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How to respond to cancer ex xmas text?
I didn't text anyone this cmas & norm don't say more than Merry cmas. If I write that much I def want the person in my life.
The reason can be completely selfish & it doesn't mean I truly care. However if I didn't miss them or what they can do for me I wouldn't text. So just think back to what you offered & what he's lacking without you. If you didn't do much then it's prob safe to say you won't regret responding.
The reason can be completely selfish & it doesn't mean I truly care. However if I didn't miss them or what they can do for me I wouldn't text. So just think back to what you offered & what he's lacking without you. If you didn't do much then it's prob safe to say you won't regret responding.
What? He asked if you were a hooker? Oh no for Cgristmas I would have sent him a lil Elf telegram to slap him. You would be the only girl to give him exactly what he deserves.. To be bitch slapped by an elf.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
tell him you would respond but christmas is the busiest time for hookers.
I aint no cancer tho.
I would send a text to an ex wishing her a merry christmas and think nothing of it other than that. On the other hand, other exes I'd send a message and hope it would lead to more. I think the problem is you dont know what it would amount to or what his intentions are so do what you want in this situation, there is no wrong answer.
And btw, Merry Christmas 😉
And btw, Merry Christmas 😉
Posted by scorpx3Thanks for your thoughts. I still haven't decided what to do. Will make my decision in the morning, But like you wrote, I want to try and forgive People more intstead of holding a grudge or sting them like I want to do as a scorpio, when they hurt me. We also had some nice times, so why not forgive him and send a short but friendly response. It's the holidays...
I'm not a Cancer, actually a Scorpio just like you. From one scorpion to another, my piece of advice to you would be to listen to your own feelings. What does your heart say you should do? Thinking of him (and often, too) still indicates maybe it's a good idea to return a sweet holiday message. If you simply don't feel ready to respond, then don't. There's no obligation. Keep an open mind, and even more importantly an open heart. You don't want to mope over bad times and make a habit of it; in the end, it'll only hurt you more.
Wishing you happy holidays and a Happy New Year, too.
🙂
Posted by 9waterlion9Yeah, this is the advice all my friends gave me. They'd think I've gone crazy, would they know, I'm even thinking of responding.
I'm not a cancer either but seriously if he asked you if you were a hooker fuck that guy, he should be dead to you...be strong and don't give him your time of day, he doesn't deserve it
But maybe his comment with the "hooker" was just his strange way of showing how hurt he was by me breaking up... and he regrets his behaviour. But from what I have learned about cancers is, that they have problems apologizing. So maybe this xmas text is his way of an apology?
Posted by ImpulsvYes, he is the Farmer...and No, I do not want to return to him! I just thought to be polite and show him, that I don't hold a grudge...
I remember he's the farmer.?
No u can forgive from afar n never let negative people into ur circle
Do t become a Marty's
I'd cut all ties n not text back unless u want to return to this unhealthy man who will continue to act hot m cold.
It's not even about holding grudge...LOL... I'm sorry, I can't keep a straight face writing this. This guy asked you if you're a hooker and you wanna worry about being polite to this asshat. Where is the self respect?
Posted by DMVFor the love of all that' s holy, can we please not generalize. It's intolerable when people do this and generally you come across smarter than that.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
In my personal experience dealing with a cancer boy, they can overreact when they are hurt, and they do have a hard time apologizing. but it CAN happen, if you are able to have a calm, rational talk with them. If you have feelings, and think he is worth it, it might not be a bad idea to respond, but don't give him any more than he gives you. I'd simply respond with a Merry Christmas. and leave it at that.
Posted by incandescentcancerSorry but i cant not put a disclaimer on everything i write. 🙂Posted by DMVFor the love of all that' s holy, can we please not generalize. It's intolerable when people do this and generally you come across smarter than that.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.click to expand
Why worry if the shoe doesnt fit?
Posted by DMVTranslation: sorry, not sorry ›Posted by incandescentcancerSorry but i cant not put a disclaimer on everything i write. 🙂Posted by DMVFor the love of all that' s holy, can we please not generalize. It's intolerable when people do this and generally you come across smarter than that.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
Why worry if the shoe doesnt fit?click to expand
Eh, he.could've been making a pun on calling you a hooker, "relaxing"...maybe hoping you don't need to hook tonight.
I'd ignore it. Feck that bitch.
I'd ignore it. Feck that bitch.
Posted by DMVIt's not that, I just think across these boards this has just become so common. People talk about entire signs in one broad brush stroke and I think it's kind of silly. I have been around a few years now and I know that you don't belong to the idiot brigade that generally posts here, that's why I was a bit surprised. We are good 🙂.Posted by incandescentcancerSorry but i cant not put a disclaimer on everything i write. 🙂Posted by DMVFor the love of all that' s holy, can we please not generalize. It's intolerable when people do this and generally you come across smarter than that.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
Why worry if the shoe doesnt fit?click to expand
Posted by MoonbutterHahaha...I actually get uneasy when someone says sorry to me, I am usually looking for a dialogue rather than an apology.Posted by DMVTranslation: sorry, not sorry ›Posted by incandescentcancerSorry but i cant not put a disclaimer on everything i write. 🙂Posted by DMVFor the love of all that' s holy, can we please not generalize. It's intolerable when people do this and generally you come across smarter than that.
Wtf!!! Cancers have disgusting mouths.
Id give him zero response. Not one damn word.
Why worry if the shoe doesnt fit?click to expand
Posted by cornflowerPlease don't respond to that guy, it's disrespectful what he said. Do you really think that you should exchange your self respect for this guy's attention as if he is the only person in the world?
The cancer man I was dating for 4 months send me a xmas text today, after 2 month of NC. It just said: Hello (my name), merry christmas, I Hope, all is good with you and I Hope, you can enjoy some relaxing holidays.
Some of you might remember my earlier post, where I wrote about his hot and cold behaviour towards me during out dating time. I really liked him, but couldn't deal with his coldness so I had to end our relationship. I did it kind of harsh, hanging up on him, after he was being very cold and unemotional again. After 2 weeks I apologized via Email and wished him all the best for his future. He hurt me even more, by sending a reply and asking, if I ever worked as a hooker.
For some weird reason, I am still thinking of him often and have to admit my heart and pride are still hurt by his horrible and totally paranoid accusation.
So dear Cancers, should I politely respond to his xmas text or rather not?
I guess he is just polite and his text does not mean anything deeper...?
Whishing all of you guys wonderful holidays and a Happy New Year. Thanks for all of your help with this!
Hi, I'm a cancer girl, i use to date a cancer boy ( yea i know that wasn't the greatest idea ever )
I know nothing about your past relationship with him so I am just going to make some asumptions:
He is not a cancer Man (those one understand and respect the need for space after a break-up), he is an immature cancer Boy, hell
To make it simple he is absolutely not wishing you a good christmas bc he would deeply hopes you having a good time.
Instead of that, usually cancer males are super insecure and project their insecurities into you, so you feel just as bad as them, it is their
way of mesuring how much you like them; if you stay in his trap and grow your own insecurities and his, he'll understand the power that he has over you of influencing your mood and how you think of yourself ( looks just like the moon that rules him), he will find your influencivity repulsive (it mirrors his own weaknesses and incapacity to make himself feels happy) and cold you out.
if you stay and show some self-confidence it threatens them even more their self-esteem but they will worship you because they admire
such strength, and will seek for your protection from the world, especially from themselves.
If you didn't felt like you could support someone else's weight of toxic insecurities, you were right to leave.
He is testing you, he wants to know if he still holds some power over you.
His message is just " I am needy I want to know Im not alone feeling so lonely"
I bet there is little genuine care for you, it's more him checking if you miss him too. Apparently you do so,
they have some irresistible sad puppy dog vibes that probably still triggers some deep maternal parts in you.
He does things just motivate by his needs and emotions, and he's an expert in that emotional field. In his world of intuition and sensitivity, the only rules, the only pragmatic behavior to follow have to be accordingly to His desires, needs, fears, insecurities, shame, love.
To not let yourself being submerged by him you have to act extra rational.
If you really wish to answer to him, do it (otherwise he will still naively be waiting 8 years later, and that is sad), but do it letting him clearly know (no subtlity i said clearly like less you would use tact, better it is) that you are moving on, and have no space for him in your current life. Cancers, like I myself are super nostalgic, and can get obsessed with the past. and think often about exes.
It is probably something he is going through, but he is just cherishing the good memories, and for the few bad memories he remembers (a very idealistic and selective memory) he is probably self-victimizing and not holding any responsibilities for anything. Which means that he is still probably in love, but in love with distorded imagery and sensation of you, and haven't questionned his own behaviors. I promess you, if that's the case you don't want to get back with someone that uses self-introspection only to get himself
I know nothing about your past relationship with him so I am just going to make some asumptions:
He is not a cancer Man (those one understand and respect the need for space after a break-up), he is an immature cancer Boy, hell
To make it simple he is absolutely not wishing you a good christmas bc he would deeply hopes you having a good time.
Instead of that, usually cancer males are super insecure and project their insecurities into you, so you feel just as bad as them, it is their
way of mesuring how much you like them; if you stay in his trap and grow your own insecurities and his, he'll understand the power that he has over you of influencing your mood and how you think of yourself ( looks just like the moon that rules him), he will find your influencivity repulsive (it mirrors his own weaknesses and incapacity to make himself feels happy) and cold you out.
if you stay and show some self-confidence it threatens them even more their self-esteem but they will worship you because they admire
such strength, and will seek for your protection from the world, especially from themselves.
If you didn't felt like you could support someone else's weight of toxic insecurities, you were right to leave.
He is testing you, he wants to know if he still holds some power over you.
His message is just " I am needy I want to know Im not alone feeling so lonely"
I bet there is little genuine care for you, it's more him checking if you miss him too. Apparently you do so,
they have some irresistible sad puppy dog vibes that probably still triggers some deep maternal parts in you.
He does things just motivate by his needs and emotions, and he's an expert in that emotional field. In his world of intuition and sensitivity, the only rules, the only pragmatic behavior to follow have to be accordingly to His desires, needs, fears, insecurities, shame, love.
To not let yourself being submerged by him you have to act extra rational.
If you really wish to answer to him, do it (otherwise he will still naively be waiting 8 years later, and that is sad), but do it letting him clearly know (no subtlity i said clearly like less you would use tact, better it is) that you are moving on, and have no space for him in your current life. Cancers, like I myself are super nostalgic, and can get obsessed with the past. and think often about exes.
It is probably something he is going through, but he is just cherishing the good memories, and for the few bad memories he remembers (a very idealistic and selective memory) he is probably self-victimizing and not holding any responsibilities for anything. Which means that he is still probably in love, but in love with distorded imagery and sensation of you, and haven't questionned his own behaviors. I promess you, if that's the case you don't want to get back with someone that uses self-introspection only to get himself
Ya exactky, testing the waters. Make a statement by not giving one at all.
that's quite a long nc period he gave you. His hooker comment seemed uncalled for. Cancers never forget and If hes the type of crab who is returning for revenge after you cut things off then good luck. He gave you a horrible insult followed by no contact , whats coming next from him cant be expected to be that pretty.
Jesus, why are you fretting in how to respond? Stop being a drama whore about it.
Posted by cornflowerYou know, your displaying here the same mentality that victims of spousal abuse use to justify not leaving.Posted by 9waterlion9Yeah, this is the advice all my friends gave me. They'd think I've gone crazy, would they know, I'm even thinking of responding.
I'm not a cancer either but seriously if he asked you if you were a hooker fuck that guy, he should be dead to you...be strong and don't give him your time of day, he doesn't deserve it
But maybe his comment with the "hooker" was just his strange way of showing how hurt he was by me breaking up... and he regrets his behaviour. But from what I have learned about cancers is, that they have problems apologizing. So maybe this xmas text is his way of an apology?click to expand
"He only called me a hooker because I broke up with him. He only said those things because I hurt him. He only hits me because I'm too _insert reason here_."
Does the thought that his text is an "apology" excite you that much? It shouldn't. There are so many red flags with this guy. What happens when you have a real fight with him? What kind of abuse will he hurl your way?
He doesn't deserve a response from you. AT. ALL.
If you do respond, the message your sending is that you'd like to start communicating with him again. That, and him calling you a hooker is forgivable.
He doesn't deserve a response or for you to waste anymore brain cells on him. He doesn't deserve a thread dedicated to him in this site.
Delete his text from your phone and spend the remainder of the holiday season with loved ones who deserve your attention.
Merry fictional baby Jesus day!!
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So dear Cancers, should I politely respond to his xmas text or rather not?
I guess he is just polite and his text does not mean anything deeper...?
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