be in a relationship AND focus on their careers?
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I think for me, it means not making someone a priority over your work. That's what I meant when I said it. It wasn't meant to be an excuse. I feel like he is the one.
However, my feelings have grown and changed now. I want to do both. I'm ready for both a relationship title and to continue to focus on my career. I don't know if he's there yet. I don't think so. I'm willing to give it a bit more time...maybe a month or two more. If nothing has changed, I think I'll hold the ultimatum (I don't believe those ever work) and walk away.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Hi guys! I'm new here. I've known this Cancer man for 6 months now. He texts me every day, and we meet up like twice a month. He says he likes me very very much, and eventually he wants more, but right now he is trying to work on himself/his goals. He ended a long term relationship with his child's mom almost 2 years ago. And he says during that relationship, he had no time to focus on himself.I have no problem with that, and would like more with him eventually as well. But, I'm not willing to wait forever. My question is how long does it take Cancerian men to commit to a relationship?
Honestly the whole, “I’m not ready for a relationship cause I gotta focus on myself/goals” is a load of bs. If he met ‘the one’ tomorrow he would lock her down ASAP.
Example: my sisters cancer ex sold his home, cars, quit his job, and moved from Florida to Colorado after a few weeks of meeting her.
You’ve already given this man 6 months of your life. How much longer are you willing to wait around for him to decide whether your the one for him??
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Almost 9 months, actually
Part of me wonders if you're right. Not everyone works as quickly though. I'm really torn with this.
Annnnd just as I finished typing that, he sent me the sweetest, most loving text imaginable. This is why I'm torn. 😢
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u stand
8 months? Thats a full on relationship.
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
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Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Do you think he is worth waiting for? If so. Who cares what anyone tells you. Some will tell you to move on. You make that choice.
As someone who stayed, it was worth it. For me.
What was the waiting like for you? How long did you wait?
He is so worth it. He's really been there for me in huge ways. I had a health scare back in June. He took the day off from work and stayed with me during and after my surgery. My own family didn't do that. He's been there for everything, good and bad that has gone on in the time we've known each other. And I won't go into detail, but he is fiercely protective of me. I love him. I'm deeply in love with him.
It depends on how deeply he was hurt previously, on how long it takes.
I waited more than a year before we finally got where we are. And while waiting, we acted like a couple without the title. He prioritized me above many. But he always shied away from a title. He was protective of me too, to the point he wouldnt even allow my mom to hurt me. He just didn't want to hurt again.
Now we are here. I have the title. He's moving across the country for me and school. And I don't question what my place is. All because we took the time together to make sure we both wanted this, while working on ourselves. I am now first, even before his mom in ways.
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Beautiful!
How did you guys manage the distance? I thought cancers didn’t do much distance
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Do you think he is worth waiting for? If so. Who cares what anyone tells you. Some will tell you to move on. You make that choice.
As someone who stayed, it was worth it. For me.
What was the waiting like for you? How long did you wait?
He is so worth it. He's really been there for me in huge ways. I had a health scare back in June. He took the day off from work and stayed with me during and after my surgery. My own family didn't do that. He's been there for everything, good and bad that has gone on in the time we've known each other. And I won't go into detail, but he is fiercely protective of me. I love him. I'm deeply in love with him.
It depends on how deeply he was hurt previously, on how long it takes.
I waited more than a year before we finally got where we are. And while waiting, we acted like a couple without the title. He prioritized me above many. But he always shied away from a title. He was protective of me too, to the point he wouldnt even allow my mom to hurt me. He just didn't want to hurt again.
Now we are here. I have the title. He's moving across the country for me and school. And I don't question what my place is. All because we took the time together to make sure we both wanted this, while working on ourselves. I am now first, even before his mom in ways.
Beautiful!
How did you guys manage the distance? I thought cancers didn’t do much distance
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The decision was made that one of us would move. Initially, I was to move to Iowa. Due to some life events on his part, that has since changed to him moving here.
But distance was a non issue for us because he is ex military, so distance wasn't an issue because he had relationships while deployed.
I also let it be known to him, that my loyalty was unwavering no matter the distance. His mom also really wanted us together and often told him so. Lol
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u stand8 months? Thats a full on relationship.
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For most people, maybe.
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
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He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
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Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
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...and HOW he does it! Good luck!
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
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Thank you. You give me so much hope, and make me feel...not like an idiot. Lol 😂 You know why? Because you've actually been through something similar. He seems like a good person from what I've seen so far, and heard from every mutual friend (I'm new to this area though, so every one of these friends is a new friend for me). He does ask many questions about my family...my Cancer father in particular. He says he can tell he's "going to get along well with him".
Maybe I don't trust my judgment in relationship situations yet because I was married to an abusive Pos Virgo who became abusive when I was pregnant with our 2nd child.
I really appreciate you sharing your experiences!
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
...and HOW he does it! Good luck!
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Lol thanks!
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
Thank you. You give me so much hope, and make me feel...not like an idiot. Lol 😂 You know why? Because you've actually been through something similar. He seems like a good person from what I've seen so far, and heard from every mutual friend (I'm new to this area though, so every one of these friends is a new friend for me). He does ask many questions about my family...my Cancer father in particular. He says he can tell he's "going to get along well with him".
Maybe I don't trust my judgment in relationship situations yet because I was married to an abusive Pos Virgo who became abusive when I was pregnant with our 2nd child.
I really appreciate you sharing your experiences!
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As long as you feel him making you a priority, and including you in his everyday life, you have nothing to worry about.
There are girls on here that you see, that don't even get a text back after 2 weeks. Where the cancer disappears for long extended times. Doesn't talk about family with them. These are usually the "side girls". When you are a priority, it's much different. From what you have said so far, you're in the priority boat.
It will happen on it's own. But once he does fully commit, expect a new level if priority and care. It's almost awestrucking how much they devote to you. Lol
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
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Yeah i think you shouldn’t worry too much about that, especially if he’s matching up. I think he has feelings for you too but hes just taking his time. Cancer men can be a bit tough to understand , thats why i said its a full on relationship, idk if its just missing a title it still counts though
Yeah the heart break thing, me too. I guess it comes from having earth placements, we love the stability.
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Stop worrying about the title. It isn't important. What he does, is.
Thank you. You give me so much hope, and make me feel...not like an idiot. Lol 😂 You know why? Because you've actually been through something similar. He seems like a good person from what I've seen so far, and heard from every mutual friend (I'm new to this area though, so every one of these friends is a new friend for me). He does ask many questions about my family...my Cancer father in particular. He says he can tell he's "going to get along well with him".
Maybe I don't trust my judgment in relationship situations yet because I was married to an abusive Pos Virgo who became abusive when I was pregnant with our 2nd child.
I really appreciate you sharing your experiences!
As long as you feel him making you a priority, and including you in his everyday life, you have nothing to worry about.
There are girls on here that you see, that don't even get a text back after 2 weeks. Where the cancer disappears for long extended times. Doesn't talk about family with them. These are usually the "side girls". When you are a priority, it's much different. From what you have said so far, you're in the priority boat.
It will happen on it's own. But once he does fully commit, expect a new level if priority and care. It's almost awestrucking how much they devote to you. Lol
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Yeah, he definitely does include me. He's never disappeared.
Alright, I'll be patient. Never realized how impatient I am until meeting him. Lol
Posted by Impulsv
JOKING ASIDE After 8 month it is ok to ask where u standI did, about 4 months ago. We talked and decided that we want to be committed to each other eventually. But we are both artists who both are a couple years out of long term relationships (mine was a marriage) that we put our all into. Now, it's time to focus on making a professional name for ourselves.
This was where we both were at a few months ago. And I was cool with it. Now, I'm kinda not. Lol
Btw, we both said we're not seeing other people.
Its really all about the action the person is taking tbh. Look for the way he acts and how it follows up if it seems like he’s not letting you in then he’s most likely not ready no matter what he’s saying.
But if hes doing all the things you say? I think patience and consistency should come from your end too
He gives me a daily play by play of his what he's doing. We're like each other's cheerleaders. He's very open, and sweet. He makes me feel very loved. He has three jobs and a child, so I do appreciate the daily connecting. Maybe I shouldn't worry that there's no official title? Idk. I really don't. I just wish I knew for a fact that my heart won't get broken. Lol
Yeah i think you shouldn’t worry too much about that, especially if he’s matching up. I think he has feelings for you too but hes just taking his time. Cancer men can be a bit tough to understand , thats why i said its a full on relationship, idk if its just missing a title it still counts though
Yeah the heart break thing, me too. I guess it comes from having earth placements, we love the stability.
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YES, I need stability! I go bsc without it.
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.
Posted by brendaf007
Don’t look too much into it. Perhaps stress at work? Or some emotional roller coaster he doesn’t want to scare you with. I’m a cancer female and cancer males don’t want to scare you with how much emotional stuff they can go through. Give it a couple of days if the behavior remains then don’t keep trying but let him try.
Maybe. I just feel like he makes time for everyone else, except me. I know he didn't go to that show all by himself. Yet, there's always an excuse of being "so busy" in regard to us spending time together. He can go to a show 2 hours away, but is "too busy" to drive 15 minutes to see me. It's this type of shit that makes me feel foolish.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.
The infamous crab walk.
For me, I can tell you my boyfriend did this to me in the beginning of our relationship. I chalk it to him testing me. My boyfriend was constantly subconsciously doing so because his ex wife was a piece if work. They almost want to see how far they can push.
Posted by brendaf007
Don’t look too much into it. Perhaps stress at work? Or some emotional roller coaster he doesn’t want to scare you with. I’m a cancer female and cancer males don’t want to scare you with how much emotional stuff they can go through. Give it a couple of days if the behavior remains then don’t keep trying but let him try.Maybe. I just feel like he makes time for everyone else, except me. I know he didn't go to that show all by himself. Yet, there's always an excuse of being "so busy" in regard to us spending time together. He can go to a show 2 hours away, but is "too busy" to drive 15 minutes to see me. It's this type of shit that makes me feel foolish.
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Lmao @ the "butter" edit. Idefinitelysaidshit. 😂
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.The infamous crab walk.
For me, I can tell you my boyfriend did this to me in the beginning of our relationship. I chalk it to him testing me. My boyfriend was constantly subconsciously doing so because his ex wife was a piece if work. They almost want to see how far they can push.
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Was it just you he did it to, or was he acting different w/ everyone?
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.The infamous crab walk.
For me, I can tell you my boyfriend did this to me in the beginning of our relationship. I chalk it to him testing me. My boyfriend was constantly subconsciously doing so because his ex wife was a piece if work. They almost want to see how far they can push.
Was it just you he did it to, or was he acting different w/ everyone?
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Depends on what he was internally going through. There were times he did it to everyone.
There were times he seemed to do it to me.
Doesn’t it suck— He was just getting along with your father and all of a sudden got cold?
I would let him have it! Like seriously!
What ta fuck are you doing?
I said to a Cancer after 1 day of silence to find time for me or release me back in the wild!
lol
Talking like you haven’t been close? No girl! He needs ass whooping!
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Doesn’t it suck— He was just getting along with your father and all of a sudden got cold?I would let him have it! Like seriously!
What ta fuck are you doing?
I said to a Cancer after 1 day of silence to find time for me or release me back in the wild!
lol
Talking like you haven’t been close? No girl! He needs ass whooping!
The emotional push and pull is exhausting. I don't have the energy to whoop his ass. Lol
I'm just going to leave him alone for a while. If he comes back, he does. I'm literally tired.
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔
Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
So, Cancerians...What say you? When you actually like someone, do you want to commit asap, or do you prefer to take your time?Why don't u Just enjoy the experience
Why the rush
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For me, when I like someone a lot, I don't really want to take things slowly. A lifetime is so short. Why the wait? Also, I want to know I'm not being lead on, and some consistency/emotional security would be nice after 9 months.
But, I get that not everyone is like me. This process is just draining. Let's say I hang in there for another year, then he decides he's not interested after all. That's a year and nine months of my life with someone who was never even sure about me.
And who led Cancers to believe they're the only ones who can be selective? That their time is the only time that matters? I have turned down many potential mates because of this one man...because I love him. He ain't the only one out there! And my time is just as valuable. My feelings matter just as much.
Sorry for the rant. He's getting to me. Lol
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.That's very weird hey didn't mention his activities
Thats a red flag
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I agree.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Perhaps I spoke too soon? Literally right after I wrote that, he started contacting me less. Went 3 days without even texting. No loving vibes from him, very cold now. I called him last night. He didn't answer the phone. He called back like an hour later. I asked him how he's been, and what he's been up to. Every reply was cold and generic. It's like he was giving me the version of himself he gives people he's acquaintances with. After like, 20 minutes of awkward conversation (during which, he did mention that he "likes" me, but what kind of like, idk. I like rocks. LOL), he said "Aye, I'll call you back. I'll call you right back". That was last night. Haven't heard from him since. Then this morning, I saw a tweet he posted about 3am that said he was just coming back from a show. He made no mention of having the night off from work, or his plans to go to that show during our convo. But that's why he had to get off the phone, I'm guessing. Seems like he doesn't like me after all.The infamous crab walk.
For me, I can tell you my boyfriend did this to me in the beginning of our relationship. I chalk it to him testing me. My boyfriend was constantly subconsciously doing so because his ex wife was a piece if work. They almost want to see how far they can push.
That point is true we can push to see if you will adandon us. We have fear of rejection and fear of adandonment. Is there an activity you may be able to see if he wants to do with you? Don’t assume he went with someone he wants that way to a concert.
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I have an exhibit coming up in 2 weeks. I'm going to see if he shows up. Every time I mention something, he's busy. I stopped asking a while ago.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
To be fair he's asked you out now 3 times and you were unavailable but you want to check him on what he wants to do on his free time
Have you asked him to hang out? Or do anything fun?
Maybe you're draining his energy
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I haven't asked him to do anything lately. When someone says they're too busy, it means they are not willing to make time for me. The last time we got together (towards the end of January), he asked me to come over since he had the day off from work. I did. We spent like 5 hours together before I had to leave.
I did ask him to come get his Christmas gifts (yeah, you read that right)...more than once. He seems to not want them, which hurts but whatever. It's February.
Idk how I'd be draining his energy.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
To be fair he's asked you out now 3 times and you were unavailable but you want to check him on what he wants to do on his free time
Have you asked him to hang out? Or do anything fun?
Maybe you're draining his energy
I haven't asked him to do anything lately. When someone says they're too busy, it means they are not willing to make time for me. The last time we got together (towards the end of January), he asked me to come over since he had the day off from work. I did. We spent like 5 hours together before I had to leave.
I did ask him to come get his Christmas gifts (yeah, you read that right)...more than once. He seems to not want them, which hurts but whatever. It's February.
Idk how I'd be draining his energy.
Ok so you're making attempts
I would throw this one away
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Are you a Cancer too? If so, what's your Moon and Venus? He is a Cancer Sun, Leo Moon, Taurus Venus.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
To be fair he's asked you out now 3 times and you were unavailable but you want to check him on what he wants to do on his free time
Have you asked him to hang out? Or do anything fun?
Maybe you're draining his energy
I haven't asked him to do anything lately. When someone says they're too busy, it means they are not willing to make time for me. The last time we got together (towards the end of January), he asked me to come over since he had the day off from work. I did. We spent like 5 hours together before I had to leave.
I did ask him to come get his Christmas gifts (yeah, you read that right)...more than once. He seems to not want them, which hurts but whatever. It's February.
Idk how I'd be draining his energy.
Ok so you're making attempts
I would throw this one away
Are you a Cancer too? If so, what's your Moon and Venus? He is a Cancer Sun, Leo Moon, Taurus Venus.
Cancer sun Leo moon Leo Venus
What's your moon
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My moon is in Gemini.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
What's his ex wife sign
Capricorn
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
To be fair he's asked you out now 3 times and you were unavailable but you want to check him on what he wants to do on his free time
Have you asked him to hang out? Or do anything fun?
Maybe you're draining his energy
I haven't asked him to do anything lately. When someone says they're too busy, it means they are not willing to make time for me. The last time we got together (towards the end of January), he asked me to come over since he had the day off from work. I did. We spent like 5 hours together before I had to leave.
I did ask him to come get his Christmas gifts (yeah, you read that right)...more than once. He seems to not want them, which hurts but whatever. It's February.
Idk how I'd be draining his energy.
Ok so you're making attempts
I would throw this one away
Are you a Cancer too? If so, what's your Moon and Venus? He is a Cancer Sun, Leo Moon, Taurus Venus.
Cancer sun Leo moon Leo Venus
What's your moon
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Wow, interesting. And good to hear from someone with similar placements as him!
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
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Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
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But wouldn’t that jistnmakes you feel better after you’ve been treated badly?
It’s like 🖕!!! It’s all about me right now!
Are you waiting for him to fall to your feet with apologies? Let him go to the concerts...you know he didn’t go alone don’t you— 😢
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
But wouldn’t that jistnmakes you feel better after you’ve been treated badly?
It’s like 🖕!!! It’s all about me right now!
Are you waiting for him to fall to your feet with apologies? Let him go to the concerts...you know he didn’t go alone don’t you— 😢
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Taurus guy just texted me saying he bought something for me, and he wants to stop by for a second to drop it off. I said, "ok". No harm in that, I guess.
To answer your question though, it would probably make me feel better while it's happening. But, I know I'd end up feeling worse after.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
But wouldn’t that jistnmakes you feel better after you’ve been treated badly?
It’s like 🖕!!! It’s all about me right now!
Are you waiting for him to fall to your feet with apologies? Let him go to the concerts...you know he didn’t go alone don’t you— 😢
Taurus guy just texted me saying he bought something for me, and he wants to stop by for a second to drop it off. I said, "ok". No harm in that, I guess.
To answer your question though, it would probably make me feel better while it's happening. But, I know I'd end up feeling worse after.
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Tell me what you’ve got...hope there isn’t box of condoms! Lol
🙏🏻
Just remember cancer men are not cancer women
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
But wouldn’t that jistnmakes you feel better after you’ve been treated badly?
It’s like 🖕!!! It’s all about me right now!
Are you waiting for him to fall to your feet with apologies? Let him go to the concerts...you know he didn’t go alone don’t you— 😢
Taurus guy just texted me saying he bought something for me, and he wants to stop by for a second to drop it off. I said, "ok". No harm in that, I guess.
To answer your question though, it would probably make me feel better while it's happening. But, I know I'd end up feeling worse after.
Tell me what you’ve got...hope there isn’t box of condoms! Lol
🙏🏻
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They don't let you post pics on here, I guess?
He brought me flowers; some pretty purple orchids. 😊
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
What's his ex wife signCapricorn
LOOOL
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Yeahhhh...exactly. 😂
Posted by nikkistar
Just remember cancer men are not cancer women
True. You make a great point there.
Posted by TaurusFlower22
Meanwhile, my ex Taurus bf (who I haven't been giving the time of day) is practically begging to take me out and spend time with me. 🤔Nah, I wouldn't. But it's tempting considering how this cancer man is acting.
Do it!
Lmao nah. He's super super attractive, and loves to eat (😈), but too young and not worth the headache. 😂
Plus, I'd feel like I cheated. I've never cheated. Technically, this wouldn't be cheating...
No. Nope. Lol
But wouldn’t that jistnmakes you feel better after you’ve been treated badly?
It’s like 🖕!!! It’s all about me right now!
Are you waiting for him to fall to your feet with apologies? Let him go to the concerts...you know he didn’t go alone don’t you— 😢
Taurus guy just texted me saying he bought something for me, and he wants to stop by for a second to drop it off. I said, "ok". No harm in that, I guess.
To answer your question though, it would probably make me feel better while it's happening. But, I know I'd end up feeling worse after.
Tell me what you’ve got...hope there isn’t box of condoms! Lol
🙏🏻
They don't let you post pics on here, I guess?
He brought me flowers; some pretty purple orchids. 😊
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However, I feel absolutely nothing...at all. I never say never, but in this case, it definitely applies. I don't go backwards, and my heart is with the Cancer man. 🙄
He's still fine af though!
I just wanted to chime in and give advice that is working for me right now with my Cancer man. He told me he is not really ready for a relationship but that I am "so cool" he wants to still see me regularly. We are having sex every week and text sometimes; seeing each other but not really "committed" in that we are not a couple.
I agreed to the situation because I'm basically in the same place, coming out of a long relationship. I noticed that when I don't text him for a few days, he will text me, almost like he wants to make sure he's got me. If I text him first, however, it almost always pushes him away for a while, even just a casual text. So right now at least I am pretending that I don't like him as much as I do, and he keeps coming back to me regularly. I basically am just giving him space and seeing how things play out. I have never done this before in my life; normally I'm in a relationship or I'm not. But this guy is worth it to me, so I am bending a little.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I just wanted to chime in and give advice that is working for me right now with my Cancer man. He told me he is not really ready for a relationship but that I am "so cool" he wants to still see me regularly. We are having sex every week and text sometimes; seeing each other but not really "committed" in that we are not a couple.I agreed to the situation because I'm basically in the same place, coming out of a long relationship. I noticed that when I don't text him for a few days, he will text me, almost like he wants to make sure he's got me. If I text him first, however, it almost always pushes him away for a while, even just a casual text. So right now at least I am pretending that I don't like him as much as I do, and he keeps coming back to me regularly. I basically am just giving him space and seeing how things play out. I have never done this before in my life; normally I'm in a relationship or I'm not. But this guy is worth it to me, so I am bending a little.
Yes!! I've also never done this with anyone before. I hate the gray area. I'm a "either we are, or we aren't" type of person.
I haven't tried to contact him since Friday.
We were talking on the phone about my upcoming show, and he was complimenting me on my work. That's when he mentioned, "And I'm not just saying that because I like you". In my mind I was like "You like me?" LOL
Sooooo fuxkin confusing!!!
Thank you for your advice. I will not be contacting him.
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My two best guy friends that are brothers to me are cancers, as well as my boyfriend. They are very squishy inside. Lol
I am a scorpio with heavy Libra placements.